I-ADHD Ithinta Kanjani Indodana Nendodakazi Yami Ngokuhlukile

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• Kungani abafana bavame ukutholakala ngaphambi kwamantombazane?
• Umehluko phakathi kwezimpawu zendodana nendodakazi yami
• Ukuzulazula nokugigitheka
• Ukukhuluma ngokweqile
• Ukwenza sengathi kuqhutshwa imoto
• Ezinye izimpawu zivela ziyefana, kungakhathalekile ubulili
• Intsha kanye nabantu abadala: Izingozi ziyehluka ngokobulili
• Ngakho-ke, ingabe i-ADHD yehluke ngempela kubafana namantombazane?

Ngingumama wendodana nendodakazi emangalisayo - bobabili abatholakala ukuthi bane-ADHD uhlobo oluhlanganisiwe.

Ngenkathi ezinye izingane ezine-ADHD zihlukaniswe njengezinganaki ngokuyinhloko, kanti ezinye njengokucindezela ngokweqile, izingane zami Kokubili.

Isimo sami esiyingqayizivele singinike ithuba lokuthola ukuthi i-ADHD ihluke kanjani futhi ilinganiswa kanjani emantombazaneni uma kuqhathaniswa nabafana.

Emhlabeni we-ADHD, akuzona zonke izinto ezidalwe zilingana. Abafana banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuthola ukuxilongwa kunamantombazane. Futhi lokhu kwehluka akubangelwa ukuthi amantombazane mancane amathuba okuthi abe nalesi sifo. Esikhundleni salokho, kungenzeka ngoba i-ADHD iveza okuhlukile emantombazaneni. Izimpawu zivame ukucashile futhi, ngenxa yalokho, kube nzima ukuzibona.

Kungani abafana bavame ukutholakala ngaphambi kwamantombazane?

Amantombazane awatholakali kalula noma atholakala esemdala ngoba enohlobo lokunganaki.

Ukunganaki ezikhathini eziningi akubonwa ngabazali kuze kube yilapho izingane ziya esikoleni futhi zinenkinga yokufunda, kusho uTheodore Beauchaine, PhD, uprofesa wezengqondo e-Ohio State University.

Lapho ibonwa, imvamisa kungenxa yokuthi ingane iphupha emini noma ayikhuthazwa ukwenza umsebenzi wayo. Abazali nothisha bavame ukucabanga ukuthi lezi zingane ziyavilapha, futhi kungathatha iminyaka - uma kunjalo - ngaphambi kokuba bacabange ukufuna ukuxilongwa.

Futhi ngenxa yokuthi amantombazane ajwayele ukunganaki kunokukhathazeka ngokweqile, indlela aziphatha ngayo ayiphazamisi kangako. Lokhu kusho ukuthi othisha nabazali mancane amathuba okuthi bacele ukuhlolwa kwe-ADHD.

ukuthi othisha bavame ukuthumela abafana kunamantombazane ayohlolwa - noma ngabe banezinga elifanayo lokukhubazeka. Lokhu-ke kudala ukungakhonjwa nokungahlinzekwa kwamantombazane.

Ngokuhlukile, i-ADHD yendodakazi yami yabonwa incane kakhulu kunendodana yami. Yize lokhu kungeyona into ejwayelekile, kunengqondo ngoba uluhlobo oluhlanganisiwe: zombili i-hyperactive-impulsive futhi ukunganaki.

Cabanga ngale ndlela: “Uma izingane ezineminyaka emihlanu zinomfutho ngokulinganayo futhi zinamawala, intombazane izogqama ngaphezu komfana,” kusho uDkt Beauchaine. Kulesi simo, intombazane ingahle itholakale ngokushesha, kuyilapho isimilo somfana singasuswa ngaphansi kokubanjwa-konke okufana "nabafana kuzoba ngabafana."

Lesi simo asenzeki kaningi, noma kunjalo, ngoba amantombazane atholakala enohlobo lwe-ADHD olungacabangi kangako kunohlobo olunganakile, kusho uDkt Beauchaine. “Ohlotsheni olungacabangi kakhulu, kunabafana abayisithupha noma abayisikhombisa abatholakala ngentombazane eyodwa. Ngohlobo lokunganaki, isilinganiso sisinye kuya kwesinye. ”

Umehluko phakathi kwezimpawu zendodana nendodakazi yami

Ngenkathi indodana nendodakazi yami benesifo esifanayo, ngibonile ukuthi ezinye zezindlela zabo zokuziphatha zehlukile. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukuthi bazulazula kanjani, bakhuluma kanjani, kanye nezinga labo lokungasebenzi kahle.

