I-Fatphobia yangivimbela kanjani ekutholeni usizo lwenkinga yami yokudla

-Delile

• Kusukela ngisemncane, ngafunda ukuthi usayizi wami wawusho ukufinyelela okulinganiselwe ekwelashweni
• Ngokungadli ngangizilimaza - {textend} kepha umphakathi wawungitshela ngenye indlela
• Noma ngangisondela ekutholeni ukwelashwa okulungile, ngangihlangane ne-fatphobia evela kubahlinzeki bezempilo
• Ukuthola ukwelashwa okulungile kwakusho ukuthi ngifunde ukuzizwa ngiphephe ngokwanele ukuze ngondle umzimba wami

Ukucwaswa ngaphakathi kohlelo lokunakekelwa kwezempilo kwakusho ukuthi ngilwa kanzima ukuthola usizo.

Sibona kanjani ukwakheka komhlaba esikhetha ukuba yibo - {textend} nokwabelana ngamava acindezelayo kungakha indlela esiphathana ngayo, ibe ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Yize inkinga yami yokudla yaqala lapho ngineminyaka eyi-10, kwathatha iminyaka emine ngaphambi kokuthi noma ubani akholelwe ukuthi nginaso - {textend} umphumela wokungabi isisindo somzimba okuvame ukuhambisana nokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla.

Ngaphambi kokuxilongwa, ngathunyelwa ohlelweni lwabasiki besisindo abancane. Njengoba kuvela, lokhu kuzoba yimbangela yempi yami yeminyaka engama-20 ne-bulimia, futhi ekugcineni i-anorexia nervosa.

Ngilandele indlela yokudla cishe amasonto amabili futhi bengiphezu kwenyanga mayelana nokunciphisa isisindo. Kepha ngemuva kwamasonto amabili bekufana nokuthi le switch ivuliwe. Ngokungazelelwe, angikwazanga ukuyeka ukuzitika ngotshwala.

Futhi ngangethuka.

Ngangingaqondi ukuthi kungani nganginokulawula okuncane kangaka lapho ngangifuna kakhulu ukunciphisa umzimba kunanoma yini emhlabeni.

Ngangifunde kusenesikhathi ukuthi ukuba nomzimba omncane kwakufanele kuthandwe emndenini wami, futhi ekugcineni, ngaqala ukuzihlanza nsuku zonke. Ngikhumbula kahle ngitshela umeluleki wesikole eneminyaka engu-12 ngalokho engangikwenza. Ngazizwa nginamahloni okuhlanganyela lokhu naye.

Lapho ebikela abazali bami, abakholwanga ukuthi kwakuyiqiniso ngenxa yobukhulu bomzimba wami.

ukuthi lapho kutholakala ukuthi kunenkinga yokudla ngaphambilini bese kwelashwa, iba ngcono imiphumela yokwelashwa. Kodwa ngenxa yobukhulu bomzimba wami, kwaze kwaba yilapho inkinga yami yokudla iqala ukulawula lapho ngineminyaka engu-14, lapho nomndeni wami wawungasakwazi ukuphika ukuthi nganginenkinga.

Kodwa nangemva kokutholakala ukuthi, isisindo sami sasisho ukufinyelela ekwelashweni okulungile kwakusengumqansa.

Kusukela ngisemncane, ngafunda ukuthi usayizi wami wawusho ukufinyelela okulinganiselwe ekwelashweni

Kusukela ngosuku lokuqala ngithole izingqinamba kuzo zonke izingqimba uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola usizo ebengiludinga - {textend} cishe njalo ngenxa yesisindo sami. Ngesikhathi ngiqala ukwelashwa, ngiyakhumbula ngingadli futhi udokotela wami ewadini wayengihalalisela ngokuncipha.

“Wehlise isisindo esikhulu kuleli sonto! Bheka ukuthi kwenzekani lapho uyeka ukuzitika ngotshwala nokuhlanza! ” ephawula.

