Lawa ma-BFF afakazela ukuthi uBuddy Wokuzivocavoca Angaba namandla Kangakanani

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• UKadie + Megan
• Cessie + Stephanie
• Donna + Lauren
• U-Leslie + Kristen
• UGabbey + Elle
• Rachael + Lisa
• UJenna + Becca
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Ukujuluka nomngane wokujima kunezinzuzo eziningi. Kokunye, kusobala ukuthi kumnandi kakhulu kunokusebenza wedwa. Kukhona futhi isici sokuziphendulela: Ukuphuma emsebenzini ohleliwe kuzwakala kukhubazekile lapho othile ekulinde ukuthi uvele. Uma kukhulunywa ngokusebenza ngaphandle, kukhona ukuphepha ngezinombolo. Futhi ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukusebenza ndawonye kunezinzuzo ezinkulu zokwandisa ukuqina nobude bokuzivocavoca kwakho.

Isibonelo, ocwaningweni lwango-2016, abacwaningi base-University of Aberdeen eScotland bathola ukuthi ukuba nomlingani ozivocavoca umzimba kuphakamisa imvamisa yokuzivocavoca umzimba ngenxa yokuxhaswa ngokomzwelo nesikhuthazo abangasinikezwa abalingani bomsebenzi. Ucwaningo olucashunwe kabanzi olwenziwa ngo-2012 oluvela eKansas State University olwabeka izilingo nabesifazane abaneminyaka yobudala basekolishi emabhayisikili amile lwathola ukuthi abesifazane ababezilolonga nomlingani ababona ukuthi bangabadlali kakhulu bakhuphula isikhathi sabo sokuzivocavoca nokuqina ngamaphesenti angama-200 (!) . Ku, olunye ucwaningo olushicilelwe ku- Ukuxhumana Kwemvelo eyenziwe yi-MIT Sloan School of Management, ososayensi balandele abagijimi abangaphezu kwesigidi 1 esikhathini esingangonyaka, behlola umthelela wokuxhumana nabantu. Bathole ukuthi abantu bathambekele kakhulu ekuzilolongeni ngemuva kokubona othile kunethiwekhi yabo ekwenza kuqala, ukuqina bekuyathathelana.

Ngamathuba amaningi okuqina kweqembu kulezi zinsuku-kusuka emakilasini kuya ekusebenzeni kwangaphandle kuya ekugijimeleni amakilabhu-futhi kuza nethuba lokwakha ubungani obusha obedlulela ngale kwezindonga zokuzivocavoca (i-BTW, yingakho kungaba nzima ukwenza abangane njengomuntu omdala). Ukusebenza ndawonye futhi kuyindlela enhle yokuchitha isikhathi nabangane bakho bamanje-yithi, esikhundleni sokubamba ama-cocktails ngemuva komsebenzi, uphakamisa ama-dumbbells ndawonye esikhundleni salokho. "Sibona amalungu ethu amaningi efaka u-Hatha endaweni yehora lenjabulo namakamu okuqeqeshwa e-brunch," kusho u-Dara Theodore, inhloko yezokuzivocavoca e-ClassPass, ehlanganisa izici zokuxhumana nabantu ukuze ubhukhe futhi uye emakilasini nabangani.

Kepha, empeleni, ukuguqula kanjani ukuxhumana okungajwayelekile nabesifazane esimweni sokuzivocavoca kube ubungani bangempela, ngaphandle kokuzizwa ungakhululekile noma udidekile? Impendulo iyafana naleyo umama wakho ayengase akunikeze yona mayelana nesoka lakho lokuqala: Thatha kancane.

"Qala ngokumane ube nobungane futhi uhlose izingxoxo zemizuzu emithathu kuya kwemihlanu, ubuze ukuthi ulithathephi ibhulukwe lakhe le-yoga noma ubuze ukuthi usebenze isikhathi esingakanani lapho. Ekupheleni kwengxoxo emfushane, zazise futhi ushintshane ngamagama ukuze ngekusasa ongambingelela ngalo ngegama, "kuphakamisa uShasta Nelson, uchwepheshe wobungani kanye ne-CEO yeGirlFriendCircles.com.

