Ukuvuma Ukuthi Uzofa Kungaba Into Ekhulula Kakhulu Oyenzayo

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• Cishe abantu abangama-50 bathamela lo mcimbi othengisiwe njalo eSan Francisco njalo ngenyanga. Futhi namuhla bekuwusuku lwami lokuhambela lo mcimbi.
• Ngemuva kwalokho uNed umsunguli weza esiteji
• Iqale kanjani i-YG2D?
• Leli gama lavela kanjani?
• Izinto ziqale ukuba zimbi kakhulu lapho…
• Isebenza kanjani i-YG2D?
• Bathini abantu uma ubatshela ngomcimbi?
• Ingabe kukhona ukuhlakanipha ngokugwema ingxoxo yokufa?
• Ungakuvumelanisa kanjani lokhu kungavumelani: Uma kukhulunywa ngathi nabangane abaseduze, siyakwesaba ukufa, kepha singaya ukuyodlala umdlalo noma sibuke ibhayisikobho lapho kufa khona uquqaba lwabantu?
• Umuntu angaqala kanjani ukushintsha ubudlelwano babo bube sekufeni?
• Uma sikhuluma ngokuthile okuningi, kuzokwenzeka kithina, abanye abantu bathi
• Noma yiziphi izinhlelo zokwandisa kwamanye amadolobha?

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Cishe abantu abangama-50 bathamela lo mcimbi othengisiwe njalo eSan Francisco njalo ngenyanga. Futhi namuhla bekuwusuku lwami lokuhambela lo mcimbi.

"Ini yenza ugqoka umcimbi wokufa? ” Ngazibuza lapho ngilungiselela ukuya emcimbini owathengiswa njalo waseSan Francisco obizwa nge-You're Going to Die, akaYG2D.

Lapho ngiqala ukuzwa ngalo mcimbi, ngezwa ukukhanga kwesihlobo nokwethuka okungazelelwe. Ekugcineni ilukuluku lami lanqoba futhi, ngokushesha nje lapho i-imeyili ememezela umcimbi olandelayo ingena ebhokisini lami lokungenayo, ngathenga ithikithi.

Ngangigqoke okumnyama futhi ngahlala ngaphambili, ukuphela kwesihlalo esasisele.

Ngemuva kwalokho uNed umsunguli weza esiteji

Indoda enkulu eyingane ukuthi ngithanda ukuyichaza kanjani. Umuntu onenhliziyo ephelele. Ukhale, wahleka, wagqugquzeleka, futhi wasibeka phansi kungakapheli mizuzu.

Ngizithole sengimemeza nezethameli, "Ngizokufa!" Ukwesaba igama elithi "die" kushiye igumbi, kubhekwe njengokuhamba kwabo bonke amahora amathathu alandelayo.

Owesifazane wezethameli wabelane ngesifiso sakhe sokufa ngokuzibulala nokuthi wayevakashela kanjani iGolden Gate Bridge njalo. Omunye wabelane ngenqubo yokulahlekelwa nguyise ogulayo ngokusebenzisa okuthunyelwe kuFacebook abekuqoqile. Omunye wabelana ngengoma ekhuluma ngodadewabo, ayengakaze ezwe ngaye eminyakeni edlule.

Yize bengingahlelelanga ukuhlanganyela, ngizwe ngigqugquzeleka ukuthi nami ngiye esiteji ngikhulume ngokulahleka. Ngifunde inkondlo mayelana nezimpi zami ngokuphelelwa yithemba. Ekupheleni kobusuku, ukwesaba okuzungeze ukufa nokufa kwashiya igumbi nesifuba sami.

Ngavuka ngakusasa ekuseni ngizwa isisindo emahlombe ami. Ingabe kwakulula kanjalo? Ingabe ukukhuluma ngokufa kuyiveze obala kakhulu ithikithi lethu lokusikhulula kulokho esikwesaba kakhulu?

Ngafinyelela kuNed ngokushesha ngosuku olulandelayo. Ngangifuna ukwazi okwengeziwe.

Kepha okubaluleke kakhulu, ngifuna ukuthi umyalezo wakhe ufinyelele kubantu abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Isibindi nokuba sengozini kwakhe kuyathathelana. Sonke singasebenzisa okunye - nengxoxo noma ezimbili ngokufa.

Le ngxoxo ihlelwe ngobufushane, ngobude, nangokucaca.

Iqale kanjani i-YG2D?

Ngacelwa yi-SFSU [San Francisco State University] Graduate Literature Association ukuthi ngenze umcimbi oxhumanise abafundi nomphakathi ngobuhlakani. NgoMeyi ka-2009, ngihola imakrofoni yokuqala evulekile. Futhi lokho kwaba ukuqala kombukiso.

