Ungazibona Kanjani Izimpawu Zokuphathwa Kwezemizwa Nalokho Okufanele Ukwenze

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• Izinto okufanele uzicabangele
• Bagcina “inzuzo yasenkantolo yasekhaya”
• Basondela ngokushesha okukhulu
• Bayakuvumela ukuthi ukhulume kuqala
• Basonta amaqiniso
• Bahlanganyela ekuhlukumezeni kwengqondo
• Bazibandakanya nokuhlukunyezwa okuphethe
• Zikwenza uzisole ngokuzwakalisa ukukhathazeka
• Zinciphisa izinkinga zakho bese zizidlalela ezazo
• Benza njengomfel 'ukholo
• Bahlala "bencokola" lapho bekhuluma into enokhahlo noma enenhloso
• Abakuthathi ukuphendula
• Bahlala bekukhuphula
• Bahlale bekugxeka
• Basebenzisa ukungazethembi kwakho kuwe
• Basebenzisa imizwa yakho ngokumelene nawe
• Basebenzisa uhambo lwecala noma okokugcina
• Banolaka lokwenziwa
• Bayakunika ukuthula
• Basho noma benze okuthile bese kamuva bekuphika
• Bahlale “bezolile kakhulu,” ikakhulukazi ngezikhathi zobunzima
• Bayakushiya ubuza impilo yakho
• Okufanele ngikwenze
• Umbono

Izinto okufanele uzicabangele

Abakhohlisi abangokomzwelo bavame ukusebenzisa imidlalo yengqondo ukubamba amandla ebudlelwaneni.

Inhloso enkulu ukusebenzisa lawo mandla ukulawula omunye umuntu.

Ubudlelwano obunempilo bususelwa ekwethembaneni, ekuqondaneni nasekuhloniphaneni. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngobudlelwano bomuntu siqu, kanye nobungcweti.

Kwesinye isikhathi, abantu bafuna ukuxhaphaza lezi zinto zobudlelwano ukuze bazizuzise ngandlela thile.

Izimpawu zokukhohlisa ngokomzwelo zingaba ezicashile. Ngokuvamile kunzima ukuzibona, ikakhulukazi uma zenzeka kuwe.

Lokho akusho ukuthi yiphutha lakho - akekho umuntu ofanelwe ukukhohliswa.

Ungafunda ukubona ukukhohlisa bese ukumisa. Ungafunda futhi ukuvikela ukuzethemba kwakho nokuhlanzeka kwengqondo, futhi.

Sizobuyekeza izinhlobo ezijwayelekile zokukhohlisa ngokomzwelo, ukuthi ungazibona kanjani, nokuthi yini ongayenza ngokulandelayo.

Bagcina “inzuzo yasenkantolo yasekhaya”

Ukuba se-turf yakho yasekhaya, noma ngabe kuyikhaya lakho langempela noma nje isitolo sekhofi esiyintandokazi, kungakunika amandla.

Uma abanye abantu bephikelela ukuhlangana embusweni wabo, kungenzeka ukuthi bazama ukudala ukungalingani kwamandla.

Babanga ubunikazi baleyo ndawo, okushiya kukubi.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Hamba uye ehhovisi lami uma kungenzeka. Ngimatasa kakhulu ukuba ngingaya kuwe. ”
• “Uyazi ukuthi kukude kangakanani ukuhamba nami lokho. Woza lapha kusihlwa. ”

Basondela ngokushesha okukhulu

Abakhohlisi abangokomzwelo bangeqa izinyathelo ezimbalwa esigabeni sendabuko sokwazi. "Bahlanganyela" izimfihlo zabo ezimnyama kakhulu nokukhubazeka.

Lokho abakwenzayo empeleni, noma kunjalo, kuzama ukukwenza uzizwe ukhethekile ukuze udalule izimfihlo zakho. Bangakusebenzisa lokhu kuzwela kamuva kuwe.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Ngibona sengathi sixhuma nje ezingeni elijule ngempela. Angikaze kwenzeke lokhu phambilini. ”
• “Angikaze ngibe nomuntu owabelana nami ngombono wakhe njengawe. Sihloselwe ukuba kulokhu. ”

Bayakuvumela ukuthi ukhulume kuqala

Leli iqhinga elidumile ngobudlelwano obuthile bebhizinisi, kepha kungenzeka nakwabantu uqobo, futhi.

Lapho umuntu oyedwa efuna ukusungula ukulawula, bangabuza imibuzo ehlolisisa ukuze wabelane ngemicabango yakho nokukhathazeka kwakho kusenesikhathi.