Ukusuka lapho, bekezela ngenqubo. Shintshanani imizuzu embalwa yengxoxo njalo lapho nibonana-buzani ukuthi wenzeni ngempelasonto edlule noma yiziphi izifundo abeza kuzo kamuva ngesonto. “Umgomo uwukuba nombono omuhle, ubungane, nokungaguquguquki ngokuhamba kwesikhathi njengoba kancane kancane nithola izinto ezincane ngomunye nomunye,” kusho uNelson.

Uma uzizwa ulungile, mmeme ukuthi enze okuthile nawe ngaphambi noma ngemva kwekilasi ngesinye isikhathi-mhlawumbe aphuze ikhofi noma i-smoothie engumakhelwane, noma nibheke indawo yokudlela entsha ndawonye. Uma usuqedile ukulengisa ngaphandle kwesipiliyoni sakho sokuqina, uzoba nesikhathi esithe xaxa sokukhuluma futhi nazane ngempela.

Inzuzo eyodwa enkulu yokwenza abangani ngokuqina komzimba yisici sokuphindaphinda: Amakilasi noma ukusebenza okuhleliwe njalo kunikeza ithuba lokubona abantu abafanayo, okungenzeka ukuthi babelana ngamanani akho ezempilo afanayo uma bevela njalo. "Ubungani kumele bube nokuphindaphinda ukusuka phansi, ngakho-ke uma sibona abantu abafanayo njalo, khona-ke siqala ukuzizwa sijwayelana kakhulu," kuphawula uNelson.

Futhi, okuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe kuvame ukudala izibopho eziqinile. "Ukushintsha umzimba wakho kungokomzwelo, ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane," kusho uKate Lemere, ongumqeqeshi oqinisekiswe yiNCSF eBarry's Bootcamp eChicago. "Ngakho-ke, abantu ohlanganyela nabo ngenkathi uphishekela ngenkuthalo ushintsho lobu budlelwano obukhetheke ngempela - obungafani nobunye."

Udinga ukukhuthazwa okwengeziwe ukuze uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala? Thatha ugqozi kulaba bangane abangahlukaniseki, labo ngamunye bathola ubungani ngokuqina ngezindlela zabo. (Futhi uma lezi zindaba ezimnandi zingakukholisi, funda ukuthi kungani abangane bengukhiye wempilo nenjabulo ehlala njalo.)

UKadie + Megan

Cishe eminyakeni emine edlule, uKadie wabonakala ekilasini letimu ye-Halloween ye-Pure Barre yangakubo endaweni Mina Ngithanda uLucy imvunulo. Lapho umfundisi, uMegan, ebona ingubo yakhe, wathi "kufanele babe abangane." U-Kadie uthi ukukhuthazwa njalo kuka-Megan ngokujima (nokungamenzi azizwe eyisithutha ngokugqoka) kwakuyisizathu sokuthi aqhubeke ebuyela ekilasini-futhi wagcina esenguthisha ngokwakhe. Ngenkathi uKadie efuna ukuqala ikilabhu lesidlo sasemini edolobheni labo laseMontgomery, AL, uMegan wayengomunye wabantu bokuqala abamemayo, futhi ubungani babo bakhula. Manje bahlangana ndawonye njalo emakilasini, ebusuku bamantombazane, iklabhu yesidlo sakusihlwa, noma izingosi zebhola lezinyawo.

Cessie + Stephanie

Ngesikhathi uCessie ethuthela eNew York okokuqala, wathola iCrossFit ayithandayo e-Eastside ngeClassPass. Ngolunye usuku, waya kuStephanie, naye owayejwayelekile, ngoba wayebone ukwehla okukhulu kwesisindo sakhe, futhi wabuza ukuthi ubekade enzani ukubukeka emuhle kangako. Kancane kancane baqala ukuhlangana ngaphandle kwejimu bathola ukuthi bahlala emabhuloki amabili kuphela komunye nomunye. Manje sebethanda ukuzivocavoca ngaphandle ndawonye, ​​noma ngabe ukuhamba izintaba noma ukukha i-apula-ngobusuku obuthile obuphonswe kuma-tacos / tequila.

