Owake waba Ingelosi KaVictoria Eyimfihlo u-Erin Heatherton Ngokusemthethweni Ungumuntu Onomzimba Omuhle Kunabo Bonke Esimaziyo

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Cishe uyabazi ubuso buka-Erin Heatherton kumzila wezindiza we-Victoria's Secret noma amabhodi amakhulu kunawokuphila omthengisi wezingubo zangaphansi. Ngo-2013, ngemuva kokusebenza nomkhiqizo cishe iminyaka eyisithupha, bahlukana. Kwathi ngo-2016 engxoxweni abe nayo ne-TIME, waxoxa ngesinye sezizathu ezenza ukuthi: ingcindezi yokwehlisa isisindo futhi abukeke ekahle emgwaqeni wezindiza yayiphazamisa isimo sakhe somzimba, okumshiya “ecindezelekile” futhi ezibuza ukuthi ungubani ngempela. (Ungomunye wama-celebs amaningi avulelekile mayelana nokuthi ukwehlisa isisindo akuzange kubenze bajabule ngokwengeziwe.)

Sibambe uHeatherton kumdlalo wakamuva weNFL (ungumthandi wezemidlalo ophelele), futhi ugcizelela ukuthi bekungeyona i-VS noma isipiliyoni sakhe ngomkhiqizo oshiye ukunambitheka okumuncu emlonyeni wakhe; bekungukungqubuzana kwakhe kwangaphakathi nomfanekiso ophelele abewubeka lapho.

Kuvela ukuthi, ethatha umsebenzi wakhe wabheka indlela entsha (okubandakanya ukuphinda kuqoqwe i-NFL Women's Apparel Collection, evela Inhlangano futhi Abantu abadala 2) kumsizile kuphela ukuthi abuye acacelwe ukuthi ungubani ngempela nokuthi hlobo luni lwesibonelo afuna ukusibekela abesifazane namantombazane.

Umphumela: unokuhlakanipha okuningi ongabelana ngakho mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini ngempela ukuthanda umzimba wakho. Funda ngezansi, futhi uzilungiselele yonke imizwa yethlove # yomuntu.

1. "Ngicabanga ukuthi amantombazane anale nkohliso yokuthi ukuphelela kuzokwenza ukuphila kwabo kuphelele, futhi kungamanga aphelele. Ngoba ngiye ngikhona, futhi akuzange kungijabulise."

UHeatherton uyavuma: unabasebenzi abaningi futhi akaqondi ngokuphelele ukuthi kungani. Kepha njengoba enabalaleli, uzobatshela ngqo ukuthi ufuna bazwe-nokuthi bathini yena kwakudingeka ukuzwa: "[Ukubukeka uphelele] akungezi emandleni akho. Ngikutshela ngoba ngiyazi. Yiba nempilo, kodwa ube ngumuntu," esho. "Ukuzazi kwami ​​kukukuthi ngiyakuthanda ukwehluka. Angifuni ukufana nawo wonke umuntu. Lokho kuyisicefe kakhulu ... ungumnikazi wokungezwani kwakho, yiba yinto yakho." (Isinyathelo esisodwa esiqonde ngqo: amamodeli ayaphumela emgwaqeni onomqubuko.)

2. "Ukuzethemba kwami ​​kusekelwe ekuzihlonipheni. Ngiyawuhlonipha umzimba wami futhi akekho ozongithathela lokho."

U-Heatherton wakhula njengentombazane yezemidlalo ephelele: edlala ibhola, ukubhukuda, ithrekhi, kanye ne-basketball. Akasho impumelelo yakhe ekudleni okuhlanyayo noma inhlanhla emsulwa; uwuncoma ekwakheni isimo sengqondo somdlali weqembu kanye nomlingiswa ohloniphekile ngezemidlalo. "I-Basketball ifana nokuthi isethwe," esho. Okudingayo ukuwina noma yikuphi: isiyalo, ukusebenza kanzima, ukuba nezinhloso, nokubambisana. (Futhi yena kwenza sebenza kanzima ukuze uhlale usesimweni esihle: vele uhlole ukudla kwakhe kanye namathiphu okuqina.)

