Ukukhulisa Umndeni Wakho Ngokusebenzisa I-Gestational Surrogacy

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• Kungani ukhetha ukuzimela?
• Izinhlobo ze-surrogacy
• Ungamthola kanjani umuntu ngokwesivumelwano
• Izindlela zokuba ngokwesivumelwano
• Kwenzeka kanjani, igxathu negxathu
• Kubiza malini lokhu?
• Isinxephezelo sekukonke
• Ukuhlolwa
• Izindleko zomthetho
• Ezinye izindleko
• Kuthiwani ngabazalelwa ngokwesiko?
• Ngabe umshuwalense wezempilo ukhokha noma yiziphi izindleko?
• Izinkinga zomthetho okufanele zicatshangelwe
• Izinkinga ezingalindelekile nge-surrogacy
• Inothi kulabo abacabanga ukuba yisivumelwano
• Ukuthatha

UDavid Prado / Stocksy United

Ngabe uKim Kardashian, uSarah Jessica Parker, uNeil Patrick Harris noJimmy Fallon bafana ngani? Zonke zidumile - lokho kuyiqiniso. Kodwa futhi bonke basebenzise ama-surrogate ukukhulisa imindeni yabo.

Njengoba labo saziwayo bazi, kunezindlela eziningi zokuba nezingane kulezi zinsuku. Futhi njengoba ubuchwepheshe buqhubeka, kanjalo nezinketho. Bayanda abantu abaphendukela ekuzalweni ngokwesivumelwano.

Ngenkathi ungahlanganisa lo mkhuba nezinkanyezi zama-movie nabacebile, nakhu ongakulindela - kusuka enkambisweni ejwayelekile kuya ezindlekweni jikelele - uma ucabanga ukuthi lo mzila ungaba umdlalo omuhle womndeni wakho.

Kungani ukhetha ukuzimela?

Kuqala kuza uthando, bese kuza umshado, bese kuza ingane ngenqola yengane. Ingoma endala iqinisekile ishiya okuningi ngaphandle, akunjalo?

Yebo, ukuzimela ngokweqile kungasiza ukugcwalisa eminye yaleyo mininingwane yamaphesenti ayi-12 kuye kwayi-15 emibhangqwana ebhekene nezinkinga zokuzala - kanye nakwabanye abafuna ukuba nezingane zezinto eziphilayo futhi bakwezinye izimo.

Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani abantu bekhetha ukuzimela ngokwesivumelwano:

• Izinkinga zezempilo zivimbela owesifazane ekukhulelweni noma ekukhulelweni kuze kube sesikhathini.
• Izinkinga zokungazali zivimbela imibhangqwana ekutholeni noma ekukhulelweni, njengokukhulelwa kwesisu okuphindaphindayo.
• Imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo ifisa ukuba nezingane. Lokhu kungaba ngamadoda amabili, kepha abesifazane nabo bathola le nketho ikhanga ngoba iqanda nombungu ovelayo ovela kumlingani oyedwa ungadluliselwa futhi uthwalwe ngomunye umlingani.
• Abantu abangabodwa bafuna ukuba nezingane ezizalayo.

Okuhlobene: Konke odinga ukukwazi ngokungazali

Izinhlobo ze-surrogacy

Igama elithi “ngokwesivumelwano” ngokuvamile lisetshenziselwa ukuchaza izimo ezihlukene ezimbalwa.

• A isithwali sokukhulelwa ithwala ukukhulelwa komuntu ngamunye noma izithandani zisebenzisa iqanda okungelona elithwalayo. Iqanda lingavela kumama ohlosiwe noma kumnikeli. Ngokufanayo, isidoda singavela kubaba ohlosiwe noma umnikeli. Ukukhulelwa kutholakala ngokusebenzisa in vitro fertilization (IVF).
• A ngokwesivumelwano ngokwesintu bobabili banikela ngeqanda lakhe futhi baphatha ukukhulelwa komuntu ngamunye noma umbhangqwana. Ukukhulelwa kuvame ukutholakala ngokusebenzisa i-intrauterine insemination (IUI) ngesidoda esivela kubaba ohlosiwe. Isidoda esinikelayo singasetshenziswa futhi.

