Imizabalazo yami efihliwe eyisithupha yokudangala

-Delile

• 1. Ukungafuni ukuphuma endlini
• 2. Ukuzizwa unecala ngaso sonke isikhathi
• 3. Ukungazihluphi ngokugcina inhlanzeko enhle
• 4. Ukuphoqeleka ukulala nsuku zonke
• 5. Ukuqiniseka ukuthi wonke umuntu uyakuzonda
• 6. Hhayi ukuhlanza ikhaya lakho izinyanga ngesikhathi
• Yini abantu abanokucindezeleka abanethemba lokuthi ungakuqonda

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Ngiyaqonda ukuthi le mizwa kanye nemisebenzi elandelayo kungenzeka ingenangqondo kuwo wonke umuntu, kepha kubantu abanengcindezi, bayizinkinga ezifihliwe.

Sonke sinemikhuba esivame ukuyenza usuku nosuku, futhi eminye yale misebenzi inengqondo kakhulu kuneminye. Nayi imikhuba eyisithupha engiyenzayo lapho ngicindezelekile.

1. Ukungafuni ukuphuma endlini

Abanye abantu abanokucindezeleka bangakwazi ukuphuma endlini amasonto noma ngaphezulu. Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu, kuya ngokuthi ubuza kubani. Kwabanye, kuwukuzizonda. Kwabanye, ukukhathala okuchobozayo. Ukudangala kunamandla okwenza hhayi intando yakho kuphela, kepha futhi namandla akho okuphuma endlini.

Amandla adingekayo okuthenga ezitolo awatholakali. Ukwesaba ukuthi wonke umuntu ohlangana naye uzokuzonda kungokoqobo. Le loop yokucabanga yokungaqiniseki idala indawo lapho cishe kungenzeki ukuphuma ngomnyango wangaphambili.

2. Ukuzizwa unecala ngaso sonke isikhathi

Icala umuzwa ojwayelekile ngokuphelele. Uma wenza into ozisolayo ngayo, icala lizolandela. Into ecindezelekile nokho, ukuthi ingadala imizwa yecala lutho noma ngaphezulu konke.

Ukuzizwa nginecala empeleni kuyisibonakaliso sokucindezeleka futhi yisizathu sokuthi lapho ngizwa ukudangala, ngizizwe sengathi ngithatha izifo zomhlaba. Isibonelo, abantu abanokucindezeleka bangazizwa benecala ngokungakwazi ukusiza abantu abayizisulu zenhlekelele yemvelo futhi lokhu, nakho, kubenza bazizwe bengelutho.

Vele, ukuzizwa unecala ngezinto ezisondelene nekhaya, njengokuzizwa unecala elikhulu ngokungavumelani, kuvame kakhulu.

3. Ukungazihluphi ngokugcina inhlanzeko enhle

Inhlanzeko enhle kufanele inikezwe. Geza nsuku zonke noma usondele kuyo. Xubha amazinyo, wenze izinwele zakho, futhi unakekele umzimba wakho. Kepha lapho kufika ukudangala, labo abathintekile bangayeka ukushawa - amasonto ngisho, uma isiqephu sihlala isikhathi eside kangako. Kuzwakala "kukhulu" kepha yilokho ukucindezeleka okwenzayo. Kungenza umuntu agule kakhulu ukuba angageza.

Kwesinye isikhathi amanzi agadla kabuhlungu emzimbeni. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuthola nqunu kubuhlungu. Umqondo weshawa ungaletha imizwa yokungabi yilutho. Ungahle ungazizwa sengathi ukufanele ukuhlanzeka. Okufanayo kuya kweminye imisebenzi efana nokuxubha amazinyo noma ukugeza ubuso bakho.

Ukudana komoya kungamane kuguqule izenzo zokuzinakekela zibe yimisebenzi yokudonsa esivele singenawo amandla okuyenza.

4. Ukuphoqeleka ukulala nsuku zonke

Abantu badinga ukulala amahora ayisishiyagalombili ubusuku bonke, akunjalo? Yebo, lokho kungaba yiqiniso kwabaningi, kepha abantu abanokudangala okukhulu bangakuthola kunzima ukungalali usuku lonke.

Imvamisa lapho abantu abanokudangala bevuka, abazizwa bephumule nakancane. Abazizwa sengathi balele. Azinawo amandla futhi zisazelele. Lokhu kuholela ekulaleni ngemuva kokulala kancane, kungabikho mali yokulala ebonakala sengathi ikhiqiza umuzwa wokuphumula.

5. Ukuqiniseka ukuthi wonke umuntu uyakuzonda

Empilweni, abanye abantu bazokuthanda kanti abanye abantu ngeke bakuthande. Lokhu kujwayelekile, akunjalo? Ngomqondo ophilile, iningi labantu lizokwamukela okuhle ngezimo ezingezinhle. Kepha ukudangala kufana noDeveli osehlombe lakho, ukuhleba kuze kube yilapho abantu bezizonda futhi beqiniseka ukuthi wonke umuntu naye uyabazonda.

Ukudangala kuveza konke okuncane, okubonakalayo, okuncane okungenzeka futhi kusebenzisa lokhu “njengobufakazi” bokuthi wonke umuntu uyakuzonda. Lo mbono wenzondo uvame ukwenza abantu abacindezelekile bazizwe becindezeleke kakhulu.

6. Hhayi ukuhlanza ikhaya lakho izinyanga ngesikhathi

Njengomsebenzi owesabekayo wokugeza - ukusula, ukusula izintuli nokuhlanza kungabonakala kungafaneleki. Ukunganaki kuwumuzwa ovamile nokucindezeleka. Abanye abantu abacindezelekile bangaze bazizwe bengafaneleki nokuba yindawo yokuhlala ehlanzekile.

Ukunganaki kungazwisa izinzwa zethu futhi kususe iphunga elibolile, ngoba sicabanga ukuthi singabodoti. Noma sicabanga ukuthi singakwenza kamuva, ngoba sibona ukuthi isiqephu sokucindezeleka singadlula. Ukucindezeleka kuthatha amandla ethu amaningi - ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba - ukuthi kufanele sikhethe ukuthi sikusebenzisa kanjani futhi kwesinye isikhathi okushiya ukuhlanza ezansi kohlu olubalulekile.

Yini abantu abanokucindezeleka abanethemba lokuthi ungakuqonda

Akukona okukhulu kunakho konke ukuthi lezi zinto zifane - ukuze lezi kube yizinto abantu abanesifo sokudangala abazibophezela kuzo futhi bazizwele ngazo. Kepha ngethemba lokuthi lokhu kusiza abanye abangazi ukuthi kunjani ukuqonda ukuthi kungani singawa kwi-radar noma sibonise ukunganaki kancane kwesinye isikhathi. Silwa nale mizwa nsuku zonke.

Kwesinye isikhathi, into elula njengokukhokha izikweletu ingathathwa njengokuwina.

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