Nizofinyelela Eminyeleni Yomunye nomunye - Nansi Indlela Yokuyisebenzisa

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• Ungathathi kancane amandla wokungena
• Zibuze ngqo ukuthi uzizwa kanjani
• Zinike isikhathi sokukhuluma nomlingani wakho
• Imizwa ehlukene kaningi iba nezinqumo ezihlukile
• Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile
• Uma uzizwa wesaba noma ukhathazekile
• Uma uzizwa udabukile noma ucasukile
• Uma uzizwa uthukuthele noma ungazwakali
• Uma uzizwa unganakiwe noma uphathwa kabi
• Okubalulekile

Ngisho nasebudlelwaneni obunempilo kakhulu, abalingani abahlale bezwana ngokuphelele.

Lokho kuvamile ngokuphelele - futhi ingxenye yalokho okwenza kubaluleke kangaka ukuthi ujabulele isikhathi sokuhlukana wenze into yakho.

Ngokwesimo esijwayelekile, ungahle uzenzele isikhathi sakho ngaphandle kwenkinga enkulu. Ozakwethu bavame ukuchitha isikhathi behlukene phakathi nomsebenzi, isikole, nezinto zokuzilibazisa noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuqedela ukuthunyelwa, nokubona abangane.

Kepha ngesikhathi sobhadane lwe-COVID-19, lezi zinketho azisebenzi kwabaningi.

Futhi uma ukhosele ezindaweni zokuhlala, ubudlelwano bakho bungase bube ngaphansi kohlobo oluthile kakade.

Kuyaqondakala ukuzizwa ukwanda kokungaqiniseki kanye nengcindezi, kepha kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akekho phakathi kwenu okufanele asolwe ngokwenzeka emhlabeni njengamanje.

Ukuvumela ukungezwani kugqame ukuxhumana kwakho komunye nomunye kungenza kube nzima ukuzwana nokuxhasana.

Kepha ungazwakalisa ukukhungatheka kwakho ngezindlela eziwusizo esikhundleni sokuklabalasa. Nansi indlela.

Ungathathi kancane amandla wokungena

Ngaphambi kokuthi uphakamise inkinga, hlola wena kuqala ngenkinga.

Zibuze ngqo ukuthi uzizwa kanjani

Ukuqamba igama imizwa ekukhathazayo kungakusiza uthathe izinyathelo zokuqala zokuyilawula ngokukhiqiza.

Ukuhlolwa okuseduze kungaveza imizwa ehluke ngokuphelele kunalokho obucabanga ukuthi ubhekene nakho.

Lapho ukucasuka kungena, ngokwesibonelo, phumula kuleso simo. Hlala naleyo mizwa bese wenza ukumba okuncane.

Mhlawumbe awucasuki nomlingani wakho, kepha ukhungathekiswe ukungakwazi ukuphuma uyokwenza okuthile okujabulisayo. Noma mhlawumbe awuphumuli ngoba awukalitholi ithuba lokuzivocavoca.

Amathuluzi wokucabanga njengokuzindla nokushicilela kungakusiza ukuthi ujwayele ukwamukela imizwa yakho. Ukwabelana ngokukhungatheka nomngani omethembayo kungakusiza ukuthi wembule futhi uqonde imizwa enzima, futhi.

Uma ukucasuka kwakho kuvela entweni abayenzile, hlola isimo ngokuqhubeka uzibuze:

• Ngiqale nini ukuzizwa kanjena? (Mhlawumbe uvukile wathola ukuthi bebengagezanga izitsha ngobusuku besithathu begijima.)
• Ngike ngazizwa kanjena phambilini? (Ngihlala ngizizwa ngifutheka lapho nginovalo.)
• Ngabe ihlobene nokuthile engikwenzayo? (Mhlawumbe awukaziniki isikhathi sokuzivuselela wedwa muva nje.)
• Ngabe kuhlobene nokuthile abakwenzayo? (Mhlawumbe ngeke bayeke ukuncuma ngenkathi besebenza, okwenza ukugxila kungenzeki.)
• Ngabe ihlobene nokunye okunye? (Umhlaba uyethusa njengamanje, ngakho-ke imizwa yakho kungenzeka ihlobana okungenani nengxabano enkulu ezungeze wena.)

Zinike isikhathi sokukhuluma nomlingani wakho

Uma usukhombe umuzwa, lapho-ke ungawukhipha. Ngisho noma kungahlangene ngalutho nabo, ukukhuluma kusengaba nenzuzo.