Ayisaphathwa-ke eyokuthi uHeatherton waqala ukuba nentshisekelo yokudla ukudla okunempilo nokunakekela umzimba wakhe njengendlela yokuthuthukisa ukusebenza kwakhe—hhayi ukwenzelela. Lokhu kwamnika isisekelo esiqinile ayengazibheka kuso—njengomsubathi. “Uthando lwami ngomzimba wami luqale kwezemidlalo nokudlala nokubona izinto ezimangalisayo engingafinyelela kuzo,” kusho yena. "Futhi ngizoqopha umlando ngithi umhlaba wezemidlalo wazi okuningi kakhulu ngezempilo nangomzimba nokuthi sonke kufanele sibukeke kanjani kunomunye umuntu."

3. "MinaAkukhathalekile ukuthi konke okunye kubukeka kanjani ... akuguquli ubunikazi bakho, inani lakho, noma ubuhle bakho bangempela, obuvela ngaphakathi. "

UHeatherton konke kuyi- # realalkalk uma kukhulunywa ngokuthi kunjani ukubukeka kukuhle kokuziphilisa: "Ngifaka wonke amandla nesikhathi sami kule nto eyodwa, ebukeka ishisa. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi, ngicabanga ukuthi: Ngingagcwalisa ingqondo yami futhi isikhathi sami nezinye izinto eziningi ezingenza ngifane nabantu engibathandayo, "usho kanje.

"Leli zinga lokuphelela engizizwa liyingozi. Alingezi kumlingiswa wakho, alingezi kuzimfanelo engizithandayo kwabanye abantu," usho kanje. "Kufanele siyikhathalele impilo yethu, sisebenze kanzima, siziphonsele inselelo, kodwa singakwenzi kube ubuwena bakho futhi ungadeli ukuzethemba kwakho nobuqotho ngenxa yakho."

4. "Lokho abantu abakutshela khona akuyona into okufanele ucabange ngayo ngawe."

Njengamamodeli amaningi, kwakunezikhathi emsebenzini ka-Heatherton lapho othile wayefuna ukuthi abukeke ngendlela ehlukile: “Kuba nzima kakhulu uma kwenzeka kuwe kunalapho uzwa izindaba zabanye abantu abakulesi simo... bekunemfoloko emgwaqeni: uzongibhidliza, noma uzongipholisha?"

Kodwa u-Heatherton uthe wabona ukuthi lokhu kungqubuzana kwangaphakathi akuyona nje into yena noma abantu abasembonini yakhe ababhekana nayo—iyinto bonke abesifazane namantombazane ababhekana nayo. "Umkhakha wami usakazwa kabanzi futhi ubukwa abesifazane abaningi abasebasha, ngiyawavikela amantombazane amancane ngoba uma ngibheka indlela ethile efana nale, bekungakaze kube se-radar yami ... leli zinga lokuphelela engizizwa liyingozi." (Futhi akuyena yedwa owenqaba ukuphelela: vele uhlole umkhankaso kaGigi Hadid othi #PerfectNever ngeReebok.)

5. "Lzibuke bese uthi, 'Umuhle.' Akekho umuntu ongakuthathela lokho. "

Nakuba uthando lomzimba kaHeatherton lwaqala ngezemidlalo, njengomuntu omdala konke kumayelana nokuba namandla nokujabula: "Ngicabanga ukuthi amaphutha ami mahle. Angenza ngihleke. Siwabiza ngamaphutha, kodwa ngiyakuthanda ukuba yimi. Ngiyathanda ukwazi ukuthi ngiyohlala ngamukele mina, "usho njalo. "Yebo, ngiyakwazi ukuthuthuka, kepha angilahlekelwa uthando nenhlonipho ngami." Uyaluzwa uthando okwamanje?

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