Okufanele Ukwazi Ngokuziphatha Okufuna Ukunakwa Kubantu Abadala

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• Kwenzenjani?
• Kungabukeka kanjani
• Yini engadala lokhu kuziphatha?
• Umona
• Ugqhozu lwakho
• Isizungu
• Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-Histrionic
• Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
• Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu beNarcissistic
• Ongakwenza ngakho
• Okubalulekile

Kwenzenjani?

Kubantu abadala, isimilo sokufuna ukunakwa umzamo wokuqaphela noma wokungazi ube yindawo yokunakwa, kwesinye isikhathi ukuthola ukuqinisekiswa noma ukunconywa.

Kungabukeka kanjani

Ukuziphatha okufuna ukunakwa kungabandakanya ukusho noma ukwenza okuthile ngenhloso yokuthola ukunakwa ngumuntu noma iqembu labantu.

Izibonelo zalokhu kuziphatha zifaka:

• ukudoba izincomo ngokukhomba impumelelo nokufuna ukuqinisekiswa
• ukuba nempikiswano yokuvusa ukusabela
• ukwenza ihaba nokuhlobisa izindaba ukuthola udumo noma uzwelo
• ukuzenza ongakwazi ukwenza okuthile ukuze othile afundise, asize, noma abuke umzamo wokukwenza

Yini engadala lokhu kuziphatha?

Ukuziphatha okufuna ukunakwa kungaqhutshwa:

• umona
• ukuzenyeza
• isizungu

Kwesinye isikhathi isimilo sokufuna ukunakwa siwumphumela wokuphazamiseka kobuntu beqoqo B, njenge:

• ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-histrionic
• ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
• ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-narcissistic

Umona

Umona ungavela lapho othile ezizwa esongelwa ngomunye umuntu okwamanje onakwa.

Lokhu, nakho, kungaholela ekuziphatheni okufuna ukunakwa ukuze kushintshe ukugxila.

Ugqhozu lwakho

Ukuzethemba yigama elibanzi elihlanganisa izimo ezihlukahlukene zengqondo eziyinkimbinkimbi ezibandakanya indlela ozibheka ngayo.

Lapho abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi abanakwa, ukubuyisa ukunaka okulahlekile kungazizwa kuyindlela kuphela yokubuyisa ibhalansi yabo.

Ukunakwa abakuthola kulokhu kuziphatha kungasiza ukubanikeza umuzwa wokuqinisekiswa ukuthi bafanelekile.

Isizungu

Ngokwe-Health Resources and Services Administration, umuntu oyedwa kwabayisihlanu baseMelika uthi bazizwa benesizungu noma behlukanisiwe emphakathini.

Isizungu singaholela ekufuneni ukunakwa, ngisho nakubantu abangavezi imikhuba yokufuna ukunakwa.

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-Histrionic

Ngokusho kwe-, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-histrionic kubonakala ngokuzizwa unganakwa lapho kungesona isikhungo sokunakwa.

Ukuze umuntu athole ukuxilongwa kokuphazamiseka kobuntu be-histrionic, kudingeka ahlangabezane okungenani nalezi zindlela ezilandelayo ezinhlanu:

• ungakhululeki uma kungesona isikhungo sokunakwa
• ukuziphatha okuvusa inkanuko noma okuyengayo
• imizwelo engajulile futhi eshintshashintshayo
• usebenzisa ukubukeka ukudonsa ukunaka
• inkulumo engacacile noma ekhangayo
• ihaba noma imizwa evusa amadlingozi
• kusikisela
• ukuphatha ubudlelwano njengobusondelene kakhulu kunabo

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-Borderline kuyindlela eqhubekayo yokungazinzi esithombeni sakho, ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu, imizwa nasekuzifakeni.

Ngokusho kweNational Institute of Mental Health, ukuze umuntu athole ukuxilongwa kwesifo semingcele, kudingeka abonise okungenani izindlela ezi-5 ezilandelayo:

• imizamo ebucayi yokugwema ukulahlwa kwangempela noma okucatshangwa
• iphethini yobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu obukhulu futhi obungazinzile ngokweqisa phakathi kokuncipha nokwenziwa kwezinto
• isithombe esinqumayo noma esiphikelelayo esingazinzile noma umuzwa wobuyena
• ukuzibandakanya ekuzilimazeni, ekuziphatheni okungacabangi
• ukuzilimaza okuphindaphindiwe noma isimilo sokuzibulala, kufaka phakathi izinsongo noma ukushukuma komzimba
• ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo ekuphenduleni kwansuku zonke, njengokucasuka, ukukhathazeka, noma ukudabuka okukhulu
• imizwa engapheli yokuba yize
• intukuthelo enkulu ngokungafanele evame ukuba nzima ukuyilawula
• okwedlulayo, ukuphambana okuhlobene nengcindezi noma ukuzihlukanisa

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu beNarcissistic

Labo abanenkinga yobuntu be-narcissistic ngokuvamile banesidingo sokunconywa ngokungabi nozwela.

Ngokusho kwe-American Psychiatric Association, ukuze umuntu athole ukuxilongwa kokuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic, kudingeka abonise okungenani izindlela ezi-5 ezilandelayo:

• umuzwa omkhulu wokuzibona ubalulekile
• ukukhathazeka ngemicabango yamandla, impumelelo engenamkhawulo, ubuhlakani, uthando oluhle, ubuhle
• ukukholelwa kokuhlukile kwabo, ikakhulukazi ukuthi kufanele bazihlanganise kuphela, futhi kuzoqondwa kuphela yizikhungo ezisezingeni eliphakeme kanye nabantu abasezingeni eliphezulu
• funa ukuncoma ngokweqile
• umuzwa welungelo kanye nokulindela okungenangqondo kokuphathwa okuhle noma ukuhambisana ngokuzenzekelayo nokulindelekile
• ukusebenzisa abanye ukufeza izinhloso zabo
• ukungathandi ukubona noma ukubona izidingo nemizwa yabanye
• umona ngabanye nokukholelwa ukuthi abanye banomona ngabo
• ukuzikhukhumeza, isimo sengqondo sokuzikhukhumeza noma isimilo

Ongakwenza ngakho

Uma uqaphela ukuthi le ndlela yokuziphatha iphindaphindeka njalo, mhlawumbe kungcono kakhulu ukuthi umuntu akhombise indlela yokuziphatha avakashele uchwepheshe wezempilo yezengqondo onolwazi.

Uma kushiywe kungalawulwa, isimilo sokufuna ukunakwa singahlala sikhohlisile noma silimaze ngenye indlela.

Okubalulekile

Ukuziphatha okufuna ukunakwa kungavela emoneni, ukuzethemba okuphansi, isizungu, noma njengomphumela wokuphazamiseka kobuntu.

Uma ubona lokhu kuziphatha kuwe noma komunye umuntu, uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo anganikeza izinketho zokuxilongwa nokwelashwa.