Kungani Ngihweba Ukuma Komzimba Wokwamukelwa Kwamafutha

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• Ukuze ubonwe, kufanele ube ngumqondo womphakathi 'wamafutha amahle'
• Njengesazi sokudla esinonile, mancane amathuba okuthi abantu bangithathe ngokungathi sína kunomuntu odla ukudla okuncane
• Esinye isici ‘sokukhuluphala ngendlela efanele’ ukuba nobuntu obuhle obungapheli
• Lapho ukuzithanda kuqala kuyinto ephambili, akubheki imiyalezo yansuku zonke yocwaso kanye ne-fatphobia
• Yeka ukuthi abantu abancane bangaba kanjani abangane boshintsho lwesiko

Sibona kanjani ukwakheka komhlaba esikhetha ukuba yibo - futhi nokwabelana ngamava acindezelayo kungakha indlela esiphathana ngayo, ibe ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Okwamanje, ukulondeka komzimba sekuvame kakhulu. Iningi labantu lizwile ukulingwa kwalo noma libonile i-hashtag ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Ebusweni, ungakholelwa ukuthi kumayelana nokuzithanda nokwamukela umzimba. Kepha lokhu kuchazwa kwamanje kunemikhawulo - imikhawulo emelene nosayizi womzimba, ukuma, umbala, nezinye izici eziningi zobunikazi bomuntu - futhi le mingcele ikhona ngoba #bodypositivity ikhohlwe kakhulu izimpande zayo zepolitiki ekwamukelweni kwamafutha.

Ukwamukelwa kwamafutha, okwaqala ngawo-1960 njengeNational Association to Advance Fat Ukwamukelwa, bekulokhu kudlula ngamagagasi namafomu ahlukene cishe iminyaka engama-50. Njengamanje, ukwamukelwa kwamafutha yinhlangano yezobulungiswa kwezenhlalo ehlose ukwenza isiko lomzimba lifake futhi lihluke kakhulu, ngazo zonke izindlela zalo.

Futhi nali iqiniso: Ukuzethemba komzimba kuqala kungisizile ngafuna ukushintsha indlela engibheka ngayo umzimba wami. Kunginike ithemba lokuthi kuzolunga ukwenza lokho. Kwaze kwaba yilapho ngiqaphela ukuthi #ibodypositivity influencers bangenza ngazizwa ngingelutho, njengomzimba wami wawumningi kakhulu ukuthi ungalunga ngempela, lapho engaqala khona ukubuza ukuthi ngabe ngangilapho noma cha.

Uma ukuqiniseka komzimba kuzokwenza lokho obekufanele kwenziwe njalo, kudinga ukufaka ukwamukelwa kwamafutha.

Ukuze ubonwe, kufanele ube ngumqondo womphakathi 'wamafutha amahle'

Ukusesha #bodypositivity noma #bopo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kukhombisa lapho lezi zinhlangano zihluke khona. Ama-hashtag akhiqiza kakhulu izithombe zabesifazane, ikakhulukazi abesifazane ezinhlotsheni zomzimba ezinelungelo elikhulu: mncane, mhlophe, futhi cis. Yize umzimba omkhulu ngezikhathi ezithile uzothambekela, lezi zibonelo azivelisi imiphumela yosesho.

Lesi senzo sokumisa umzimba onelungelo, ongabukeka njengowakho noma umgqugquzeli we- # bopo, awunankinga ngokwemvelo, kepha uzinakekela umzimba ohloniphekile ohlonipha abantu abakhuluphele kanye nemizimba ebhekelwe phansi uqobo kusuka engxoxweni.

Noma ngubani angaba nokuhlangenwe nakho noma imizwa engemihle emzimbeni wakhe, kodwa akufani nokubandlululwa okuhlelekile komzimba imizimba yamafutha. Umuzwa wokuthi uhlala ushiywe ngaphandle noma wahlulelwa ngosayizi womzimba wakho awufani nokungasithandi isikhumba sakho noma ukuzizwa ukhululekile emzimbeni wakho. Kokubili kuvumelekile, akufani nje ngoba umphakathi wenhlonipho othomathikhi unikeza imizimba emincane ayikho kubantu abakhuluphele.

Futhi ukucwaswa kuyaqina njengoba umzimba ukhuluphela.

Ngaphandle kokuthi ubukhulu bomzimba noma ukubukeka kungezona izindlela ezinhle zempilo, umphakathi ubambe okulindelwe okuphezulu kubantu abakhuluphele ukuthi babe "ngamafutha amahle".