Ukucindezeleka nokwesaba kulula ukukuthwala lapho kwabelwana ngakho, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukuvula nje imizwa enzima kunganciphisa ukuqina kwabo.

Lapho bona unayo wenze okuthile ukukucasula, ingxoxo enenhlonipho ingasithuthukisa isimo.

Khuluma lapho uzizwa uzolile, ungathukutheli, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi basesimweni esifanele sengxoxo, nabo. Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi bazizwa kanjani, ngaso sonke isikhathi kuwukuhlakanipha ukubuza.

Ngaphambi kokuthi uveze udaba, cabanga ukuthi ungayivula kanjani ingxoxo ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Qala ngokuqinisekisa isimo nanoma yikuphi ukucindezeleka abangase bazizwe.

Uma, ngokwesibonelo, beqhubeka bengayinaki imisebenzi yabo, ungathi:

“Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima ukugcina inqubo yethu ejwayelekile ngalesi sikhathi esinzima. Kodwa ngizizwa ngicindezeleke ngokwengeziwe lapho yonke into engizungezile iminyene, ngakho-ke ngithanda kakhulu ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wasendlini sindawonye. Ngiyazibuza ukuthi kungasiza yini ukushintsha imisebenzi yasekhaya noma ukuyenza ngasikhathi sinye. Ucabangani?"

Ngemuva kwalokho, lalela uhlangothi lwabo. Bangase balwe nemisebenzi yasekhaya lapho bekhathazekile futhi bengaboni ukuthi bacindezeleke kangakanani wena izwakala ngezinto ezingahlehliseki.

Ukuvuma nokuqinisekisa imizwa yabo kuyabasiza bazizwe bezwakala, futhi.

Uma ukungezwani sekuvele kuphakeme futhi isimo somoya asibonakali siyifanele ingxoxo, zama ukubhala incwadi.

Vula incwadi ngokuqinisekiswa okufanayo kwesimo nemizwa yabo ngaphambi kokufika enhliziyweni yendaba. Akunandaba ukuthi uyisingatha kanjani le nkinga, khumbula ukuthi babhekene nemizwa eyinselele, futhi.

Songa incwadi yakho (noma ingxoxo) ngokuthinta isisekelo sendlela yokwenza izinto zibe lula komunye nomunye. Akukaze kube buhlungu ukuqinisekisa uthando lwakho nothando, noma.

Imizwa ehlukene kaningi iba nezinqumo ezihlukile

Ukusebenza ngemizwa eyinselele akuhlali kudlala ngendlela efanayo.

Indlela yakho ingahluka ngokuya ngokuthi imuphi umuzwa ozama ukuzulazula kuwo nokuthi uyingxenye yenkinga noma cha.

Futhi khumbula ukuthi abantu abahlali besebenza ngemizwa ngendlela efanayo. Ungaba nezindlela ezahlukahlukene ezingokwemvelo zokulawula imizwa enzima.

Lapho ukungezwani kuqinisa imizwa engafuneki, nobabili ningagcina senisenkingeni.

Ungakuthola kukhungathekisa nakakhulu lapho indlela yabo yokuxazulula engathandeki ibonakala ingasizi. Ungase uzibuze ukuthi kungani bengafuni ukuzama izinto ngendlela yakho.

Gcina engqondweni, awuyena umuntu ofanayo, ngakho ngeke ubone izinto ngendlela efanayo ngokuphelele. Kepha ukwethembeka, ingxoxo evulekile ingakusiza ukuthi nithole isisombululo ndawonye.

Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile

Awukude wedwa, uma ubhadane lomhlaba jikelele lubangele ukucindezeleka okuthile. Abantu abaningi emhlabeni jikelele njengamanje baphila ngokwesaba nokukhathazeka, futhi umlingani wakho kungenzeka abe manani phakathi kwabo, naye.

Ukuvala imizwa yokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kungabenza babe babi kakhulu. Amanye amasu okubhekana nesimo, njengokuphuza utshwala obuningi noma ukubukela umbukiso ngemuva kombukiso ku-Netflix, nawo awasizi ngalutho.

Kepha iqembu lisondela can Usizo. Zibophezele ekwabelaneni imizwa ngokuxoxa ngemizwa njengoba iqhamuka noma wenze iphuzu lokungena kanye ngosuku.