Ngokucabanga kwabo okufihliwe emqondweni, bangazisebenzisa izimpendulo zakho ukuphatha izinqumo zakho.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Gosh, angikaze ngizwe izinto ezinhle ngaleyo nkampani. Sibe yini isipiliyoni sakho? ”
• "Awu kuzofanele ungichazele ukuthi kungani ungidinelwe futhi."

Basonta amaqiniso

Abakhohlisi abangokomzwelo bangongqondongqondo ekushintsheni okungokoqobo ngamanga, imicu noma izitatimende ezingezona ukuze bakudide.

Bangase benze ihaba ukuze bazenze babonakale besengozini enkulu.

Bangase banciphise nendima yabo engxabanweni ukuze bathole ukuzwelana nawe.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Ngibuze umbuzo ngale phrojekthi weza kimi, wamemeza ethi angikaze ngenze lutho ukumsiza, kodwa uyazi ukuthi ngiyakwenza, akunjalo?"
• "Ngakhala ubusuku bonke futhi angizange ngilale ngicwayiza."

Bahlanganyela ekuhlukumezeni kwengqondo

Uma othile ekuthwala ngokweqile ngezibalo, i-jargon, noma amaqiniso uma ubuza umbuzo, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezana nohlobo lokukhohliswa ngokomzwelo.

Abanye abakhohlisi bacabanga ukuthi bangongoti, kanti baphoqelela "ulwazi" lwabo kuwe. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu ezimeni zezezimali noma zokuthengisa.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Umusha kulokhu, ngakho-ke bengingalindele ukuthi uqonde."
• "Ngiyazi ukuthi lezi izinombolo eziningi zakho, ngakho-ke ngizobuyela kulokhu ngokunensa."

Bazibandakanya nokuhlukunyezwa okuphethe

Futhi, esimeni sebhizinisi, abakhohlisi abangokomzwelo bangazama ukukucindezela ngamaphepha, i-red tape, izinqubo, noma yini engakuthikameza.

Lokhu kungenzeka ikakhulukazi uma uveza ukuhlolisisa noma ubuza imibuzo edala amaphutha abo noma ubuthakathaka babo.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Lokhu kuzoba nzima kakhulu kuwe. Ngizovele ngime manje bese ngizisindisela umzamo. ”
• "Awunalo nhlobo ulwazi ngekhanda ozakhela lona."

Zikwenza uzisole ngokuzwakalisa ukukhathazeka

Uma ubuza imibuzo noma wenza isiphakamiso, umkhohlisi ongokomzwelo cishe uzophendula ngendlela enolaka noma azame ukukufaka engxabanweni.

Lelisu livumela ukuthi balawule ukukhetha kwakho futhi bathonye izinqumo zakho.

Bangase basebenzise lesi simo ukukwenza uzizwe unecala lokuveza ukukhathazeka kwakho kwasekuqaleni.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Angiqondi ukuthi kungani ungangethembi nje."
• “Uyazi ukuthi ngingumuntu okhathazekile nje. Ngeke ngikwazi ukukusiza ngifuna ukwazi ukuthi ukuphi ngaso sonke isikhathi. ”

Zinciphisa izinkinga zakho bese zizidlalela ezazo

Uma unosuku olubi, umkhohlisi ongokomzwelo angathatha ithuba lokuletha ezabo izingqinamba.

Umgomo ukwenza kungabikhona lokho ohlangabezana nakho ukuze uphoqeleke ukuthi ugxile kuzo futhi usebenzise amandla akho angokomzwelo ezinkingeni zabo.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Ucabanga ukuthi kubi lokho? Awudingi ukubhekana ne-cube-mate ekhuluma nocingo ngaso sonke isikhathi. "
• “Bonga ukuthi unomfowenu. Ngizizwe ngingedwa impilo yami yonke. ”

Benza njengomfel 'ukholo

Umuntu olawula imizwa yabantu angavuma ngentshiseko ukusiza ngento ethile kodwa bese ephenduka ahudule izinyawo noma afune izindlela zokugwema isivumelwano sabo.

