Izinyathelo Ezi-13 Zokuthola Uthando Oluphelele

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• 1. Yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye
• 2. Ungakhathazeki ngemibono yabanye
• 3. Vumela ukwenza amaphutha
• 4. Khumbula ukuthi inani lakho alikho endleleni umzimba wakho obukeka ngayo
• 5. Ungesabi ukudedela abantu abanobuthi
• Cubungula ukwesaba kwakho
• 7. Zethembe ukuthi uzothathela izinqumo ezinhle
• 8. Thatha wonke amathuba ezipho zempilo noma uzenzele eyakho
• 9. Zibeke wena kuqala
• 10. Buzwa ubuhlungu nenjabulo ngokugcwele ngangokunokwenzeka
• 11. Yiba nesibindi phambi kwabantu
• 12. Bona ubuhle ezintweni ezilula
• 13. Yiba nomusa kuwe
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ngonyaka odlule kwaba nzima kimi. Nganginenkinga enkulu nempilo yami yengqondo futhi ngangihlushwa ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Ngiqalaza abanye besifazane abahle, abaphumelelayo, ngazibuza: Bakwenza kanjani lokhu? Bakwazi kanjani ukuzizwa kanjalo kuhle?

Bengifuna ukuthola, futhi bengifuna ukwabelana nabanye besifazane, njengami, abafuna ukuzizwa bejabule - abafuna ukuzizwa kahle. Ngingena emandleni ami okudala, ngazimisela ukuhlanganisa insiza noma ngubani angayisebenzisa. Ngibuze abesifazane engibaziyo: Yini ama-mantras akho nemikhuba yakho yokuzinakekela?

Abangitshele khona kwakuyizinguquko zombili kanye nokungasebenzi ngokuphelele ngasikhathi sinye. Uma ngikwazi ukuzenza, ngiyazi ukuthi nawe ungazisebenzisa. Nazi izindlela zokupheka eziyi-13 zokuzithanda ezilula ekusebenzeni futhi ezinemininingwane eminingi ngezinzuzo zazo.

1. Yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye

Sihlanganyele ukuncintisana, ngakho ukuziqhathanisa nabanye kungokwemvelo. Kodwa kungaba yingozi. Akunasizathu sokuziqhathanisa nomunye umuntu emhlabeni ngoba munye kuphela wena. Kunalokho, gxila kuwe nasohambweni lwakho. Ukushintshwa kwamandla, kukodwa, kuzokusiza uzizwe ukhululekile.

2. Ungakhathazeki ngemibono yabanye

Ngaso leso sikhathi, ungakhathazeki ngokuthi umphakathi ucabangani noma ulindeleni kuwe. Awukwazi ukujabulisa wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke lokhu kungukuchitha isikhathi futhi kuzokunciphisa ijubane ohambweni lwakho ukuze ube ngophambili kuwe.

3. Vumela ukwenza amaphutha

Sitshelwa kaninginingi kusukela ebuncaneni "akekho ophelele, wonke umuntu uyawenza amaphutha." Kepha uma ukhula, uzizwa ucindezelwa ngokwengeziwe ukuthi ngeke wehluleke. Zinqume kancane! Yenza amaphutha ukuze ufunde futhi ukhule kuwo. Yamukela okwedlule. Uhlala ushintsha futhi ukhula kusuka kulokho owawukade ungena kulokho oyikho namuhla nokuthi uzoba ngubani ngolunye usuku.

Ngakho-ke, khohlwa ngalelozwi elisekhanda lakho elithi udinga ukuphelela. Yenza amaphutha - amaningi awo! Izifundo ozozithola zibiza kakhulu.

4. Khumbula ukuthi inani lakho alikho endleleni umzimba wakho obukeka ngayo

Lokhu kubalulekile! Ziningi izinto emhlabeni ezifuna ukukuphazamisa kuleli qiniso elinamandla. Kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nobulili bakho obufakwe ngaphakathi buqinisekisa imicabango yakho yokungafaneleki. Uyigugu ngoba unjalo wena, hhayi ngenxa yomzimba wakho.

Ngakho-ke, gqoka okukwenza uzizwe kamnandi. Uma kukuningi noma uma kukuncane, gqoka okwenza kukhulu ukuzethemba, ukhululeke futhi ujabule.

5. Ungesabi ukudedela abantu abanobuthi

Akuwona wonke umuntu obhekela amandla abawakhipha emhlabeni. Uma kukhona umuntu oletha ubuthi empilweni yakho futhi engeke azibophezele ngakho, lokho kungasho ukuthi udinga ukusuka kubo. Ungesabi ukwenza lokhu. Iyakhulula futhi ibalulekile, yize kungaba buhlungu.