Ukuzulazula nokugigitheka

Lapho ngibuka izingane zami zizulazula ezihlalweni zazo, ngibona ukuthi indodakazi yami isishintsha buthule isikhundla sayo njalo. Etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa, indwangu yakhe idabulwa ibe yizicucu ezincane cishe njalo kusihlwa, futhi kufanele abe nohlobo oluthile lwefidget ezandleni zakhe esikoleni.

Indodana yami, noma kunjalo, itshelwa kaninginingi ukuthi ingagubhi ekilasini. Ngakho-ke uzoma, kepha lapho-ke uzoqala ngokushaya izandla noma izinyawo. Ukuzulazula kwakhe kubonakala kunomsindo omkhulu kakhulu.

Ngesikhathi sesonto lokuqala lendodakazi yami esikoleni lapho ineminyaka emi-3, yasukuma ngesikhathi sesiyingi, yavula umnyango wekilasi, yahamba. Wasiqonda isifundo futhi wezwa ukuthi asikho isidingo sokuhlala alalele uthisha esichaza ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene kuze kube yilapho ikilasi lonke selibamba.

Ngendodana yami, ibinzana elivame kakhulu ukuphuma emlonyeni wami ngesikhathi sedina lithi “itushie esihlalweni.”

Kwesinye isikhathi, umi eduze kwesihlalo sakhe, kepha imvamisa ugxuma ifenisha. Siyahlekisa ngakho, kodwa ukumhlalisa phansi adle - noma ngabe kungu-ayisikhilimu - kuyinselelo.

"Amantombazane akhokha inani eliphakeme kakhulu ngokumemeza kunabafana." - UDkt Theodore Beauchaine

Ukukhuluma ngokweqile

Indodakazi yami buthule ikhuluma nontanga bayo ekilasini. Indodana yami ayithulanga kangako. Uma kukhona okungena ekhanda lakhe, uyaqiniseka ukuthi ukhulumela phezulu ngokwanele ukuze ikilasi lonke likwazi ukuzwa. Lokhu, ngiyacabanga, kumele kube yinto ejwayelekile.

Nginezibonelo kusukela ebuntwaneni bami. Ngiphinde ngibe uhlobo oluhlanganisiwe lwe-ADHD futhi ngiyakhumbula ukuthola ama-C ekuziphatheni yize ngingakaze ngimemeze kakhulu njengomunye wabafana ekilasini lami. Njengendodakazi yami, ngangikhuluma buthule nomakhelwane.

Isizathu salokhu singahle sihlobene nokulindelwa kwamasiko kwamantombazane kuqhathaniswa nabafana. "Amantombazane akhokha inani eliphakeme kakhulu ngokubiza kunabafana," kusho uDkt Beauchaine.

"Imoto" yendodakazi yami icashile kakhulu. Ukuzulazula nokunyakaza kwenziwa buthule, kepha kuyabonakala iso eliqeqeshiwe.

Ukwenza sengathi kuqhutshwa imoto

Lesi ngesinye sezimpawu engizithandayo ngoba sichaza izingane zami zombili ngokuphelele, kepha ngibona kakhulu endodaneni yami.

Eqinisweni, wonke umuntu uyayibona endodaneni yami.

Ngeke akwazi ukuthula. Lapho ezama, ngokusobala akakhululekile. Ukuhambisana nale ngane kuyinselele. Uhlala ehamba noma ekhuluma izindaba ezinde kakhulu.

"Imoto" yendodakazi yami icashile kakhulu. Ukuzulazula nokunyakaza kwenziwa buthule, kepha kuyabonakala iso eliqeqeshiwe.

Ngisho nesazi sezinzwa zezingane zami siphawule ngomehluko.

"Njengoba ekhula, amantombazane asengozini enkulu yokuzilimaza nokuziphatha ngokuzibulala, kanti abafana basengozini yokuphathwa kabi nokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa." - UDkt Theodore Beauchaine

Ezinye izimpawu zivela ziyefana, kungakhathalekile ubulili

Ngandlela thile, indodana yami nendodakazi yami abahlukile kangako. Kunezimpawu ezithile ezibonakala kuzo zombili.

Ayikho ingane ekwazi ukudlala buthule, futhi bobabili bayacula noma benze inkhulumomphendvulwano yangaphandle lapho bezama ukudlala bodwa.