Uma benindawonye isikhathi esithile, kungenzeka ukuthi nifunde imizwa yomunye nomunye kahle. Uma bebonakala besemaphethelweni, zama ukuphakamisa umsebenzi ophazamisayo noma okuthile okunikeza ukushintshwa kwethoni.

Noma ngabe banegalelo ekucindezelekeni kwakho noma cha, khumbula ukuthi akuyona into embi ukufuna isikhathi sihlukaniswe.

Zama ukuchitha isikhathi ngokwehlukana wenza okuthile okuphumuzayo njengokulalela umculo, ukufunda kubhavu wokugeza, noma ukuthatha uhambo olude. Lokhu kungakusiza uzizwe ungcono futhi kukuphazamise ezintweni ezibangela ngaphambi kokuba zibe nzima.

Uma uzizwa wesaba noma ukhathazekile

Ukwesaba, ukudideka, nokungaqiniseki kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele manje.

Ungahle wenze ihlaya nge-apocalypse njengoba umhlaba uqala ukufana nokuhlelwa kwe-dystopian kumdlalo wakho we-movie noma uchungechunge lwe-TV, kepha uma kukhulunywa nje, ukwesaba akukuhle.

Abantu abaningi abathandi ukwesaba izinto abangakwazi ukuzilawula.

Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuphoqa indlela ozizwa ngayo, zama ukukhuluma ngakho esikhundleni salokho. Ukwethembeka nokuba yiqiniso kungakusiza ukuthi nisondelane.

Ukwenza sengathi akukho okungalungile, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungahle kube nomphumela ohlukile. Bangathola umqondo wokuthi awuthathi izinto ngokungathi sína futhi bacasuke noma besabe ngokwedlulele ngenxa yalokho.

Ngaphandle kokungaqiniseki okujwayelekile mayelana nokuthi yini ongayilindela, ungahle ube nezinkathazo ezithile mayelana:

• impilo
• ezezimali
• abathandekayo
• impilo ibuyela esimweni esejwayelekile

Uma omunye wenu esebenza endaweni yomphakathi, ungahle ube nokukhathazeka okuningi mayelana nokuvezwa okungaba khona, okungadala ukwesaba nengcindezi.

Kodwa ukuba nohlelo lokuthi uzokuphatha kanjani ukutheleleka okungahle kube khona kungakusiza uzizwe ukwazi ukulawula.

Ukubhekana nokwesaba okuthile kungakusiza ukuthi uqhamuke namasu angasiza ukusiza ukuthuthukisa izimo ezinzima kakhulu. Lokhu kungakunika amandla futhi kukusize wenze isimo sibonakale kulula ukubhekana naso.

Lapho usebenza ngokwesaba, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma ngemingcele.

Kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokukukhathazayo, kepha ukukhanyisa kuzona noma ukuzivakashela kaninginingi akusizi.

Hloniphani imingcele yomunye nomunye mayelana nokudinga isikhala kulezi zihloko.

Uma uzizwa udabukile noma ucasukile

Ubhadane luye lwaphazamisa impilo ngezindlela eziningi. Abantu abaningi emhlabeni jikelele babhekene nosizi ngenxa yemicimbi engabanjwanga, ukungakwazi ukuxhumana nabathandekayo, nezinye izinguquko ezihlobene nobhadane nokulahlekelwa.

Lapho ulwa nokudabuka nokunye ukucindezeleka, zikhumbuze imizwa yakho isebenza ngokuphelele.

Akunandaba ukuthi uphatheke kabi ngenxa yama-Olimpiki ahlehlisiwe noma udangele ngenxa yokuthi kumele umise umshado wakho.

KULUNGILE ukuzizwa udabukile, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uzinika isikhala nesikhathi sokudabuka noma ikuphi ukulahlekelwa noma amathuba alahlekile. Mane ukhumbule ukuthi wonke umuntu unokulahlekelwa okufanele akhonze kukho, noma ngabe akufani nokwakho.

Uma uphatheke kabi ngokungaboni umndeni wakho futhi ucasukile ngoba kubonakala sengathi umlingani wakho ukhathalela kakhulu ukwesulwa kombukiso abawuthandayo, khumbula ukuthi abantu babhekana nokudabuka ngezindlela ezahlukene.

