Ungalahla kanjani ukwesaba kwakho ukukhuluma obala

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• Ukuzivocavoca kokukhuluma obala ngaphandle kokungingiza
• Izeluleko Zokukhuluma Emphakathini
• 1. Wazi umphakathi
• 2. Ukuphefumula
• 3. Funda futhi uzijwayeze
• 4. Sebenzisa izinsiza-kufundisa
• 5. Ulimi lomzimba
• 6. Ungesabi imibuzo

Ukukhuluma esidlangalaleni kungaba yisimo esidala ukungaphatheki kahle kwabanye abantu, okungadala ukujuluka okubandayo, izwi elixegayo, ukubanda esiswini, ukukhohlwa nokuthinteka, isibonelo. Kodwa-ke, ukusebenza phambi kwabantu abangaphezu koyedwa kubalulekile kokubili nangokomqondo wobungcweti.

Ukwehlisa izimpawu zokwethuka nokuvumela abantu ukuthi bakhulume ngokuthula, ngokuzethemba nangokuphepha phambi kwabantu abaningana, kunezindlela namasu amaningana aqinisekisa impumelelo lapho ukhuluma esidlangalaleni, njengezindlela zokuphumula nokufunda ngezwi eliphakeme, ngokwesibonelo.

Ukuzivocavoca kokukhuluma obala ngaphandle kokungingiza

Ukungingiza kuvame ukuvela ngenxa yamahloni, amahloni, ukungazethembi noma ukwethuka lapho ukhuluma nabantu abangaphezu koyedwa, okungaxazululwa ngokuzivocavoca okuthile okuphumuza izwi nengqondo, kusiza ukunciphisa ukungingiza, okufana nalokhu:

• Funda umbhalo ngokuzwakalayo nangokucacile phambi kwesibuko bese ufunda umbhalo ofanayo koyedwa, ababili noma iqembu labantu njengoba uzizwa ukhululekile;
• Uma ungingiza, cabanga ukuthi uyingingingi, ngoba lokhu kunika ukuzethemba okukhulu kumuntu futhi kumenze anethezeke kulezi zimo;
• Yenza izivivinyo zokuphumula kwengqondo, njengokuzindla, ngokwesibonelo, njengoba kukuvumela ukuthi unake kakhulu ukuphefumula kwakho, okusiza ukuthi uphumule - Bheka izinyathelo ezi-5 zokuzindla wedwa;
• Ngaphezu kokufunda umbhalo phambi kwesibuko, zama ukukhuluma nganoma yini enye, ukuthi usuku lwakho belunjani futhi luyisihloko esingahleliwe, ngoba lokhu kusiza ezikhathini lapho okuthile kungenzeki njengokuhlelile, okungenza umuntu uvalo futhi ngenxa yalokho angingiza;
• Zama ukufaka isigqi enkulumweni, ngoba lapho amagama enwetshiwe, aqala ukubizwa ngendlela engokwemvelo, anciphise ukungingiza.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho uphambi kwezilaleli, ukugwema ukungingiza nje kuphela, kepha nokwesaba, umuntu angakugwema ukubheka ngqo abantu, agxile emaphuzu asezansi kwegumbi. Njengoba umuntu ezizwa enokuzethemba futhi enethezekile, kubalulekile ukubheka izethameli ngamehlo, ngoba lokhu kunika ukwethembeka okwengeziwe kulokho okushiwoyo. Funda kabanzi ngokuzivocavoca kokungingiza.

Izeluleko Zokukhuluma Emphakathini

Kuyinto evamile ukuthi uvalo luvele ngaphambi kwengxoxo yomsebenzi, ukwethulwa komsebenzi, inkulumo noma iphrojekthi ebalulekile, isibonelo. Kodwa-ke, kukhona amathiphu akusiza uphumule futhi wenze isikhathi sikhanyise, njengesibonelo:

1. Wazi umphakathi

Enye yezindlela zokuthola ukuzethemba lapho ukhuluma esidlangalaleni ukwazi izithameli zakho, okungukuthi, ukwazi ukuthi uzokhuluma nobani, isilinganiso seminyaka, izinga lemfundo nolwazi ngale ndaba, isibonelo. Ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi wakhe inkhulumomphendvulwano ehloselwe izethameli, engenza isikhathi sikhululeke kakhudlwana.