Bangase benze sengathi kugcine kungumthwalo omkhulu, futhi bazofuna ukusizakala ngemizwa yakho ukuze baphume kukho.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Ngiyazi ukuthi uyakudinga lokhu kimi. Kuningi nje lokhu, futhi sengivele ngikhungathekile. ”
• “Lokhu kunzima kunendlela ebukeka ngayo. Angicabangi ukuthi ubukwazi lokho ngesikhathi ungibuza. ”

Bahlala "bencokola" lapho bekhuluma into enokhahlo noma enenhloso

Amazwi abucayi angahle afihlwe njengamahlaya noma ukubhuqa. Bangazenza sengathi basho okuthile ngokuhlekisa, kanti lokho abazama ukukwenza ngempela ukutshala imbewu yokungabaza.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Ndabezitha, ubukeka ukhathele!”
• "Hhayi-ke uma ungavuka edeskini lakho uhambe uzungeze, ubungeke uphume umoya kalula kanjalo."

Abakuthathi ukuphendula

Abakhohlisi abangokomzwelo abasoze bamukela umthwalo wamaphutha abo.

Bazozama ukuthola indlela yokwenza uzizwe unecala ngakho konke. kusuka ekulweni kuya kuphrojekthi ehlulekile.

Ungagcina uxolisile, noma ngabe yibo abasephutheni.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Ngikwenze kuphela ngoba ngikuthanda kakhulu."
• "Ukube ubungazange uye ohlelweni lwemiklomelo yengane yakho, ubungawuqeda umsebenzi ngendlela efanele."

Bahlala bekukhuphula

Uma ujabulile, bathola isizathu sokususa ukukhanya kuwe. Lokhu kungenzeka futhi ngomqondo ongemuhle.

Lapho uhlangabezane nenhlekelele noma ukubuyela emuva, umkhohlisi ongokomzwelo angazama ukwenza izinkinga zabo zibonakale zimbi kakhulu noma zicindezela kakhulu.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Unyuselo lwakho luhle kakhulu, kodwa ngabe ubone omunye umuntu enyuselwa ngokugcwele?”
• “Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi umkhulu wakho uphasile. Ngilahlekelwe bobabili ogogo nomkhulu bami emasontweni amabili, ngakho-ke okungenani akukubi kangako. ”

Bahlale bekugxeka

Abakhohlisi abangokomzwelo bangakuxosha noma bakululaze ngaphandle kokuzenzisa noma ukubhuqa. Ukuphawula kwabo kuklanyelwe ukuqeda ukuzethemba kwakho.

Zenzelwe ukuhlekisa ngawe nokukukhipha inyumbazane. Imvamisa, umkhohlisi uveza ukungavikeleki kwabo.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Awucabangi ukuthi leyo ngubo iveza kancane emhlanganweni wamakhasimende? Ngicabanga ukuthi kungenye yezindlela zokuthola i-akhawunti. ”
• "Konke okwenzayo wukudla."

Basebenzisa ukungazethembi kwakho kuwe

Lapho bazi izindawo zakho ezibuthakathaka, bangazisebenzisa ukukulimaza. Bangase benze imibono futhi bathathe izinyathelo ezihloselwe ukukushiya uzizwa uvikelekile futhi ucasukile.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Uthe awusoze wafuna ukuthi izingane zakho zikhulele emakhaya ahlukene. Bheka wenzani kubo manje. ”
• “Lesi yisithameli esinzima. Ngingaba novalo ukube benginguwe. ”

Basebenzisa imizwa yakho ngokumelene nawe

Uma uphatheke kabi, umuntu okuxhaphazayo angazama ukukwenza uzizwe unecala ngemizwa yakho.

Bangakumangalela ngokungabi nangqondo noma ngokungatshalwa imali ngokwanele.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Uma ubungithanda ngempela, awusoze wangibuza."
• “Angikwazanga ukuwuthatha lowo msebenzi. Ngeke ngithande ukuba kude nezingane zami kangaka. ”

Basebenzisa uhambo lwecala noma okokugcina

Ngesikhathi sokungezwani noma sokulwa, umuntu okhohlisayo uzokwenza izitatimende ezimangazayo ezihlose ukukubeka endaweni enzima.

Bazokhomba ubuthakathaka obungokomzwelo ngezitatimende ezivuthayo ukuze bacele ukuxolisa.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Uma ungishiya, angifanele ukuphila."
• "Uma ungeke ube lapha kule mpelasonto, ngicabanga ukuthi kukhombisa izinga lakho lokuzinikela kuleli hhovisi."

Banolaka lokwenziwa

Umuntu onolaka nje angakugwema ukuhilizisana. Basebenzisa abantu abaseduze kwakho, njengabangani, ukuxhumana nawe esikhundleni salokho.

