Ungayakha Kanjani Futhi Uyisebenzise Ukuqinisekisa Ukukhathazeka

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• Yiziphi iziqinisekiso ezingakwazi futhi ezingakwazi ukuzenza
• Ukudala ukuqinisekiswa kwakho
• Qala ngo- “Mina” noma “Owami”
• Zigcine esikhathini samanje
• Ungesabi ukwamukela imicabango ekhathazayo
• Zibophezele kumanani ayisisekelo nempumelelo
• Uzisebenzisa kanjani
• Dala inqubo yansuku zonke
• Zigcine zikhona njengamanje
• Zigcine lapho ungazibona khona
• Ukufinyelela
• Okubalulekile

Isiqinisekiso sichaza uhlobo oluthile lwesitatimende esihle esivame ukuqondiswa kuwe ngenhloso yokukhuthaza ushintsho nokuzithanda ngenkathi uqeda ukukhathazeka nokwesaba.

Njengohlobo lokuzikhulumela okuhle, iziqinisekiso zingakusiza ukuthi uguqule imicabango enganakile.

Ukuphinda ibinzana elisekelayo nelikhuthazayo kulinikeza amandla, ngoba ukuzwa okuthile kuvamise ukukwenza ukholwe. Ngokulandelayo, inkolelo yakho yenza kube nokwenzeka ukuthi uzosebenza ngezindlela ezenza ukuqinisekiswa kwakho kube ngokoqobo.

Ukuqinisekiswa kungasiza ekuqiniseni ukuzethemba ngokwandisa umbono wakho omuhle ngawe nokuzethemba kwakho emandleni akho okufeza izinhloso zakho. Futhi zingasiza ekulweni nemizwa yokwethuka, ingcindezi, nokuzithemba okuvame ukuhambisana nokukhathazeka.

Lapho imicabango ekhathazayo ikweqa futhi ikwenza kube nzima ukugxila kokungenzeka okuhle, iziqinisekiso zingakusiza ukuthi uphinde ulawule futhi uqale ukushintsha lezi zindlela zokucabanga.

Yiziphi iziqinisekiso ezingakwazi futhi ezingakwazi ukuzenza

Ukuqinisekiswa can ikusize udale futhi uqinise izimo zengqondo ezintsha nezindlela zokuziphatha, kepha azikwazi ukusula ngomlingo ukukhathazeka.

Nakhu abangakwenza:

• thuthukisa imizwa yakho
• ukukhulisa ukuzethemba
• ukwandisa isisusa
• ikusize ukuxazulula izinkinga
• ukukhulisa ithemba
• ikusize ubhekane nemicabango engemihle

Uma kukhulunywa ngokukhathazeka ikakhulukazi, ukugcina iziqiniseko ezisuselwe empeleni kungenza umehluko omkhulu kumthelela wazo. Uma uzama ukuzitshela ukuthi ungenza izinto ezingezona ezingokoqobo, ungaba nobunzima bokuzikholelwa bese ubuyela emqondweni lapho uzizwa ungakwazi futhi ungaphumeleli khona.

Ithi unezinkinga eziningi mayelana nokukhathazeka kwezezimali. Ukuphindaphinda "Ngizowina ilotho" nsuku zonke, noma kunjalo kahle, kungahle kungasizi kakhulu. Isiqiniseko esifana nokuthi, “Nginethalente nesipiliyoni sokuthola umsebenzi okhokhela kangcono,” ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungakukhuthaza ukuthi usebenzele lolu shintsho.

kusikisela ukuqinisekiswa kungasebenza ngokwengxenye ngoba ukuziqinisekisa ngokwakho kusebenze uhlelo lokuvuza lobuchopho bakho. Lolu hlelo, phakathi kwezinye izinto, lungasiza ekunciphiseni ukuqonda kwakho ubuhlungu, luthambise umthelela wokucindezeleka ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.

Ukuziqinisekisa, ngamanye amagama, kusiza ukuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokubhekana nobunzima besimo sezulu.

Ukuzizwa ukwazi ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izinselelo ezivelayo kungakubeka ethubeni elingcono lokusebenzela ushintsho oluhlala njalo.

Ukudala ukuqinisekiswa kwakho

Uma usuqalile ukuhlola ukuqinisekiswa, kungenzeka ukuthi uthole uhlu oluningi, kanye nezeluleko ezithile zokuthi "Khetha iziqinisekiso ezizwana kakhulu nawe."

Lokho kungukuholwa okunengqondo, kodwa kunendlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola ukuqinisekiswa okuzizwa kungokwemvelo futhi kulungile: Zidalele wena.