Donna + Lauren

Ngemuva kokuthi ukuqeqeshwa komuntu ngamunye kubize kakhulu, uDonna wajoyina amakilasi eqembu lakhe labaqeqeshi eTampa Bay, FL, lapho ahlangana khona noLauren. Umqeqeshi wayenabo ohlelweni lokudla oluqinile ngaleso sikhathi, futhi bahambisana "nobuqiniso" babo -U-Donna udalule ukuthanda kwakhe amakhekhe e-Ritz kanye noshizi okhilimu, kuyilapho u-Lauren evuma ukulutheka kwakhe kwe-M&M. Ukuvuma amaphutha abo komunye nomunye kwakha isibopho esiqinile. Izingxoxo zabo ziqale ngesikhathi sokulinda imishini ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa futhi zaqala ukuhamba ndawonye, ​​ukuqala iklabhu lezincwadi, nokuhlangana ndawonye namadodana nabayeni babo.

U-Leslie + Kristen

ULeslie noKristen bobabili babezinikele esimisweni sabo seStairmill ejimini yabo yaseChicago, futhi yize babevame ukukhuphuka eduze komunye nomunye, abakaze bakhulume kuze kube yilapho uLeslie ngelinye ilanga enza isinyathelo sokuqala. Izinkulumo ezincane zaba yinto yabo ejwayelekile noma nini lapho behlangana, futhi bathola ukuthi bobabili bazama ukukhulelwa (kwanhlanga zimuka nomoya). Ngesikhathi ubudlelwano babo sebuphenduka ubungani, kusho uLeslie, usuku lapho athola khona uKristen ekhala egunjini lokushintshela ngenxa yezinkinga zakhe zokuzala - "kwaba lapho lapho sasuka ekubeni ngabangani bejimu saya kubangani-abangani," usho njalo. Namuhla, uLeslie unamadodakazi amabili kanti uKristen usanda kubeletha indodana yakhe yesihlanu.

UGabbey + Elle

Umcimbi we-Tone It Up enkambini ye-Las Vegas-boot elandelwa i-boozy brunch-okuvele kwaba isiphetho sika-Gabbey no-Elle, "abasanda kuchofoza" lapho behlangana, kusho u-Gabbey. Ekuqaleni, u-Elle wayengeyena umuntu ojwayele ukuya ekilasini, kodwa manje laba ababili bathanda ukubahlanganisa, futhi bahlangana njalo ukuze benze okuthile okusebenzayo masonto onke. Lapho enye yezimpelesi zikaGabbey kufanele iwushiye kungazelelwe umshado wayo, uGabbey wacela u-Elle ukuba athathe indawo yakhe. Uhlela ukuhlela i-yoga noma ama-Pilates eGabbey phakathi nesonto lakhe lomshado ukuze amsize anciphise.

Rachael + Lisa

Ngenkathi uRachael noLisa behlangana ngezikhathi ezithile endaweni yokucima ukoma e-LA ngokusebenzisa abangane bobabili, bahleka lapho bethola ukuthi bazokwazana ngaphambi kuka-Rachael owayengumqeqeshi wokuzivocavoca umzimba wekilasi lokuzivocavoca umzimba eliphelele uLisa ayelithatha e-Ohio University. Ngokushesha baqala ukuhlela izinsuku ezisebenzayo ndawonye, ​​njengokunyuka ekuseni ezindleleni zeHollywood Hills ngaphambi komsebenzi, base besebenza indlela yabo yokujaha imijaho engu-5K no-10K ndawonye. Ubungani babo buneminyaka eyi-12 futhi buyaqina, futhi uRachael uthi akukho msebenzi wokuzivocavoca abangazange bawenze.

UJenna + Becca

Indaba yalaba bangani ababili ibuyela emuva: UJenna noBecca bahlangana beneminyaka engu-8 no-9 ngenkathi bencintisana neqembu labo lendawo lokubhukuda eMichigan. Ukubeka kwabangu-10 abahamba phambili ukuze badlulisele phambili kwaba umzuzu wokuqala omkhulu abawabelana ndawonye, ​​futhi njengoba bobabili beqhubeka neqembu lokubhukuda esikoleni esiphakeme, basondelana kakhulu, baze bathandana nabangane ababili abakhulu futhi baziwa njenge "quad squad." Manje behlala ezweni lonke bendawonye, ​​kodwa basahlela "isonto labangane abakhulu" elivamile -uhambo lwabo lokugcina luhlanganisa ukugibela ibhayisikili okungamakhilomitha angu-40 ngasogwini lwaseCalifornia, i-ziplining, izintaba kanye, kunjalo, nokubhukuda.

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