Umlingisikazi u-Beth Behrs Uthola Okuwukuphela Kwe-Detox Okufanele Ukwenze

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• Thola okuhle okufiswa ngumzimba wakho.
• Kulungile Ukuba Nobugovu Kancane
• Akusekho FOMO!
• Ncika ohlelweni lwakho lokusekela lapho udinga.
• Bona ngeso lengqondo okufunayo futhi ukwenze kwenzeke.
• Ungahambi nge-cold turkey.
• Cabanga ngokwelashwa kwezilwane.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Phakamisa isandla uma ubuke osaziwayo bencipha (okubonakala sengathi ubusuku bonke) ngenxa yokudla noma i-detox abafunga ngayo. Ngakho-ke, unquma ukulandela okulandelayo: chug ujusi wabo obabayo, udle umoya, bese ugoqa umzimba wakho ezindaweni ezingakhululekile zokukhipha ubuthi. Kodwa ngoba ini? Imvamisa ukuyeka, ukuzibambela phansi ekunqobeni, nokuzitika ngosizi lwakho kude (kuze kube yilapho okunye ukudla okwehlisayo kuthakazelisa intshisekelo yakho, okungukuthi).

Yebo, Beth Behrs of Amantombazane Amabili Aphukile ulapha ukushintsha konke lokho. Incwadi yakhe entsha, Ingqikithi Ye-Me-Tox: Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukudla Kwakho, Unyakazise Umzimba Wakho & Uthande Impilo Yakho, akusona isiqondiso esithi "yenza njengoba ngisho futhi uzoba mncane ngokumangalisayo njengezinkanyezi". Eqinisweni, umlingisi wenza okuphambene. Ukhuthazekile ukuthi adale "i-me-tox" ngemuva kokukhulisa "i-grayscale" ezichazayo, Umdlalo wema-ThroneUkuqubuka kwesitayela "emzimbeni wakhe wonke. Ngemuva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha zokuhlolwa kwamathambo nokuvakashelwa odokotela, uBehrs wagcina esebonile ukuthi inkinga yakhe kwakungeyona i-psoriasis noma inkinga ezenzakalelayo, umzimba wakhe wawuvukela ekudleni kwakhe ukudla okungenamsoco notshwala. Kodwa kunokuba azenzele ephatheke kabi futhi wakhipha konke okubandayo, wathola izindlela zokwehlisa ubumnene ngenkathi enakekela futhi elalele umzimba wakhe.

"Wonke umuntu wehlukile. Abanye abantu bayathanda ukugijima futhi kuyindlela yokwelapha kubo, futhi abanye abantu abakwazi ukumelana nakho. Futhi ngibona sengathi kuningi kakhulu emphakathini wethu lapho uzigweba khona ngokwalokho ocabanga ukuthi udinga ukukwenza. , "Kuchaza uBehrs. "Ngiqhutshwa kakhulu futhi bengihlala ngikhona, kepha ukubeka nini ukuzinakekela kuqala? Kubaluleke kakhulu ngoba ukuze uzuze impumelelo, kumele uthathe isikhathi ukwehlisa ijubane futhi uzazi kuqala."

Manje, lokho imantra esingayithola ngemuva. Qhubeka ufunda ngoba siqonde ngqo kwa-Behrs ukuze sithole iseluleko sakhe esingcono kakhulu sokutholela i-"me-tox" ekufanele.

Thola okuhle okufiswa ngumzimba wakho.

