Izinkolelo-ze: Yini Ingozi?

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• Izinkolelo Ezivamile
• Amabika amabi nenhlanhla:
• Amakati amnyama
• Ukuhamba ngaphansi kwesitebhisi
• Ukwephula isibuko
• Inombolo 13
• I-clover enamaqabunga amane
• Amagwababa
• Ukungqongqoza ngokhuni
• Inhlanhla othandweni:
• Ukubona umakoti ngobusuku obandulela umshado
• Okuthile okudala, okusha
• Ukubamba isixha
• I-oracle ebabazekayo
• Ungahlali ekhoneni
• Ingcebo, impilo nokuchuma:
• Izandla ezilumayo
• Ukuphonsa usawoti
• Sithi “uNkulunkulu akubusise”
• Umshanelo omdala ekhaya elisha
• Bilisa ubisi nelayisi
• Yini ebangela izinkolelo-ze?
• Lapho izinkolelo-ze zithinta impilo yengqondo
• Ingabe kukhona ukwelashwa lapho izinkolelo-ze ziba yinkinga?
• Ukuthatha

Ikati Elimnyama, Izinzwane Eziphinki Nengubo Yezintambo

Izinkolelo-ze yizinkolelo osekunesikhathi eside zibonakala sengathi zisekelwe kokuqondana noma ngokwesiko kunasemqondweni noma emaqinisweni.

Izinkolelo-ze zivame ukuxhunyaniswa nezinkolelo zobuqaba noma imikhuba yenkolo eyayandile endulo.

Okhokho bethu abaqhamukanga nezinkolelo-ze ngoba babengazi noma bengenalwazi ukwedlula thina, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi babentula izindlela eziningi ezibambekayo zokuthonya imiphumela yokuphila kwabo. Izinkolelo-ze zanikeza indlela yokuzizwa ilawula, ngendlela efanayo nabo manje. Yingakho abantu abafunde kakhulu, nabanolwazi oluningi besakholelwa ezinkolelweni ezithile.

Iningi lezinkolelo-ze limnandi futhi alinangozi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukholelwa ngobuqotho kuzo noma cha. Kepha ezinye izinkolelo-ze zingadlala ezimeni zempilo yengqondo, ezinjenge-obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).

Nakhu ukuthi izinkolelo ezivamile zisho ukuthini nokuthi kufanele ukhathazeke nini ngokuziphatha okuyizinkolelo.

Izinkolelo Ezivamile

Ake sibheke izinkolelo-ze ezivamile, imvelaphi yazo, nokuthi zisho ukuthini kithi namuhla.

Amabika amabi nenhlanhla:

Amakati amnyama

Ngesinye isikhathi, amakati amnyama ahlanganiswa namandla amabi nabathakathi abaguqula ukuma. Ngokwesiko lamaJalimane kunenkolelo yokuthi ikati elimnyama eliwela indlela yakho ukusuka kwesobunxele liye kwesokudla kuwuphawu lwezindaba ezimbi nokufa esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.

Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi amanye amasiko akholelwa ukuthi amakati amnyama awuphawu lwenhlanhla.

Ukuhamba ngaphansi kwesitebhisi

Lapho izitebhisi zisetshenziswa, zakha umumo wonxantathu. Amasiko afana nabaseGibhithe lasendulo athola onxantathu bengcwele, futhi ukuhamba ngaphansi kwesitebhisi kuphazamisa ukuma kukanxantathu ophelele.

Ukuhamba ngaphansi kwesitebhisi kuthathwa njengesenzo sokudelela nesimemo senhlanhla.

Ukwephula isibuko

Ukubheka ukucabanga kwakho kwakungeyona nje indlela yokuzihlola - emasikweni asendulo, ukubheka isibuko kwakuyindlela yokubheka ikusasa. Ukubheka esibukweni esiphukile kungaholela ekuboniseni okuhlanekezelwe, okungakhombisa usizi noma inhlanhla engaphambili.

Inombolo 13

Kwamanye amasiko enkolo, i- "12" ithathwa njengenombolo ephelele. Inombolo eza ngemuva kuka-12 izothathwa njengengaphelele noma engcolisiwe.

