Izinto Ezi-8 Abantu Abesilisa Okufanele Bazazi Ngokunqamuka Kokuya Esikhathini

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• Izinto zokuqala kuqala
• 1. Zilungiselele ukudonsa isikhathi eside
• 2. Akuyona into ovele "udlule kuyo"
• 3. Bonke abantu besifazane babhekana nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini ngokuhlukile
• 4. Akungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi kunesikhathi
• 5. Kuzoba nezinguquko zomzimba okunzima ukubhekana nazo
• 6. I-PMS ayihambi njalo
• 7. Kuzoba nokushintsha
• 8. Ukushaya ijimu kubalulekile - noma, okungenani, ukuzitika kancane kubalulekile
• Ungayisiza kanjani inguquko yakhe ngokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Noma cishe ingxenye yabantu emhlabeni ingabantu besifazane, kuvame ukubonakala sengathi amadoda aqonda okuncane ngokumangazayo ngokuya esikhathini nokuya esikhathini. Lokho akusho ukuthi wonke amadoda kufanele aqonde ngokuphelele ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini - futhi ake sibhekane nakho, ubani okwenzayo? - kepha kungaba wusizo kubafana abanabesifazane asebekhulile kahle ezimpilweni zabo ukufunda okwengeziwe ngokuqhubekayo ngokuya esikhathini. Yonke le nqubo ayikhululekile, ekuqaleni, ngakho-ke ukuzwelana okuncane kungaba kuhle.

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Izinto zokuqala kuqala

Ake siqale ngezisekelo: Ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kwenzeka ngokusemthethweni lapho owesifazane eyeka ukuba nemijikelezo yokuya esikhathini ngokuphelele. Kodwa-ke, inqubo yokufika kulelo qophelo ingathatha isikhathi eside. Eqinisweni, kuqala lapho uneminyaka engama-20, lapho umjikelezo wokuya esikhathini sowesifazane uhamba kancane uze ufike esikhathini sokuya esikhathini.

Yize ososayensi bazi ukuthi kunezinto eziningi ezisetshenziswayo, kufaka phakathi ama-hormone, abaqiniseki ngokuphelele ngembangela yokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. Kuyamukelwa kabanzi, noma kunjalo, ukuthi ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kuhlobene ngokuqondile nenani elinciphayo lamaqanda owesifazane analo njengoba ekhula.

1. Zilungiselele ukudonsa isikhathi eside

O, ubucabanga ukuthi ukushaya ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kusho ukuthi usesobala? Cabanga futhi, ngoba ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini akuvele kwenzeke ngokuphazima kweso. Ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini empeleni kuqala nge-perimenopause, okungathatha iminyaka.

Owesifazane akakwazi ukuphefumula ngokuthi udlulile esikhathini sakhe ngokuphepha kuze kube yilapho esenesikhathi esingaphezu konyaka, kusho uMary Esselman, 54, umbhali waseCharlottesville, eVirginia kanye nombhali wencwadi ethi “Kwenzeke Kanjani Lokhu? Izinkondlo Zabangasekho Abasebasha. ”

Uyachaza: “Eminyakeni eminingi yokuya esikhathini, ungathola isikhathi sakho noma nini - izinsuku eziyi-10 usanda kuba naso, noma izinsuku eziyi-120 usanda kuba naso,” kuchaza yena. “Kungumdlalo wokuqagela. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyabonakala, kwesinye isikhathi igiza. ”

2. Akuyona into ovele "udlule kuyo"

U-Esselman uzimisele ngokuxwayisa abesifazane (nabesilisa) ukuthi ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini akuyona into ovele “udlule kuyo”. Esikhundleni salokho, uyaphawula, uzodlula eminyakeni yobudala bokungingiza, ukulala ubuthongo, ukukhathazeka okuyinqaba, nokungaguquguquki kwemizwelo engajabulisi kangako.

Uthi: "Asikwazi ukukushalazela." “Ukuguga akuyona into ewumbono, kuyinto yangempela, futhi ingxenye yalokho engithemba ukukwenza ukusiza abesifazane abasebasha ukuthi bafunde kabanzi ngakho ngaphambi kokuba kushaye phezu kwekhanda - ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini nezinye izici zemvelo ngokuphelele (kodwa eziphazamisayo) zokukhula njengowesifazane. ”

3. Bonke abantu besifazane babhekana nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini ngokuhlukile

Akekho umuntu wesifazane futhi akukho mjikelezo wokuya esikhathini ofana njalo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi abesilisa babone ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu wesifazane ohlangabezana nezinto ezifanayo ngendlela efanayo. Abesifazane banemibono ehlukile ngemijikelezo yabo yokuya esikhathini kanye namazinga ahlukahlukene okududuza ngemizimba yabo. Lezi zinto zonke zithinta umuzwa wabo wokuya esikhathini.