Ngifunde ngokukhulu ukushesha ukuthi ngoba bengingakhuluphele, ukudla bekungakhethwa - {textend} yize nginenkinga yokudla. Ngingadunyiswa ngokuziphatha okufanayo ngqo obekukhathazeka kakhulu ngomuntu osemzimbeni omncane.

Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu, umshwalense wami waqinisekisa ukuthi isisindo sami senza inkinga yami yokudla ingabi ndaba. Ngakho-ke ngabuyiselwa ekhaya ngemuva kwezinsuku eziyisithupha kuphela zokwelashwa.

Futhi lokhu bekuyisiqalo nje.

Ngizoqhubeka nokuchitha iningi lentsha yami kanye nokuqala kwawo-20s ngingena ngiphuma ekwelashweni kwe-bulimia yami. Futhi ngenkathi nginomshuwalense omkhulu, umama wayezochitha leyo minyaka elwa nenkampani yami yomshuwalense, ezama ukulwela ukungitholela ubude bokwelashwa engikudingayo.

Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu, umyalezo oqhubekayo engiwunikwe yilabo abasemkhakheni wezokwelapha ukuthi konke engangikudinga kwakuwukuzikhuza kanye nokulawula okwengeziwe ukufeza umzimba omncane engangiwufuna kakhulu. Ngangihlala ngizizwa ngisehluleki futhi ngikholelwa ukuthi ngibuthakathaka futhi ngiyenyanyeka.

Inani lokuzizonda namahloni engangizizwa ngisemusha alichazeki.

Ngokungadli ngangizilimaza - {textend} kepha umphakathi wawungitshela ngenye indlela

Ekugcineni, inkinga yami yokudla yaphenduka i-anorexia (kuvame kakhulu ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kokudla kushintshe kuyo yonke iminyaka).

Kwaba kubi kakhulu ukuthi ilungu lomndeni lake langincenga ukuba ngidle. Ngikhumbula ngizwa ukukhululeka okukhulu ngoba, ngokokuqala ngqa empilweni yami, nganikezwa imvume engangiyidinga ukuthi ngihlanganyele entweni ebaluleke kakhulu ukuze umzimba wami uphile.

Kwaze kwaba ngo-2018, nokho, lapho ngathola ukuthi ngine-anorexia ngokusemthethweni yithimba lami lokwelashwa. Kodwa-ke, noma umndeni wami, abangane, kanye nabahlinzeki bezokwelapha babekhathazekile ngokuvinjelwa kwami ​​okunzima, iqiniso lokuthi isisindo sami besingephansi ngokwanele bekusho ukuthi izinketho zokuthola usizo zilinganiselwe.

Ngenkathi ngibona udokotela wami nodokotela wezokudla masonto onke, ngangingondlekile kangangoba ukwelashwa kwami ​​kweziguli kwakungeke kwanele ukungisiza ngilawule imikhuba yami yokudla engakhubazekile.

Kodwa ngemuva kokuncenga okuningi kudokotela wami wezokudla, ngavuma ukuya ohlelweni lwangaphakathi lweziguli. Njengoba bekulokhu kwenzeka kaningi kulo lonke uhambo lwami lokunakekelwa, uhlelo belungangamukeli ngoba isisindo sami besingephansi ngokwanele. Ngikhumbula ngivale ucingo ngitshela isazi sami sokudla ukuthi kusobala ukuthi inkinga yami yokudla ayinakuba yimbi kangako.

Ngalesi sikhathi ngangidlula njalo, kepha uhlelo lokugula olungangenzi phansi lwangenza ngaphika ubukhulu besifo sami sokudla.

Noma ngangisondela ekutholeni ukwelashwa okulungile, ngangihlangane ne-fatphobia evela kubahlinzeki bezempilo

Ngasekuqaleni konyaka ngiqale ukubona isazi sokudla okusha futhi ngaba nenhlanhla yokuthola umfundaze wokuhlala esibhedlela ngokwengxenye. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bengikwazi ukufinyelela ekwelashweni obekungaphikwa yinkampani yami yomshuwalense ngenxa yesisindo sami.