Ngokusho kwe-Southern Surrogacy ejensi, abathwali bokukhulelwa sebevame kakhulu kunabameleli bendabuko. Kungani kunjalo? Njengoba owomuntu ngokwesivumelwano onikela ngeqanda lakhe, ngokomthetho ubuye abe eziphilayo umama wengane.

Yize lokhu kungasebenza kahle impela, kungadala izingqinamba eziyinkimbinkimbi zomthetho nezomzwelo. Eqinisweni, izifundazwe eziningana empeleni zinemithetho ephikisana nokuzimela ngokwesiko ngalezi zizathu.

Ungamthola kanjani umuntu ngokwesivumelwano

Abanye abantu bathola umngani noma ilungu lomndeni elizimisele ukukhonza njengommeli. Abanye baphendukela ezikhungweni zokuzimela - e-United States noma phesheya - ukuthola umdlalo omuhle. Ama-ejensi aqala ukukhethwa kwesikrini ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ahlangabezana nemibandela ehambisana nenqubo. Ngemuva kwalokho baqondanisa okufunayo / okudingayo ukuthola isimo esihle kakhulu somndeni wakho.

Angazi ukuthi uzoqala kuphi? Inhlangano engenzi nzuzo ye-Society for Ethics in Egg Donation and Surrogacy (SEEDS) yadalelwa ukubuyekeza nokugcina izingqinamba zokuziphatha eziphathelene nokunikelwa kweqanda nokuzala. Iqembu ligcina umkhombandlela welungu ongakusiza ekutholeni ama-ejensi endaweni yangakini.

Izindlela zokuba ngokwesivumelwano

Iziqu zokuba ngokwesivumelwano sokukhulelwa ziyahlukahluka nge-ejensi, kepha zifaka izinto ezinjengalezi:

• Ubudala. Abafakizicelo kumele babe phakathi kweminyaka engama-21 nengama-45 ubudala. Futhi, ububanzi obuthize buyahluka ngendawo.
• Isizinda sokuzala. Futhi kufanele bathwale okungenani ukukhulelwa okukodwa - ngaphandle kwezinkinga - ukuya esikhathini kodwa babe nokulethwa kwesitho sangasese okungaphansi kwesihlanu kanye nezingxenye ezimbili zokuhlinzwa.
• Indlela Yokuphila. Abasebenza ngokwesivumelwano kumele bahlale endaweni esekelayo yasekhaya, njengoba kuqinisekiswa yisifundo sasekhaya. Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa notshwala kungezinye zezinto ezibhekwayo.
• Izivivinyo. Ngokwengeziwe, abangahle bazalelwe ngokwesivumelwano kumele bahlolwe impilo yengqondo, okuphelele ngokomzimba - kufaka phakathi ukuhlolwa kwezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (STIs).

Abazali abahlosiwe banezidingo ezithile zokuhlangabezana nazo. Lokhu kufaka:

• ukuhlinzeka ngemilando ephelele yezempilo
• ukuba nezivivinyo zomzimba ukuqinisekisa ukuthi bangaphumelela ngempumelelo kumijikelezo yokubuyisa i-vitro fertilization
• ukuhlolwa kwezifo ezithathelwanayo
• ukuhlola izifo ezithile zofuzo ezingadluliselwa enganeni

Ukwelulekwa ngempilo yengqondo kunconyelwa ukumboza izinto ezinjengokulindelwe kusuka ekuzameni, ukulutha, ukuhlukunyezwa, nezinye izindaba ezingokwengqondo.

Okuhlobene: Umhlahlandlela wezinsuku ezingama-30 wempumelelo ye-IVF

Kwenzeka kanjani, igxathu negxathu

Uma usuthole ukumela omunye umuntu, ukuthola ukukhulelwa kuyehluka kuye ngokuthi uluphi uhlobo lwesivumelwano osisebenzisayo.

Ngezithwali zokukhulelwa, inqubo ibukeka kanjena:

1. Khetha umuntu omela omunye umuntu, imvamisa nge-ejensi.
2. Dala inkontileka esemthethweni futhi uyibuyekeze.
3. Dlula kwinqubo yokubuyisa amaqanda (uma usebenzisa amaqanda omama ahlosiwe) noma uthole amaqanda abanikeli. Dala imibungu usebenzisa isidoda sikababa esihlosiwe noma isidoda somnikeli.
4. Dlulisa imibungu kumphathi wokukhulelwa (ngokwesivumelwano) bese - uma kunamathela - landela ukukhulelwa. Uma kungaphumeleli, abazali abahlosiwe kanye ne-surrogate bangaphishekela omunye umjikelezo we-IVF.
5. Ingane iyazalwa, ngaleso sikhathi abazali abahlosiwe bathola ilungelo eligcwele lokugcina njengoba kuchaziwe esivumelwaneni somthetho.

