Izindlela Zokulwa Nemizwelo Ezigxile Emoyeni Zezikhathi Ezingaqinisekile

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• Okokuqala, bheka ukuthi lesi sitayela sokubhekana naso silungele ini
• 1. Ukuzindla
• 2. Ukushicilela
• 3. Ukucabanga okuhle
• 4. Intethelelo
• 5. Ukuguqula kabusha
• 6. Ukukhuluma ngakho
• 7. Ukusebenza nomelaphi
• Okubalulekile

Lapho kuvela inselelo kuwe, mhlawumbe unamasu ambalwa okuya kumasu okusiza ukubhekana nakho. Noma indlela yakho ihluka kancane kusuka enkingeni kuya enkingeni, mhlawumbe uphatha ubunzima obuningi ngezindlela ezifanayo.

Ungahle, ngokwesibonelo, ube isixazululo sezinkinga. Lapho uzulazula inselelo noma umcimbi ocindezelayo, uya ngqo emthonjeni bese usebenza kuwo uze ulungise okungalungile noma wehlise ingcindezi yakho ezingeni elilawulekayo.

Kuthiwani uma ukuthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha kungelona iphuzu lakho eliqinile? Mhlawumbe uzama ukugqekeza imizwa yakho ngokucabangela isimo ngombono ohlukile noma ukuncika kwabathandekayo ukuze bakusekele.

Lezi zindlela ezimbili zimelela amasu amabili ahlukene okubhekana nezinkinga:

• Ukubhekana nenkinga kuhilela ukuphatha ingcindezi ngokubhekana nayo ngqo nokuthatha izinyathelo zokuxazulula imbangela eyimbangela.
• Ukubhekana nezimo ezigxile kumzwelo kuhilela ukulawula imizwa yakho nokuphendula ngokomzwelo enkingeni esikhundleni sokubhekana nenkinga.

Womabili la macebo angaba nezinzuzo, kepha ukubhekana nokubhekana nemizwelo kungasiza kakhulu ezimweni ezithile.

Okokuqala, bheka ukuthi lesi sitayela sokubhekana naso silungele ini

Amakhono okubhekana nemizwelo agxile kukusiza ukuthi ucubungule futhi usebenze ngemizwa engadingeki noma ebuhlungu nokuphendula. Ngamanye amagama, le ndlela ikusiza ukuphatha imizwa yakho kunezimo zangaphandle.

Le ndlela ngeke ikusize ukuxazulula inkinga ngqo, kepha iyithuluzi elihle onalo lokubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo ongeke uzishintshe noma uzilawule.

Lapho ukwazi ukuphatha impendulo yakho engokomzwelo esimweni esithile ngokunembe kakhudlwana, ungazizwa ungcono ngandlela thile ngokwenzekayo - noma okungenani ukulungele kangcono ukusisingatha.

iphakamisa ukuthi abantu abajwayele ukusebenzisa amasu okubhekana nokuthinta imizwa bangaqina kakhulu ekucindezelekeni futhi bajabulele impilo enhle enkulu.

1. Ukuzindla

Ukuzindla kukusiza ukuthi ufunde ukwamukela futhi uhlale nayo yonke imicabango yakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, noma kunzima.

Umgomo oyinhloko wokuzindla? Ukucabanga: ukuqaphela imicabango njengoba ikhuphuka, yamukele, futhi uyiyeke ihambe ngaphandle kokuyilawula noma uzihlulele ukuthi unayo.

Ungajwayeza ukucabanga noma kunini, noma kuphi, futhi ngeke kukubize lutho. Kungahle kuzizwe kungakhululekile, futhi kungasizi ngalutho, ekuqaleni, futhi kungathatha isikhashana ngaphambi kokuba kuzwakale kungokwemvelo. Uma unamathela kuyo, ngokujwayelekile uzoqala ukubona izinzuzo ezithile kungekudala.

Uma umusha ekuzindleni, qalisa ngokufunda kabanzi ngezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene noma ngokuzama lokhu kuvivinya umzimba okulula.

2. Ukushicilela

I-journaling kuyindlela enhle yokuhlunga futhi yamukele imizwa eyinselele.

Lapho okuthile kungahambi kahle, ungahle ube nemizwa eminingi eyinkimbinkimbi, ephikisanayo. Bangazizwa bexakekile ngaphakathi kuwe, okwenza umcabango wokuzihlunga kukhandle. Noma, mhlawumbe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi uyisho kanjani into oyizwayo ngamagama.

Ukukhathala nokudideka yimizwa evumelekile futhi kungaba yindawo enhle yokuqala ukubeka ipeni ephepheni.

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukubhala phansi imizwa yakho - noma ngabe kunokudideka noma kuyinkimbinkimbi kangakanani - yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuyisebenzisa. Ekugcineni ungathola ukuthi ukushicilelwa kwezindaba kunikela ngohlobo lwe-catharsis engokomzwelo, njengoba uyisusa engqondweni yakho iye kwijenali yakho.

Ukuthola okuningi ekushicilelweni, zama:

• ukubhala nsuku zonke, noma ngabe unemizuzu engu-5 kuphela
• ukubhala noma yini efika engqondweni - ungakhathazeki ngokuhlela noma ukuzihlola
• ukugcina ithrekhi yanoma yikuphi ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo noma okungokomzwelo obhekana nakho nanoma yiziphi izinto ezingaba nomthelela kuphethini, noma ngabe lokho kuyindlela yakho yokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukudla okuthile, noma ubudlelwano obuthile

3. Ukucabanga okuhle

Umbono omuhle ngeke uxazulule izinkinga uwedwa, kepha ngokuqinisekile ungakhuphula impilo yakho engokomzwelo.

