Kwesinye isikhathi Ukuzinakekela Kunobugovu - futhi Kulungile

-Delile

• Ukuchaza kabusha lokho empeleni okushiwo ukuba nobugovu
• Ngakho-ke, phinda emva kwami: Ngeke ngizishaye ngenxa yokuba 'nobugovu'
• 1. Udinga usizo
• 2. Udinga ukuphumula
• 3. Udinga nje isikhathi sodwa
• 4. Isikhathi sokuqeda ubuhlobo, umsebenzi, noma isimo sokuphila
• 5. Ukunikela kusindwe kakhulu ngokuthatha
• 6. Ukugwema ukutubeka, ngemuva komsebenzi noma empilweni yakho yangasese
• Zinakekele

Ukuzinakekela: Sikuzwa ngaso sonke isikhathi manje - noma, ngokunembe kakhudlwana, sikubone ku-Instagram njengemikhiqizo yokunakekelwa kwesikhumba, amabhomu okugeza aphefumulayo, ama-yoga poses, izitsha ze-açai, nokuningi. Kepha ukuzinakekela kungaphezu kwalokho okuthengiswayo kokuphakelayo kwethu kwezokuxhumana.

Ukuzinakekela kwaqala njengendlela yokuzinakekela ngokomzimba. Ngemuva kwalokho yavela yaba ukunakekela inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo, futhi ikakhulukazi ukwelashwa okuphelele kwabesifazane, abantu bebala, kanye nemiphakathi ebandlululwa kakhulu.

Manje kungani sisazizwa sengathi ukuzinakekela kuwubugovu?

Mhlawumbe usanda kumisa isidlo sakusihlwa, wenqaba isimemo lapho i-ex yakho izoba khona, noma ngisho nokuthi nje cha kunoma yini. Lokhu kungakushiya uzizwa uzenyeza kancane noma unecala.

Akunandaba ukuthi ungumuntu ngokomzwelo futhi ukhathele ngokomzimba, noma ukuthi impilo yakho yengqondo iyahlupheka. Ungahle ungalali embhedeni, ucabange ukuthi ngabe ngabe wenze kanjani okwehlukile noma obukade ukwenzile kangcono ngenye indlela. Ukuthi cha kuzwakala njengokuhluleka, sengathi awukwazi ukusebenza kahle noma awukufanelekeli ukuphatha impilo yansuku zonke.

Kepha uma ukuhlala kukusiza ukubeka phambili wena namandla akho nokwelashwa kwakho, ngabe uzicabangela wena wedwa?

Ukuchaza kabusha lokho empeleni okushiwo ukuba nobugovu

Lapho igama elithi “ubugovu” lifika engqondweni, ngokuvamile livusa izincazelo ezingezinhle ekuqaleni. Sicabanga ukuzicabangela wena wedwa, ukuzicabangela wena wedwa, ukuzibandakanya. Futhi kufanele sigweme ukucabanga kuphela "mina nezinto engizithandayo," akunjalo? Ukuzama ukuzama ukuphilela sonke isintu okuhle, ngoba ukupha kufundiswa njengokuncamela ukuthatha?

Noma kuchazwa njengokukhathalela ubumnandi bakho kuphela nenzuzo, kanye nokuntula ukucabangela abanye, sisacabanga ngobugovu njengezikhathi lapho sizibeka nje kuqala.

Kodwa asikwazi ukukubona kokumnyama nokumhlophe. Isibonelo, sitshelwa ukuthi sidinga ukulungisa imaskhi yethu ye-oxygen kuqala ngaphambi kokusiza abanye esimweni esiphuthumayo sendiza. Noma ukuqinisekisa ukuthi indawo yesehlakalo iphephile kwakho ngaphambi kokusiza noma ngubani olimele. Akekho ongasibiza ngobugovu ngokulandela leyo miyalo.

Njengazo zonke izinto, kukhona i-spectrum. Kwesinye isikhathi into elungile ukuthi ube “nobugovu.” Futhi ngenxa yokuthi othile uchaza into oyenzile njengokuzicabangela wena (njengokukhetha ukuphuma eqenjini lakhe), akusho ukuthi kufanele uyichaze ngokwemibandela yabo.