Cabanga ngesiqiniseko esivamile: “Anginakwesaba.”

Kuthiwani uma unokwesaba okuningi nokukhathazeka kuphela okubaletha ekugxileni okucijile? Ungasiphinda lesi siqinisekiso kaninginingi, kodwa uma ungakholelwa ngempela ukuthi awesabi, mancane amathuba okuthi uzoba nesibindi esiqinisekisweni sodwa.

Ukuyisebenzisa kabusha ibe yinto ekholwayo nesebenziseka kangcono kungakushiya une: “Nginemicabango ekhathazayo, kodwa futhi nginamandla okukuphikisa nokukuguqula.”

Ulungele ukuqala? Gcina lawa macebiso engqondweni.

Qala ngo- “Mina” noma “Owami”

Umbono womuntu wokuqala ungabopha ukuqinisekiswa ngokuqinile ekuzizweni kwakho. Lokhu kuzenza zihambisane kakhulu nezinhloso ezithile, ezenza kube lula ukukholelwa.

Zigcine esikhathini samanje

Mhlawumbe "Ngizozizwa nginokuzethemba okukhulu ukukhuluma nabantu ngonyaka ozayo" kubonakala kuyinjongo enhle.

Ukuqinisekiswa akuzona izinhloso ngqo, noma kunjalo. Uwasebenzisa ukubhala kabusha amaphethini wokucabanga akhona axhumene nemicabango ekhathazayo neyokuzihlula. Ngokuzibeka ngokuzayo, uzitshela ukuthi, "Impela, lokho kungenzeka ekugcineni.”

Kepha lokhu kungenzeka kungabi nomthelela omkhulu ekuziphatheni kwakho kwamanje. Esikhundleni salokho, hlela ukuqinisekiswa kwakho sengathi sekuvele kuyiqiniso. Lokhu kwandisa ithuba lokuthi uziphathe ngezindlela empeleni yenza kuyiqiniso.

Isibonelo: "Ngiyazethemba ukukhuluma nabantu engingabazi futhi ngenze abangane abasha."

Ungesabi ukwamukela imicabango ekhathazayo

Uma uhlala nokukhathazeka, ungakuthola kusiza ukukuvuma lokhu ekuqinisekisweni kwakho. Kuyingxenye yakho, ngemuva kwakho konke, futhi ukuqinisekiswa okugxile kokungokoqobo kungabanika amandla athe xaxa.

Namathela kumbhalo omuhle, noma kunjalo, bese ugxila ekubonisweni okungokoqobo kwalokho ofuna ukukuzuza.

• Esikhundleni se: "Ngeke ngivumele imicabango yami ekhathazayo ithinte umsebenzi wami."
• Zama: "Ngiyakwazi ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwami ​​maqondana nokwehluleka nokufeza izinhloso zami naphezu kwazo."

Zibophezele kumanani ayisisekelo nempumelelo

Ukuxhumanisa iziqiniseko kumanani akho ayisisekelo kukukhumbuza okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.

Njengoba uphinda lezi ziqinisekiso, uqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho kanye nokukholelwa emakhonweni akho, okungaholela ekuzinikeni amandla okukhulu.

Uma ulwazisa ububele, ukuqinisekisa leli xabiso kungakusiza ukuthi ukhumbule ukuzizwela kubalulekile.

• “Nami ngizenzela umusa ofanayo nengiwubonisa engibathandayo.”

Ukuqinisekiswa kungasiza futhi ukulwa nemicabango yokuzihlula lapho uyisebenzisa ukuzikhumbuza ngokufeziwe kwangaphambilini:

• “Ngizizwa nginengcindezi, kodwa kuzodlula. Ngiyakwazi ukulawula imizwa yokwethuka futhi ngiphinde ngizole, ngoba ngikwenzile phambilini. ”

Uzisebenzisa kanjani

Manje njengoba unezincomo ezimbalwa zokukuqalisa, uzisebenzisa kanjani empeleni?

Ayikho impendulo elungile noma engalungile, kepha lawa macebiso angakusiza ukuthi uwasebenzise ngokugcwele.

Dala inqubo yansuku zonke

Ukuphinda iziqinisekiso kumzuzu ocindezelayo kungasiza, kepha imvamisa kuba nomthelela omkhulu lapho uwasebenzisa njalo esikhundleni sokuthi uwadinge kakhulu.

Cabanga ngabo njenganoma yimuphi omunye umkhuba. Udinga ukuzijwayeza njalo ukuze ubone ushintsho oluhlala njalo, akunjalo?

