Izizathu Eziyishumi Eziphezulu Zokuthi Unganamatheli Kuzinqumo Zakho

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Cishe uhhafu wethu wenza izinqumo zoNyaka Omusha, kepha ngaphansi kwamaphesenti ayi-10 ethu empeleni siyazigcina. Noma ngabe ukuntula ugqozi, ukuntuleka kwezinsiza, noma sivele silahlekelwe intshisekelo, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi senze isiqalo esisha futhi sithole izindlela zokuqeda esikuqalile. Nazi izizathu eziyishumi zokuthi abantu banganamatheli ezinqumweni zabo zikaNcibijane nokuthi bangazigcina kanjani zingenzeki kulo nyaka.

Isizathu 1: Ukuhamba wedwa

Noma ngabe ukuyeka ukubhema, ukuthuthukisa umdlalo wakho wethenisi, noma ukuya ejimini kaningi, ungahambi wedwa. "Uma ungumuntu onamazinga aphezulu empumelelo uma uthola ukwesekwa ngaphandle, khona-ke thola umngani," kusho umqeqeshi wempumelelo u-Amy Applebaum. "Lokhu kudala ukuziphendulela, okubalulekile empumelelweni."

"Zungeze nabantu abakukhuthazayo ukuba ube ngaphezulu, wenze okuningi, futhi ube nokuningi," kweluleka Umqeqeshi weMojo uDebi Silber. "Uma udlala ithenisi futhi ufuna ukuthuthukisa umdlalo wakho, dlala nabantu abangcono kunawe abakukhuthaza ukuthi ube ngcono." Khumbula, umngani wakho kufanele abe yinto enhle empilweni yakho, hhayi embi. USilber uncoma ukugwema lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ama-vampires wamandla," noma abantu abakukhipha ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo, noma ngabe bangabalingani abazimisele.

Isizathu 2: Izinqumo Eziphakeme Kakhulu

Uma umgomo wakho uwukuxazulula ukuthula komhlaba, mhlawumbe umgomo ongafinyeleleka kakhudlwana uwukwenza isifungo ozokufunda ekugcineni Impi Nokuthula. "Iningi lethu lenza izinqumo 'ezinkulu kakhulu' ngakho-ke asikwazi ukuhlangabezana nazo," kusho u-Applebaum. "Hlola izinqumo zakho. Ngabe ziyilokho okufuna ngempela noma uzinikele kubo ngoba ubucabanga ukuthi kufanele?"

Thatha usuku nosuku, kusho umqeqeshi wezempilo u-Hunter Phoenix. "Ngenze isivumelwano nami sokuthi ngiyeke ukucabanga ngezinto ezedlule, ngicabange ngekusasa, kunalokho ngamukele okwamanje nokuthi yini engingayenza ukwenza umehluko lapha namanje."

Isizathu 3: Ukunikela kalula kakhulu

Noma ngabe udikibala noma umane ulahlekelwe yintshisekelo, ukunikela kalula kakhulu kuyisixazululo esikhulu. "Abantu abaningi benza izinqumo zabo benenkolelo yangempela yokuthi bangazifeza, ngoFebhuwari isasasa liyaphela futhi nezinye izinto eziseqhulwini ziqala ukubekwa phambili," kusho u-Andrew Schrage, umsunguli weMoneyCrashers. "Ukuze welaphe lolu daba, zama ukubeka izilinganiso unyaka wonke. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ungazigcina usendleleni unyaka wonke futhi usebenzise amandla okuqinisa okuhle ukuze ugcine umfutho wakho uqhubeka."

Isizathu 4: Ukuphatha Isikhathi

Kwesinye isikhathi uyabona ukuthi ukulungiswa kwakho kuwukuzibophezela kwesikhathi esikhulu kunalokho obukuhlosile ekuqaleni. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukukufeza konke ngosuku olulodwa, kwehlukanise kube ukukhuphuka okuphathekayo. “Nginquma ukunikela imizuzu emihlanu ngosuku ukuze ngingabi nemfuhlumfuhlu futhi ngihleleke,” kusho umhleli onguchwepheshe uMelinda Massie. "Indlela elula yokuthola nokuhlala uhlelekile futhi ungahlangani ukwenza umkhuba wansuku zonke, futhi wonke umuntu angabamba imizuzu emihlanu ngosuku."

Isizathu 5: Umthwalo Wezezimali

Abaningi bayazishiya phansi izinqumo zabo uma izindleko ezihambisana nazo ziphezulu kakhulu, kusho uSchrage. "Isibonelo, ukwehlisa isisindo kwesinye isikhathi kungadinga ubulungu bokuzivocavoca obubizayo. Yiba nobuciko futhi uzame ukuthola izindlela ezingabizi kakhulu zokuqedela izinhloso zakho. Uma uzama ukunciphisa isisindo, ungazivocavoca futhi uzivocavoca ngaphandle kokuzivocavoca."

