I-Erotica yomsindo: Kungani Abantu Abengeziwe Belalele I-Porn

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• Ukuphila kahle ngokocansi
• Ukulalela ku-
• Ukuzwa kuqhathaniswa nokubona
• Ukufinyelela
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

ULaura, umbalisi we “Hot Vinyasa 1,” indaba ongayilalela epulatifomu iDipsea, ilandiseka ngendlela emangalisayo. Ucindezelwe ngumsebenzi, uyazinyeza mayelana nokufika sekwephuzile ekilasini le-yoga, futhi uthonywe ngumfundisi wakhe omusha, uMark, owakhiwe njengeHemsworth futhi uzimisele ngokulungiswa kwezandla.

"Ingabe ukusondela lokhu kuwo wonke umuntu?" ULaura uyazibuza, unamahloni.

Ngaphambi kokuba indaba yemizuzu engu-15 iphele, isiphepho seqhwa sithola uLaura noMark bodwa esitudiyo sezibani. Akumangazi ukuthi izingubo zabo ze-yoga ezijulukile zivela phambi kukaShavasana.

Ufuna ukuzwa okwengeziwe? Unenhlanhla. Kuningi kakhulu lapho i- "Hot Vinyasa" ivele khona. Sisekuvuseleleni i-porn audio, enenqwaba yezindaba zomsindo ezithandekayo, kanye ne-erotica yamagama akhulunywayo, amafilimu ocansi achaziwe, nama-podcast e-NSFW.

Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zendabuko azinciphi ekuthandeni - ngisho zisondele. Ngonyaka odlule, ukuvakashelwa kwe-porn juggernaut Pornhub kufinyelele ku-33.5 billion. Kepha abantu bathola injabulo ngezinketho ezingezona ezokubuka ngamabomu ezishiya okuningi kakhulu emcabangweni.

Ukuphila kahle ngokocansi

IDipsea iyisitudiyo sezindaba esungulwe ngabesifazane esifaka "izindaba ezimnandi zomsindo ezibeka imizwa futhi zivuse umcabango wakho," ngokusho kwesayithi labo.

Ipulatifomu inikezela ngamathiphu wokuzuza kakhulu kumuzwa wakho wokulalela ovusa inkanuko: Hlela i-ménage a moi. Hlela ngengqondo idethi. Guqula i-foreplay ibe yihora lokujabula. KuGina Gutierrez, umsunguli we-Dipsea kanye ne-CEO, konke kumayelana nokukhuthaza "impilo yezocansi."

“Ukuphila kahle ngokocansi kuhilela ukuzizwa ubheke emzimbeni wakho, futhi ukwazi ukuthola ukusondelana okuhle ngokwakho kanye nabalingani bakho. Futhi kusho ukuzizwa uphephile ukuhlola nokuveza izidingo nezifiso zomuntu, ”kuchaza uGutierrez.

Inhloso kaDipsea ukunikela ngokuqukethwe okuyifomethi emfushane engasiza abasebenzisi ukukhulisa ukusondelana nabalingani babo, ukuvula ukuzethemba okukhulu nokuhlakulela inhlalakahle.

"Ucansi nokuzithokozisa nakho kuyizindlela zokuvula umuzwa ojulile wokuphila nobungqabavu, ohambisana kakhulu nemikhuba efana nokuzindla noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba." Mhlawumbe lokho kuchaza ukuthi kungani uchungechunge lwe- "Hot Vinyasa" - yebo, kunezindaba ezingaphezu kweyodwa - zithandwa kakhulu yiDipsea.

Ukulalela ku-

Ukushoda kokufaka okubonakalayo kunika ubuchopho okwengeziwe ukuthi akwenze, kusho uCarol Queen, isazi sezocansi sabasebenzi beGood Vibrations futhi ongumlobi ngokubambisana wencwadi ethi “The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone.”

"Hhayi kuphela ukuthi asiphenduli ezibukwayo ezingasithokozisi, sinikezwa insimu ekhululekile ukucabanga abalingiswa futhi sizifake endaweni yesehlakalo ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene," usho kanje.

Abanye abantu bahlangabezana nesenzeko esibizwa ngokuthi (i-ASMR), lapho kuzwakala njengokuhleba, ukushushuluza, ukuthepha, nokuhlafuna kudala ukuhayiza, ukuthuthumela kwesikhumba sekhanda esichazwe njenge- "brain-gasm."

Amavidiyo e-ASMR asiza abanye abantu ukuba baphumule, bacindezeleke, noma balale. Ucwaningo lwe-imaging lobuchopho lukhombisa ukuthi kungaba njalo ngoba kukhanyisa izifunda ezihambisana nokuzazi nokuzibandakanya kwezenhlalo.

Kukhona ne-porn ye-ASMR, ehlanganisa izinto ezisusa umsindo ngomsindo noma ividiyo yezenzo zocansi. Noma, akusho ukuthi ukuvula wonke umuntu. Kwabanye, imisindo ye-ASMR ibangela ukucasuka nokukhathazeka. Abanye bamane bakhethe ubulili babo, umsindo njengokuya ocansini.

UBrianne McGuire ungumsunguli we-podcast Sex Communication, lapho abalaleli bemenywa khona ukuthi balalele ezimweni ezahlukahlukene ezicacile njengokuya ocansini ngomlomo, ukubusa kanye nokushaya indlwabu. Ezinye iziqephu zikhombisa abantu bekhuluma ngokungagunci ngempilo yabo yezocansi.

Okuthandwa kakhulu yingxoxo nabesilisa ababili nowesifazane ebudlelwaneni obunesizotha obufaka nokugqilazwa ngezintambo.