Njengesazi sokudla esinonile, mancane amathuba okuthi abantu bangithathe ngokungathi sína kunomuntu odla ukudla okuncane

Amakhono ami nolwazi kuyabuzwa, kokubili ngokusobala nangokucacile ngenxa yobukhulu bomzimba wami. Amaklayenti nabanye ochwepheshe ngokufanayo babuze ikhono lami lokuhlinzeka futhi banqume ukungasebenzi nami.

Futhi lapho imizimba enonile njengami ikhonjiswa kahle, kuvame ukubuyela emuva kubalandeli noma kuma-troll - abantu abalandela ama-hashtag futhi bazame ukudicilela phansi izinto ezibonakala ngaphansi kwabo. Kusengozini ukuthumela izithombe zomzimba wakho uma unonile. Ukukhuluma ngokuthi kungenzeka kanjani ukuba nempilo nganoma yisiphi isayizi kuyakhathaza ngokomzwelo. Uma umzimba wakho ukhula, ukhishwa inyumbazane, futhi usengozini yokuhlukunyezwa.

Abanye abagqugquzeli abakhuluphele bazozizwa bephoqelekile ukufakazela impilo yabo ngokukhuluma ngemiphumela yabo yokuhlolwa kwegazi, ukuzibonisa bedla isaladi, noma ukukhuluma ngenkambiso yabo yokuzivocavoca ukuze baphendule kuqala imibuzo ethi "kodwa impilo?" Ngamanye amagama, yize usayizi womzimba noma ukubukeka kungezona izindlela ezinhle zempilo, umphakathi ubamba okulindelwe okuphezulu kubantu abakhuluphele ukuthi babe "ngamafutha amahle."

Ngenkathi amaphoyisa ezempilo ekhibhodi nezeluleko zawo ezingacelwanga zilimaza abantu abancane nabakhuluphele, ukuphawula kwabo kuzobanga uhlobo olwehlukile lwehlazo nokucwaswa kwabantu abakhuluphele. Abantu abancane bathola ukudlula kumazwana ezempilo, kanti abantu abakhuluphele bavame ukutholakala ezithombeni kuphela, kucatshangwa ukuthi banezimo ezahlukahlukene zezempilo. Lokhu kuhumusha ngaphandle kwesikrini bese kungena nasehhovisi likadokotela, futhi: Abantu abakhuluphele batshelwa ukuthi banciphise isisindo cishe nganoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka kwezempilo, kanti abantu abazacile maningi amathuba okuthola ukwelashwa.

Uma nje sikholwa ukuthi ushintsho nokwamukelwa kuphelele kumuntu (njengokufuna ukunciphisa isisindo), sizibekela ukwehluleka.

Esinye isici ‘sokukhuluphala ngendlela efanele’ ukuba nobuntu obuhle obungapheli

Abagqugquzeli abahle bomzimba bavame ukukhuluma ngokuthanda imizimba yabo, ukujabula emzimbeni wabo, noma ukuzizwa “be-sexy” okokuqala ngqa. Lezi izinto ezinhle kakhulu, futhi kuyamangaza ukuzwa lokho emzimbeni owawuzonda isikhathi eside.

Kodwa-ke, ukuguqula lobu buhle bube yisici esivelele noma imfuneko yokunyakaza kunezela elinye izinga elingenakuphila ngalo. Bambalwa kakhulu abantu abathola ukuzithanda okungapheli nokungantengantengi, futhi nabantu abambalwa kakhulu emizimbeni ebandlululiwe bakuthola lokhu njalo. Umuntu owenza umsebenzi ngenkuthalo ukuze aguqule izinkolelo zakhe ngomzimba wakhe wenza umsebenzi omangalisayo nowelaphayo, kepha ezweni eligqugquzela isiko lokuzonda abantu, lolu hambo lungazizwa lunesizungu.

Lapho ukuzithanda kuqala kuyinto ephambili, akubheki imiyalezo yansuku zonke yocwaso kanye ne-fatphobia

Ukuzethemba komzimba kuyindawo enhle yokungena kubantu abaningi ekwamukelweni kwamafutha nasemsebenzini ojulile wokwamukela. Umlayezo wokuzithanda uyingxenye ebalulekile yomsebenzi womuntu ngamunye ngoba ukuguqula isiko kudinga ukuzimisela nokuqina. Kunzima ukungakholelwa isiko elithanda ukuveza amaphutha akho, kepha le ngcindezi yansuku zonke futhi kungani #bodypositivity iyodwa ayanele.

Ubandlululo kanye ne-fatphobia kuyingozi kithina sonke.