Zibophezele ekuziqinisekiseni okungenani izinsuku ezingama-30. Vele ukhumbule ukuthi kungathatha isikhashana ukubona ukuthuthuka.

Beka eceleni imizuzu embalwa izikhathi ezimbili noma ezintathu ngosuku ukuphinda ukuvuma kwakho. Abantu abaningi bakuthola kuwusizo ukusebenzisa into yokuqala ekuseni ngaphambi nje kokulala.

Noma ngabe yisiphi isikhathi ongena kuso, zama ukunamathela esimisweni esihambisanayo. Hlela ukuphindwaphindwa okuyi-10 kokuqinisekiswa ngakunye - ngaphandle kokuthi uma unenombolo yenhlanhla evusa ukuzethemba okukhulu.

Uma ungumsekeli wokuthi "Ukubona kuyakholelwa," zama ukuphinda ukuvuma kwakho phambi kwesibuko. Gxila kuzo futhi ukholwe ukuthi ziyiqiniso esikhundleni sokumane ubabhekise.

Ungenza iziqinisekiso zibe yingxenye yenkambiso yakho yokuzindla yansuku zonke noma usebenzise ukubonwa ukuze ukubone njengokuyiqiniso.

Zigcine zikhona njengamanje

Ungahlala ubuyekeza futhi uhlela kabusha iziqinisekiso zakho ukuzenza zisebenze kangcono.

Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, hlola ngokwakho. Ingabe ukuqinisekiswa kukusiza ukuthi ulawule ukukhathazeka kwakho futhi usebenzise ububele lapho uzenyeza kuwe? Noma banomthelela omncane njengoba ungakakholwa manje?

Uma ubabona ukuthi bayasebenza, sebenzisa le mpumelelo njengogqozi - kungahle kuvuse ukuqinisekiswa okusha.

Zigcine lapho ungazibona khona

Ukubona iziqinisekiso zakho njalo kungasiza ukuzigcina ziphambili futhi zigxile emicabangweni yakho.

Zama:

• ukubhala amanothi okunamathelayo noma ama-memos ukushiya indlu yakho kanye nedeski lakho
• ukuzibeka njengezaziso efonini yakho
• ukuqala ukungena kwansuku zonke kwephephabhuku ngokubhala iziqinisekiso zakho

Ukufinyelela

Ukukhathazeka kwesinye isikhathi kungaba kubucayi ngokwanele ukuthinta zonke izingxenye zempilo, kufaka phakathi:

• ubudlelwano
• impilo yomzimba
• ukusebenza esikoleni nasemsebenzini
• izibopho zansuku zonke

Ukuqinisekiswa kungazuza ngokuphelele njengecebo lokuzisiza, kepha uma uhlala nezimpawu zokukhathazeka ezinzima noma eziphikelelayo, kungenzeka zinganele ukukusiza ubone ukukhululeka.

Uma ukukhathazeka kwakho kuthinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke, khuluma nodokotela ngezimpawu zakho. Kwesinye isikhathi, izimpawu zingaba ngenxa yenkinga yezokwelapha eyisisekelo.

Abantu abaningi badinga ukwesekwa ngudokotela lapho befunda ukuphatha izimpawu zabo zokukhathazeka, futhi lokho kuvamile ngokuphelele. Akusho ukuthi ukuqinisekiswa kwakho akulungile ngokwanele.

Umelaphi angakusiza ukuthi uqale ukuhlola izimbangela eziyisisekelo zokukhathazeka, okuqinisekiswayo okungabhekani nakho. Ukufunda kabanzi mayelana nokuthi yini ebangela izimpawu zokukhathazeka kungakusiza uthole izindlela zokubhekana ngokuphumelelayo nalezo zimbangela.

Umhlahlandlela wethu ekwelashweni okungabizi kungakusiza uthathe ukweqa.

Okubalulekile

Abantu abaningi bathola ukuqinisekiswa kungamathuluzi anamandla okushintsha amaphethini nezinkolelo ezingafuneki - kepha azisebenzi kuwo wonke umuntu.

Uma ukuqinisekiswa kuzwakala kungaphumeleli noma kungeza ekucindezelekeni kwakho, lokho akusho ukuthi kukhona okwenzile okungalungile. Kusho nje ukuthi ungazuza kolunye uhlobo lokusekelwa.

Ukuqinisekiswa kungaholela ekuzenzeni isithombe esikahle ngokwengeziwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kepha akunamandla onke. Uma ungaboni intuthuko enkulu, ukufinyelela kumelaphi kungaba yisinyathelo esiwusizo kakhulu.

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