Ungayakha Kanjani Impilo Enhle Engokomzwelo

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• Ibukeka kanjani isebenza?
• 1. Ukuqaphela imizwa ecasulayo lapho ivela
• 2. Ukubamba izahlulelo zakho
• 3. Ilukuluku
• Kungani kubaluleke kangaka?
• Ngingayithuthukisa kanjani impilo yami engokomzwelo?
• 1. Prakthiza umthetho ongokomzwelo
• 2. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba
• 3. Qinisa ukuxhumana nabantu
• 4. Qaphela
• 5. Lala ngokusezingeni
• Okubalulekile

Okokuqala, akuyona into efanayo nempilo yengqondo. Yize la magama womabili evame ukusetshenziswa ngokushintshana, impilo engokomzwelo “igxile ekuhambisaneni nemizwelo yethu, ukuba sengozini, nokuba yiqiniso,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinamalayisense uJuli Fraga, PsyD.

Ukuba nempilo enhle ngokomzwelo kuyisici esibalulekile sokukhuthaza ukuqina, ukuzazi, nokweneliseka ngokuphelele.

Khumbula ukuthi ukuba nempilo enhle ngokomzwelo akusho ukuthi uhlala ujabulile noma ukhululekile emizweni engemihle. Imayelana nokuba namakhono nezinsizakusebenza zokuphatha ukwehla nokwehla kwempilo yansuku zonke.

Ibukeka kanjani isebenza?

Nakhu ukubheka izibonelo ezithile ezijwayelekile zempilo enhle engokomzwelo kanye nomthelela ongaba nawo.

1. Ukuqaphela imizwa ecasulayo lapho ivela

Lokhu kukwenza ukwazi ukuwaqamba amagama futhi uwacubungule ngezindlela ezinempilo. Isibonelo, ungakhetha ukubhekana nozwela nomuntu okuzwise ubuhlungu noma okuthukuthelise kunokuba umthukuthelise. Noma mhlawumbe ukhetha ukusetha imingcele enempilo emsebenzini noma nabantu obathandayo.

2. Ukubamba izahlulelo zakho

Ngokusho kukaFraga, lokhu kusho ukuguqula lelo lizwi elibucayi langaphakathi libe yithuba lokuzithanda nokuzwela.

Isibonelo, uma uzithola uhlanganyela ekukhulumeni okungalungile, ungabuza:

• "Ukube ingane yami, umlingani wami, noma umngani omkhulu bebezokhuluma nami ngale ndlela, bengizophendula kanjani?"
• Yini eyenza kube yinselele kimi ukuziphatha ngendlela engiphatha ngayo abanye? ”

3. Ilukuluku

Impilo engokomzwelo iyachuma lapho unelukuluku ngemicabango yakho, indlela oziphatha ngayo, nemizwa yakho nokuthi kungani kungavela ngezikhathi ezithile, kusho uFraga.

Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuzibuza, "Kungani ngisabela ngale ndlela?" noma "Yini emayelana nesikhathi sami esedlule engaholela ekutheni ngiphendule ngokuqinile ku-x, y, no-z?"

Kungani kubaluleke kangaka?

Ukusebenzela impilo yethu engokomzwelo kubaluleke njengokukhathalela inhlalakahle yethu engokomzimba.

Futhi lowo msebenzi ukhokha nge:

• Ukuqina kwengcindezi. kukhombisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kukwenza ube sengozini yokugula ngokomzimba ngokuthinta amasosha akho omzimba.
• Ubudlelwano obujulile. Uma uhlonyiswe ngamakhono okuphatha imizwa yakho, kuba lula kuwe ukuxhumana nabanye futhi ubonise ukuzwelana nobubele obengeziwe. Futhi uyakwazi kangcono ukubamba izimpikiswano futhi ukhulume ngemizwa yakho.
• Ukuzethemba okuphezulu. Imicabango yakho, imizwa, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kuthonya indlela ozizwa ngayo ngawe. Impilo enhle engokomzwelo ikusiza ukuthi ubone okuhle kuwe yize kunezinselelo.
• Amandla amaningi. Ukuba nombono oqondile kukwenza uzizwe unamandla futhi kukusiza ukuthi ugxile futhi ucabange kahle, kanti impilo empofu engokomzwelo iqeda izinsizakusebenza zakho zengqondo futhi iholele ekukhathaleni.