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukucabanga okuhle noma okuhle kuyakwenza hhayi kuhilela ukungazinaki izinkinga zakho. Imayelana nokunikeza izinselelo i-spin enhle nokuthola amaphakethe enjabulo ukukusiza ukuthi udlule kuzo.

Ukwengeza ukucabanga okuhle empilweni yakho, zama:

• uzakhe ngokuzikhulumela okuhle esikhundleni sokukhulumela phansi
• ukubona impumelelo yakho esikhundleni sokugxila “kokuhluleka”
• ukuhleka amaphutha
• uzikhumbuze ukuthi ungahlala uzama futhi

Zonke lezi zinto kulula ukuzisho kunokuzenza, kepha ngokuzijwayeza kancane, bazoqala ukuzizwa bemvelo ngokwengeziwe.

4. Intethelelo

Kulula ukugxila emizweni yokungabi nabulungisa noma ukungabi nabulungisa lapho othile ekuphatha kabi noma enza into engenamusa.

Esikhathini esiningi, noma kunjalo, awukwazi ukwenza lutho ukushintsha ubuhlungu obuzuzile. Ngamanye amagama, umonakalo wenziwe, futhi akukho okumele ukwenze ngaphandle kokuyeka uye phambili.

Ukuthethelela kungakusiza ukuthi uyeke ukulimala bese uqala ukwelashwa ngakho. Vele, ukuthethelela akwenzeki kalula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungathatha isikhashana ukwamukela ubuhlungu bakho ngaphambi kokuba uzizwe ukwazi ukuxolela.

Ukuzijwayeza ukuthethelela kungazuzisa impilo yakho engokomzwelo ngezindlela eziningi. Ungaqaphela:

• kunciphise ukucindezeleka nentukuthelo
• ukwanda kobubele
• uzwela olukhulu
• ubudlelwane obuqinile phakathi kwabantu

Ufuna amathiphu okwenza ukuthethelela? Bheka umhlahlandlela wethu wokuvumela okwedlule.

5. Ukuguqula kabusha

Uma wenza kabusha isimo, usibuka ngenye indlela. Lokhu kungakusiza ukuthi ubheke isithombe esikhudlwana esikhundleni sokubambelela emininingwaneni emincane, enzima noma ingathandeki njengaleyo mininingwane kwesinye isikhathi.

Yisho, isibonelo, ubudlelwano bakho bebunzima ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, ikakhulukazi ngoba wena nomlingani wakho anizange nibe nesikhathi esiningi sokwenza izinto ndawonye noma ukuxhumana ngezinkinga.

Ngokungazelelwe, ulahlekelwa umsebenzi bese uthola ukuthi manje ususebenzisa imali inala yesikhathi ekhaya.

Ukungasebenzi akulungile, kunjalo, kodwa okwamanje akukho ongakwenza ukushintsha leso simo. Esikhundleni sokuvumela ukukhungatheka nesithukuthezi kwakheke, ungabheka uhlangothi oluqhakazile lwesimo: Manje usunesikhathi esiningi sokuxhumana kabusha nomlingani wakho nokuqinisa ubudlelwano bakho.

6. Ukukhuluma ngakho

Ukungcwaba noma ukuxosha imizwelo emibi ngokuvamile akukwenzi lukhulu ukuyithuthukisa.

Ungahle ungayiboni le mizwa engadingeki uma usebenza kanzima ukuyigcina ifihliwe, kepha ekugcineni ivame ukubuya.

Okwamanje, bangangena ngesimo se:

• ukuguquka kwemizwelo
• ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo
• izimpawu zomzimba njengokuphazamiseka kwemisipha noma ubuhlungu bekhanda

Ngokuvamile kuwumqondo omuhle ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho kunoma yibaphi abanye abathintekayo kulesi simo. Kungenzeka bangaboni nokuthi banomthelela kuwe ngaphandle kokuthi ubatshele.

Ukuxhumana nobunzima bakho ngeke kuxazululwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha uma indlela yokuxazulula ikhona, kungenzeka ukuthi ubuthole ndawonye.

Ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho kothandekayo omethembayo nakho kungakusiza uzizwe ungcono, ikakhulukazi lapho singekho isixazululo esihle enkingeni yakho. Abangane nomndeni bangakunikeza ukusekelwa kwezenhlalo nangokomzwelo ngokulalela ngozwela nokuqinisekisa imizwa yakho.

7. Ukusebenza nomelaphi

Okunye ukukhathazeka okungathi sína kungadala ukucindezeleka okukhulu, ikakhulukazi lapho ungeke wenze lutho ukuthuthukisa isimo sakho.

Mhlawumbe ubhekene nokuhlukana, ubhekene nokukhathazeka okusongela impilo, noma ukubhekana nosizi.

Akukho okuningi ongakwenza ukushintsha lezi zimo futhi ukubhekana nemizwa ebuhlungu evele ngokwakho kungaba nzima. Kodwa asikho isidingo sokuhamba wedwa.

Uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo othembekile angakusiza ukuphatha ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo ngokunikeza ukuholwa kunoma yimaphi amasu okubhekana nokuthinta imizwa ngenhla. Futhi zinganikeza ukwesekwa okulungiselelwe ngokukhethekile isimo sakho.

Umhlahlandlela wethu ekwelashweni okungabizi kungakusiza ukuthi uqale.

Okubalulekile

Ezweni elihle, uzokwazi ukubhekana ngqo nazo zonke izinkinga zakho bese uzixazulula ngokushesha. Nokho, empeleni izinselelo eziningi zingaphezu kwamandla ethu. Ukubhekana nokugxila emizweni kungakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nalezi zinselele futhi wakhe ukuqina.

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