Izindlela Ezi-8 Zokwenza Inkohliso Ukubukeka Njenge-Pro Embhedeni

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• Jabula
• Bhekani Emehlweni Komunye Nomunye
• Thatha Amakhefu
• Funda mayelana nakho
• Thatha Ukulawula
• Ungakhohlwa Ngemuva Kocansi
• Faka ezinye izinto ezimangazayo
• Kwenze nje!
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Ubulili bungaba ngumlingo, konke kuhlanganisa-futhi kwesinye isikhathi kube nzima, ikakhulukazi uma unomfana omusha noma ufuna ukuzama izinto ezintsha (kepha ungazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi). Izindaba ezimnandi: Izikhathi ezimbalwa ezintengantengayo phakathi kwamashidi azisho ukuthi nobabili anifani, kungase kusho isikhathi esiphelele sokuhlola ukuze uthole ucansi olusebenzela wena njengeqembu. umbhangqwana, kusho uTammy Nelson, Ph.D., owelapha ngocansi nombhali we Ukuthola Ucansi Olufunayo. Ngakho-ke bheka (futhi uzizwe!)futhi izinto zezinongo phezulu-noma ngabe unjani ileveli yesipiliyoni sakho ngalezi zilungiso eziyisishiyagalombili ezilula.

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"Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzani, intshiseko ibaluleke kakhulu kunendlela yokwenza," kusho uMark Michaels, umbhali wencwadi. Abalingani ku-Passion. Uzithole uzizwa meh ngocansi? Cabanga ngalokho okuzokwenza uzizwe umuhle. Mhlawumbe ukhombisa izingubo zangaphansi ezintsha noma umcela ukuthi akubhucunga umzimba omude ngaleyo lotion entsha. Noma yini ekwenza uzizwe umangalisa izohumushela kumdlalo wakho wekamelo lokulala ukuthi uyamangalisa. (Ukuthumela imibhalo ye-racy kuyindlela enhle yokwakha isasasa. Nazi izeluleko ezi-5 zokuthumela imiyalezo ngocansi wonke umuntu wesifazane okudingeka azi.)

Bhekani Emehlweni Komunye Nomunye

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Kuzwakala kushizi, kodwa ukugxila emehlweni akhe kususa ukugxila kulokho okwenzeka ngaphansi kwebhande futhi kwenza yonke into mayelana nokuxhumana nina nobabili, kusho uMichaels. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi somlomo, lapho ukuthatha izinkomba ebusweni bakhe kubalulekile.

Thatha Amakhefu

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Noma ngabe ucansi lomlomo, ukugqugquzela okwenziwa ngesandla, noma ukuhlangana ocansini, khumbula ukuthi ayikho indlela "efanele" yokwenza noma yini. Uma uzizwa ukhathele noma uthola i-cramp, ume futhi uthathe isikhathi sokuqabula nokuphulula, noma ukushintsha ukuthi enze umsebenzi osebenzayo kulungile impela, kukhumbuza uMichaels.

Funda mayelana nakho

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Sibonga u Ama-50 Shades eGrey, i-erotica ithole ukuvuselelwa okukhulu-futhi lokho kuyizindaba ezinhle empilweni yakho yomuntu siqu yezocansi, kusho u-Alison Tyler, uchwepheshe wezocansi nombhali wamanoveli angama-25 ezocansi. "Inja lalela ikhasi olithandayo futhi ulifundele umlingani wakho ngokuzwakalayo, noma ulalele i-podcast ehehayo. Kuyindlela elula yokuhlukanisa ingxoxo ibe ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zezinto ezivulayo." Ngoba awukhulumi eyakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okwedlule, kunibeka nobabili ekhasini elilodwa maqondana nalokho enifuna ukukuzama ndawonye. (Futhi, hlola lezi 5 Zokucabanga Ngocansi-Kuchaziwe.)

Thatha Ukulawula

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Ngobusuku obubodwa, yenza ukuhlwa konke ngaye. Mtshele ukuthi akakwazi ukunyakaza noma ukuthinta ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Yebo, yi-dominatrix-y encane, kepha kuzokusiza nobabili ukuthi niphumelele ngokukhipha izindawo ezine-erogenous nama-turn-ons okungaba nzima ukukuthola lapho nobabili nenza lo msebenzi ngenkuthalo. Ngobusuku obulandelayo, naye enze okufanayo kuwe. Akukhona nje ukuthi kuyashisa ukuba nobusuku ukuze ujabulele ukuzijabulisa okungenacala, konke mayelana nami, kodwa ukuyeka (kanye nokuthatha) ukulawula kukuvumela nobabili ukukhombisa ukhiye wakho oseceleni osengozini ukuze uthole uxhumano oluhlala njalo.

Ungakhohlwa Ngemuva Kocansi

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Kuzwakala ngokuphelele ukuthi uG ulinganisiwe, kepha kuvela ukuthi, amakhono amahle okuganga ungomunye wababikezeli abaphambili bempilo yezocansi ebulalayo. Ucwaningo lwakamuva oluvela eNyuvesi yaseToronto uMississauga luthole ukuthi ukuziphatha kwangemva kocansi, kufaka phakathi ukuqabulana, ukuqabulana nokukhuluma ngothando, kukhuthaza ukwaneliseka ngokocansi. Gcina ingxoxo yangemva kocansi ilula. Gxila kulokho okwakuzwakala kumangalisa ngaleso sikhathi, kunokuba ujule ebuntwaneni bakho noma uqale ukuthi "kuyaphi lokhu?" ingxoxo.

Faka ezinye izinto ezimangazayo

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Ukulandela i-ice cube emzimbeni wakhe, ukufaka uju ezingubeni zakho nokumenza alikhothe, noma ukuzama ithoyizi elisha locansi zonke izindlela ezinhle zokushintsha izinto. "Ucansi kufanele lube mnandi," kukhumbuza uMichaels, futhi ukuzama okuthile okusha kuqinisekisiwe ukuzamazamisa izinto. Noma ngabe le ndlela igcina ingabi yinto ozoyengeza ohlwini lwakho olujwayelekile, ukuzama ukuphuma nokuhleka ngakho uma nobabili nikuthola kuyisilima kakhulu kune-sexy-kuyinto esondelene kakhulu engakusondeza. (Futhi, thola ugqozi lwegumbi lokulala ngezithuthukisi zethu ezingu-7 ze-Kinky Zempilo Yakho Yocansi.)

Kwenze nje!

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Hhayi ukuzwakala njengesikhangiso sezemidlalo, kepha kwesinye isikhathi, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyenza nje ukuthi ukwenze. "Esikhathini eside, lokho okubizwa ngokuthi 'ubulili besondlo' kungakhula kube yindlela egculisa ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo nenenjongo yokuveza izifiso zakho," kuchaza uNelson. "Kwesinye isikhathi, ucansi lumayelana nokusebenza ngokuxineka kanye nengcindezi yesonto elixakekile futhi livele lixhumeke kakhulu kunakuqala." Ngakho-ke khohlwa ngokuba yi-Christian Grey elandelayo bese ugxila ekubeni nguwe.

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