Kepha i-YG2D empeleni izalwa yindaba ende, eyinkimbinkimbi empilweni yami. Kwaqala ngomama wami kanye nempi yakhe yangasese nomdlavuza. Watholakala enomdlavuza webele lapho ngineminyaka engu-13 futhi walwa nomdlavuza kaningi iminyaka engu-13 ngemuva kwalokho. Ngalokhu kugula nokufa okungenzeka kwaba khona emndenini wethu, ngafika ngaphambi kwesikhathi ekufeni.

Kodwa, ngenxa yobumfihlo bukamama ngokugula kwakhe, ukufa futhi kwakungeyona ingxoxo enziwe yangatholakala kimi.

Ngaleso sikhathi, ngaya kokululekwa okuningi ngosizi futhi ngangiseqenjini lokweseka unyaka wonke labantu abashonelwe umzali.

Leli gama lavela kanjani?

Umngani wami obesiza ngemicimbi ubuze ukuthi kungani ngiyenza. Ngikhumbula ngiphendula nje, “Ngoba… uzokufa.”

Kungani ugcine amagama akho noma umculo kwenye indawo ufihliwe, ngoba konke kuzophela ekugcineni? Ungazithatheli phezulu. Yiba lapha futhi unikele kakhulu ngangokunokwenzeka ngenkathi ungakwazi. Uzofa.

Izinto ziqale ukuba zimbi kakhulu lapho…

Umbukiso ikakhulu uthathe isimo sawo ngenkathi usuthuthela eViracocha, indawo enjengebhokisi elingezansi endaweni engaphansi komhlaba okhanyayo weSan Francisco. Kulapho kushona khona umama womkami, futhi kwaba yinto engenakuphikwa kimi ukuthi yini ebengiyidinga kulo mdlalo:

Indawo yokuba sengozini futhi njalo wabelana ngalezo zinto eziseduze nenhliziyo yami, lezo zinto ezingichazayo, noma ngabe ukulahlekelwa okubuhlungu kukamama nomamezala wami, noma umzabalazo wansuku zonke wokuthola ugqozi nencazelo ngokuvula ekufeni kwami. Futhi kuvela ukuthi abantu abaningi bayakudinga lokho - ngakho-ke sithola umphakathi ngokukwenza ndawonye.

Isebenza kanjani i-YG2D?

Uzofa: Izinkondlo, i-Prose & Everything Goes kwenzeka ngoLwesine wokuqala nolwesithathu njalo ngenyanga e-The Lost Church eSan Francisco.

Sinikeza indawo ephephile yokungena engxoxweni yokufa, ingxoxo okungenzeka kaningi asinayo ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke. Kuyisikhala lapho abantu bevuleleka khona, babe sengozini, futhi babe nobuhlungu benhliziyo bomunye nomunye.

Njalo kusihlwa kuhlanganiswa nguScott Ferreter noma u-Chelsea Coleman, abaculi ababambe isikhala nami. Ababekhona bavumelekile ukuthi babhalise khona lapho ukuze babelane kuze kube yimizuzu emihlanu.

Kungaba yingoma, umdanso, inkondlo, indaba, umdlalo, noma yini abayifunayo, empeleni. Uma weqa umkhawulo wemizuzu emihlanu, ngizongena esiteji bese ngikgona.

Bathini abantu uma ubatshela ngomcimbi?

Ilukuluku elibi, mhlawumbe? Ukuthakazelisa? Kwesinye isikhathi abantu bayamangala. Futhi empeleni, kwesinye isikhathi ngicabanga ukuthi leso yisilinganiso esihle kakhulu sokubaluleka kwe-You Going to Die - lapho abantu bengakhululeki! Kungithathe isikhashana ukuxhumana ngokuzethemba ukuthi umcimbi umayelana nani kalula.

Ukufa kuyindida, njengombuzo ongenazimpendulo, futhi ukwamukela lokho kuyinto engcwele. Ukukuhlanganyela ndawonye kwenza kube ngumlingo.

Lapho wonke umuntu ethi "ngizokufa" ndawonye, ​​njengomphakathi, babuyisela iveli ndawonye.

Ingabe kukhona ukuhlakanipha ngokugwema ingxoxo yokufa?