Ababelethi bendabuko, ngakolunye uhlangothi, nabo banikela ngamaqanda abo, ngakho-ke i-IVF imvamisa ayibandakanyeki kule nqubo.

1. Khetha umuntu omela omunye umuntu.
2. Dala inkontileka esemthethweni futhi uyibuyekeze.
3. Dlula kwinqubo ye-IUI usebenzisa isidoda sikababa ohlosiwe noma isidoda somnikeli.
4. Landela ukukhulelwa noma - uma umjikelezo wokuqala ungasebenzi - zama futhi.
5. Ingane izelwe. Umuntu omisiwe angadinga ukuqeda ngokusemthethweni amalungelo obuzali enganeni, futhi abazali abahlosiwe bangadinga ukuqedela ukutholwa kwabazali bokutholwa ngaphezu kwenkontileka esemthethweni esethwe ezigabeni zokuqala zenqubo.

Vele, le nqubo ingahluka kancane ngokuya ngesimo ohlala kuso.

Kubiza malini lokhu?

Izindleko ezihambisana nokuzala ngokwesimo kuya ngohlobo nokuthi uhlala kuphi. Ngokuvamile, izindleko zomthwali wokukhulelwa zingawela phakathi kuka- $ 90,000 no- $ 130,000 uma ucabangela isinxephezelo, izindleko zokunakekelwa kwezempilo, imali yezomthetho nezinye izimo ezingase ziphakame.

I-West Coast Surrogacy Agency, ezinze kulo lonke elaseCalifornia, ibala izindleko zayo ngokuningiliziwe kuwebhusayithi yayo futhi ichaza ukuthi lezi zimali zingashintsha ngaphandle kwesaziso.

Isinxephezelo sekukonke

Inkokhelo eyisisekelo ingama- $ 50,000 ama-surrogate amasha kanye ne- $ 60,000 yama-surrogate anolwazi. Kungaba nezimali ezingeziwe futhi. Ngokwesibonelo:

• $ 5,000 uma ukukhulelwa kubangela amawele
• $ 10,000 ngamathathu
• $ 3,000 ukulethwa ngokuhlinzwa

Ungase futhi uthole izindleko (ezahlukahluka) ezintweni ezifana:

• izibonelelo zanyanga zonke
• amaholo alahlekile
• umshwalanse we mpilo

Izindleko zingabandakanya nezimo ezikhethekile, njengokukhanselwa kwemijikelezo ye-IVF, ukwehliswa kanye nokwelashwa, ukukhulelwa kwe-ectopic, ukunciphisa umbungu, nezinye izimo ezingalindelekile.

Ukuhlolwa

Abazali abalindelwe bazophinde bakhokhe cishe u- $ 1 000 wokuhlolelwa impilo yabo ngokwengqondo, abemele omunye umuntu, kanye nomlingani wesivumelwano. Ukuhlolwa kwesizinda sobugebengu kuzo zombili izinhlangothi kubiza phakathi kuka- $ 100 kuya ku- $ 400. Ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha kuzoya ngezincomo zomtholampilo we-IVF.

Izindleko zomthetho

Kunezindleko ezimbalwa zomthetho ezihilelekile, ekubhaleni nasekubuyekezeni inkontileka ye-surrogacy ($ 2,500 ne- $ 1,000, ngokulandelana) ukusungula umzali ($ 4,000 kuya ku- $ 7,000) ukwethemba ukuphathwa kwe-akhawunti ($ 1,250). Inani elijwayelekile lapha liphakathi kuka- $ 8,750 kuya ku- $ 11,750.

Ezinye izindleko

Lokhu kuyehluka ngomtholampilo kanye ne-ejensi. Njengesibonelo, iWest Coast Surrogacy incoma ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kubazali bayo abahlosiwe futhi ibahlinzekele ngemizuzu engama-90 ngenyanga nangemva kwezinyathelo ezihlukile, njengokuhanjiswa kombungu. Sekukonke, lezi zikhathi zingabiza u- $ 2,500 - noma kunjalo, lokhu kusekelwa kunganconywa ngamanye ama-ejensi.

