Ungamsiza kanjani umuntu ocindezelekile

-Delile

• 1. Sesha ulwazi mayelana nokudangala
• 2. Yenza enye ikhululeke
• 3. Ncoma ukuthi ufune umelaphi
• 4. Yenza izimemo zamasu okuphumula
• 5. Khuthaza ukwelashwa ukuthi kuqhubeke
• 6. Yiba khona
• Ungalufuna nini usizo lwezokwelapha

Lapho umngani noma ilunga lomndeni libhekene nokudangala, ukusiza kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ngakho, wenze omunye akhululeke ukukhuluma ngokwenzekayo, anikeze ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo futhi ancoma ukuthi kufunwe usizo lwengqondo noma lwengqondo.

Ukwelashwa kwengcindezi lapho kuhambisana nomunye walaba bachwepheshe, kanye nokwesekwa ngumndeni kanye nenethiwekhi yabangane, kungasiza omunye ukuthi adlule kulesi sikhathi ngokushesha okukhulu, kuvimbele ukuthi icala lingabi libi kakhulu. Thola ukuthi ukucindezelwa kuphathwa kanjani.

Ezinye izenzo zingasiza ukuhlala nomuntu ocindezelekile, futhi zimsize ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, okufana nalokhu:

1. Sesha ulwazi mayelana nokudangala

Ukufuna imininingwane ejulile nephelele mayelana nokuthi yini ukucindezeleka, izinhlobo ezikhona nokuthi yiziphi izimpawu nezimpawu ezingalethwa yile nkinga yengqondo, isinyathelo sokuqala sokusiza umuntu obhekene nesiqephu sokucindezeleka, ngaleyo ndlela avimbele ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha nezitatimende ezingakwazi ube yingozi kumuntu ocindezelekile. Ukuqonda kangcono ukuthi kuyini ukucindezeleka nokuthi ziyini izimpawu.

Kubalulekile ukuthola imininingwane emithonjeni esemthethweni, kanye nakubachwepheshe ngale ndaba, njengodokotela bengqondo noma odokotela bengqondo, ukuze ngale ndlela sibe nemininingwane efanele futhi, ngaleyo ndlela, sikwazi ukunikeza usizo olukhulu kumuntu ukudana.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukufuna imininingwane engaphezulu kungasiza ekuchazeleni umuntu ukuthi lokho azizwa ukuthi kuphethwe futhi kwathuthukiswa. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungathathi indima yokuba ngumelaphi, ngoba lokhu kungasenza sibe sibi kakhulu isimo sokudangala, ngakho-ke kunconywa ukuthi uzilinganisele kulwazi mayelana nokuthi yini ephephile futhi etholwe emithonjeni ethembekile.

2. Yenza enye ikhululeke

Ukuvumela omunye ukuthi akhulume noma cha ngalesi simo, ukubenza bakhululeke kubaluleke kakhulu lapho kunesifiso sokusiza umuntu odabula isiqephu sokucindezeleka. Kuvamile ukuthi kuphakame ukungabaza ngokuthi izinto zenzeka kanjani nokuthi kungani zenzeka, kodwa-ke, umuntu angaba namahloni ngezizathu ezidale lesi sifo, kepha futhi kungenzeka angabi nayo impendulo yalowo mbuzo.

Kubalulekile ukuthi ungamcindezeli lowo muntu ukuba akhulume noma abuze imibuzo engamenza angakhululeki, ngoba lokhu kungaphazamisa isibopho sokwethembana esidalwayo.

3. Ncoma ukuthi ufune umelaphi

Ukudangala kungukukhubazeka kwengqondo okukhubazayo, kepha kungalawulwa futhi izimpawu nezimpawu zako kunciphise kuze kube yilapho kunyamalala, futhi lokhu kungenzeka kuphela ngokwelashwa kwengqondo, kungaba ngudokotela wezengqondo noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo, ozofundisa umuntu onokudangala ukuthi aqonde ukuthi yini okwenzekayo nokubhekana kahle nokuhlupheka akuzwayo kule nkinga.

4. Yenza izimemo zamasu okuphumula

Izimo eziningi zokudangala zinezinga elithile lokukhathazeka, noma ngabe izimpawu zingabonakali, ngakho-ke ukushiya isimemo esivulekile sokuzijwayeza inqubo yokuphumula, evame ukwenziwa ngababili, kungasiza umuntu ohlangabezana nesiqephu sokucindezeleka, uzizwe ungcono, inqobo nje uma kungumphelelisi wokwelashwa okuvezwe nguchwepheshe.

Ukuzindla, i-yoga, ukwelashwa komculo kanye ne-aromatherapy ngokwesibonelo, ngamasu okuphumula akwazi ukunciphisa amazinga okuxineka emzimbeni, anciphise ubuhlungu bemisipha futhi andise ukukhiqizwa kwe-serotonin, i-hormone ekwaziyo ukudala inhlalakahle. Thola ezinye izindlela ezisiza ekwelapheni ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.

5. Khuthaza ukwelashwa ukuthi kuqhubeke

Ngisho nangemva kokuqala ukwelashwa, akunakwenzeka ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umuntu uzokwazi kangakanani ukuzizwa engcono, ngoba wonke umuntu unezidingo ezihlukene namazinga okucindezeleka, okwenza umuntu owelaswayo azizwe engakhuthazeki futhi engafuni ukuqhubeka, ngenxa yokungaboni Imiphumela.

Kusezandleni zalabo abafuna ukusiza, zama ukwenza lesi simo singakhululeki njengokuxhasa ukuthi enye ayilahlekile, kuqiniswe ukuthi kungakanani okudingekayo noma ukunikela ukuhambisana nomunye ekwelashweni ngokwesibonelo.

6. Yiba khona

Ngisho noma umuntu othintekile ngenxa yengcindezi efuna ukuzihlukanisa nokugwema ukuthintana naye, ukwenza kucace ukuthi uyatholakala lapho kunesidingo, ngaphandle kwengcindezi yokusetha usuku nesikhathi, kungenza omunye azizwe engeyedwa futhi anethezeke ngokwengeziwe ukucela inkampani lapho ucabanga ukuthi kungakulungela.

Ungalufuna nini usizo lwezokwelapha

Kubalulekile ukufuna usizo lwezokwelapha lapho umuntu ekhombisa isimilo nemicabango engabeka impilo yakho engcupheni. Ngakho-ke, kunconywa ukuthi ukuhlolwa noma ukungenelela kwesifo sengqondo kudalulwe lapho umuntu eveza izindaba ezihlobene nokufa, ukuzibulala noma iqiniso lokuthi akafuni ukuzalwa, lapho ukuphuza ngokweqile iziphuzo ezidakayo noma izidakamizwa ezingekho emthethweni kuqinisekisiwe, ukuguqulwa kwemikhuba yokulala nokuziphatha okuyingozi njengokushayela ngejubane elikhulu, isibonelo.