Bangase futhi bakhulume ngemuva kwakho kulabo osebenza nabo.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Ngingakhuluma ngalokhu, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi umatasa kakhulu."
• "Ngibone kungcono uma uzwe komunye umuntu, hhayi mina ngoba sisondelene kakhulu."

Bayakunika ukuthula

Aziphenduli izingcingo zakho, ama-imeyili, imilayezo eqondile, noma olunye uhlobo lokuxhumana.

Basebenzisa ukuthula ukuthola ukulawula futhi bakwenze uzizwe unesibopho ngokuziphatha kwabo.

Basho noma benze okuthile bese kamuva bekuphika

Le ndlela yenzelwe ukukwenza ubuze inkumbulo yakho yemicimbi.

Lapho ungasazizwa uqinisekile ngokwenzekile, bangakhomba inkinga kuwe, bakwenze uzizwe unesibopho sokungaqondi kahle.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Angikaze ngikusho lokho. Ucabanga izinto futhi. ”
• “Bengingeke ngizinikele kulokho. Uyazi ukuthi ngimatasa kakhulu. ”

Bahlale “bezolile kakhulu,” ikakhulukazi ngezikhathi zobunzima

Abantu abasebenzisa kabi izinto bavame ukuba nokusabela okuphambene nomuntu abamphathayo.

Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ezimweni ezithintekayo ngokomzwelo. Lokho kwenzelwa ukuthi basebenzise ukusabela kwakho njengendlela yokwenza uzizwe uzwela kakhulu.

Ube usukala ukuphendula kwakho ngokuya ngezabo, bese unquma ukuthi ubungekho emgqeni.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• “Ubonile ukuthi bonke abanye abantu bebezolile. Uvele wacasuka kakhulu. ”
• "Bengingafuni ukusho lutho, kodwa ubonakale ungalawuleki kancane."

Bayakushiya ubuza impilo yakho

Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kuyindlela yokukhohlisa abantu abazama ngayo ukukwenza ukholelwe ukuthi awusakwazi ukwethemba imizwa yakho noma ulwazi lwakho.

Benza ukholelwe ukuthi izinto ezenzekile ziyinto yomcabango wakho. Ulahlekelwa umuzwa weqiniso.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• "Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi akusebenzi lokhu."
• “Angizange ngiphuze ukufika. Ukhohlwe nje ukuthi ngithe ngizoba lapho ngasiphi isikhathi. ”

Okufanele ngikwenze

Kungathatha isikhathi ukubona ukuthi othile ukukhohlisa ngokomzwelo. Izimpawu zicashile, futhi zivame ukuvela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Kodwa uma ucabanga ukuthi uphathwa ngale ndlela, thembela imizwa yakho.

Xolisa ngengxenye yakho, bese uqhubeka. Cishe ngeke uthole ukuxolisa, kepha nawe akudingeki uhlale kukho. Yiba ngowakho ngokwazi ukuthi ukwenzile empeleni, bese ungasho lutho kwezinye izinsolo.

Ungazami ukubashaya. Abantu ababili akufanele badlale lo mdlalo. Esikhundleni salokho, funda ukubona amasu ukuze uzilungiselele kahle izimpendulo zakho.

Beka imingcele. Lapho umuntu okhohlisayo ebona ukuthi wehluleka ukulawula, amaqhinga akhe angakhula aphelelwe yithemba. Lesi yisikhathi sokuba uthathe izinqumo ezinzima.

Uma kungafanele ube seduze kwalowo muntu, cabanga ukubasusa empilweni yakho ngokuphelele.

Uma uhlala nabo noma nisebenza ngokubambisana, kuzodingeka ufunde amasu okuphatha.

Ungakuthola kuwusizo ukukhuluma nomelaphi noma umeluleki ngokuthi ungasisingatha kanjani isimo.

Ungase futhi ufune umngani othenjiwe noma ilungu lomndeni ukuthi likusize ubone ukuziphatha futhi usebenzise imingcele.

Umbono

Akekho ofanelwe ukuthi omunye umuntu abaphathe ngale ndlela.

Ukukhohlisa ngokomzwelo kungahle kungashiyi izibazi zomzimba, kepha kusengaba nomphumela ohlala njalo. Ungaphulukiswa kulokhu, futhi ungakhula kusuka kukho, futhi.

Umelaphi noma umeluleki angakusiza ubone amaphethini ayingozi. Bangakusiza ukuthi ufunde izindlela zokubhekana nokuziphatha futhi ngethemba ukukumisa.

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