Emasikweni obuKrestu bakuqala nawaseNordic, isivakashi se-13 etafuleni nguyena ozoletha iqembu lonke phansi. Kukhona ngisho negama lokwesaba inombolo yeshumi nantathu, ebizwa nge-triskaidekaphobia.

I-clover enamaqabunga amane

Akucaci ukuthi kungani ama-clover amaqabunga amane eza asho inhlanhla. Mhlawumbe, i-clover enamaqabunga amane kungaba yinto engathandeki etholakala esiqeshini se-clover enamaqabunga amathathu, futhi ukuthola eyodwa kuyinto engavamile.

Amaqabunga amane e-clover enamaqabunga amane enzelwe ukukhombisa ukholo, ithemba, uthando, kanye nenhlanhla.

Amagwababa

Amagwababa yizinyoni ezifunayo futhi abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi bangakuzwa ukufa ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke. Ngalesi sizathu, abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi ukubona igwababa elilodwa kusho ukuthi inhlekelele igqamile.

Ukungqongqoza ngokhuni

Ukwenza isitatimende esifana nokuthi “lo kuzoba unyaka omuhle” kuthathwe njengokuzikhukhumeza kanye nesimemo semimoya engenelelayo ehlose ukuphazamisa izinhlelo zakho.

Ngemuva kokwenza isitatimende ukukhombisa ukuthi ubikezela izinto ezinhle phambili, kwaba isiko ukuthi "ungqongqoze okhunini" lwezindonga noma ifenisha okuzungezile njengendlela yokuxosha le mimoya emibi.

Inhlanhla othandweni:

Ukubona umakoti ngobusuku obandulela umshado

Kuze kube namuhla, abaningi abazoba ngabangane bomshado bayakugwema ukubonana ngobusuku obandulela umshado.

Lesi siko singahlehlela emuva emishadweni ehleliwe, lapho abashadile behlangana khona okokuqala ngqa ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngezifungo zabo. Ukugcina umakoti nomkhwenyana behlukene ngisho nangaphambi komshado bekukholelwa ukuthi kugcina izinhlangothi zombili zingahlehli.

Okuthile okudala, okusha

Le nkolelo-ze imayelana nesiko kunenhlanhla. Ukugqoka "okuthile okudala nokusha" ngosuku lwakho lomshado kwakuyindlela yokuhlonipha ifa likamakoti nokuthwala okwedlule ukuya esikhathini esizayo.

"Okuthile okubolekiwe" kumeme umphakathi kamakoti ebudlelwaneni bakhe obusha, futhi "okuthile okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka" bekuhloselwe ukumela uthando, ubumsulwa, nokwethembeka.

Ukubamba isixha

Ngesikhathi nangemva komcimbi womshado, abesifazane ababefuna ukushada babenentshisekelo yokuthola indlela yokuthi inhlanhla kamakoti entsha ibaphulule. Ngemuva kwalokho, umshado bekungukuphela kwento yokuvikelwa kwezikhungo abesifazane ababonwa ukuthi bayakwazi ukuyithola ngemuva kweminyaka ethile.

Abesifazane abangashadile babezama ukuthatha izingcezu zendwangu noma amacembe ezingutsheni zikamakoti, futhi ngokuvamile wayejika, aphonse isixha, abaleke. Isixuku sabonwa njengento enenhlanhla kumuntu owayengayibamba.

I-oracle ebabazekayo

I-trope endala yokubala amacembe e-daisy ukuthola ukuthi "uyangithanda, akangithandi" kwesinye isikhathi ubizwa ngokuthi "ukususa idayi" noma "i-daisy oracle" evela kumdlalo waseFrance.

Emdlalweni, umdlali ususa amacembe ngasikhathi sinye, eshintsha athi "uyangithanda" noma "akangithandi." Lapho kudonswa ipetali yokugcina, ibinzana umdlali ahlala kulo liyimpendulo yombuzo.

Ungahlali ekhoneni

Ikakhulukazi emasikweni aseRussia, abesifazane abangashadile bayakhuthazwa ukuthi bangahlali ekhoneni ngesikhathi sedili. Ihlezi ekhoneni, inkolelo-ze iya, "izolahla" lowo wesifazane empilweni ye-spinsterhood yaphakade.