Isizathu 6: Izinqumo Ezingenangqondo

Ungase ucabange ngomzimba wakho omusha osayizi-6 omusha noma lowo msebenzi wezibalo eziyisithupha, kepha ungakwenza kwenzeke ngaphambi kokuphuma konyaka? "Uma ucabanga ukuthi uzolahlekelwa ngamakhilogremu ayi-100 ezinyangeni ezintathu, lokhu ngeke kwenzeke," kusho uchwepheshe wezokudla nokondla u-Erin Palinski. "Kumele uzibekele umgomo ongafinyeleleka ngesikhathi ozibekele sona."

Lokhu futhi kusho ukuba neqiniso kuwe futhi uthathe ukubukeka okunzima, okude esibukweni. "Izinqumo zidinga izinguquko ekuziphatheni, futhi iningi lethu alifuni ukubhekana nokuthi ngokuvamile kuvame ukuba nohlu lwezinguquko okufanele zenziwe," kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esizinze e-Alabama uJosh Klapow. Ngakho khetha eyodwa oyethembayo futhi unamathele kuyo. Kungcono kakhulu ukuphumelela esinqumweni esincane, esilawulekayo kunokwehluleka kwesikhulu, esiphezulu."

Isizathu 7: Alukho Uhlelo

"Izinqumo ezingcono kakhulu yilezo ezihlanganisa uhlelo lokusebenza," kusho udokotela wokulutha uMichael Ellner. I-Applebaum ithi abantu bazibekela ukwehluleka ngoba bazibophezela esinqumweni, bazi ngokugcwele ukuthi abanalo uhlelo abalukhona lokusifeza.

"Kudingeka wenze uhlelo oluzokusiza ufinyelele izinhloso zakho," kusho uKarena noKatrina, abasunguli be-ToneItUp.com.“Yehlisa umgomo wakho ube yimigomo emincane, yamasonto onke ukuze uzizwe sengathi usebenzela okuthile ngokushesha, futhi wenze ikhalenda elinokuthile ongakwenza nsuku zonke okuzokusondeza kumphumela owufisayo,” basho.

Isizathu 8: Ukuntula Ukwethembeka

Ngabe uzinikele ngempela ekusebenzeni imarathon, ukunciphisa umzimba, noma yini enye ozibophezele ukuyenza? Thembeka kuwe uqobo. "Kukaningi sizithola sizibophezela ezintweni ngoba sicabanga ukuthi kufanele," kusho u-Applebaum. "Ungachithi isikhathi sakho ngalokho. Uzophoxeka kuwena kuphela. Yenza izinqumo ofuna ukuzifeza ngoba ufuna ngempela futhi uzofaka uhlelo lokusebenza kuzo," usho kanje.

Isizathu 9: Umbono Ongalungile

Ngenkathi ungahle ube nezinhloso ezinhle ngesinqumo sakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uzifakela ingcindezi engenasidingo. Kubeke ngombono. "Esikhundleni sokuhlanganisa uNyaka Omusha nezinqumo noma izinguquko okudingeka uzenze, zithathe njengesikhathi sokucabanga ngezinto ofisa ukuzisebenzisela unyaka wonke," kusho u-Applebaum. "Yeka ukuhlala ezintweni ongakazifezi bese ugxila kulokho ozokufeza esikhundleni salokho."

Isizathu 10: Ukungakholelwa Kuwe

Ngokusho kukadokotela wezifo zengqondo waseBeverly Hills uBarbara Neitlich, kwesinye isikhathi okudingayo ukuze uqhubeke nokubambelela kuwe. "Zihalalisele ngentuthuko yakho. Inkinga ukuthi abantu abaningi banesimo esimnyama kakhulu nesimhlophe. Babona sengathi ufinyelele inhloso yakho noma wehlulekile, kodwa kunendawo empunga," esho.

Uma inhloso yakho bekuwukuthumela ama-resume ayishumi ngesonto ngomsebenzi omusha bese uthumela amahlanu kuphela, ungazishayi indiva ngawo. "Kunalokho, zibongele futhi uziklomelise ngokwenza umzamo wokufinyelela umgomo wakho. Lokho kuzokunika amandla namandla okudingayo ukuze uqhubeke ufinyelela umgomo wakho wokuqala," kusho uNeetlich. Futhi uzibulale ngomusa, kusho uSilber. "Ngabangane, sivame ukunikeza umusa, ukudumisa, imfudumalo, nemizwa eyakhayo, kodwa abantu abaningi abakhulumi nabo ngaleyo ndlela. Zibophezele ekunikezeni lowo musa nobubele kuwe."

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