2. Ukuphefumula

Ukuphefumula kuyinto ebalulekile, njengoba kusiza ukuphumula ngezikhathi zokwethuka nokukhathazeka. Kuyathakazelisa ukunaka ukuphefumula kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukuphumula futhi wenze umzuzwana ube lula futhi ungokwemvelo ngokwengeziwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho isethulo side kakhulu, kuyathakazelisa ukuthatha ikhefu ukulawula ukuphefumula nokuhlela imicabango, isibonelo.

3. Funda futhi uzijwayeze

Ukutadisha nokwenza kwenza umuntu azizwe elondeke kakhudlwana lapho ethula isihloko emphakathini. Kuyathakazelisa ukuzijwayeza izikhathi eziningana ngokuzwakalayo phambi kwesibuko, ngokwesibonelo, ukuze umuntu azizwe ethembe ngokwengeziwe futhi njengoba kwenzeka, akwethule kwabanye abantu.

Kubalulekile ukuthi ngesikhathi sethulwa umuntu akaphethe amaphepha amaningi kakhulu, isibonelo, noma akhulume ngomshini. Kusebenza ngokwengeziwe ukuba namakhadi amancane aqondisa isethulo, ngokwesibonelo, ngaphezu kokukhuluma ngokukhululeka, sengathi kuyingxoxo. Lokhu kwenza ababukeli babe nentshisekelo enkulu, isethulo asisaxwayi futhi umuntu owethulayo uzizwa ekhululekile.

4. Sebenzisa izinsiza-kufundisa

Okunye okuhlukile kumakhadi, yizinsizakusebenza ezibukwayo, ezivumela umuntu ukuthi akhe isethulo ngendlela ehambisanayo futhi angabi nesidina, enethuba lokwengeza amavidiyo noma imibhalo, isibonelo. Ngaphezu kokwenza isethulo sibe namandla futhi sithakazelise, izinsiza-kufundisa zisebenza njengokusekela umethuli, ikakhulukazi ngezikhathi zokwethuka noma zokukhohlwa.

5. Ulimi lomzimba

Ulimi lomzimba ngesikhathi sethulwa lukhombisa izethameli ukuthi umuntu uzizwa kanjani. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukwamukela ukuma kokuzethemba nokungathí sina, ukugwema ukuma ndawonye, ​​ukwenza ukunyakaza okufanayo umzuzu nomzuzu noma ukuncika entweni ethile, ngokwesibonelo, lokhu kungakhombisa umphakathi ukungavikeleki okuncane nokwesaba.

Kuyathakazelisa ukukhipha izitho zomzimba ngesikhathi sethulwa, uhlanganyele nezethameli, noma ngabe kungokubuka kuphela, khuluma ngokuzethemba futhi wenze amanye amaqhinga okufihla ukuqhaqhazela kwezandla, uma kwenzeka. Kubalulekile futhi ukunakekela ukubukeka, maqondana nokulungela imvelo, ukuze kudluliswe isithombe sobuqotho nokuzethemba.

6. Ungesabi imibuzo

Kujwayelekile ukuthi kuphakame imibuzo phakathi nezethulo noma ngemuva kwezethulo futhi lokhu kungenza umuntu athuke kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, enye yezindlela zokuqinisekisa impumelelo yesethulo sakho kungokubuza imibuzo, okusho ukuthi, kuhle ukuthi abantu banokungabaza, leyo ntshisekelo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi ngesikhathi sesethulo umuntu avulekele imibuzo futhi azi ukuthi angayiqhuba kanjani ngendlela ecacile nenethezekile. Ngalokho, kuyadingeka ukuzethemba futhi ube namandla phezu kwesihloko esethulwayo.