U-Laurie Pea, oseke wazibonela ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, uthi impilo yakhe ibonakala ingenasikhathi.

"Angisakwazi ukugcina izinsuku nobusuku bami ngomjikelezo wami, futhi ngiphila ngaphandle komngcele," kusho yena.

4. Akungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi kunesikhathi

Ngokombono wesilisa, kungahle kubonakale sengathi owesifazane angajabula kakhulu ukuqeda okwenzeka nyangazonke okuphoqa ukuthi aphume igazi esithweni sakhe sangasese. Kepha ukubukeka kungakhohlisa.

“Akungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi,” kuxwayisa uVictoria Fraser. “Kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, kwaba sengathi ukuwohloka komqondo nokuthomba kunengane ndawonye!”

5. Kuzoba nezinguquko zomzimba okunzima ukubhekana nazo

Ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kungadala izimpawu eziningi zomzimba, kufaka phakathi ikhanda, ukoma kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, kanye nezinguquko ezinweleni zakho. Yize uMichelle Nati, 51, evuma ukuthi ukungalokothi ucabange ngokuya esikhathini kuyisimo esihle, ama-cons ayedlula kude inzuzo yokugqoka amadayisi amhlophe 24/7.

UNati futhi uthi izimpawu zomzimba zokushisa okushisayo, inkungu yobuchopho, ukukhala nokuzuza kwesisindo esiswini kuzwakale sengathi kuvele “ngokungazelele.”

6. I-PMS ayihambi njalo

Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kusho ukuthi sayonara ekuhlushweni okuyi-PMS, cabanga futhi. UNati nabanye abanjengaye bathola ukuthi esikhundleni sokudlula ekuphileni okungenayo i-PMS ngaphandle kokuyeka ukuya esikhathini, ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kufane neviki elilodwa lokulungiselela.

"[Kufana] ne-PMS engenakho ukukhululeka," esho.

7. Kuzoba nokushintsha

"Bengihlale ngibhincile, kepha ngina-54 ngithole isiqubulo esingeke sinyakaze okhalweni," kuphawula u-Esselman. "Bengilindele ukukhuluphala ngokwezinga elithile, kodwa hhayi ukushintsha kwesisindo, ukudonswa kwamandla adonsela phansi kuyo yonke into, kusuka ezihlathini zama-apula (eziguqula zibe yizinyosi) kuya esithweni sami sangasese esihle."

Ngakho-ke madoda, lapho ungasahambi nokugeleza, mhlawumbe ungafunda ukuvumela izinto ziwele lapho zingahle zivele khona.

8. Ukushaya ijimu kubalulekile - noma, okungenani, ukuzitika kancane kubalulekile

Omunye umphumela ohlangothini lokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini ukuthi abanye besifazane bavame ukuzwa ukunciphisa umzimba.

"Yize ukungasayi esikhathini futhi kube yisibusiso esikhulu, ukukhuluphala okukhulu okwenzekile (yize kungakhuphuki ekudleni!) Bekungeyona ingxenye engiyithandayo yalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho," kusho uLorraine Berry, omunye wesifazane owahlanganyela nakho ukunqamuka kokuya kwakhe esikhathini .

Ungayisiza kanjani inguquko yakhe ngokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini

Ngakho-ke, ma-gents, nazi izeluleko ezinhle zokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo nabesifazane abasempilweni yakho, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini.

Uma kukhulunywa ngokushintsha kwemizwelo: Msize asebenze ngokuguquguquka kwemizwelo ngokuqonda ukuthi akuhloselwe wena. Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuzitika ngokweqile ukubukela umbukiso owuthandayo ndawonye noma ukumphathisa usuku lwe-spa kwanele ukunciphisa umthwalo.

Uma kukhulunywa ngocansi: Qaphela ukuthi umzimba wakhe uyashintsha. Ngokuhambisana nakho, ukuzethemba komzimba wakhe, ukushayela ucansi, nokuzijabulisa ngokocansi nakho kungashintsha. Zimiseleni ukukhuluma ngalezi zinto ngenhlonipho, futhi nithole izindlela zokukhuluma nazo njengabantu abashadile.

Uma kukhulunywa ngomzimba wakhe: Yabelana ngokwehluka okubonayo kwenzeka emzimbeni wakho. Ubudala busithinta sonke, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi azi ukuthi akuyena yedwa ohlangabezana nezinguquko.

Uma kukhulunywa ngokuzethemba: Msekele ekusebenzeni ukuthi ufuna nini futhi nini, kodwa uma efuna ukujabulela isidlo esimnandi, umphakele kahle futhi umtshele ukuthi muhle. Ngoba kunjalo!

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