Ngakho-ke, phinda emva kwami: Ngeke ngizishaye ngenxa yokuba 'nobugovu'

Kwesinye isikhathi ukuba "nobugovu" akuyona into embi. Kunezikhathi lapho ukuba nobugovu kuyinto elungile ongayenzela impilo yakho nenhlalakahle. Lezi futhi yizikhathi lapho ukuzinakekela kuyadingeka.

Nazi ezinye zalezo zikhathi:

1. Udinga usizo

Wonke umuntu uyaludinga usizo ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa sivame ukukugwema ukulufuna. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyaluvuma noma cha, kwesinye isikhathi ukucela usizo kungakwenza uzizwe ungafaneleki, ubuthakathaka, noma uswele - noma ngabe ungaluceli usizo kusho ukwengeza ukucindezeleka okungadingekile.

Kepha ukucela usizo lapho uludinga kubalulekile. Uma ingcindezi yephrojekthi yomsebenzi ifika kuwe, cela umuntu osebenza naye akusize noma unikeze imisebenzi. Uma udinga ubungani, cela ukusekelwa umngane. Uma udinga izwi elingachemile ngaphandle, funa ukwelashwa.

2. Udinga ukuphumula

Lapho uzizwa ukhathele - akunandaba ukuthi kungokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, noma ngokomzimba - yisikhathi sokuphumula. Kwesinye isikhathi, lokho kwehla nje ukulala.

Kunemiphumela eminingi yokungalali ngokwanele, kufaka phakathi inkinga yokugxila, amasosha omzimba abuthakathaka nezinkinga zememori. Ukweqa ukulala ngokweqile kungaba nomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni bakho. Kepha sivame ukuzizwa sengathi kufanele siqhubeke. Kwesinye isikhathi ubuthongo abukho phezulu kwezinto eziza kuqala kithi.

Kepha iqiniso ukuthi siyakudinga ukuphumula. Uma ubusebenze isikhathi sekwephuzile futhi weqa ukulala, sekuyisikhathi sokuthola ibhalansi yempilo yomsebenzi. Futhi ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho ukhetha ukuya ekhaya uyolala esikhundleni sokubamba iziphuzo nabangani, kulungile. Uma lokho kubizwa ngobugovu, yilolo hlobo ofuna ukuba yilo.

Ukuphumula akusho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukulala, noma. Noma ngabe ubuchopho bakho buzizwa bungalingani noma unesimo sempilo buqhuma, buthathe njengosuku lokugula uthathe ikhefu. Futhi ungazizwa ubophekile ukuwasha izingubo njengoba usekhaya. Funda incwadi embhedeni, binge-bukela umbukiso, noma ulale kancane.

Uma uzizwa ukhathele, ukhathele, noma usezinhlungwini, yisikhathi sokuphumula ngokwengeziwe futhi ungazizwa unecala ngakho. Ukuphumula kubalulekile kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokululama.

3. Udinga nje isikhathi sodwa

Abanye abantu bangahle bangayitholi uma ukhetha ukuhlala ekhaya kunokuphuma. Uma yilokho osesimweni sokwenza, ungazizwa ubugovu ngokufuna ukuba wedwa.

Sonke sidinga isikhathi sodwa kwesinye isikhathi, futhi abanye abantu badinga okungaphezulu kwabanye. Ukuxhumana nomphakathi kungakhathaza abanye abantu. Akunamahloni ngokuthatha isikhathi sakho.

Uma ubukade ungami, isimo sakho semizwa asisekho esimweni esifanele, noma udinga ukuhlola kabusha ubudlelwano bakho, manje kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokuhlela isikhathi sodwa.

Awudingi ukugcwalisa ikhalenda lakho ngemicimbi yomphakathi ngaphandle kwalapho ufuna. Qalisa ukugeza, ukhiphe ipulagi, bese unaleso "sikhathi kimi" obukade ukuhalela.

4. Isikhathi sokuqeda ubuhlobo, umsebenzi, noma isimo sokuphila

Akulula neze ukwehlukana nomunye obalulekile, ukuthuthela edolobheni elisha, noma ukuyeka umsebenzi. Uma uzizwa kabi lapho uxhumana nothile noma wesaba ukuhlangana nabo futhi, sekuyisikhathi sokucabangisisa ngobudlelwano bakho.

