IVerborea: kuyini, kungani kwenzeka nokuthi ungakhuluma kanjani ngokunensa

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• Kungani kwenzeka
• Ungakhuluma kanjani ngokunensa

IVerborea yisimo esivezwa yinkulumo esheshisiwe yabanye abantu, engabangelwa ubuntu babo noma ibe yimiphumela yezimo zansuku zonke. Ngakho-ke, abantu abakhuluma ngokushesha kakhulu bangahle bangawabizi amagama wonke, behluleke ukubiza amagama athile nokuchibiyela elinye igama kwelinye, okungenza kube nzima kwabanye ukuwaqonda.

Ukwelapha i-verborrea, kubalulekile ukukhomba into ebangela lokho, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi umelaphi wezinkulumo kanye nodokotela wezengqondo bangakhombisa ukuzivocavoca okuthile ukusiza umuntu akhulume kancane futhi enze ukuqonda.

Kungani kwenzeka

IVerborea ingaba yisici sobuntu bomuntu, kepha futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke njengomphumela wezimo zansuku zonke, ezinjengesimiso esisheshayo, ukwethuka noma ukukhathazeka, okungenzeka ngesikhathi sethulwa umsebenzi noma ngesikhathi sokuqashwa, ngoba isibonelo.

Kulezi zimo kujwayelekile ukuthi umuntu aqale ukukhuluma ngokushesha kunokujwayelekile, okungaphazamisa kalula ukuqonda kwabanye abantu.

Ungakhuluma kanjani ngokunensa

Lapho inkulumo esheshayo ihlotshaniswa nobuntu, kunzima kumuntu ukuthi ashintshe, kodwa-ke kukhona izeluleko ezithile kanye nokuzivocavoca umzimba okungenziwa ukusiza umuntu ukuthi akhulume ngokunensa, ngokunensa nangokucacile, okwenza kube lula ukuqonda. Ngakho-ke, ezinye izindlela zokukhuluma ngokunensa nokuqeda uvalo yilezi:

• Khuluma ngokucacile, unake igama ngalinye elikhulunyiwe futhi uzama ukukhuluma ngohlamvu ngamalunga;
• Zama ukukhuluma ume kancane, kube sengathi ufunda umbhalo, ume kancane ngemuva kokukhuluma umusho, isibonelo;
• Phefumula lapho ukhuluma;
• Zijwayeze izindlela zokuphumula, ikakhulukazi uma isizathu sokukhuluma ngokukhulu ukushesha wuvalo;
• Lapho ukhuluma nezethameli, funda inkulumo yakho ngokuzwakalayo bese uqopha izwi lakho, ukuze kuthi kamuva ubone ijubane okhuluma ngalo bese ubheka isidingo sokuthatha amakhefu, isibonelo;
• Khulisa ukunyakaza komlomo wakho uma ukhuluma, lokhu kuvumela ukuthi wonke amaqoqo ezinhlamvu omlomo abizwe ngokucacile nangokuhamba kancane.

Imvamisa abantu abakhuluma ngokushesha kakhulu bathinta ukuthinta noma ukucosha abanye abantu phakathi nengxoxo futhi baveze imizimba yabo phambili. Ngakho-ke, enye yezindlela zokukhuluma ngokunensa kakhulu ukunaka indlela yokuziphatha uma ukhuluma nabanye abantu, ukugwema ukuthinta kakhulu, isibonelo. Futhi funda ukukhuluma emphakathini.