Kungani Ukumosha Isikhathi Ngezinto Ezingenamsebenzi Kubalulekile Empilweni Yakho

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Ukucabangela kuba nesikhashana, futhi nohlu lwezinzuzo olufundeka njengeGrail Engcwele yezempilo (yehlisa ukukhathazeka, ubuhlungu obungapheli, ukucindezeleka!), akunzima ukubona ukuthi kungani. Kodwa ngokugxila kakhulu, kahle, ukuhlala ugxile, ukujabulela isikhathi esincane sokuphumula esingenangqondo-ukupheqa nge-Instagram, ukulahleka kulayini wakho we-Netflix, ukuvula izikhala zamavidiyo wekati aku-inthanethi-uzizwa njengemfihlo encane engcolile. Ngoba lolo hlobo lwezinto? Ngokuyisisekelo konakalisa impilo yakho, okungenani ngokusho kwesihloko ngasinye sokuchofoza-baity.

Kepha nakhu okumele ucabange ngakho: Ingabe ukuklanywa ngaphandle kunezinzuzo, futhi?

Ongoti bathi yebo, futhi bazibize ngalezo zikhathi lapho uchitha isikhala ngokungazi ingqondo izulazula. "Kunokubaluleka kokuyekisa ingqondo yakho isikhathi eside ... ungazivumeli ukuba ube nalezo zikhathi lapho ukhululeka khona futhi uvumele ubuchopho ukuthi bukhethe ukushiya lapha namanje," kusho uJonathan Schooler, Ph.D., uprofesa wezesayensi yezengqondo nobuchopho eNyuvesi yaseCalifornia, eSanta Barbara. Hawu! Manje usungakwazi ngokungenamahloni ukuthi ubulokhu ufuna i-emoji ephelele ongayithumela kumngani wakho imizuzu emihlanu edlule, hhayi ngifuna ukuzindla nge-Headspace.

Ngakho-ke kungani izikhala zinenzuzo enkulu kangaka?

Kukunika ukuvuselelwa.

"Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi ukukhuthazwa kwengqondo kungumthombo ongenamkhawulo," kusho uSchooler. "Kodwa kukhona ucwaningo olubonisa ukuthi unomsebenzi, futhi kunokuba uwenze ngokuqhubekayo, uthatha ikhefu, empeleni ufunda okwengeziwe. Ngakho-ke ngikholelwa ukuthi kunenzuzo ukuvumela ingqondo idlale futhi izulazule, ngisho noma kungeyesihlanu nje. imizuzu. Uzobuya nombono omusha."

Kepha hlala nathi umzuzwana. Ukunikeza ubuchopho bakho ithuba lokuphefumula akusho ukuchitha yonke impelasonto uzitike ubukele Omama Bemizi Bangempela noma ngokuzibheka ubheka inkundla yezokuxhumana njalo ngomzuzwana. "Ngisho nekhefu lemizuzu emihlanu liwusizo," kusho u-Scholler. Kahle kahle, ungavumela ubuchopho bakho bungenzi lutho ngenkathi uhamba ngemvelo noma ulalele umculo ophumuzayo, kodwa noma yimuphi umsebenzi omuhle wokungagodli ulungile, uyanezela.

Ikhuthaza ubuhlakani.

Ukugaya kwansuku zonke akukuniki ithuba lokugxila ezinkingeni, noma ithuba lokubuyela emuva uthole umbono, kusho uSchooler. Ukuphila kungase kuphindaphindeke. Cabanga ngalokhu: Uma umphathi wakho ekucela ukuthi uqhamuke nesixazululo senkinga, cishe uzohamba nanoma iyiphi impendulo efika engqondweni yakho. Kepha isikhathi esincane sokubanda sinika ubuchopho bakho ithuba lokusebenzisa izifunda ezahlukahlukene, futhi kungahle kuthathe imibono nemicabango emisha.

Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uphuphe uphuphe phakathi nomhlangano wokuthengisa-lokho isikhathi sokuzijwayeza ukucabanga kancane.

Kubeka izinhloso zakho.

Ucwaningo olulodwa olushicilelwe ku- Imingcele kuPsychology ithole ukuthi lapho ingqondo yakho "ingekho" futhi unikeza ubuchopho bakho ikhefu, ngokwemvelo iqala ukucabanga ngekusasa. Lapha ubucabanga ukuthi uchitha isikhathi, kepha noma usesimweni sakho esinamehlo we-zombie, ubuchopho bakho bebuthatha uhlelo lwakho lweminyaka emihlanu.

Kwehlisa isithukuthezi.

Ukuze ube wangempela, ezinye izimo azimnandi neze futhi ziyajabulisa kakhulu uma usezweni lakho. "Ukuzulazula kwengqondo kungaba kuhle ngesikhathi sohambo lwakho lokuya emsebenzini, lapho ulindile kulayini noma uhlanza indlu yangasese," kusho u-Ellen Hendrikson, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eCambridge, MA. "Ukuvumela ingqondo yakho ukuthi ingahlali ihileleke ngaso sonke isikhathi empeleni kuyisipho. Ubuchopho bunekhono lokubheka phambili noma ukubuya ngesikhathi, okusivumela ukuba sikhumbule, sihlele, futhi sibheke phambili ngokulangazela okujabulisayo."

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