Ubuchopho Bakho Bukhona: Ukiss Wokuqala

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Iqiniso elijabulisayo: Abantu ukuphela kwezilwane ezinezindebe ezikhipha ngaphandle. Ungakuthatha lokho njengobufakazi bokuthi senzelwe ukuqabula. (Ezinye izinkawu nazo zenza kanjalo, kodwa hhayi uhlobo lwezikhathi zokuzenzela esizimba ama-Homosapiens.)

Manje kungani siqabulana? Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi ukushunqisa kancane kusiza ubuchopho bakho buqoqe zonke izinhlobo zolwazi olubalulekile mayelana nomfana (noma u-gal) ovale naye izindebe. Kubuye kuthuthukise izinzwa zakho futhi kulungiselele umzimba wakho leyonto enye-leyo kwesinye isikhathi elandela ukuqabula okunothando.

Qhubeka ufunde yonke imininingwane enamanzi (kodwa hhayi i-slobbery).

Ngaphambi kokuthi Izindebe Zakho Zimthinte

Ukulindela ukuqabulana, noma ngabe ugoqa usuku lokuqala oluhle noma ubheka umfana egumbini lonke, kungashisa izindlela zomvuzo wobuchopho bakho, kuchaza uSheril Kirshenbaum, umbhali we Isayensi Yokuqabula. "Lapho uzizwa ulindele lukhulu ekuqabuleni, kulapho i-dopamine spike iba nkulu," esho, ebhekise ehomonini lenjabulo elenziwa ubuchopho bakho lapho uzwa okuthile okujabulisayo. I-Dopamine inika amandla ubuchopho bakho kanye nezinzwa zakho, futhi ibalungiselele ukuthola ngokuphelele ulwazi olusha nemininingwane yezinzwa, kusho uKirshenbaum.

Ukulindela ukuqabula nakho kungadala ukukhishwa kwe-norepinephrine ku-noodle yakho, uyachaza. Le hormone yokucindezeleka ichaza uvalo oluba nalo njengoba amehlo akhe ethola awakho futhi eqala ukuncika.

Ngesikhathi seKiss

Izindebe zakho zihlanganisa enye yezindawo eziminyene kakhulu zomzimba wakho eziphethwe yizinzwa, okukuvumela ukuthi ubone ngisho nokuzwakala okuncane kakhulu kokuzwa, kusho uKirshenbaum. Futhi ngenxa yazo zonke lezo zinzwa, ukuqabula imililo ingxenye enkulu ngokumangazayo yobuchopho bakho, usho kanjalo. (Ukholwa noma ungakholwa, i-noodle yakho eminingi yenziwa isebenze ngesikhathi sokuqabulana kunangesikhathi socansi, ucwaningo oluthile luyaphakamisa.)

Kungani? U-Kirshenbaum uthi impendulo eyodwa ingase ihlobene nakho konke ukwahlulela ubuchopho bakho okwenzayo njengoba kulinganisa ukuthi kufanele uthathe izinto ngaphandle kokuqabula noma ungene ekamelweni. “Siyazi ngakho konke okwenzeka ngesikhathi sokuqabulana ngoba yingxenye ebalulekile yokuthatha izinqumo uma kukhethwa umaqondana,” kuchaza yena. "Abantu bachaza 'ukulahleka' kwezocansi. Kodwa-ke akunjalo ngokwanga ngoba ubuchopho bethu bugxile kakhulu ekutheni buqhubekisela phambili izinto noma cha."

UKirshenbaum uthi abesifazane bavame ukuba nezinzwa ezinamandla zokuhogela kunamadoda. Futhi njengoba uqabula, ikhala lakho lihogela uzakwenu ukuthola imininingwane ebalulekile esekwe ngephunga. Lolu lwazi kulethwa ngendlela yama-pheromones, amakhemikhali akhishwa umzimba wakhe atshela ubuchopho bakho zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezibalulekile ngaye, kuhlanganise nezinto eziphathelene nofuzo lwakhe.

Ucwaningo olulodwa oluvela eSwitzerland luthole ukuthi abesifazane bakhangwa kakhulu yiphunga lamadoda anezakhi zofuzo zokuzivikela ezifweni ezingafani nezazo. Mayelana nokuzala, ukuxuba izakhi zofuzo zokuzivikela ezihlukene kuzokwenza inzalo yakho imelane nezifo, kusho ababhali bocwaningo. (Kuyathakazelisa futhi kuhlobene: UKirshenbaum uthi ucwaningo olwengeziwe lukhombise okuphambene nalokho kubantu besifazane ekulawuleni ukubeletha. Uma usephilisi, maningi amathuba okuthi uye kumfana onezici zofuzo ezifana nezakho. Akakwazi isho ukuthi kungani lokhu kunjalo, kodwa yena nabanye abacwaningi basola ukuthi lokhu kungase kuchaze ukuthi kungani eminye imibhangqwana yesikhathi eside ihlukana lapho owesifazane eyeka ukulawula inzalo.)

Njengoba ubuchopho bakho benza kungcono kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuqabula kwakho ukuze unqume ukuthi ingabe umlingani wakho wethenisi we-tonsil ukulungele yini ngokwemibandela yokuzala, akuvamile ukuthi abesifazane bathole ukuguqulwa kwentshisekelo ngemva kokuvala izindebe.

Ngemuva Kokuqabula Kwakho

I-Dopamine iphinde ihlotshaniswe nokulutha kanye nokuziphatha okwakha umkhuba, kusho uKirshenbaum. Lokhu kungachaza ukuthi kungani, ezinsukwini nasemavikini ngemuva kwezikhathi zakho zokuqala (nezilandelayo), awubonakali sengathi ukhipha umlingani wakho omusha ekhanda lakho. I-Dopamine nayo ingasula ukudla kwakho futhi ikwenze kube nzima ukulala, imibukiso yocwaningo.

Ucwaningo luthole nokuthi ukuqabula kudala ukukhululwa kwe-neurotransmitter serotonin, edala imizwa yokukhathazeka. Enye i-hormone, i-oxytocin, nayo i-spikes ngesikhathi nangemva kokuqabula kwakho. Lokhu kukhuthaza umuzwa wothando nokusondelana, ngakho-ke kukugcina ubuyela kokunye ngisho nangemva kokuba izinga lokuqala seliphelile, kusho uKirshenbaum.

"Ukuqabula kungukuziphatha komuntu jikelele ngenxa yezizathu eziningi," esho, enezela ukuthi mhlawumbe kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kunqubo yokukhetha oshade naye. Ngakho pucker up!

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