Ukukhuluma nengane yakho ngokubhema

Abazali bangaba nethonya elikhulu ekutheni izingane zabo ziyabhema yini. Isimo sakho sengqondo nemibono yakho ngokubhema kuyisibonelo. Khuluma ngokukhululekile ngokuthi awukuthandi ukubhema kwengane yakho. Ungabasiza futhi bacabange ukuthi bangathi kanjani cha uma othile ebanikeza ugwayi.

Isikole esiphakathi nendawo siqala ukuqala kwezinguquko eziningi kwezenhlalo, zomzimba nezingokomzwelo. Izingane zijwayele ukuthatha izinqumo ezimbi ngokususelwa kulokho abangane bazo abakushoyo nabakwenzayo.

Iningi lababhemayo abadala babenogwayi wabo wokuqala beneminyaka engu-11 futhi base bexhunywe ngesikhathi behlanganisa iminyaka engu-14.

Kunemithetho emele ukumaketha osikilidi ezinganeni. Ngeshwa, lokhu akuvimbi izingane ekuboneni izithombe ezikhangisweni nakuma-movie ezenza ukuthi ababhemayo babukeke bepholile. Amakhuphoni, amasampula amahhala, kanye nokuphakanyiswa kumawebhusayithi ezinkampani zikagwayi kwenza osikilidi kube lula ukuthola izingane.

Qala kusenesikhathi. Kungumqondo omuhle ukuqala ukukhuluma nezingane zakho ngengozi kagwayi lapho ineminyaka emihlanu noma eyisithupha ubudala. Gcina ingxoxo iqhubeka njengoba izingane zakho zikhula.

Kwenze inkulumo yabantu ababili. Nikeza izingane zakho ithuba lokukhuluma ngokukhululekile, ikakhulukazi njengoba zikhula. Babuze ukuthi bayabazi yini abantu ababhemayo nokuthi bazizwa kanjani ngakho.

Hlala uxhumekile. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi izingane ezizizwa zisondelene nabazali bazo mancane amathuba okuthi ziqale ukubhema kunezingane ezingasondelene nabazali bazo.

Cacisa ngemithetho yakho nokulindela kwakho. Izingane ezaziyo ukuthi abazali bazo ziyanaka futhi azikuthandi ukubhema mancane amathuba okuthi ziqale.

Khuluma ngezingozi zikagwayi. Izingane zingacabanga ukuthi akudingeki zikhathazeke ngezinto ezinjengomdlavuza nesifo senhliziyo kuze kube yilapho zikhula. Yazisa izingane zakho ukuthi ukubhema kungathinta impilo yazo zisuka. Kungathinta nezinye izingxenye zempilo yabo. Chaza lezi zingozi:

• Izinkinga zokuphefumula. Ngonyaka omkhulu, izingane ezibhemayo zisengozini yokuphelelwa umoya, zikwazi ukukhwehlela, zihehe, futhi zigule kaningi kunezingane ezingakaze zibheme. Ukubhema futhi kwenza izingane zithambekele kakhulu esifuba somoya.
• Umlutha. Chaza ukuthi osikilidi benziwa babe umlutha ngangokunokwenzeka. Tshela izingane ukuthi ziyoba nesikhathi esinzima kakhulu sokuyeka uma ziqala ukubhema.
• Imali. Ugwayi uyabiza. Cela ingane yakho ibone ukuthi kungabiza malini ukuthenga iphakethe ngosuku izinyanga eziyisithupha, nokuthi yini abangayithenga ngaleyo mali kunalokho.
• Kunuke. Ngemuva kwesikhathi eside ugwayi ungasekho, iphunga lihlala ekuphefumuleni, ezinweleni nasezingutsheni zomuntu obhemayo. Ngenxa yokuthi bajwayele iphunga likagwayi, ababhemayo banganuka intuthu kanti abazi nhlobo.

Yazi abangane bezingane zakho. Njengoba izingane zikhula, abangane bazo bathonya ukukhetha kwabo kakhulu. Ingozi izingane zakho ezizobhema iyenyuka uma abangane bazo bebhema.

Khuluma ngokuthi imboni kagwayi ihlose izingane kanjani. Izinkampani zikagwayi zichitha izigidigidi zamaRandi unyaka ngamunye ukuzama ukwenza abantu babheme. Buza izingane zakho ukuthi zifuna ukuxhasa izinkampani ezenza imikhiqizo egulisa abantu.

Siza ingane yakho ijwayeze ukuthi cha. Uma umngane enikeza izingane zakho ugwayi, bazothini? Phakamisa izimpendulo ezifana nokuthi:

• "Angifuni ukuhogela okwe-ashtray."
• "Angifuni izinkampani zikagwayi ezenza imali ngami."
• "Angifuni ukuphelelwa umoya uma ngilolonga ibhola."

Faka ingane yakho ezintweni ezingabhemi. Ukudlala imidlalo, ukudansa, noma ukuzibandakanya esikoleni noma emaqenjini esonto kungasiza ekwehliseni ubungozi bokuthi ingane yakho iqale ukubhema.

Yazi ezinye izindlela "ezingabhemi". Ezinye izingane ziphendukele kugwayi ongenantuthu noma osikilidi abasebenza ngogesi. Bangacabanga ukuthi lezi izindlela zokugwema izingozi zikagwayi bese bethola ukulungiswa kwe-nicotine. Yazisa izingane zakho ukuthi lokhu akulona iqiniso.

• Ugwayi ongenantuthu ("chew") uyalutha futhi unamakhemikhali acishe abe ngu-30 abangela umdlavuza. Izingane ezihlafuna ugwayi zisengozini yomdlavuza.
• Ugwayi we-elekthronikhi, owaziwa nangokuthi ama-vaping nama-hookah kagesi, amasha emakethe. Bafike kuma-flavour afana ne-bubble gum ne-pina colada eheha izingane.
• Ama-e-cigarettes amaningi aqukethe i-nicotine. Ochwepheshe bakhathazeka ngokuthi i-e-cigarettes izokhulisa inani lezingane eziluthayo futhi zibheme ugwayi sezikhulile.

Uma ingane yakho ibhema futhi idinga usizo lokuyeka, khuluma nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo.

I-nicotine - ukukhuluma nengane yakho; Ugwayi - ukukhuluma nezingane zakho; Ugwayi - ukhuluma nengane yakho

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Smokefree.gov iwebhusayithi. Esikwaziyo ngogwayi bakagesi. Smilefree.gov/quit-smoking/ecigs-menthol-dip/ecigs. Kubuyekezwe u-Agasti 13, 2020. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 29, 2020.

Iwebhusayithi ye-US Food & Drug Administration. Uhlelo lokuvikela ugwayi lwentsha lwe-FDA. www.fda.gov/tobacco-products/youth-and-tobacco/fdas-youth-tobacco-prevention-plan. Kubuyekezwe uSepthemba 14, 2020. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 29, 2020.

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