Izinto ezi-6 Okufanele Uzifune Njalo Ebudlelwaneni

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Kwe Thembela Ku inkathi, sesinconyiwe ukwazi kahle ukuthi yini okufanele siyibuze abaphathi bethu ukuthi bafike esigabeni esilandelayo esilinganisweni somsebenzi. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngokuxoxa ngezidingo zethu ne-S.O yethu, kunzima ukuba phambili - noma ngabe kubalulekile njengokweneliseka emisebenzini yethu enjabulweni yethu. Kepha ukucaca kokudingayo ebudlelwaneni bakho kuqinisekisa ukuthi wena nomfana wakho nisekhasini elilodwa-nokuthi isibopho sakho sizokwanelisa futhi sanelise ngangokunokwenzeka. Lapha, ochwepheshe babelana ngezinto okufanele uzicele.

Ukwethembeka

Ungakulumi ulimi lwakho uma ecabanga umnyakazo wokunqamula izwe kuyilapho ungeke uzicabange uhlala e-Los Angeles. "Ukwethembeka kuvame ukuqeda ubudlelwano ngenxa yezinhloso ezinhle; umlingani ufuna ukuthi omunye umuntu ajabule, ngakho-ke bangase babe fudge iqiniso ukugwema ukungqubuzana," kuchaza u-Ellen Kenner, Ph.D., umbhali Indlela Yobugovu Eya Ezothando: Indlela Yokuthanda Ngentshisekelo Nesizathu. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuthula ngendlela ozizwa ngayo ngempela kungaholela entukuthelweni naseqeleni. Hhayi ukumba ukuwela izwe eliwela izwe? Esikhundleni sokukhuluma naye masinyane, mbuze ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuthutha kuzokuguqula kanjani impilo yakhe. Ngaleyo ndlela, ungabelana nokwesaba kwakho ngokuthi lokhu kuthutha kuzobuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano futhi wabelane ngemicabango yakho, ngakho-ke kuba yindibano kunokuphikisana.

Ucansi olwanelisayo

Mhlawumbe lokho kusho i-orgasm njalo. Mhlawumbe kusho ukudlala phambili okuningi, noma ukugona ngaphansi kwekhava ngemuva kokwenza isenzo. Noma ngabe kuyini, ukukwazi ukukhuluma ngamagama okukukhulumayo kubalulekile, kusho uJenni Skyler, Ph.D., owelapha ngezocansi nobudlelwano nomqondisi e-The Intimacy Institute eBoulder, CO. "Emibhangqwaneni eminingi, ukukhuluma ngocansi kunzima kakhulu kunokuba nayo, "kusho uSkyler. Chithani ubusuku bonke embhedeni, nihlola imizimba yomunye nomunye futhi nitshelana, esikalini esisodwa kuya kweshumi, okuzwakalayo okumangalisayo.

Isikhathi Sokuba Nguwe

"Ubudlelwano obuningi buyawohloka ngenxa yokuthi ozakwethu bangene shí ebudlelwaneni baze balahlekelwe umkhondo wokuthi yini ebenza babukeke njengabantu ngabanye. Nakuba kukuhle ukuzicabangela njengababhangqwana, ukuba nezinto ozithakaselayo ezihlukene kugcina ubuwena futhi buhlukile. nanidonsa nobabili kwasekuqaleni,” kuchaza uKenner. Qiniseka ukuthi nobabili ninenza njalo. Ngazo zonke izindlela, mmemele ekilasini lakho le-Spin elibulalayo futhi uzame umdlalo wegalofu we-Frisbee, kodwa kulungile ukuba nezinto zakho zokuzilibazisa futhi uphinde uxhume ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokhu akusizi nje kuphela isibopho sakho—uzoba nezinto ezintsha ongakhuluma ngazo futhi ufunde ngazo—kodwa kuqinisekisa ukuthi nawe uhlala uthembekile kuwena.

Ukubonisa ngale kwezezimali

Asisho ukuthi kufanele ukhiphe izitatimende zakho zekhadi lesikweletu ngosuku lokuqala, kepha uma uhlanganisa ezezimali, kubalulekile ukuthi kungabikho noyedwa ofihlayo lutho-futhi nobabili nisemabhodini ezinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo, noma ngabe ziyakhokha ngomshado wakho noma ngokukhokha imali endlini. "Ukungathembeki kwezezimali kungalimaza kakhulu ebudlelwaneni ngoba kukhulisa ukungathembeki," kuxwayisa uKenner. Ukuhlela uhambo ndawonye kungaba yindlela enhle yokuxazulula ukuhambisana kwezezimali kanye nokukhuluma ngezinkinga njengoba zivela endaweni engatheni kangako. Uma usufunde ukukhuluma ngemali lapho usebenzela ukufeza umgomo othize-njenge-beach vaycay-ithoni isethelwe ukukhuluma ngezinto ezibucayi kakhulu.

I-Ally in Izinkinga Zomndeni Ezingaqondakali

Ingxenye yokuhlanganisa izimpilo ukuhlanganisa imindeni, futhi kujwayelekile ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile ungqubuzane nomndeni womunye obalulekile wakho. Kepha ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi kufanele uhlale uzizwa sengathi umfana wakho unemhlane wakho kuqala, futhi ngeke avumele umama wakhe noma ubaba wakhe ukukuhlukumeza kokuthile. "Ukuzwa kuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uyingxenye yeqembu kubalulekile," kukhumbuza uKenner. Qala ngokumazisa indlela okuzizwa ngayo: Ngenxa yokuthi ukujwayele kakhulu ukukhuluma nabo, angase angaboni ukuthi ukuphawula komzali wakhe kungase kuhunyushwe njengokugxeka, kusho uKenner. Khona-ke, mtshele ukuthi yini engase ikwenze kube ngcono—mhlawumbe nguye oholayo ekuxoxeni ngendaba eyimpikiswano phakathi kwakho nomama wakhe esikhundleni sokuthi athule ngenkathi niyenza.

Kumnandi!

Ekugayeni kwansuku zonke, kulula ukulahlekelwa uthando, ubuhlanya, nesasasa elikuhehe nobabili kwasekuqaleni. Kepha lokho akusho ukuthi kulungile, kukhumbuza uSkyler. Ukwenza kube ubusuku bedethi ebaluleke kakhulu, imilayezo emihle ebhalwe esibukweni, ukuthatha usuku ndawonye ukuze nihlanganyele embhedeni- kuqinisekisa ukuthi ngeke ilahleke ekushicileleni.

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