Ungasebenzisi Abazali Babantu Abakhubazekile Njengochwepheshe Bakho

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• Lapho ngifunda ngezinkinga ezithinta umphakathi we-autism, ngifuna ukuzwa kubantu abane-autism
• Yithina esiqonda umphakathi wethu, izidingo zethu zokufinyelela, indawo yethu yokuhlala, namasiko ethu okungcono kakhulu - {textend} kepha imvamisa siyacabanga ngemuva kwezingxoxo mayelana nokukhubazeka.
• Abazali bezingane ezikhubazekile nabo babalulekile, futhi ngiyasiqonda isidingo sezinsizakusebenza eziqondene nabo ngqo
• Ukusebenzisa abantu abakhubazekile njengochwepheshe ezimpilweni zethu kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu nakho kubeka kabusha indlela esibheka ngayo ukukhubazeka

Sibona kanjani ukwakheka komhlaba esikhetha ukuba yibo - {textend} nokwabelana ngamava acindezelayo kungakha indlela esiphathana ngayo, ibe ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Ngine-autistic - {textend} futhi uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, ngikhathele ngabazali bezingane ezine-autistic abaphethe ingxoxo emayelana nokugqugquzela i-autism.

Ungangizwa kabi. Ngijabule ngendlela emangalisayo ukuthi ngakhula nginabazali ababili abangibhebhezele ngasikhathi sinye bangifundisa nokuzimela.

Okukhathaza kakhulu ukuthi abantu abanjengabazali bami - {textend} abakhulisa izingane ezine-autistic nezabakhubazekile, kepha abangakhubazekile ngokwabo - i- {textend} bahlala beyizazi kuphela, phezu kwabantu abake bahlala nangempela ukukhubazeka.

Lapho ngifunda ngezinkinga ezithinta umphakathi we-autism, ngifuna ukuzwa kubantu abane-autism

Ngifuna umbono womuntu o-autistic wokuthi ungaletha kanjani indawo yokuhlala emsebenzini, noma ukuthi kubukeka kanjani ukuzulazula amakilasi asekolishi njengomfundi.

Ukube bengifunda indaba yokuthi abantu abane-autistic bangenza kanjani amashejuli ekilasi afinyelelekayo, bengingafuna ukuzwa kuqala kunabo bonke abafundi bamanje noma abakade besebenza ekolishi. Yini ababelwa nayo? Iziphi izinsiza abazisebenzisile? Waba yini umphumela?

Ngingalunga uma lendaba ibingafaka nemithombo efana nomeluleki wokwamukela abafundi basekolishi, umuntu osebenza ehhovisi lezinsizakalo zokukhubazeka ekolishi, noma usolwazi. Bangayihlanganisa le ndaba ngokunikeza umbono wangaphakathi ukuthi abafundi be-autistic bangalindela ini nokuthi singazimela kanjani izidingo zethu.

Kepha akuvamile ukubona indaba efana naleyo. Ubungcweti babantu abakhubazekile ezimpilweni zethu kuvame ukunganakwa nokubukelwa phansi, noma ngabe sichithe iminyaka - {textend} futhi kwezinye izimo izimpilo zethu zonke - {textend} nabakhubazekile.

Yithina esiqonda umphakathi wethu, izidingo zethu zokufinyelela, indawo yethu yokuhlala, namasiko ethu okungcono kakhulu - {textend} kepha imvamisa siyacabanga ngemuva kwezingxoxo mayelana nokukhubazeka.

Lapho ngibhala ngokuba nozwela kakhulu njengomuntu one-autistic, ngabuza abantu abadala abane-autistic ababefuna ukuqeda inkoleloze yokuthi abantu abane-autistic abakwazi ukuba nozwelo. Ngisebenzise isipiliyoni engangiphila ngaso, kanye nesipiliyoni sabanye abantu abadala abane-autistic, ukudiliza ukuthi kungani abantu abaningi abane-autistic bephutha njengabangenalutho futhi abangenalo uzwela.

Kwakuyisipiliyoni esihle kakhulu.

Abantu abane-Autistic abaneminyaka engama-30 nengama-40 baye bangithinta ukusho ukuthi lesi bekuyisikhathi sokuqala befunda noma yini nge-autism nozwelo ethathe le ndlela, noma yabhalwa ngumuntu one-autism esikhundleni somzali noma umcwaningi.

Lokhu akufanele kuphume kokujwayelekile. Noma kunjalo kaningi, abantu abane-autistic abamenywanga ukuthi babelane ngolwazi lwabo.

Abazali bezingane ezikhubazekile nabo babalulekile, futhi ngiyasiqonda isidingo sezinsizakusebenza eziqondene nabo ngqo

Kungasiza impela ukufunda ngezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokusiza ingane yakho ukuthi izulazule emhlabeni ngokukhubazeka kwayo. Ngifisa nje lezo zinsizakusebenza futhi kufaka phakathi amazwi akhubazekile.

Kepha bekungeke yini kube yinto engakholeki uma umhlahlandlela wokusebenza ngemisebenzi nengane yakho ene-ADHD unezeluleko ngqo ezivela kubantu abadala abane-ADHD, abazi nabazi ukuthi kwakunjani ukuba yingane elwela ukukhumbula ukuthi kufanele bageze izitsha kabili ngeviki?

Abantu abadala abane-ADHD banamathiphu - {textend} asuka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo yonke kanye nokwelashwa nabahlengikazi babo - {textend} futhi bayazi ukuthi yini engasebenza noma engasebenzi ngezindlela umzali ongenayo i-ADHD angeke azisebenzise.

Ekupheleni kosuku, lapho sinika abantu amandla okwabelana ngamazwi abo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho, wonke umuntu uyaphumelela.

Ukusebenzisa abantu abakhubazekile njengochwepheshe ezimpilweni zethu kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu nakho kubeka kabusha indlela esibheka ngayo ukukhubazeka

Esikhundleni sokubeka abantu abakhubazekile njengabantu abadinga usizo, nabazali njengochwepheshe abangasisiza, kusibeka njengabameli abakuqonda kahle ukukhubazeka kwethu futhi badinga okungcono kakhulu.

Kusibeka njengabantu abangenza izinqumo ezisebenzayo kunokuba kuthathelwa izinqumo zethu. Kusinikeza iqhaza elibandakanyekayo ezimpilweni zethu kanye nendlela izindaba ezilandisa ngokukhubazeka (nangesimo sethu esithile) ezivezwa ngayo.

Noma ngabe sihlale nokukhubazeka kwethu impilo yethu yonke noma sisanda kubathola, abantu abakhubazekile bayazi ukuthi kunjani ukuhlala ezingqondweni nasemizimbeni yethu.

Sinokuqonda okujulile kokuthi kubukeka kanjani ukuzulazula emhlabeni, ukuzimela ngokwethu, ukufuna ukufinyelela, ukudala ukufakwa.

Yilokho okusenza sibe ochwepheshe - {textend} futhi kumayelana nesikhathi lapho ubuchwepheshe bethu buhlonishwa khona.

U-Alaina Leary ungumhleli, umphathi wezokuxhumana nomlobi waseBoston, eMassachusetts. Njengamanje ungumsizi womhleli we-Equally Wed Magazine futhi ungumhleli wezokuxhumana wenhlangano engenzi nzuzo Sidinga Amabhuku Ahlukahlukene.