Ungathandana Kanjani Nesimo Sobulili Esikhanyayo

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• Isisekelo Sesikhundla Sobulili Esikhanyayo
• 1. Kuyabanda.
• 2. Kuhle kakhulu ukuvuselela i-clitoral.
• 3. Ungadlala ngokushuba.
• 4. Kuyindlela yokushaya izindawo zokuzijabulisa zangaphakathi.
• 5. Ivulekele ukutolika.
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Isikhundla sobulili bezipuni senzelwe wonke umuntu, ngokoqobo. Ayigcini nje ngokuthokozela i-hetero, ubulili obufanayo, nemibhangqwana engafani ngokobulili, kepha futhi ingaguqulwa ngokuhluka cishe okungenamkhawulo ngokuya ngokuncamelayo. Ukugqugquzela Clitoral kufanele kuwe? Ayikho inkinga. Njengokungena okuncane kwangemuva? Isikhundla sobulili sezipuni sikumbozile.

"Induduzo nokuxhumana kwenza lesi simo sihluke," kuchaza uMegan Fleming, Ph.D., owelapha ngezocansi nomfundisi. "Indawo ikubeka eduze kozakwenu futhi ikunikeza ukuthintana kwesikhumba okugcwele. Ukukha amanzi kwenza kube lula ukuqabula intamo, ukukhuluma, nokuhleba."

Kuphinde kube yisikhundla esishiya wonke umuntu engenazandla. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo sakho se-spoon, lesi sikhundla ngokuqinisekile sizokhulisa injabulo yakho. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze uthole ukuthi kungani isimo socansi se-spooning kufanele sibe esinye sezindawo ozithandayo zocansi - kanye nezindlela zokuyilungisa ukuze ujabulele nakakhulu, ngokusho kochwepheshe.

Isisekelo Sesikhundla Sobulili Esikhanyayo

Ngokuyinhloko, isikhundla sezocansi se-spooning kulapho wena nomlingani wakho nilala phansi, nobabili ningohlangothi lwenu futhi nibheke ohlangothini olufanayo, nomlingani oyedwa (isipuni sangemuva noma esikhulu) sibekwe ngemuva komunye, kuchaza u-Alexandra Kuhle, umsunguli kanye ne-CEO yeMikhiqizo yeDame.

"Uma uya ocansini usendaweni yesipuni, imvamisa noma ngubani ongena ngaphakathi uyisipuni sangemuva noma isipuni esikhulu, bese bekwazi ukungena kusipuni esincane ngaphambili," kusho uFine. Ukungena kungenziwa ngesitho sangasese sangasese noma ngaphakathi, ngamathoyizi noma ngaphandle, kunezela u-Ashley Cobb, uthisha wamathoyizi wezocansi kanye nochwepheshe waseLovehoney. (Futhi kubalulekile ukuthi usayizi womzimba awuhlangene nokuthi ubani osebenza njengesipuni "esikhulu" noma "esincane".)

Noma ngabe iyiphi indlela okhetha ukuzitika ngayo, “lesi sikhundla sinikeza umuzwa wokusondelana nethuba lokushukunyiswa umzimba ogcwele,” kusho uFleming. Kuzwakala kumnandi, akunjalo? Qhubeka ufunde ngezizathu eziningi zokuthanda isikhundla sezocansi se-spooning.

1. Kuyabanda.

Isimo sezocansi se-spooning sisondelene kakhulu futhi asidingi ukuzikhandla okukhulu - ngakho-ke kuhle ekuseni noma kusihlwa ngaphambi kokulala, kuchaza uFleming. (Empeleni, okuphambene nalezi zikhundla zocansi eziphindwe kabili njengokuvivinya umzimba.)

"Angifuni ukusho ukuthi yisikhundla esibi kunazo zonke ngoba leyo yingxenye enhle kakhulu ngakho," kuvuma uFine. "Njengoba kungekho muntu okufanele abambelele esisindweni somzimba wakhe, ungajabulela injabulo kalula kalula nje. Noma uhlala kuzo zonke izinyawo, ngesitayela senja, usebenzisa izingalo nemilenze yakho ukuphakamisa umzimba wami futhi ngicabanga lokho kungaphazamisa ubumnandi. Akudingeki ubhekane nalokho usendaweni yokucheba. "

Ukukha izipunu akudingi umsebenzi omningi ovela kunoma yimuphi umlingani futhi kungenye yezindawo ezimbalwa zocansi ezinikeza ukuthintana umzimba wonke (funda: konke ukuthinta ngokomzimba) ngaphandle kokungqubuzana okuningi, ukuze usondelane kakhulu nomlingani wakho ngenkathi uhlala unethezekile. futhi uzizwe ungokwemvelo.

2. Kuhle kakhulu ukuvuselela i-clitoral.

Iqiniso elijabulisayo (onethemba lokuthi usuvele uyazi): Abesifazane ababili kwabathathu abafinyeleli kuvuthondaba ngokungena kuphela, kusho uFleming. Lokho kwenza lesi sikhundla esingenazandla sibe inketho enhle kubantu abadinga ukukhuthazwa kwama-clitoral ukufeza i-orgasm.

“Njalo uma usesimweni lapho kungene khona ngemuva, kwenza kube lula kuwena noma kuphathina wakho ukuthi nifinyelele i-clitoris, engicabanga ukuthi kungesinye isizathu esenza lokhu kube indawo enhle kangaka,” kuchaza uFine. "Uma uvule imilenze yakho kancane ungazithinta kakhulu noma umlingani wakho angakuthinta kakhulu." (Futhi zama lezi ezinye izikhundla zobulili zilungele ukukhuthazwa kobuntu.)