Sivame ukuhlala ebunganeni noma ebudlelwaneni ngoba sesaba ukulimaza umuntu. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano obulimazayo, kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukuzibeka wena kuqala.

Akuzondli ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano - noma umsebenzi noma yini, ikakhulukazi leyo ehlukumeza nganoma iyiphi indlela - engasakuthokozisi. Uma kukhona okuthinta inhlalakahle yakho, kungaba yisikhathi sokuvalelisa.

5. Ukunikela kusindwe kakhulu ngokuthatha

Yize kungaguquguquka, noma ibuphi ubuhlobo kufanele bube nokulingana okuhle kokuphana nokuthathwa. Kepha lapho izikali zithinta ukuze konke okwenzayo kunikeze futhi konke abakwenzayo kuthatha, kungahle kube yisikhathi sokwenza okuthile.

Ibhalansi yokupha nokuthatha ibaluleke kakhulu lapho uhlala nomuntu. Ingabe uzithola wenza yonke imisebenzi nemisebenzi yasekhaya lapho ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini ngenkathi befika ekhaya futhi bephakamisa izinyawo zabo? Kubalulekile ukuba nokulinganisela ukugwema kokubili ukucasuka nokukhathala.

Ngokuya ngesimo, ungakhetha ukukhuluma nabo, uthathe ikhefu elifushane ukuze uvuselele, noma usike ngokuphelele. Akubona ubugovu ukubeka phambili izidingo zakho ngaphezu kwabanye uma isenzo sokunikela sikulimaza kakhulu.

6. Ukugwema ukutubeka, ngemuva komsebenzi noma empilweni yakho yangasese

Wonke umuntu usengcupheni yokutubeka noma ukukhathala emsebenzini. Imisebenzi ethile ingakhipha ngokukhethekile. Lapho ukutubeka kwenzeka, kungalimaza impilo yakho yobungcweti neyakho uqobo.

Olunye ucwaningo luye lwaveza nokuthi kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo, kungabaluleka "ngokokuziphatha" ukuzinakekela.

Ngakho-ke lapho kufika isikhathi sokuphuma, phuma ngempela. Vala izaziso zakho zomsebenzi, snuza i-imeyili yakho, bese ubhekana nayo kusasa. Isikhathi esiningi, noma yini engaphathwa njengakusasa kusasa kunaphakathi nesikhathi sokudla kwakusihlwa.

Akunandaba ukuthi wenzani, qiniseka ukuthi unesikhathi sokuzihlukanisa nomsebenzi. Ukwenza ibhalansi yempilo yokuphila kungakusiza ugweme ukutubeka futhi ulethe injabulo ethe xaxa empilweni yakho yangasese.

Zinakekele

Ungazinaki wena nempilo yakho ukugwema ukuzizwa unobugovu. Ubugovu akudingeki bube yinto embi. Kungaba kuhle ukuba nobugovu obuthile ukuze unakekele inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo, engokwengqondo nengokomzimba.

Abantu abaningi abagxila ngokuphelele ekunikezeni, ekunikezeni, ekunikezeni bagcina bekhungathekile, bekhathele, futhi becindezelekile. Futhi ukucindezeleka okungapheli kube sezingcupheni eziningi zezempilo, kufaka phakathi izimo ezinjengesifo sikashukela, umdlavuza nezifo zengqondo.

Unganciphisa ukucindezela kwakho ngokuba nobugovu ngezikhathi ezithile futhi uzijwayeze ukuzinakekela okuhle.

• Zama ezinye izindlela zokuphumula ze-yoga.
• Zijwayeze ukucabanga.
• Phumela ngaphandle.
• Geza.
• Yenza itiye elipholile.
• Lala kangcono.
• Zijwayeze umdlalo wokuzilibazisa, njengokulima, ukwakha, noma ukubhaka.

Noma yini oyenzayo, khumbula ukuzinakekela. Futhi ungakhohlwa, akukaze kube nobugovu ukwenza njalo.

UJamie Elmer ungumhleli wamakhophi oqhamuka eSouthern California. Unothando lwamagama nokuqwashisa ngempilo yengqondo futhi uhlala efuna izindlela zokuhlanganisa lezi ezimbili. Ungumuntu othanda kakhulu ama-P amathathu: imidlwane, imiqamelo namazambane. Mthole ku-Instagram.