Zama ukunikeza ububele nozwela, noma ngabe awuqondi kahle ukuthi bavelaphi. Usizi lwabo lungabonakala lincane uma luqhathaniswa nolwakho, kodwa kunjalo yabo usizi.

Uma uzizwa uthukuthele noma ungazwakali

Kuningi okusemqondweni wakho njengamanje? Unenkampani enhle.

Uma umlingani wakho ebonakala exubha isimo sakho somzwelo noma engayinaki imizwa yakho ngokuphelele, ungazizwa uthukuthele kancane.

Kepha ngaphambi kokuba uvumele intukuthelo yakho ibhebhethekise ingxabano, zama ukuyilungisa ngezindlela eziwusizo kakhulu.

Unga:

• Thatha umzuzu ukuphumula ngokuphefumula okujulile noma okunye ukuvivinya umzimba.
• Zibuze ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani ngokukukhathazayo.
• Zikhumbuze ukuthi ukucindezeleka nokungakhululeki kwabo kungaba nomthelela ekukwazini kwabo ukuba khona kwakho.
• Bazise ukuthi uzizwa ungazwakali - bangahle bangaboni uze usho okuthile.
• Phuma ekamelweni lapho uzwa ulaka luphuphuma. Ukuthola ibanga elithile ngokomzimba kungakusiza ukuthi ubone isimo ngokucace kakhudlwana.

Njengoba ungazibona wena, akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuphatha imizwa yomunye umuntu lapho uzama ukubhekana nezinkinga zakho ezingokomzwelo.

Hlonipha isimo sabo sengqondo ngokubacela ukuthi bakwazise lapho bezwa sengathi bafuna ukukhuluma. Lokhu kungenza umehluko omkhulu empumelelweni yakho ekuxazululeni izingqinamba.

Uma uzizwa unganakiwe noma uphathwa kabi

Ukuzama ukuzwela ngokweqile kwenza kube nzima ukuhlala ukhona kwabanye.

Abanye abantu bangaphatha ukucindezeleka ngenkathi futhi benikeza ukusekelwa. Abanye bangabhekana nalesi simo by ukusiza abathandekayo ukubhekana nesimo.

Kepha uma umlingani wakho edinga ukubhekana nemizwa yakhe kuqala, ungagcina uzizwa unganakiwe ngandlela thile.

Mhlawumbe abazizwa sebusuku bakho begeyimu ojwayelekile, ukupheka, noma ukuzivocavoca ekhaya. Mhlawumbe babonakala benesikhashana esifushane, baze baqhume, noma abanesifiso esiphansi kwezocansi noma ekugoneni.

Izidingo ezinganikezwa zinganqamula imizwa yokuba nesizungu nokunganakwa.

Kepha ukuzinakekela okuhle kanye nemikhuba yokuzithambisa kungakusiza uthambekele kuwe kuze kube yilapho bezizwa bekwazi ukuxhumana kahle.

Unga:

• Gcina imizwa yakho ivulekile ngokulala ngokwanele, ngokudla njalo, nangokuzigcina usebenza.
• Chitha isikhathi esithile wenza izinto ozithandayo usuku ngalunye, kusuka emisebenzini elula njengokujabulela inkomishi yetiye engadini yakho kuya kokuyinkimbinkimbi, njengokuqala iphrojekthi yokuvelela.
• Zikhumbuze ngezinto ezinhlanu ozithandayo ngabo. Sebenzisa ubuhlakani bakho ukukuguqula kube umsebenzi wobuciko, incwadi, noma inkondlo ukukhanyisa usuku lwabo.
• Benzele okuthile okuhle, ngoba nje uyabakhathalela. Izenzo zomusa zingaba nomthelela omuhle emoyeni wakho.
• Thola isikhathi esihle sokusho ukuthi nizizwa kanjani futhi nisebenzele isixazululo ndawonye.

Okubalulekile

Ukungezwani ekhaya kungahle kwenzeke kuphakeme kancane kunokujwayelekile, kepha lokho kungumphumela omuhle kakhulu wenhlekelele.

Ungahle uthambekele kakhudlwana ekukhethelaneni izinto ezincane, kodwa zama ukungavumeli ukucindezelwa okungeziwe kuphazamise ubuhlobo benu.

Ukuxhumana okuthembekile, nokubekezela okuncane okufakiwe, kungakusiza ukuthi uphume kulo bhubhane ngobambiswano oluqinile kunalolo oluzizwa ludidekile.

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