Yini engaholela ekutheni intsha izame ukuzibulala

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• 1. Ukucindezeleka
• 2. Izinkinga zothando noma zomndeni
• 3. Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala
• 4. Ukuqinela abanye
• 5. Ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo
• Ungakugwema kanjani ukuzibulala

Ukuzibulala kwentsha kuchazwa njengesenzo somuntu osemusha, ophakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 nengama-21, ethatha impilo yakhe. Kwezinye izimo, ukuzibulala kungaba ngumphumela wezinguquko nezingxabano ezingenakubalwa zangaphakathi ezenzeka ebusheni futhi, ngakho-ke, kunengozi enkulu yokudangala, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo kanye nomuntu omusha ovumela ingcindezi ebekwe abanye noma umphakathi.

Ukuziphatha kokuzibulala kuhlukaniswe izigaba ezi-3: ukucabanga ngokuzibulala, ukuzama ukuzibulala nokuqeda ukuzibulala. Le nsizwa ecabanga ngokuthatha impilo yayo, ikholwa ukuthi azikho izixazululo ezinkingeni zayo futhi, imvamisa, ikhombisa izimpawu zokungalingani ngokomzwelo, okungase kunganakwa ngumndeni nabangane, ngenxa yezici zobusha, ngokwesibonelo. Bona ukuthi yiziphi lezi zimpawu ezingakhombisa ubungozi bokuzibulala.

Ezinye izinto ezisekela imicabango nemizamo yokuzibulala ngesikhathi sobusha zifaka:

1. Ukucindezeleka

Ukucindezeleka kuyimbangela ehamba phambili yokuzibulala kwentsha. Le nsizwa ecindezelekile incamela ukuba yodwa kunokuya nabangani bayo futhi ingaba nemizwa enjengokudabuka nesizungu, okuvumela imicabango nokuhlela ukuzibulala. Ukungabi nomngani omuhle noma isoka ongakhuluma naye, okwaziyo ukukhombisa ukuqonda nokuqonda ubunzima babo, kwenza impilo isinde futhi kube nzima ukuyithwala.

Okufanele ngikwenze: Ukufuna usizo kudokotela wezengqondo, udokotela wezifo zengqondo noma ngisho namaqembu okuzisiza kubalulekile ukuqala ukwelapha ukucindezeleka, njengoba kuvumela osemusha ukuba akhulume ngemizwa yabo, afune amasu okudambisa izinhlungu futhi aphume ekucindezelekeni. Kwezinye izimo, udokotela wezifo zengqondo angase anikeze nemithi.

2. Izinkinga zothando noma zomndeni

Izinkinga zomndeni njengokulahlekelwa ngabazali, ukwehlukana, ukulwa njalo nokuphikisana, ukungabi nasikhala ekhaya ukuveza imizwa yabo noma ukungazizwa bethandwa futhi kuqondwa ngumlingani ebudlelwaneni, yizinto ezandisa usizi nobuhlungu ingane ezwa ngabo, okuholela ekutheni acabange ngokuzibulala.

Ungaxazulula kanjani: Ukuthola isikhathi sokuxoxa ngomoya ophansi nangokucabanga futhi unikeze indawo elinganiselayo ekhaya noma ebudlelwaneni obunothando kungasiza abantu abasha ukuthi bazizwe bengcono. Okubaluleke ngaphezu kokukhomba amaphutha omunye, ukuveza imizwa ngomoya ophansi nangaphandle kokwahlulela, kukhombisa ngasikhathi sinye ukuthi ufuna ukuqondwa.

3. Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala

Ukuphuza ngokweqile nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa nakho kuvumela ukuzibulala. Ukusetshenziswa kwalezi zinto ngokweqile, sekuvele kukhombisa ukuthi umuntu omusha akakwazi ukuxazulula izingxabano zangaphakathi, nokuthi kungenzeka abhekane nobunzima noma ukukhungatheka isikhashana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isenzo salezi zinto ebuchosheni sishintsha ukusebenza kobuchopho, isimo sokwazi nokucabanga, sithanda imibono yokuzilimaza.