Ezinye izindleko ezingaba khona zifaka phakathi umshuwalense wezempilo wesivumelwano ($ 25,000), umshuwalense wokuphila ($ 500), nokuhlala ehhotela / imali yokuhamba ehlotshaniswa nemijikelezo ye-IVF ($ 1,500). Abazali bangahlela futhi nokuqinisekiswa komshuwalense wezempilo wangasese ($ 275).

Futhi, kunezinye izimo ezahlukahlukene, njengemithi ye-IVF nokuqapha noma inkokhelo elahlekile ngenxa yezinkinga zokukhulelwa, ezingahluka ngezindleko.

Kuthiwani ngabazalelwa ngokwesiko?

Izindleko zakho zingase zibe ngaphansi ngokwesivumelwano sendabuko ngoba ayikho i-IVF ethintekayo. Izindleko ze-IUI zincane futhi zivame ukuba nezinqubo zokwelashwa ezimbalwa ezihambisanayo.

Ngabe umshuwalense wezempilo ukhokha noma yiziphi izindleko?

Cishe akunjalo, kodwa kuyinkimbinkimbi.Ngokusho kwe-ConceiveAbilities agency, cishe amaphesenti angama-30 wezinhlelo zomshuwalense wezempilo afaka i-verbiage echaza ngqo ukuthi izokwenza hhayi ukumboza izindleko zowesifazane ngokwesivumelwano. Cishe amaphesenti ama-5 ahlinzeka ngokutholakala, kepha amanye amaphesenti angama-65 awanalutho kule ndaba.

Ngamafuphi: Kukhona ama-aphoyintimenti amaningi, izinqubo, bese kuba ukuzalwa uqobo okufanele ucabange ngakho. Awufuni isikweletu somshwalense wezempilo esingalindelekile nesibizayo.

Iningi lama-ejensi azokusiza ukuthi ubuyekeze uhlelo lomshuwalense wezempilo wesivumelwano ukuze unqume ukumbozwa. Bangaphinde bancome ukuthi uthenge umshwalense wangaphandle wesivumelwano usebenzisa izinhlelo eziphelele zomshuwalense wesivumelwano ngokusebenzisa ama-ejensi afana neNew Life noma i-ART Risk Solutions.

Izinkinga zomthetho okufanele zicatshangelwe

Ayikho imithetho yenhlangano ezungeze ukuzimela. Esikhundleni salokho, imithetho esebenzayo incike ezweni ohlala kulo. Izingqinamba zezomthetho zingavela lapho omunye umzali ehlobene nendalo nengane kanti omunye akahlobene - noma ngabe lowo omthathe ngokwesivumelwano akahlobene ngokwebhayoloji.

Ukwemukelwa ngokwesiko kwendabuko - lapho owokumukelwa futhi engumama ophilayo - kungaba nzima kakhulu. Phakathi kwezinye izingqinamba, ungadinga ukuvikela lokho okubizwa ngokuthi i-oda langaphambi kokuzalwa ukuze lifakwe kuhlu njengomzali kusitifiketi sokuzalwa lapho ingane izalwa. Ezinye izifundazwe kungenzeka zingakuvumeli lokhu, noma ngabe bengenayo imithetho ephikisana nokuzimela ngokwesintu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umzali (abazali) ongeyena owangempela angadinga ukwenza inqubo yokutholwa.

Kungakhathalekile ukuthi isimo sinjani, i-American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists incoma ukuthi ukumela umuntu ngokwesivumelwano kanye nabazali okuhlosiwe bahlele ukumelwa ngokomthetho okuzimele nabameli abanolwazi lokuthola ngokwesivumelwano.

Okuhlobene: Icala elifakwe ngumama wesivumelwano livusa izingqinamba ezintsha zezomthetho, zokuziphatha

Izinkinga ezingalindelekile nge-surrogacy

Lapho uhlela ukuzimela, konke kungabonakala kuqondile. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi njengezinto eziningi empilweni, kunamathuba okuvela kwezinkinga futhi enze izinto zikhohlise.