Le nkolelo-ze ingaba nje indaba yokusebenza, njengoba ukuhlala phakathi kwedili elinempilo kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlangana nabantu kunokuhlala ekhoneni noma ekugcineni.

Ingcebo, impilo nokuchuma:

Izandla ezilumayo

Ngokwe-anecdotally, izandla ezilumayo kufanele zibe yinkomba yokuthi ingcebo isendleleni futhi kungekudala uzobamba imali. Vele kungasho futhi isikhumba esomile noma esinye isimo sesikhumba.

Ukuphonsa usawoti

Usawoti kade kucatshangwa ukuthi uphatha amandla angokomoya. Usawoti, obekukade kunzima kakhulu ukuwuthenga futhi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokulondoloza inyama ngokuphepha, wawubaluleke kakhulu wawungasetshenziswa njengemali.

Ukuchitha usawoti kubonakale kunganaki kangako, bekuyisimemo senhlekelele. Ukuphonsa usawoti ehlombe lakho lesobunxele, noma kunjalo, bekucatshangwa ukuthi kuqeda ishwa lokulichitha futhi kubuyise ukulingana kwezinto.

Sithi “uNkulunkulu akubusise”

Ukusho ukuthi “uNkulunkulu akubusise” ngemuva kokuthi umuntu ethimule kuqala ngaphambi kokuba abantu baqonde ukuthi izifo zithunyelwa kanjani.

Njengoba abantu abaningi eNkathini Ephakathi babulawa yisifo, umkhuba wokuthi “uNkulunkulu akubusise” wawenzelwe ukuvikela umuntu okhombisa izimpawu, njengokukhwehlela nokuthimula.

Isibusiso kungenzeka futhi ukuthi bekuwumzamo wokuvimba imimoya emibi ukuthi ingangeni emzimbeni ngemuva kokuthimula, abanye abakholelwa ukuthi bekuqukethe ingqikithi yomuntu ozama ukubaleka.

Umshanelo omdala ekhaya elisha

Ukuletha umshanelo omdala ekhaya elisha kwakucatshangwa ukuthi kudlulisa amandla amabi ukusuka endaweni eyodwa kuya kwenye. Ngokufanayo, kwakuthathwa njengebhadi ukusebenzisa umshanelo owawushiywe ngumuntu owayehlala ekhaya ngaphambili.

Ukusebenzisa umshanelo omusha lapho uthuthela endaweni entsha bekufanele kube isenzo sokuhlanza esihlanza indawo yokuhlala.

Bilisa ubisi nelayisi

Kwamanye amasiko, ukubilisa ubisi nelayisi kuyindlela yokubhabhathiza ikhaya elisha. Ubisi nelayisi kufanekisela ukugcwala, ukuchuma, kanye nengcebo ekwamukelweni endaweni entsha.

Yini ebangela izinkolelo-ze?

Izinkolelo-ze zinezimbangela ezimbili eziyinhloko: isiko namasiko nokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu ngamunye.

Uma ukhule ucwile ezinkolelweni eziyinkambiso zesiko elithile noma inkolo ethile, ungazihambisa lezi zinkolelo phambili, ungazi nakancane.

Izinkolelo-ze zingathatha uhlobo lokuhlala esihlalweni "senhlanhla" lapho iqembu lakho olithandayo libhekene nembangi yalo, noma lenza uchungechunge olufanayo lompompi epuletini lapho kuyithuba lakho lokushaya i-baseball.

Lokhu kuziphatha kumane kuyizindlela zokudambisa ukukhathazeka noma ukulungiselela ingqondo yakho ukugxila. Zifana nemikhuba enikeza umuntu okwenzayo umuzwa wokulawula okungaziwa.

Isibonelo, uma ugqoke ijezi lomdlali oyithandayo emdlalweni webhola, futhi lowo mdlali washaya i-touchdown, ungakholelwa ukuthi lezi zimo zombili bezixhunyiwe - leyo nketho eyodwa (egqoke ijezi) kubangelwe umphumela wakho owufisayo (ukuthinta phansi). Mhlawumbe uyazi ukuthi lezi zinto zombili azihlangene, kodwa ukubambelela enkolelweni uzizwa ungcono kunokukuyeka.