Khumbula: Vikela amandla akho. Akukona ukukhohlakala noma okungalungile ukuzisusa ezimeni noma enkampanini yabantu abakumoshile.

Cubungula ukwesaba kwakho

Njengokwenza iphutha, ukwesaba kuyimvelo futhi kungumuntu. Ungalahli ukwesaba kwakho - kuqonde. Lokhu kuvivinya umzimba okunempilo kungasiza ngempela empilweni yakho yengqondo. Ukubuza imibuzo nokuhlola ukwesaba kwakho kukusiza ukuthi uthole ukucaciseleka futhi ukhiphe izingqinamba empilweni yakho ebe zikubangela ukukhathazeka. Lokho, nakho, kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukukhathazeka kwakho okuthile - uma kungenjalo konke.

7. Zethembe ukuthi uzothathela izinqumo ezinhle

Sivame ukungabaza thina kanye nekhono lethu lokwenza okulungile, lapho isikhathi esiningi sazi ezinhliziyweni zethu ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi imizwa yakho isemthethweni. Awulahlekelwa ukuxhumana neqiniso. Uzazi kangcono ukudlula noma ngubani omunye umuntu, ngakho-ke yiba ngummeli wakho omkhulu.

8. Thatha wonke amathuba ezipho zempilo noma uzenzele eyakho

Isikhathi asisoze salungela leso sinyathelo esikhulu esizayo empilweni yakho. Ukusetha kungahle kungabi kuhle, kepha lokho akufanele kukuvimbe ekufinyeleleni ukufeza izinhloso namaphupho akho. Esikhundleni salokho, bamba umzuzwana ngoba kungenzeka ungaphinde ubuye.

9. Zibeke wena kuqala

Ungazizwa kabi ngokwenza lokhu. Abesifazane, ikakhulukazi, bangajwayela ukubeka abanye kuqala. Yize kunesikhathi nendawo yalokhu, akufanele 'kube umkhuba okulahlekisela inhlala-kahle yakho engokwengqondo noma engokomzwelo.

Thola isikhathi se-decompress. Ngaphandle kokucindezelwa futhi uvuselele ungafaka ubunzima obukhulu kuwe. Noma ngabe uchitha usuku embhedeni noma ngaphandle emvelweni, thola ukuthi yini ekusiza ukuthi unciphise futhi unikele isikhathi kulokhu.

10. Buzwa ubuhlungu nenjabulo ngokugcwele ngangokunokwenzeka

Vumela ukuzwa izinto ngokugcwele. Ncika ebuhlungwini, thokoza enjabulweni yakho, futhi ungafaki ukulinganiselwa emizweni yakho. Njengokwesaba, ubuhlungu nenjabulo yimizwa ezokusiza ukuthi uziqonde futhi ekugcineni ubone ukuthi akuyona imizwa yakho.

11. Yiba nesibindi phambi kwabantu

Zijwayeze ukukhuluma imicabango yakho. Isibindi sifana nemisipha - sikhula lapho usisebenzisa kakhulu. Ungalindi imvume yokuhlala etafuleni. Joyina ingxoxo. Nikela ngemicabango yakho. Thatha isenzo, futhi wazi ukuthi izwi lakho libaluleke njenganoma ubani omunye.

12. Bona ubuhle ezintweni ezilula

Zama ukuqaphela okungenani into eyodwa enhle, encane ezungeze wena nsuku zonke. Yenze inothi, futhi ubonge ngayo. Ukubonga akugcini ngokukunikeza umbono, kubalulekile ukukusiza uthole injabulo.

13. Yiba nomusa kuwe

Umhlaba ugcwele amagama anokhahlo nokugxeka - ungangezi okwakho ekuxubeni. Khuluma ngomusa kuwe, futhi ungazibizi ngezinto ezimbi. Zigubhe. Usufike kude kangaka futhi ukhule kakhulu. Ungakhohlwa ukuzijabulisa wena, hhayi kuphela ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa!

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Noma ungazizwa unamandla ngokukhethekile, cabanga ukuthi usekude kangakanani, nokuthi usinde kanjani. Ulapha, njengamanje, uyaphila futhi unamandla angaphezu kolwazi lwakho. Futhi zibekezelele. Ukuzithanda kungenzeka kungenzeki ngokushesha. Kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuzozinza enhliziyweni yakho.

Yebo, ungazabalaza, kepha uzobheka emuva kulezi zikhathi bese ubona ukuthi bekunyathela kanjani amatshe ohambweni lwakho ukuze abe ngophambili kuwe.

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