Ukufa kwesinye isikhathi kungazizwa kungabonakali. Futhi uma kungachazeki kuyabambeka. Ithuba lokuthi liguquke futhi liguquke futhi libe likhulu ngakho-ke lilinganiselwe. Uma kukhona ukuhlakanipha kokungakhulumi ngokufa, mhlawumbe kungumzwelo wemvelo wethu ukuyiphatha ngokucophelela, ukuyigcina iseduze nezinhliziyo zethu, ngokucabangisisa, futhi ngenhloso enkulu.

Ungakuvumelanisa kanjani lokhu kungavumelani: Uma kukhulunywa ngathi nabangane abaseduze, siyakwesaba ukufa, kepha singaya ukuyodlala umdlalo noma sibuke ibhayisikobho lapho kufa khona uquqaba lwabantu?

Lapho ukufa kungesona isipiliyoni sansuku zonke salapho uhlala khona (njengasezweni elisempini), khona-ke kuvame ukugcinwa kungasasebenzi. Kususwe ngefosholo ngokushesha.

Kunohlelo olubekiwe lokunakekela izinto ngokushesha.

Ngikhumbula ngisegumbini lesibhedlela nomama.Babengeke bangivumele ukuba ngibe nomzimba wakhe isikhathi esingaphezu kwemizuzu engama-30, mhlawumbe okuncane kakhulu, bese ekhaya labangcwabi imizuzu emihlanu kuphela, mhlawumbe.

Manje ngizizwa ngibona njengamanje ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthi sibe nesikhathi nendawo yokudabuka ngokugcwele.

Umuntu angaqala kanjani ukushintsha ubudlelwano babo bube sekufeni?

Ngicabanga ukuthi ngifunda incwadi ethi “Who Dies?” Isiqalo esihle. Idokhumentari ye- "The Griefwalker" nayo ingabhekana nayo futhi ivuleke. Ezinye izindlela:

1. Yenza isikhala sokukhuluma nabanye noma sokulalela abanye ngenkathi besosizini. Angicabangi ukuthi kukhona okuguqula izinto empilweni kunokulalela nokuvuleleka. Uma umuntu osondelene nawe elahlekelwe othile, vele uye lapho ube khona.

2. Kwenze kucace ukuthi ukhalelani. Kungenzeka kube emuva kakhulu, emuva ebusheni bakho, okhokho bakho, nokuthi badlula kuphi futhi abaze bachitheka ngokwanele.

3. Dala isikhala nokuvuleka kulokho kulahlekelwa nalolo sizi. U-Angela Hennessy wabelane nge-manifesto yakhe yosizi embukisweni wethu ngesikhathi se-OpenIDEO's Re: Imagine End-of-Life ngesonto.

Uthi, “Usizi nsuku zonke. Zinike isikhathi nsuku zonke sokudabuka. Yenza ukudabuka ngezenzo zansuku zonke. Ngesikhathi wenza noma yini oyenzayo, yisho ukuthi ukhala ngani bese ucacisa. ”

4. Khumbula ukuthi imvamisa akuyona into yansuku zonke obhekene nayo ebusweni, njengezinkinga ngomsebenzi wakho, isibonelo. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​okuningi okhiqize ubuhle obukhulu kuzalwe ngomsebenzi wokuhlukumezeka nokuhlupheka. Yinto endala ngaphakathi kuwe, ngaphansi kwazo zonke lezo zinto zansuku zonke, ofuna ukufika kuyo. Yilokho okuqhamukayo uma kuvezwa ukufa kwakho.

Ukufa kunikeza lowo mkhuba, lokho kusula. Uma uhlala kulelo qiniso, kuguqula indlela ohlobana ngayo nempilo. Ukufa kukhipha zonke izingqimba futhi kukuvumela ukuthi ubone izinto ngokucacile.

Uma sikhuluma ngokuthile okuningi, kuzokwenzeka kithina, abanye abantu bathi

Njengokuthi, uma ngithi, "ngizokufa," ngabe empeleni ngidale ukufa kwami ​​ngosuku olulandelayo? Yebo, ngiyakholelwa ukuthi udala ubuqiniso bakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. […] Ukushintsha kombono.

Noma yiziphi izinhlelo zokwandisa kwamanye amadolobha?

Impela. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukukhulisa umphakathi oku-inthanethi nge-podcast kulo nyaka kuzokwenza uhambo lube lula kakhulu. Lesi ngesinye sezinyathelo ezilandelayo. Lokho kuzoqala ngemibukiso ejwayelekile ekhethiwe. Futhi emisebenzini.

Uma use-Bay Area, yiya embukisweni olandelayo we-BIG YG2D e-Great American Music Hall ngo-Agasti 11. Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngomcimbi noma vakashela ku-www.yg2d.com.

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