"Futhi, ungasebenzisa isidlidlizi kalula kulesi sikhundla, ikakhulukazi into egqokwe esandleni noma okulula ukuyibamba," esho. Zama ukufaka isidlidlizi somunwe kulengxube, njengeDame Fin (Ithenge, $ 85, dameproducts.com) noma i-bullet vibe, efana neLelo Mia 2 (Ithenge, $ 85, lelo.com).

3. Ungadlala ngokushuba.

Bobabili ozakwethu bangakwazi ukulungisa ukujula kokungena endaweni yocansi ye-spoon, okusho ukuthi, noma yimuphi umlingani angashintsha amandla ashukumisayo futhi alawule nganoma isiphi isikhathi - uma kuqhathaniswa ne-cowgirl/umgibeli-phezulu noma isithunywa sevangeli, isibonelo, lapho uzakwethu ophezulu. inokulawula konke.

Isibonelo, "umlenze wangesipuni omncane okulesi sikhundla ungasetshenziselwa ukunikeza amandla amahle ngokuwuzungeza komunye uzakwethu," kuchaza uFleming. Lokhu kunganikeza isipuni esincane ukulawula okungaphezulu kokuhambahamba. Noma, "uma i-spoon encane inyakazisa umlenze wabo ophezulu yonke indlela evulekile ukuze babuyele emuva, umlingani wabo angakwazi ukubamba umlenze ophezulu, okubanika amandla."

Uma ufuna ukuyigcina ibanda kakhulu, isipuni esincane singagobisa amadolo abo esifubeni sabo. “Nobabili ningaphakamisa amadolo bese nigoqa umlingani wenu,” kusho uFine. Cabanga ngale nguqulo njengokuganga kakhulu, ngenkathi ukuphakamisa imilenze nokugoqa kungenza izinto zibe nomfutho omncane. (Ithiphu ye-Pro: Uma unenkinga yokungena noma ukuhlala kunoma yikuphi ukuhluka kwalesi sikhundla, zama ukusebenzisa umcamelo wokubeka umzimba ukuphakamisa izinqe zakho - noma ezomlingani wakho - njengePillo, Thenga It, $ 95, dameproducts.com.)

4. Kuyindlela yokushaya izindawo zokuzijabulisa zangaphakathi.

Ubulili obuhle buyingxenye ethile ye-engeli, kusho uFleming. Uma unesitho sangasese sowesifazane futhi ubamba iqhaza ocansini lwe-spooning njengesipuni esincane, kunezindaba ezimnandi: Le ngxenye yokungena ngokwemvelo itshekisa isinqe ngendlela efanelekile yokushaya izindawo zangaphakathi ezinobungozi esithweni sangasese, kusho uCobb.

Kungenxa yokuthi, lapho ulele endaweni yezipuni nge-torsos parallel (cabanga: ngendlela obungathanda ngayo ngenkathi ulele), lokho kungabeka ingcindezi enkulu odongeni olungaphambili lwesitho sowesifazane sangasese - lapho kukhona amathani ezinzwa iziphetho, kusho u-Fine. Isibonelo, i-G-spot ingamasentimitha ambalwa ngaphakathi komsele wesitho sangasese sowesifazane ngalolu donga, futhi i-A-spot ithi ukujula kancane.

Uma ungekho kulowo muzwa - noma ufuna nje ukudlala nge-engeli - ukushintsha ibanga phakathi kwe-torsos yakho kuwukushintsha umdlalo endaweni yocansi lwe-spooning. Isibonelo, zama ukuncika isifuba sakho phambili ngakho-ke kuqondakala kakhulu emzimbeni womlingani wakho (cishe njengesitayela senja esivundlile), kusho uFine. "Cabanga ngomzimba wakho njengewashi: Qala ngehora leshumi nambili bese udlulela ehoreni lokuqala bese uzama ngempela i-engeli ngayinye bese uthola ukuthi yini okusebenzelayo nophathina wakho."

5. Ivulekele ukutolika.

Lesi sikhundla asisebenzi kuphela kuzo zonke izinhlobo zemibhangqwana, kodwa futhi sizibophezela ekwakhiweni kwezinto. "Cabanga ngazo zonke izindlela ongangena ngazo endaweni yesipuni," kusho uFleming. Isikhundla sobulili bezipuni yisikhundla esihle sokushintshela ekubeni sesitayeleni se-cowgirl noma se-doggy ngokubamba umlingani wakho ngokuqinile bese ugoqela eceleni ndawonye.

Isikhundla se-spooning futhi asidingi ukufaka ucansi lokungena. (Isikhumbuzi: Ucansi alulingani ne-P-in-V! Kungabangwa konke ngomlomo, izinto zesandla, noma ngisho ukushaya indlwabu ngokuhlanganyela.) "Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu zokuya ocansini ngaphandle kokungena," kusho uFine. Futhi lesi yisikhundla esihle salezo zinto. "Imilenze yakho icindezelekile komunye nomunye ukuze ukwazi ukuhlanganisa imilenze yakho futhi lokho kungaba kuhle ukungqubuzana," usho kanje. "Isipuni esikhulu singafinyelela ezandleni zakho nxazonke noma ngaphansi ukuze ungene ngaphakathi ngamadijithi ngenkathi isipuni esincane singacindezela emuva sihlikihle kumlingani wabo. Ngicabanga ukuthi into enhle kakhulu nge-spooning ukuthi i-spooning iyindawo ephephile eseduze ukuqala kuyo."

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