Bazokhipha bobabili izimpendulo ngaphambi kokuba ngiqede ukubuza umbuzo, kube sengathi banesineke kakhulu kimi ukusho amagama ambalwa okugcina. Ukulinda ithuba labo kudinga izikhumbuzo eziningi zokuthi kufanele babekezele.

Zombili izingane zami nazo zinenkinga yokugcina ukunakwa emisebenzini nasekudlaleni, imvamisa azilaleli uma kukhulunywa nazo, zenza amaphutha ngokunganaki ngomsebenzi wazo wesikole, zinenkinga yokulandela imisebenzi, zinamakhono okusebenza angaphethe kahle, zigwema izinto ezingazithandi enza, futhi aphazamiseka kalula.

Lokhu kufana kungenza ngizibuze ukuthi ngabe umehluko phakathi kwezimpawu zezingane zami ubangelwa ngempela umehluko womphakathi.

Lapho ngibuza uDkt.UBeauchaine ngalokhu, uchaze ukuthi njengoba izingane zami zikhula, ulindele ukuthi izimpawu zendodakazi yami zizoqala ukwehluka kakhulu kulokho okuvame ukubonakala kubafana.

Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe abakakaqiniseki ukuthi ngabe lokhu kungenxa yomehluko othile wobulili ku-ADHD, noma ngenxa yokulindela okwehlukile kokuziphatha kwamantombazane nabafana.

Intsha kanye nabantu abadala: Izingozi ziyehluka ngokobulili

Ngenkathi umehluko phakathi kwezimpawu zendodana nendodakazi yami sezivele zibonakala kimi, ngifunde ukuthi njengoba bekhula, imiphumela yokuziphatha kwe-ADHD yabo iyohluka kakhulu.

Izingane zami zisafunda amabanga aphansi. Kepha ngesikole esiphakathi - uma i-ADHD yabo ishiywe ingalashwa - imiphumela ingahluka kakhulu kulowo nalowo kubo.

"Njengoba bekhula, amantombazane asengozini enkulu yokuzilimaza nokuziphatha ngokuzibulala, kuyilapho abafana besengozini yokuhlukumezeka nokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa," kusho uDkt Beauchaine.

“Abafana bazolwa bese beqala ukuzihlalela nabanye abafana abane-ADHD. Bazokwenza izinto ukubukisa ngabanye abafana. Kodwa lezo zimilo azisebenzi kahle emantombazaneni. "

Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi inhlanganisela yokwelashwa kanye nokugadwa okuhle kwabazali kungasiza. Ngaphezu kwemithi, ukwelashwa kufaka phakathi ukufundisa ukuzithiba namakhono wokuhlela isikhathi eside.

Ukufunda umthethonqubo ongokomzwelo ngezindlela ezithile zokwelapha ezinjengokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT) noma ukwelashwa kokuziphatha okuhambisanayo (DBT) nakho kungasiza.

Ngokubambisana, lokhu kungenelela kanye nokwelashwa kungasiza izingane, intsha kanye nabantu abadala ukuba bafunde ukuphatha nokulawula i-ADHD yabo.

Ngakho-ke, ingabe i-ADHD yehluke ngempela kubafana namantombazane?

Njengoba ngisebenza ukuvimbela ikusasa elingafuneki lengane ngayinye yami, ngibuyela embuzweni wami wokuqala: Ngabe i-ADHD yehlukile kubafana namantombazane?

Ngokombono wokuxilonga, impendulo ithi cha. Lapho uchwepheshe ebheka ingane ukuthi ihlolwe yini, kunendlela eyodwa kuphela okufanele ingane ihlangabezane nayo - ngaphandle kobulili.

Njengamanje, akwenziwa ucwaningo olwanele emantombazaneni ukwazi ukuthi ngabe izimpawu zivela ngokwehlukile kubafana uma kuqhathaniswa namantombazane, noma uma kukhona umehluko nje phakathi kwezingane ngazinye.

Ngoba mancane kakhulu amantombazane kunabafana abatholakala ukuthi bane-ADHD, kunzima ukuthola isampula elikhulu ngokwanele lokufunda umehluko wobulili.

Kepha uBeauchaine nozakwabo basebenza kanzima ukuguqula lokho. "Sazi okuningi ngabafana," engitshela. "Isikhathi sokufunda amantombazane."

Ngiyavuma futhi ngibheke phambili ekufundeni kabanzi.

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