Izinzuzo Zempilo Zokungashadi

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Iminyaka eminingi, ucwaningo luye lwaphakamisa ukuthi ukubopha ifindo kunikeza inqwaba yezinzuzo zezempilo-yonke into kusukela enjabulweni enkulu kuya empilweni engcono yengqondo kanye namathuba amancane okuba nesifo esingamahlalakhona. Ukwesekwa komlingani oshadile kubonakala kusiza imibhangqwana ibhekane nesiphepho ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka. Kodwa kwabanganamathiselwe, asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka ngokuthi isimo esisodwa sizoba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho. (Empeleni, iSayensi Ithi Abanye Abantu Basho Ukuthi Abangashadi.) Ufuna ubufakazi? Nazi izinzuzo ezimbalwa ozozithola kuphela ngenkathi undiza uwedwa.

Ungaba Very Well Be Happier

Ungakholelwa kukho konke okufundayo. Unesizungu, intokazi yekati elilodwa? Nuh-uh. Ocwaningweni olwenziwe eNew Zealand kwabesilisa nabesifazane abangama-4 000 abaphakathi kweminyaka eyi-18 kuya kwengama-94, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi labo ababengazimisele kangako ezingxabanweni ezihlobene nobudlelwano babenjengabashadile abajabule njengabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucwaningo lwango-2014 oluvela ku- Ijenali yePsychophysiology bathole ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane ababenokucindezeleka okuhlala isikhathi eside, okuqhubekayo emishadweni yabo abakwazi ukujabulela izikhathi ezijabulisayo okufanele zivuse impendulo engokomzwelo eyakhayo-okuyinto abacwaningi abathi iyisici esiyingozi sokucindezeleka.

Wenare Mancane amathuba okuthi upakishe amakhilogremu

"Isisindo sobudlelwane" siyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwabesifazane abasanda kushada. Ngokocwaningo lwango-2014 lwase-Australia komakoti abangu-350, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi abesifazane bavame ukuzuza cishe amakhilogremu amahlanu ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ngemva kokuba bethi, "Ngiyakwenza." Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucwaningo luka-2013 lwemibhangqwana engu-169 esanda kushada kumagazini I-Psychology yezempilo wabonisa ukuthi abashadile abajabulayo bavame ukukhuluphala eminyakeni emine ngemva komshado wabo, cishe ngenxa yokuthi imibhangqwana eboshiwe ivame "ukukhulula imizamo yabo yokulondoloza isisindo" lapho ingasamfuni umlingani wokuphila. (Thola ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bungamosha kanjani indlela yakho yokuphila enempilo.)

UyiOkuningiCishe Ukushaya Izinjongo Zakho Zokuzivocavoca

Abesifazane abangashadile kumele bakhethe ama-run amaningi nokugibela amabhayisikili esikhundleni sezinsuku zokudla kwakusihlwa. Ngokocwaningo lwaseBrits, amaphesenti angama-27 kuphela abantu abadala ahlangana nemizuzu eyi-150 enconyiwe ngesonto yokuzivocavoca (yikes). Kodwa-ke, phakathi kwabesifazane abangaqali ngokwanele umsebenzi wabo, amaphesenti angama-63 ayeshadile-kanti amaphesenti angama-37 kuphela ayengashadile noma ahlukanisile. Abaphenyi bathi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, ngomshado, unokwanda kwemithwalo yemfanelo-iqembu lakho lomsebenzi, futhi ulungisa leyo ndlu entsha, ekugcineni izingane-ezinqamula isikhathi osichitha uzivocavoca umzimba. Ngakho-ke uma ufuna ukuthola i-abs ethambile noma isitimela semarathon, ukuhlala ungashadile akuwona umqondo omubi.

