Musa Ukushintsha

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Unempilo enhle -- noma okungenani ubucabanga ukuthi unayo. Lokho kwakungaphambi kokuba umngani wakho amemezele ukuthi uthole umsebenzi omusha oshisayo, ongakhetha kuwo ngamasheya. Noma abantu bakwamakhelwane bathuthela endaweni ethe xaxa. Ngokushesha uyazibuza ukuthi ngabe kufanele uthwebula uhlu lwezemisebenzi. Futhi kungani ikhaya lakho lizizwa lincane ngokuzumayo -- lincane? Izwe elihamba ngokushesha, futhi sonke sizwa ingcindezi yokugcina ijubane.

"Sishesha kakhulu, asinaso isikhathi sokucabanga. Simane siphendule impilo esizungezile," kuqinisekisa uBeth Rothenberg, umqeqeshi webhizinisi oqeqeshiwe nomeluleki wezempilo eLos Angeles. "Futhi kwenzekani kwabaningi abakhokhisa phambili ngaphandle kokucabanga ngelinye ilanga bayabona, 'Nginemali ethe xaxa, indlu enkulu, kepha angijabule."

Ngemilayezo eminingi eqondile nengaqondile yokwenza ngcono imisebenzi yethu, amakhaya ethu, kanye nezimpilo zethu kusuka ezifundweni, ezincwadini, ezihlotsheni ngisho nasezindlini zethu ezifunayo, sazi kanjani ukuthi kufanele sithule lawo mazwi futhi saneliswe lapho sikhona? Kulula kunalokho okungabonakala. "Isihluthulelo sokwenza izinqumo ezizokulethela injabulo sichaza izindinganiso zakho," kusho uRothenberg, "bese ubheka ukuthi isinqumo siyahambisana yini nalezo zimiso."

Ngaphambi kokuluma noma yiliphi i-apula elilingayo, phinda uhlole ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kusho uRothenberg. Lapho usuzichazile izidingo zakho zempilo enothile, uzokwazi ukuhlukanisa okwenziwayo kokuphambuka kwesimungulu. Futhi ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho umkhumbi ubonakala sengathi uyadlula kuwe, ungase ujabule ngokumane uphakamise isandla kunoma ubani ogibele.

Izikhiye zenjabulo yakho

Ngaphambi kokwenza ushintsho: Bhala phansi ezintathu noma ezine zezindinganiso zakho ezinkulu kakhulu ekuphileni. Lokhu kufanele kube yimikhombandlela yakho lapho ubheka noma yiluphi ushintsho olubalulekile. "Uma enye yezindinganiso zakho yenzeka isebenze endaweni yokudala, ngokwesibonelo, umsebenzi endaweni engadali lutho, noma ngabe uzuzani, ngeke nje wanelise esinye sezidingo zakho ezibaluleke kakhulu," kusho uBeth Rothenberg. Futhi lapho impilo yakho ingalinganiseli ngendlela ebalulekile kuwe, inhlalakahle yakho iyakhathazeka. Amanani ayimfihlo yomuntu siqu futhi ayedwa: Okwakho kungafaka ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka nomndeni; ukwenza umnikelo obalulekile emkhakheni okhethiwe; noma ukuphepha nesikhathi esanele samahhala.

Okulandelayo: Nquma ukuthi kungani inani ngalinye libalulekile kuwe, bese ucabangela ukuthi ubungazizwa kanjani uma wamukela ushintsho olungahlangabezani nalelo nani. Mhlawumbe ukuphishekela iziqu zomsebenzi ongcono kuzokufanele ukuzidela ngesikhathi nangamadola. Noma mhlawumbe indlu esegqumeni ayibukeki yinhle kakhulu eduze kwehora elengeziwe okufanele ulimake ohambweni lwakho lokuya emsebenzini.

Ingabe ungumuntu oshintshashintshayo?

Udonseleka ekushintsheni ngezizathu ezingalungile? Zibuze.

1. Ngabe uvame ukwenza into ongafuni ngempela ukuyenza?

Abantu abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukuthi 'cha' kunoma ubani, noma ngabe kuzoba ngcono ngempilo yabo engokomzwelo.

2. Ngabe wake wamukela ukunikezwa umsebenzi ukuze uthuthukise i-resume yakho noma wenze imali eningi futhi ube lusizi kuyo?

Uma ukuvelela nemali kuphakeme phakathi kwezindinganiso zakho, khona-ke umsebenzi onjalo ungase ukwanelise. Kepha abantu abaningi bayilahla injabulo, becabanga ukuthi bazokwenza imali manje ukuze benze lokho abakufunayo kamuva. Ngeshwa, "kamuva" kwesinye isikhathi kuza sekwephuze kakhulu.

3. Ngabe isikhathi esithe xaxa sakho noma somndeni wakho siyigugu onenkinga yokulondla?

Abantu abaningi babala lezi phakathi kwezindinganiso zabo. Kubalulekile ukuzibuza ukuthi kwenzekani uma ungaphili lezi zimiso. Ingabe ukuhwebelana kuyakufanelekela? Ungakwenza yini ukuyekethisa okumbalwa (unciphise amahora ambalwa emsebenzini noma wenze okuthe xaxa ngesidlo sasemini) ukuze ube nempilo oyifunayo?

4. Wake wasebenza kanzima ukufinyelela umgomo - futhi wazizwa udumele ngemuva kokuwufinyelela?

Abantu abaningi baphendula enkulumweni yokubeka izinhloso, kepha abaneliseki uma sebeyifinyelele. Ngokuvamile, kungenxa yokuthi abazange baqale bacabangele ukuthi imigomo yabo iyahlangabezana yini nezindinganiso zabo.

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