Imicimbi ebuhlungu kanye nezingane

Ingane eyodwa kwezine ihlangabezana nesigameko esibuhlungu lapho ineminyaka engu-18 ubudala. Izehlakalo ezihlukumezayo zingasongela impilo futhi zinkulu kunalokho ingane yakho okufanele ibhekane nakho.

Funda okufanele ukubukele enganeni yakho nokuthi uyinakekela kanjani ingane yakho ngemuva kwesigameko esibuhlungu. Thola usizo lochwepheshe uma ingane yakho ingalulami.

Ingane yakho ingahlangabezana nesenzakalo esibuhlungu sesikhathi esisodwa noma ukuhlukumezeka okuphindaphindiwe okwenzeka kaninginingi.

Izibonelo zezehlakalo ezibuhlungu zesikhathi esisodwa yilezi:

• Izinhlekelele zemvelo, njengesiphepho, isiphepho, umlilo, noma isikhukhula
• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
• Ukushaya ngokomzimba
• UFakazi edubula noma egwaza umuntu
• Ukufa okungazelelwe komzali noma umnakekeli othembekile
• Ukulaliswa esibhedlela

Izibonelo zezehlakalo ezihlukumezayo ingane yakho ehlangabezana nazo kaninginingi yilezi:

• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo
• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
• Udlame lwamaqembu ezigelekeqe
• Impi
• Imicimbi yamaphekula

Ingane yakho ingahle ibe nokuthinteka kwemizwa futhi izwe:

• Uthukile.
• Ukhathazekile ngokuphepha.
• Kuyadinwa.
• Kuhoxisiwe.
• Kuyadabukisa.
• Ngesaba ukulala wedwa ebusuku.
• Intukuthelo.
• Ihlukanisiwe, okuyindlela eyedlulele futhi ejwayelekile esehlakalweni esibuhlungu. Ingane yakho ibhekana nokuhlukumezeka ngokuhoxa emhlabeni. Bazizwa behlukanisiwe futhi babona izinto zenzeka nxazonke kubo ngokungathi azinangqondo.

Ingane yakho ingahle ibe nezinkinga zomzimba ezinjenge:

• Izisu
• Ukuphathwa ikhanda
• Isicanucanu nokuhlanza
• Inkinga yokulala namaphupho amabi

Ingane yakho nayo ingahle ikhumbule lo mcimbi:

• Ukubona izithombe
• Ukukhumbula yonke imininingwane ngokwenzekile nabakwenzile
• Yiba nesidingo sokuxoxa indaba kaninginingi

Ingxenye eyodwa yezingane ezisinda ezenzakalweni ezihlukumezayo izokhombisa izimpawu ze-PTSD. Zonke izimpawu zezingane zihlukile. Ngokuvamile, ingane yakho ingaba ne-:

• Ukwesaba okukhulu
• Imizwa yokuswela usizo
• Imizwa yokuphazamiseka nokungahleleki
• Inkinga yokulala
• Inkinga yokugxila
• Ukuphelelwa isifiso sokudla
• Izinguquko ekusebenzisaneni kwabo nabanye, kufaka phakathi ulaka kakhulu noma ukuhoxiswa okuningi

Ingane yakho nayo ingabuyela ekuziphatheni ebikade ikhulile:

• Ukumanzisa embhedeni
• Ukunamathela
• Ukumunca isithupha sabo
• Ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, ukukhathazeka, noma ukucindezeleka
• Ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana

Yazisa ingane yakho ukuthi iphephile nokuthi nguwe olawulayo.

• Yazi ukuthi ingane yakho ithatha izinkomba kuwe zokuthi ingasabela kanjani esehlakalweni esibuhlungu. KULUNGILE ukuthi ube lusizi noma ulimale.
• Kepha ingane yakho idinga ukwazi ukuthi nguwe olawulayo futhi uyayivikela.

Yazisa ingane yakho ukuthi ukhona ngokubasiza.

• Buyela esimisweni sansuku zonke ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Dala uhlelo lokudla, ukulala, isikole nokudlala. Imikhuba yansuku zonke isiza izingane zazi ukuthi zingalindelani futhi zizizwe ziphephile.
• Khuluma nengane yakho. Bazise ukuthi wenzani ukuze ubagcine bephephile. Phendula imibuzo yabo ngendlela abangaqonda ngayo.
• Hlala useduze nengane yakho. Bahlale eduze kwakho noma bakubambe ngesandla.
• Yamukela futhi usebenze nengane yakho ekuziphatheni okuphindiwe.

Qapha ulwazi ingane yakho olutholayo mayelana nomcimbi. Vala izindaba ze-TV futhi ukhawule izingxoxo zakho ngemicimbi ephambi kwezingane ezincane.

Ayikho indlela eyodwa izingane ezingalulama ngayo ngemuva kwezehlakalo ezimbi. Lindela ukuthi ingane yakho kufanele ibuyele emisebenzini yayo ejwayelekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Uma ingane yakho isenenkinga yokululama ngemuva kwenyanga eyodwa, thola usizo lochwepheshe. Ingane yakho izofunda ukuthi:

• Khuluma ngokwenzekile. Bazokhuluma izindaba zabo ngamagama, izithombe, noma ngokudlala. Lokhu kubasiza ukuthi babone ukuthi ukusabela kokuhlukumezeka kuyinto ejwayelekile.
• Thuthukisa amasu okubhekana nokusiza ngokwesaba nangokukhathazeka.

Yazisa othisha ngezehlakalo ezihlukumezayo empilweni yengane yakho. Gcina ukuxhumana okuvulekile mayelana nezinguquko ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho.

Ingcindezi - izehlakalo ezihlukumezayo ezinganeni

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• Impilo Yomqondo Wengane
• Ukucindezeleka Kwangemva Kokuhlukumezeka