UyiQina nabangane bakho

Kusuka ocwaningweni olwenziwe nguNatalia Sarkisian waseBoston College kanye noNawomi Gerstel wase-University of Massachusetts Amherst, maningi amathuba okuthi abesifazane abashadile bazonikela ngokuxhumana nabantu abangashadile bethanda amadoda abo. Amantombazane (nabafana), abangakaze bashade maningi amathuba okuthi babe nezibopho eziqinile nabazali babo, abangane, izingane zakwabo kanye namalungu omphakathi-ubudlelwano obungakusiza ukuthi uhole ngokugcwele, ujabule futhi impilo enempilo. Ocwaningweni lwango-2010 lwamadoda nabesifazane abangama-300,000, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi labo abangenawo umphakathi oqinile banethuba eliphakeme lokufa elingamaphesenti angama-50 phakathi nesikhathi sokulandelela seminyaka engu-7.5. Yize indlela yokusebenza yalesi sifo esikhulu sokuzivikela ingazwisiseki kahle, kungenzeka ukuthi abangani bethu nomndeni wethu bayasisiza ukuba sihleke, siphumule futhi sigweme ukucindezelwa, futhi futhi basisize lapho sibhekene nokugula noma ukulimala futhi sidinga amahlombe ukuncika . (Futhi, uthola lezi zindlela ezingu-12 Umngane Wakho Omkhulu Wokuthuthukisa Impilo Yakho.)

WenaYiba Nemaye Encane

Uma usebudlelwaneni, uhlanganisa izimpilo ezimbili ... okungekhona ukukhanya kwelanga kanye nama-roses, ikakhulukazi uma une-spender nesilondolozi kumxube. Ocwaningweni lwango-2014 lwabantu abadala abayi-2 000, umuntu oyedwa kwabathathu wakwazi ukuqamba amanga kumlingani wakhe ngemali. Phakathi kwale micu, amaphesenti angama-76 athi amanga amancane (noma amakhulu) amhlophe ayehlupha imishado yabo, kuyilapho cishe isigamu sathi lawo maqiniso abanga ingxabano egcwele. Uma ungashadile, kuncane ukucindezeleka ngokuthi uyisebenzisa kuphi, nini futhi kanjani imali yakho. Unquma. (Whoo!) (Okusho ukuthi ungazisebenzisa lezi Zeluleko Zokonga Imali Zokuthola Ukulingana Ngokwezimali.)

Kungenzeka Ube-Excel Kumsebenzi Wakho

Ukuhlala ungashadile ekuqaleni komsebenzi wakho kungase kube isinqumo esihlakaniphile uma ufuna ukukhuphukela phezulu - ngisho nangaphezulu kunabafana. Ucwaningo lwango-2010 lwabonisa ukuthi abasha, abangenabantwana, engashadile abesifazane emadolobheni amakhulu njengeNew York ne-LA babethola cishe amaphesenti ayi-15 ngaphezu kozakwabo besilisa, futhi leyo mpumelelo ingaholela ekuthuthukisweni kwesimo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ukugxila emkhakheni wobudlelwano ebudlelwaneni usemncane kuvumela amandla amaningi nendawo yengqondo yokukhuphuka ileli-futhi lokho akusho ukuthi awusoze walibopha ifindo. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abesifazane abafunde kakhulu bavame ukushada nokuzala kabusha empilweni. Ngakho-ke, thatha leso sikhathi ukusetha kuma-20s akho naku-30s okuqala. (Futhi ngenkathi ukuyo, funda kahle lawa Amakhono Empilo ayi-17 Okufanele Ukwazi Ukwenza Ngama-30.)

Uvikela Inhliziyo Yakho

Ngenkathi ukuhlala ungashadile nakanjani kuzokugcina ekuhluphekeni kothando, futhi kunganciphisa ubungozi bezinkinga zenhliziyo zesikhathi eside. Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwango-2014 oluvela eMichigan State University, ngemuva kokuhlaziya imininingwane yezintombi ezishadile ezingaphezu kuka-1 000 iminyaka eyisihlanu, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi umshado omubi udale umonakalo omkhulu enhliziyweni kunokuba umshado omuhle unikeze umfutho. Lokhu kwakuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane. Kunengqondo uma ucindezela kancane, ujima kakhulu, futhi ugcina i-BMI ezinzile, akunjalo? (Ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo? Akukho ukukhathazeka, funda Ukuthi Ubudlelwano Bakho Buhlotshaniswa Kanjani nempilo Yakho-ngendlela enhle!)

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