UBehrs uthi ukhule enokukhathazeka okungasile nokuhlaselwa ukwethuka. "Ukuzindla kushintshe izici eziningi zempilo yami kangangokuthi uma ngingakwenzi, ngizizwa kabi," esho, "Ngakho-ke ngenza isikhathi sakho." Uma usuthole okuthile okunempilo okuthandwa ngumzimba wakho, namathela kukho. Awuqinisekile ukuthi uyini umsebenzi wakho noma ukudla? Zinike isikhathi. "Udinga ngempela ukuzibophezela isikhathi esithile ubone ukuthi senza kanjani ukuthi umzimba wakho uzizwe. Ngethemba ukuthi uwubona ngokwanele umehluko ozonamathela kuwo, futhi uma kungenjalo, qhubeka uzame ezinye izinto uze uthole okulungile kwakho." UBehrs uncoma ukuzivocavoca umzimba lapho ufunda khona ikhono elithile njengobuciko bempi noma ithenisi ngoba esikhundleni sokugxila ekusebenziseni amafutha, uyaqina futhi ufunda ikhono. "Uyakhohlwa njengoba usazama ukuthi ukhiphe isitho somzimba ongasithandi futhi esivela endaweni yenjabulo-hhayi ukwahlulela."

Kulungile Ukuba Nobugovu Kancane

AbakwaBehrs bafuna ukuthi abesifazane bacabange kabusha igama elithi "ukuzicabangela wena wedwa" Kulula ukucabanga ngokuthatha isikhathi sethu, kude nabangane bethu, umndeni, umsebenzi, kanye neminye imithwalo yemfanelo njengento engeyinhle-kepha empeleni kubalulekile ku-me-tox yakho. "Sifuna ukupha, ukupha, ukunikeza ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa awukwazi ukukhonza emkhunjini ongenalutho. Ungavumeli ukuthatha isikhathi sakho ukuze uzizwe unecala noma ukhathazekile," usho kanje. "Yazi ukuthi kubalulekile ukuzikhonza kangcono njengomama, noma emphakathini wakho, noma emsebenzini wakho. Uma uvela endaweni yokuthola okuzwakala kukuhle, ukuqina kuyakunika amandla."

Akusekho FOMO!

Uthandaze kangaki konkulunkulu bempilo yomphakathi ukuthi izinhlelo zakho zikhanselwe? Kungani sesaba kangaka ukuphuthelwa ebusuku sibe sazi ukuthi akuyona into esizizwa sifuna ukuyenza? Ngabe ulahlekelwa ngempela uma ubuka ifoni yakho, ulinde ithuba lokuphunyuka? Yebo, ukuthi cha, yize kubalulekile futhi kuguqula impilo, kuba lula ngokuzijwayeza. "Empeleni nginomuzwa wokuthi lapho uzazi kangcono, yilapho usufuna kakhulu ukuhlanganyela nawe, futhi ujabulele leso sikhathi sokwenza noma yini ekujabulisayo," kusho u-Behrs. Esinye isixazululo ukukhumbula ukuthi akukhona konke ukuphuma okufanele kube ngolaka ubusuku bonke. AmaBehrs nezintombi zakhe bavame ukuzibophezela enyangeni yokuzinakekela ukuze bakwazi ukuthatha i-yoga, ukuzindla, noma bavele nje embhedeni ndawonye. "Kodwa ubuhlobo bujule kakhulu kuwe, ngokuzindla nokunakekela umzimba wakho, kuba lula ukusho ukuthi, 'Ngeke ngiphume kuleli sonto ngoba ngidinga ukulala kahle ebusuku." khohlwa-kuhlale kuneviki elizayo lapho uzizwa ungcono ngakho!

Ncika ohlelweni lwakho lokusekela lapho udinga.

"Angiphelele. Kusekhona ekuseni lapho ngivuka futhi nginjengokuthi, 'Ugh, cellulite wami,'" kuvuma uBehrs. Isikhali sakhe esiyimfihlo sokulwa nokuzilimaza ukuncika ezintwenimbi eziphindeke kabili njengohlelo lwakhe lokumeseka kusukela esikoleni esiphakeme noma ekolishi. "Bangamadwala ami nje, futhi siyakhuthazana. Basempilweni impela nemizimba yabo ngendlela enempilo, hhayi evela endleleni ethi 'Kufanele ngibe nesisindo esithile'," usho kanje. Kodwa, uma ungenayo inhlanhla yokuhlala edolobheni elifanayo nabangane bakho abaseduze kakhulu, funa umphakathi onomqondo ofanayo ezindaweni ezifana nezitudiyo ze-yoga noma izikhungo zethenisi-endaweni lapho ungahlangana khona nabanye ababeka phambili ukuzivocavoca nokuzi- ukunakekelwa.