Yize bevela "kuzo zonke izizinda zokuphila," abalandeli bakaMcGuire bayakujabulela ukulalela ngesizathu esifanayo - ukuvusa, imvelo yokusondelana yokuqoshwa. "Abanye bakuchaze 'njengocansi lomuntu wesithathu' noma njengokufihlwa ekamelweni lomunye umuntu," kusho uMcGuire.

Uyachaza: “Ngifuna ukushintsha izingxoxo ngezocansi. "Ngaphandle kokufinyelela kwethu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngocansi, abantu abaningi basenamahloni, besaba, futhi benqikaza ukukhuluma ngezifiso zabo, imingcele, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo."

Ukuzwa kuqhathaniswa nokubona

"Kunobufakazi bokuthi abantu bavuswa kakhulu ngocansi ngokugqugquzela okukhulu," kuchaza uNicole Prause, PhD, isazi sezinzwa eLos Angeles ocwaninga ngokuziphatha kwabantu ngokocansi. "Isibonelo, i-audio eerotica [ingavusa] kakhulu kunenganekwane yezocansi yodwa, futhi amafilimu ezocansi avusa amadlingozi kune-audio erotica."

Isifiso sikaDipsea sezinkomba zokuxoxwa kwezindaba zesimangaliso esenziwe yiKinsey Institute esibonisa ukuthi abesifazane basebenzisa "ukubiyela ngokwengqondo" - isimo esiveza ukucabanga noma ukuphupha - ukuvula.

I-porn yendabuko, noma ngabe imahhala futhi itholakala ngo-24/7, ayenzeli wonke umuntu.

UCaroline Spiegel, udadewabo oneminyaka engu-22 we-CEO ye-Snapchat u-Evan Spiegel, usanda kwethula isayithi lezithombe zocansi elingabukeki elibizwa ngeQuinn.

Engxoxweni neTechCrunch, uSpiegel uchaze ukuthi ulwa nokungasebenzi kahle kocansi ngenxa yenkinga yokudla nenkolelo yakhe yokuthi i-porn yengeza ekucindezelekeni komzimba. Akuyedwa ozizwa ehlukanisiwe esikhundleni sokuvulwa.

"Ngizwile kwabesifazane abaningi ukuthi izinhlobo zomzimba wezithombe zocansi zibenza bazizwe bengenathemba lokuthi noma ngubani uyoke acabange ukuthi bayathandana," kusho uQueen. “Bazizwa sengathi abesilisa babaqhathanisa nezinkanyezi ezingcolile. Kukhona nabanye besifazane abangakwazi ukucabanga ukuthi abesifazane abasesikrinini bajabule ngempela. "

Ezinye izikhalazo ezijwayelekile uQueen azizwayo ukukhanya okungekho kahle, izinhlamvu ezibhalwe ngendlela exakile, ama-gynecological closeups, ama-ejaculation shot ngokweqile. Futhi singayimisa yini ngendaba yokulethwa kwePizza Guy, vele?

Ezingqondweni zethu kuphela, ngokusobala, singabaphathi bezizinda zethu uqobo. Futhi nge-porn elalelwayo, singazenzela ukubukwa okuhambisana nezinto esizithandayo nalokho esikuthandayo, noma ngabe kuhluke kanjani.

Ukufinyelela

Kwabanye, i-porn engabonakali ayikona okhethwayo - imayelana nokufinyelela.

Ku-2016, i-Pornhub yethule isigaba esithi "Ividiyo echaziwe" enikeza izincazelo zomsindo wesenzo esisesikrinini sabantu abalahlekelwe umbono. Manje kukhona futhi "Imodi Engaboni kahle" enefonti enwetshiwe, ukugqama kombala okwenziwe ngokwezifiso, nezinqamuleli zekhibhodi.

"Ukufinyeleleka yinto ebesigxile kakhulu kuyo," kuchaza uCorey Price, usekela-mongameli we-Pornhub. “Sifuna abantu bakwazi ukuzulazula kwipulatifomu yethu ngaphandle komthungo futhi bathole ukuzijabulisa kwabantu abadala ngayo yonke inkazimulo yayo. Sihlala njalo sifuna izindlela… zokwenza ukuthi kufinyeleleke kuwo wonke umuntu. "

Ukubukwa kulezi zigaba kudlule okulindelwe.

"Manje sesiyakwazi ukuzinakekela cishe abantu abayizigidi eziyizinkulungwane eziyi-1.3 emhlabeni wonke abaphila nohlobo oluthile lokukhubazeka kombono," kusho uPrice.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ukucabanga kuyingxenye yemvelo yokuzibandakanya kwezocansi nokuvusa inkanuko, kusho uQueen. "Abelaphi abaningi bezocansi benza imali yabo bakhuthaze amaklayenti ukuthi acabange noma asebenze ngamahloni angahambisana nalokhu nezinye izici zobulili."

Kungabiza kancane, ingasaphathwa eyokujabulisa kakhulu, ukulalela okuthile okukuvula.

Kukhona nenjabulo eyimfihlo yokukwazi ukujabulela izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ngasese ngenkathi usesidlangalaleni, uMcGuire uveza. "Ubani ongasola ukuthi lokho kuza ngezindlebe zabagibeli noma isitiriyo emotweni yomuntu obhajwe ezimotweni?"

UStephanie Booth ungumbhali ozinze ePortland, e-Oregon, izindaba zakhe ezivele ezitolo ezinjengeReal Simple, O, Psychology Today, The Washington Post, neSalon. Lapho engabhali, angancamela ukuhamba izintaba noma ekilasini le-yoga, kepha ukuphuza ikhofi kuhle, futhi.