Okunye ukucatshangelwa:

• IVF noma i-IUI ayisona isiqinisekiso sokukhulelwa. Kwesinye isikhathi lezi zinqubo azisebenzi kumzamo wokuqala noma olandelayo. Ungadinga imijikelezo eminingana ukufeza ukukhulelwa.
• Asifuni ukuba yiDebbie Downer lapha. Kepha okunye ukucatshangelwa ukuthi noma ngabe kwenzeka ukukhulelwa, ukukhipha izisu kungenzeka.
• Njengoba nje nangendlela yendabuko yokukhulelwa kuya kubazali, kuhlale kunethuba lezinkinga zezempilo nengane noma izingqinamba ngokuzalwa ngokwesivumelwano noma ngokuzalwa kwangempela.
• Ukukhulelwa nge-IVF ne-IUI kungaholela ekuphindaphindeni - amawele noma amawele amathathu.
• Ngenkathi izifundo zasekhaya kanye nokuhlolwa kwengqondo kuyingxenye yenqubo yokuhlola, abakwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi abasebenza ngokwesivumelwano ngeke bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni ongakubheka njengokuyingozi. (Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iningi lababelethwayo lithwala izingane ngesifiso sokuletha injabulo yokuba ngumzali kubantu abangase bangakutholi ngenye indlela.)

Inothi kulabo abacabanga ukuba yisivumelwano

Kunezindlela ezahlukahlukene okungenzeka ukuthi ukwenza isicelo ngokwesivumelwano kungenza okunengqondo empilweni yakho. Ungathola imali ikhanga noma uzizwe wenelisekile ngokunikeza izithandani okuthile abangase bangakwazi ukukufeza ngaphandle kosizo lwakho.

Noma kunjalo, kuyisinqumo esikhulu. I-Family Inceptions Agency ibeka izinto ezimbalwa okufanele zicatshangelwe ngaphambi kokufaka isicelo sokuba ngummeleli.

• Uzodinga ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke izidingo ezisezingeni eliphansi - kufaka phakathi lezo eziphathelene nobudala, isimo sempilo, umlando wokuzala, nesimo senqondo - ezingahluka ngokwe-ejensi.
• Uzodinga ukuthi KULUNGILE ngokunika ukulawula ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngenkathi kungumzimba wakho, okwenzekayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa akusikho kuwe ngokuphelele. Lokhu kufaka izinto ezifana nokuhlolwa okungenzeka ungazikhetheli wena kepha abazali abahlosiwe abangafisa ukwenziwa.
• Kuzodingeka futhi ukuthi ucabange ngenqubo uqobo lwayo. Ukukhulelwa nge-IVF kuthatha izinqubo eziningi nemithi. Cabanga ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani ngokuthatha izidakamizwa zomjovo nezomlomo namahomoni.
• Uzofuna ukubheka ukuthi umndeni wakho uphelele yini. Ufuna ezinye izingane? Qonda ukuthi ngokukhulelwa ngakunye nangeminyaka yokukhula, kungavela izingozi eziningi zezinkinga ezingathinta ukuzala kwakho.
• Uzodinga ukuthola okokufaka okuvela kuwo wonke umndeni wakho. Ingabe umlingani wakho uzizwa kanjani ngokuthola omunye umuntu? Kuthiwani ngezingane zakho?

Azikho ngempela izimpendulo ezilungile noma ezingalungile emibuzweni odinga ukuzibuza yona - lezi yizinto nje okufanele uzicabangele. Ukuzimela ngokwesiko kungaba inqubo nesipho esihle kakhulu.

Okuhlobene: Ukungabi nenzalo ngemuva kokunikela ngamaqanda

Ukuthatha

Ngenkathi i-surrogacy ingahle ingabi lula noma iqonde ngaso sonke isikhathi, abantu abaningi ngokwengeziwe bakhetha le ndlela.

Ngo-1999 kwakubikwa nje e-United States. Ngo-2013, leli nani lakhuphukela ku-3 432, futhi liyaqhubeka nokukhuphuka unyaka nonyaka.

Kuyinqubo ethintekayo kepha ngokuqinisekile kufanele iphenywe. Uma ukuzimela ngokwesivumelwano kubonakala sengathi kungafanela umndeni wakho, cabanga ukuxhumana ne-ejensi eseduze nawe ukuthola umugqa wesikhathi, izindleko, nokunye okunye okungaqondiswa ohambweni lwakho. Kunezindlela eziningi zokuba ngumzali - futhi lena ngenye yazo.