Kodwa-ke ngenkathi ngisondela ekutholeni usizo ebengiludinga kakhulu, ngisahlangana nabanikezeli bezokunakekelwa kwempilo abasunduza ukulandisa kwe-fatphobic.

Ngake ngaba nomhlengikazi ongitshela kaninginingi ukuthi bekungafanele ngidle konke ukudla ebengiyikho ngenkathi ngilulama. Ungitshele ukuthi kunezinye izindlela zokuphatha "ukulutheka kokudla" futhi ngingawala amaqembu athile okudla lapho sengishiyile ukwelashwa.

Ubungozi bokuvinjelwa kokudla Ukunciphisa wonke amaqembu okudla kwanoma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka kokudla kuyinkinga enkulu njengoba i-anorexia nervosa, i-bulimia, kanye nokuphazamiseka kokudla ngokweqile cishe kuhlale kunemingcele, noma ukuzwa icala noma ukwesaba lapho udla. Ukugwema amaqembu okudla kukushiya uzizwe sengathi awunakukwazi ukulawula lelo qembu lokudla noma ukuthi ufuna ukukugwema ngokuphelele.

Ukungitshela ukuthi ngiyeke ukudla lapho ngesaba ukudla kwakuyindida, nakimi. Kepha ingqondo yami yokudla engakhubazekile yakusebenzisa lokho njengenhlamvu ukwenza izizathu zokuthi umzimba wami awudingi nje ukudla.

Ukuthola ukwelashwa okulungile kwakusho ukuthi ngifunde ukuzizwa ngiphephe ngokwanele ukuze ngondle umzimba wami

Ngokujabulisayo, kulezi zinyanga ezimbalwa ezedlule, izazi zami zokudla manje zibheke imingcele yami yokudla njengenkinga enkulu.

Yadlala indima enkulu ekutheni ngihambisane nokwelashwa, ngoba ngangikwazi ukuzizwa ngiphephe ngokwanele ukuba ngidle futhi ngondle umzimba wami. Ngangifunde ngisemncane ukuthi ukudla nokufuna ukudla kwakulihlazo futhi akulungile. Kodwa ngangiqala ngqa ukunikezwa imvume ephelele yokudla kakhulu njengoba ngangifuna.

Ngenkathi ngisalulama, ngisebenza iminithi yonke yosuku ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono.

Futhi ngenkathi ngisaqhubeka nokusebenza kimi, kuyithemba lami ukuthi uhlelo lwethu lwezokwelapha luqala ukuqonda ukuthi i-fatphobia ayinandawo kwezokunakekelwa kwezempilo, nokuthi izinkinga zokudla azikhethi - {textend} lokhu kufaka phakathi izinhlobo zomzimba.

Uma uzithola ulwa nenkinga yokudla, kepha ungazizwa sengathi abahlinzeki bakho bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo banikeza ukwelashwa okukulungele kakhulu, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Cabanga ukufuna usizo kubaqeqeshi bokuphazamiseka kokudla abasebenza kuhlaka lwe-HAES. Kunezinsizakusebenza eziningana eziwusizo zokuphazamiseka kokudla lapha, lapha, nalapha.

UShira Rosenbluth, i-LCSW, ungusonhlalakahle onelayisense emitholampilo eNew York City. Unesifiso sokusiza abantu bazizwe bengcono kakhulu emzimbeni yabo nganoma yisiphi isayizi futhi egxile ekwelapheni ukudla okungakhubazekile, ukuphazamiseka kokudla, nokungagculiseki kwesithombe somzimba usebenzisa indlela engathathi hlangothi. Ungumbhali weThe Shira Rose, ibhulogi yesitayela esithandwayo yomzimba evezwe kuVerily Magazine, The Everygirl, Glam, naku-laurenconrad.com. Ungamthola ku-Instagram.