UCassey Ho Uveza Ukushikashikeka Nokungaqiniseki Mayelana Nomshado Nobumama

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UCassey Ho wamaBlogilates sekuyisikhathi eside eyincwadi evulekile namabutho akhe abalandeli. Ukuthi uchaza ngezinkinga zezithombe zomzimba wakhe ngendlela esobala ngokumangalisayo noma ukuphumela obala ngokunye ukungazethembi kwakhe, umuzwa we-Instagram wabelane ngezici ezihlukahlukene zempilo yakhe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, waze waxoxa okokuqala ngqa ukuthi uzizwa kanjani mayelana nesici esithile sekusasa lakhe.

Kuvidiyo efakwe ekhasini lakhe le-Instagram ngoMsombuluko, uHo ujabulela iholidi elimnandi eBora Bora nomyeni wakhe, uSam Livits, ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu bebophe ifindo likasofa silahlane. Nakuba isiqeshana esiphuphile sibonisa umbhangqwana wokugcoba nge-Champagne futhi ugxumela emanzini aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, u-Ho usebenzisa ividiyo yohambo lwe-honeymoon njengesizathu sokwethembeka okukhulu ngesihloko esibalulekile; kumagama-ncazo, uyaqhubeka edalula ukungabaza kwakhe ngomshado nokuba ngumama, kanye nendlela "ayesabe ngayo" ukwabelana ngayo nabalandeli bakhe. (Kuhlobene: U-Cassie Ho Wabelana Ngokuthi Kungani Ngisho Naye Ezizwa Njengokwehluleka Kwesinye isikhathi).

"Amaholidi omshado kufanele abe yisiqalo sesigaba esilandelayo sempilo phakathi kombhangqwana. Futhi kufanele ngithembeke kini. Ngiyesaba," kuqala uHo. "Ngenkathi u- @ samlivits nami siqala usuku lwethu lokuqala ekolishi, wathi 'ngizoba ubaba omuhle impela.' 😅 Ngokusobala ngangingakakulungeli ukukhuluma izinto ezinjalo phakathi kwemigomo emaphakathi namaphepha ocwaningo. Futhi, ngangingakayitholi 'imvume' yokuthandana nomama wami!"

Njengoba ubudlelwano bakhe noLivits "buba bucayi kakhulu," uHo ubhale ukuthi "waletha umqondo womshado," kepha yena "wayengazizwa elungele" ngaleso sikhathi. Lapho uLivits enza isiphakamiso eminyakeni eyisishiyagalolunye kamuva, uHo wathi, "Nakuba ngangicabanga ukuthi ngangingakakulungeli, akubanga nandaba ngoba kwavula izinga elisha lothando ebudlelwaneni bethu engangingakaze ngilizwe ngaphambili."

Manje njengoba sebeneminyaka emithathu beshadile, uHo uphawule ngoMsombuluko ukuthi "leyonto uSam ayisho kimi ekolishi eminyakeni eyi-13 eyedlule iyisihloko esingasakwazi ukugwenywa."

"Nsuku zonke ngemva komshado uSam wayengibuza ukuthi 'manje sizoba nini umntwana?' futhi bengithi oh iminyaka embalwa. ' Indaba efanayo. Ngangizizwa ngingakulungele ngoba umsebenzi wami wawungekho lapho engangifuna ube khona,” kuchaza uHo. "Ngiyesaba ukukutshela lokhu ngoba mhlawumbe kungenye yezinto ezibucayi kakhulu engake ngavuleleka ngazo. Cishe enye yezinto ezingahlobene kakhulu futhi."

Uqhube wathi, "Ngokungafani nabo bonke abantu besifazane engakhulela kubo, ukuba nengane yinto abavele bazi ukuthi bayayifuna. Mina? Angazi noma kungenxa yendlela engakhuliswa ngayo (super academic + career focused) noma uma kunokuthile okuncane 'kwesifazane' ngami, kodwa angisitholi leso sifiso sangaphakathi sokuba ngumama. " (Okuhlobene: Abesifazane abayi-6 bahlanganyela ukuthi bakwenza kanjani ukuba ngumama kanye nemikhuba yabo yokusebenza).

UHo ukubeke kwacaca ukuthi akazizondi izingane noma akafuni ukuba ngumama, kodwa kunalokho uzizwa "engenakho" lokho kubizwa kwemvelo "kobumama okubonakala sengathi abesifazane abaningi banakho. Uphi owami?"

“Kuyaxaka ngoba bengihlala ngigqugquzelwa ngothando,” ubhale kanje. "Ngilandela inhliziyo yami futhi ihlale ingikhombisa indlela efanele. Kodwa ngalokhu, inhliziyo yami ayikakhulumi futhi angifuni ukuzisola ngokuphuthelwa yilesi sigameko sempilo."

Ephendula ngokuthumela umlayezo oqotho, u-Ho usanda kutshela Umumo ukuthi wayekholelwa ukuthi abanye besifazane bazokuthola okuthunyelwe kwakhe "kungahlotshaniswa," kodwa wamangala.

"Ngangicabanga ngobuqotho ukuthi abanye besifazane bazothola okuthunyelwe kwami ​​​​okungahlobene kakhulu, futhi ngangikulungele ukuhlehla. Kodwa okwangimangaza ... abaningi bathi bazizwa ngendlela efanayo. Ngamangala ngokuphelele. Ngangingenawo omunye IDEA enye. Abesifazane bekuzwa lokhu "ukungabi nokudonsa" maqondana nokuba ngumama! Ngangilokhu ngicabanga ukuthi yimi engixakile ngoba bonke abesifazane engangikhule nabo babazi ukuthi bafuna izingane zisencane. Mina ngakolunye uhlangothi - ngangihlale ngifundile nokuzikhandla emsebenzini. Mhlawumbe bekuhlangene nendlela engikhuliswe ngayo, "kusho uHo.

"Kunoma ngubani odonsa kanzima ngenkulumo-mpikiswano yezingane - ngiyakukhuthaza ukuthi ukhulume nazo zonke izinhlobo zabesifazane futhi ulalele konke okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukene kanye nemibono ehlukene omama nabangewona omama. Ngilalele futhi ngiyafunda. Ngifuna ukuthi ngikwazi ukuthatha isinqumo futhi ngizethembe engikukhethile, kodwa okwamanje angizizwa sengathi ngazi okwanele okwamanje, "eqhubeka.

UHo kamuva uvulele abalandeli bakhe ngokukhishwa kokwesekwa akutholile ochungechungeni lwe-Instagram Stories.

"Bengingazi ukuthi bangaki abanye besifazane laphaya abazizwa ngale ndlela futhi," kubhalwe uHo. "Ngizwe sengathi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngami ... Ngiyabonga ngokuqonda kahle ngalesi sihloko. Ngizizwa ngingedwa."

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