Omunye ukhombisile ukuthi noma izinkolelo eziyize azixhumani nemiphumela engcono yabasubathi, umphumela we-placebo wenkolelo wawanele ukuwenza ukufanele ukukholwa.

Ngokwe-American Psychological Association, abantu abaningi bayazi ukuthi amasiko abo noma izinkolelo zabo azihlanganisiwe neqiniso. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi bakulungele ukudedela inkolelo.

Ucwaningo olulodwa ku-2016 luphakamisa ngokuqinile ukuthi izinkolelo-ze zingukucabanga okunamandla ubuchopho bethu abufuni ukukulungisa. Yize ingxenye yethu enengqondo ingase yazi ukuthi ukuziphatha kwethu kokukholelwa ezeni akuthinti imiphumela, ukubambelela kuyo kuseyindlela "yokudlala iphephile."

Lapho izinkolelo-ze zithinta impilo yengqondo

Kubantu abaningi, izinkolelo-ze aziyona ingozi. Kepha kunezikhathi lapho izinkolelo-ze zingaba yisithiyo empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.

Kubantu abane-OCD, izinkolelo-ze zingabonakala njengokulungiswa. Abantu abane-OCD bangazizwa bengakwazi ukulahla isimilo noma izinkolelo zokukholelwa ezeni. Lokhu kungadala imicabango ekhathazayo noma ukukhathazeka, phakathi kwezinye izimpawu ze-OCD. Lokhu kwesinye isikhathi kubizwa ngokuthi "ukucabanga kwemilingo" i-OCD.

Abantu abanezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo, ezinjengesifo sokukhathazeka esijwayelekile, nabo bangathinteka kabi yizinkolelo-ze.

Lapho izinkolelo-ze ziba isisusa esinamandla sokubamba iqhaza noma sokugwema imisebenzi ethile, kuyinkomba yokuthi isimo sezempilo yengqondo esingaphansi kungenzeka sibe khona.

Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ulawulwa noma wesaba izinkolelo zakho, awuwedwa. Izimpawu zokukhathazeka, ukudangala, ukwesaba, nokuziphatha kokugwema konke kuyizimpawu ongadinga usizo. Ungaxhumana nongoti wezempilo yengqondo noma ufune iseluleko kuzinombolo ze-hotline ezibalwe ngezansi.

• Inombolo Kazwelonke Yocingo Olunombolo Yocingo: I-800-950-NAMI (vula i-MF, 10 ekuseni kuya ku-6pm EST)
• Inqubo Kazwelonke Yokuvimbela Ukuzibulala: 800-273-TALK (vula 24/7, izinsuku ezingama-365 ngonyaka)
• Inombolo yosizo Yezinsiza Zokuhlukunyezwa Kwezidakamizwa Nengqondo. 800-662-USIZO

Ingabe kukhona ukwelashwa lapho izinkolelo-ze ziba yinkinga?

Uma izinkolelo-ze zibe yisithiyo kuwe, uzodluliselwa kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ongasiza. Izinketho zokwelashwa zifaka ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo, ukwelashwa kokuchayeka, kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuguqula umkhuba.

Kwabanye abantu, imishanguzo efana ne-serotonin reuptake inhibitors ekhethiwe (i-SSRIs), i-beta-blockers, noma kuyaqabukela, imishanguzo ingabekwa ukusiza ukukhulula ukukhathazeka. Njengoba ama-sedatives kwesinye isikhathi angaholela ekusetshenzisweni kabi noma ekuthembekeni, akuvamile ukuthi kube ukwelashwa komugqa wokuqala.

Ukuthatha

Ezimweni eziningi, izinkolelo-ze azinabungozi. Eqinisweni, kungenzeka ukuthi ubambe izinkolelo-ze ojwayele ukuthi ungazi nakwazi futhi azithinti impilo yakho kakhulu.

Kunezimo lapho okubizwa ngokuthi "ukucabanga ngomlingo" kungadala igebe phakathi komcabango neqiniso. Kulezo zimo, ukwelashwa okuvela kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo kungasiza.