Ngingayithuthukisa kanjani impilo yami engokomzwelo?

Impilo engokomzwelo iyinqubo engaphezu kwenhloso. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi usuvele wenza ezinye izinto ezisiza ukuqinisa impilo yakho engokomzwelo.

Njengoba udlula kulezi zeluleko, khumbula ukuthi impilo engokomzwelo ayikona ukuthi uhlale usesimweni esihle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imayelana nokuzihlomisa ukubhekana nokuhle, okubi, nakho konke okuphakathi.

1. Prakthiza umthetho ongokomzwelo

Imizwelo ingakuthola futhi kwesinye isikhathi ithole okuhle kunakho konke, kepha ukufunda amasu okubhekana nakho ukubathukuthelisa kungakusiza ukuthi uphendule esikhundleni sokusabela ezimweni ezicasulayo, uFraga weluleka.

Amasu okubhekana nezinkinga angabandakanya:

• ukuzindla
• journaling
• lalele umculo
• ngikhuluma nomelaphi

2. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba

Uma ukhungathekile ngokucindezeleka emsebenzini noma ekhaya, ukuzivocavoca njalo kungazizwa kungenakwenzeka. Kodwa ukuthatha isikhathi sokuzivocavoca umzimba kungakondla ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, kusho uFraga.

Hlela ukubeka eceleni imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku ukwenza uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi wokuzivocavoca umzimba. Uma ufushane ngesikhathi, thola iziqephu zesikhathi semizuzu engu-10 noma engu-15 ukuze uhambe ngokushesha.

3. Qinisa ukuxhumana nabantu

Ukuxhumana kwakho nabanye kungaba nemiphumela enamandla empilweni yakho engokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Ukuhlala uxhumene nabantu obathandayo kunganikeza isikhathi lapho ubhekene nezinselelo,

Khuthaza lokhu kuxhumana ngokuchitha isikhathi nabangane abaseduze nomndeni, kungaba mathupha noma ngocingo.

4. Qaphela

Umzimba ocwaningayo ocwaningayo uxhuma ukucabanga nge-reactivity engaphansi ngokomzwelo nokwaneliseka okukhulu kobudlelwano.

Ukucabanga kungaba lula njengokugxila entweni eyodwa ngasikhathi sinye, ukuzama ukuxoshwa kwezinkundla zokuxhumana, noma ukuguqula imisebenzi yasekhaya ibe ikhefu lengqondo. Iphuzu ukuhambisana nomkhuba wakho wokucabanga futhi unikele ngisho nemizuzu embalwa nje entweni oyithandayo.

5. Lala ngokusezingeni

Ukuzidela ukulala kukwenza ube sengozini kakhulu ekucindezelekeni nasekukhathazekeni.

Ucwaningo olulodwa lwango-2018 luthole ukuthi ukungalali kahle kuholela emicabangweni engemihle ephindaphindayo. Ukukhathala ngokweqile kungakwenza usabele ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo. Lokho kusebenza ngokomzwelo kungathinta kabi umbono wakho, ukusebenza kwakho, nobudlelwano bakho.

Qiniseka ukuthi uhambisana nezikhathi zakho zokulala nezokuvuka kanye nokwenza ngcono indawo yakho yokulala ukuze uthole ukuphumula okwanele.

Okubalulekile

Impilo enhle engokomzwelo ibalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho yonke. Uma uzizwa sengathi imicabango nemizwelo yakho iyakuthola, ukunakekela izidingo zakho eziyinhloko - njengokulala nokuxhumana nabantu obathandayo - kungasiza.

Uma lokho kubonakala kungakwenzi iqhinga, cabanga ukusebenza nomelaphi noma omunye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Bangakusiza ekuboneni ngokusobala izici zempilo yakho engokomzwelo ofuna ukuyithuthukisa futhi bakusize uqhamuke necebo.