Nini ; lapho behlala emhlabeni okhombisa kuphela imizimba ezacile noma emaphakathi eduze kwamagama afana nokuthi "uphilile" nokuthi "muhle"; lapho igama elithi "amanoni" lisetshenziswa njengomuzwa ongemuhle; futhi lapho abezindaba bengakhombisi nhlobo imizimba yamafutha, kunjalo.

Konke lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kusebenza ngokubambisana futhi kukhuthaza isiko elijezisa imizimba ekhuluphele. Kungenzeka ubhekane nomholo ophansi, ukwenzelela kwezokwelapha, ukubandlululwa emsebenzini, ukwenqatshwa emphakathini, nokuhlazeka komzimba phakathi kwezinye izinto eziningi. Futhi ukukhuluphela akusona isigaba esivikelwe.

Uma nje sikholwa ukuthi ushintsho nokwamukelwa kuphela kumuntu (njengokufuna ukunciphisa isisindo), sizibekela ukwehluleka. Umuntu angakwazi kuphela ukumelana nokwenqatshwa komphakathi, izinkolelo ezichemile, nemikhuba elinganiselwe, eyedwa.

Uma ukulungela komzimba kuzokwenza lokho obekufanele kwenziwe njalo, kudinga ukufaka ukwamukelwa kwamafutha. Kudinga ukufaka lezo ezisemizimbeni ebandlululiwe nasemizimbeni engamukeleki ngokwesiko manje. Imibuthano yokwamukela amanoni igxila emizimbeni yamafutha ngoba yonke imizimba ayiphathwa ngokulinganayo ezindaweni zethu zansuku zonke - amahhovisi ezokwelapha, abalingiswa be-movie ne-TV, imikhiqizo yezingubo nokutholakala, izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuphola, izindiza, izindawo zokudlela, ukubala ezimbalwa.

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Yeka ukuthi abantu abancane bangaba kanjani abangane boshintsho lwesiko

Kwaze kwaba ngumuntu engangisanda kumlandela, emizamweni yami yokuzinika ithemba, lapho ngangazi ukuthi ukwamukelwa kwamafutha kuzoba nzima, kepha kungenzeka - futhi kungenzeka nomzimba wami manje.

Lo muntu ubesithanda ngokweqiniso isisu sakhe esinonile nawo wonke ama-stretch marks ngaphandle kokuxolisa nokuthola izizathu. Abazange bakhulume "ngamaphutha," kodwa mayelana nokuthi kwakuyisiko kanjani elaliholele ekutheni bazizonde kwasekuqaleni.

Ngangazi ukuthi ukulwela ubushoshovu obunonile kungenza izikhala zitholakale kuwo wonke umuntu, kwenze kube khona kunoma imuphi umzimba, ngakho-ke mhlawumbe ngolunye usuku abantu ngeke badlule ehlazweni lokuzwa sengathi abangeni ndawo.

Mhlawumbe bangagwema umuzwa wokuthi imizimba yabo isho ukuthi kufanele bacwile ekusithekeni ngoba konke mayelana nalokhu kukhulu kakhulu, hhayi ukwenza umthelela abangawenza emhlabeni. Mhlawumbe lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kungaphela. Mhlawumbe ngolunye usuku, bangagqoka izingubo lokho vele ulingane kubo.

Futhi ngikholwa ukuthi noma yimuphi umuntu onelungelo angakwazi ukugxila futhi athuthukise amazwi angafani nawakhe. Ngokwabelana "ngesiteji" somsebenzi wakho nabantu ababhekana nokucwaswa nokubandlululwa okukhulu, ungashintsha isiko. Ukushintshwa sekuqale ngemikhiqizo efana neJuba ne-Aerie, ngisho nezitolo ezinjengeMadewell neAnthropologie, ezibandakanya kakhulu. I-albhamu yakamuva kaLizzo iqale ukubonakala ku- No. 6 kumashadi eBillboard. Uhlelo lweTV “Shrill” lusanda kuvuselelwa isizini yesibili kuHulu.

Sifuna ushintsho. Siyayifuna futhi siyiphokophele, futhi kuze kube manje, sibe nenqubekela phambili - kepha ukugxila kakhulu kulawa mazwi kuzokhulula thina sonke ngokwengeziwe.

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U-Amee Severson yisazi sokudla esidliwayo esibhalisiwe umsebenzi waso ugxile ekuzuzeni umzimba, ekwamukelweni kwamafutha, nasekudla ngokuzibonela ngelensi yezobulungiswa kwezenhlalo. Njengomnikazi we-Prosper Nutrition and Wellness, u-Amee wakha isikhala sokuphatha ukudla okungahambisani nesimo sokungathathi hlangothi. Funda kabanzi futhi ubuze ngezinsizakalo kuwebhusayithi yakhe, i-counternernutritionandwellness.com.