Ungamisa kanjani: Uma kwenzeka ukulutha, okukhonjiswa kakhulu ukufuna ukwelashwa okuncike ekuthembekeni kwamakhemikhali, kepha uma ukusetshenziswa kwalezi zinto kuyinto eyenzeka kancane noma eyakamuva, kungenzeka ukuthi uyeke ukuzisebenzisa, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokulaliswa esibhedlela. Ukuthatha isikhathi nezinto zangaphandle kungasiza ekuphazamiseni ingqondo, kepha into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kube ngumuntu osemusha onquma ukuthi akasafuni ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa noma ukuphuza iziphuzo ezidakayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukufuna umngane omuhle ozokuthukuthela lapho uzizwa udabukile noma ucindezelekile nakho kungasiza.

4. Ukuqinela abanye

O ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka lapho abanye abantu bejivaza isithombe noma behlasela ngokomzimba isisulu esizizwa singenakuzisiza, lokhu kuyisimo esivamile ebuntwaneni nasebusheni, yize kuyicala.

Ungaxazulula kanjani: Yazisa labo ababhekelene ne- ukuxhashazwa futhi uthole isu ndawonye ukuyiyeka yenzeke. Yazi ukuthi kuyini ukuxhashazwa nemiphumela yako.

5. Ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo

Ukuba yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi noma ukuphathwa kabi yizinto ezisekela imicabango yokuzibulala, ngoba umuntu uzizwa ebhajwe yizinkinga futhi akakwazi ukubhekana nobuhlungu abuzwa nsuku zonke. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinhlungu azinciphi futhi umuntu uyacindezeleka futhi acindezeleke, okuvumela imicabango yokuzibulala, ngoba umuntu angazizwa ukuthi ukuthatha impilo yakhe kuyisixazululo esihle kakhulu sokuxazulula inkinga.

Ungabhekana kanjani nobuhlungu: Ukuhlukumezeka okungokomzwelo kufanele kulashwe ngokuhambisana nodokotela wezifo zengqondo, ngamakhambi okudambisa ukulala okungcono. Ukubamba iqhaza emaqenjini ezokuzisiza nakho kuwusizo olukhulu ekunqandeni izinhlungu ezingokomzwelo, nezingokomzimba. Ukulalela izindaba zabanye abantu abake bahlangabezana nesimo esifanayo futhi benza imisebenzi ekhonjisiwe kula maqembu, nakho kuyingxenye yokwelashwa ukunqoba ukuhlukumezeka. Bheka imiphumela nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu abake baba namacala okuzibulala emndenini, abazamile ukuzibulala, amantombazane akhulelwa ebusheni nentsha enezinkinga zesikole nawo maningi amathuba okuthi acabange ngokuzibulala.

Okunye okufanele kunganakwa ukuthi ukuzwa ngale ndaba kumabonakude, emsakazweni noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana nakho kuyaba nomthelela futhi kugcine sekuthanda abantu abasengozini yokuzibulala, ngoba baqala ukuyicabanga njengendlela yokuxazulula izinkinga zabo ngendlela efanayo.

Ungakugwema kanjani ukuzibulala

Ukugwema imicabango nokuhlela ukuzibulala kubantu abasha, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi izimpawu ezingakhombisa ukuthi lowo muntu ucabanga ngokuzibulala.Ukushintsha okungazelelwe kwemizwa, ulaka, ukudangala nokusetshenziswa kwemishwana, enjengokuthi: ‘Ngicabanga ukuzibulala; umhlaba ubuyoba ngcono ngaphandle kwami, noma yonke into ibiyoxazululwa ukube bengingasekho lapha ’nayo isebenza njengesixwayiso.

Kepha ukukhomba nje lezi zimpawu akwanele, yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe, nodokotela wezengqondo noma wezifo zengqondo ukuchaza amasu okuyeka ukucabanga ngokuthatha impilo.

Ukuqinisa isibopho somzwelo nomndeni, abangani nomphakathi wezenkolo njengesonto, ngokwesibonelo, kungasiza ukuba nobudlelwano obenelisanayo phakathi kwabantu futhi kukhulise umbono wokusekelwa, ngaleyo ndlela kuthuthukiswe inhlalakahle nekhwalithi yempilo yomuntu omusha.

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