Bona ngeso lengqondo okufunayo futhi ukwenze kwenzeke.

Bathi ingqondo iyinto enamandla. Uma ukwazi "ukubona" ​​amaphupho akho nezinhloso zakho, ungaziveza zibe ngokoqobo. Uyangabaza? Zama ukwakha ibhodi lemibono. "Mina nezintombi zami siyahlangana sizenze kanye ngonyaka. Ngineyodwa engiyivale endlini yami yokugezela ihlekwa yisoka ngoba kumanje inezimbuzi kodwa nginephupho lokuba nepulazi," kuhleka uBehrs. . Ukukhunjuzwa ngezinhloso zakho, noma ngabe ugeza amazinyo noma ungakalali, kungakushintsha ukuthi ukwenze kanjani ukuzwa mayelana nemigomo yakho-ukuyithatha kusuka ekungenakwenzeka ukuyifinyelela. "Ngiyakholelwa emthethweni wokuheha. Umdlali webhola lezinyawo waseMelika uCarli Lloyd ukhuluma ngakho konke ngendlela akhombise futhi wawabona ngayo wonke amagoli awathola eNdebeni yoMhlaba. Wayazi ukuthi uzowashaya wonke lawo magoli, wabe esekwenza . "

Ungahambi nge-cold turkey.

Uma ushukela kuyinto eqhubekayo empilweni yakho, ungayinqamuli ngasikhathi sinye noma uzibekela ukwehluleka. "Zama usuku olulodwa ngesonto futhi uqaphele umehluko emzimbeni wakho, futhi usebenze ngendlela yakho," kusikisela uBehrs. "Lapho udedela ukuqonda, ukusebenza, nokwahlulela, uyaqaphela ukuthi asikho isikhathi esinqunyiwe. Ayikho incwadi yomthetho ethi kufanele unqamule ushukela ngobusuku obubodwa (ngaphandle kwalapho unohlobo oluthile lwesifo sokudla noma ukuvinjelwa)." Lapho usuqale ukuzizwa-nangokomzimba izinzuzo, kuba lula kakhulu. "Kungazwakala kulula ukusika okuthile nge-turkey ebandayo bese uthi, 'Hawu, ngizokwenza inyanga kuphela.' Kodwa-ke lapho leyo nyanga isiphelile futhi usafuna amakhukhi e-chocolate chip? Kungakuhle kakhulu ukuqala kancane. "

Cabanga ngokwelashwa kwezilwane.

Kulabo abanezinja noma amakati, wake wakuphawula yini ukuthi uma ucindezelekile, kubonakala sengathi kunjalo yazi Udinga ukugonwa? Kunesizathu salokho. Izilwane ziphendula ubuqiniso bakho, okuthile uBehrs akufunde mathupha ngokusebenza namahhashi. “Bangisizile impela ukuthi ngehlise ijubane bangifundisa nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba phansi nakhona okwamanje,” kusho uBehrs. "Amahhashi azokuziba ngokuphelele uma wesaba futhi uzama ukuzenza ongeyena. Uma uthembekile ngokwesaba kwakho, bazokuhambela." Indlela elula yokuzijwayeza-ikakhulukazi uma ungakwazi ukufinyelela amahhashi-ukushiya ifoni yakho ekhaya lapho uthatha inja yakho ukuyohamba ngezinyawo. "Izilwane zihlala esikhathini samanje. Sebenzisa izindlela zakho ukuthola ukuthi kusho ukuthini lokho," esho.

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