Uguquko Lowesifazane Lubonisa Ukuthi Ukufika Endaweni Enempilo Kungase Kuzame Umbhangqwana

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Bheka lokhu ngeso lengqondo: NguJanuwari 1, 2019. Unyaka wonke uphambi kwakho, futhi lolu wusuku lokuqala kakhulu. Amathuba awapheli. (Ukhungathekiswe yiwo wonke lawo mathuba? Ngokwemvelo ngokuphelele. Nalu usizo: Ungayibeka Kanjani Imigomo bese Uyifeza) Ngakho-ke uhlala phansi unake izinqumo ezimbalwa ngoba wazi isikhashana ukuthi udinga ukudla imifino eyengeziwe, ukuzivocavoca okwengeziwe, noma yini enye ekuvimbela ukuthi uzizwe ungcono kakhulu. Futhi yize lezo zinhloso zingaba nengqondo kuwe, kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthi ukufinyelela lezo zinhloso kudinga isikhathi-okuningi, imvamisa. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma uzama ukushintsha indlela yakho yokuphila ngendlela enenjongo. Umgqugquzeli wase-Australia uLucy McConnell ulapha ukuze akutshele lokho nje, ngoba wazi ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. (Okuhlobene: Uhlelo Lokugcina Lwezinsuku ezingama-40 Lokuchoboza Noma Yimuphi Umgomo, Okubandakanya noJen Widerstrom)

Umqeqeshi lo usanda kungena ku-Instagram ezokwabelana ngezithombe zakhe ezine, azithatha eminyakeni emine eyedlule, ukufakazela ukuthi uhambo lokuya empilweni enempilo lushesha kakhulu kunendlela eyodwa.

“Uma ngikucela ukuthi ungitshele ukuthi yisiphi isithombe engibukeka ngingumqemane...Eqinisweni, cishe angikwazanga ukuphendula lokho mina,” ebhala ehambisana nezithombe. "Eqinisweni, angicabangi ukuthi ngake ngafika esigabeni lapho 'ngingumqemane' engingaba khona. Ngisafunda ukuthi lokho kubukeka kanjani."

UMcConnell uqhubeke ngokuchaza ukuthi ukuphi, ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba esithombeni ngasinye. "Esithombeni sokuqala (esathathwa ngo-2014) indlela engangiphila ngayo yayigcwele ukuzitika ngophuzo nokudla," kubhala yena. "Ngangihlale ngingenzi lutho futhi ngiphendukela ekudleni ngezikhathi ezinzima ekuphileni komndeni wami. Ngemva kokuqeda isikole ngase ngikhuluphele kakhulu ngokuphila kwami ​​okusha kokunganyakazi kanye nokwengeza ubusuku bokuphuza. Ngangikude nempilo kokubili ngokwengqondo nangokomqondo. ngokomzimba."

Phambili phambili ku-2017 futhi uMcConnell wehlile emzimbeni, kodwa uthi kuningi okwenzekayo kunokubonwa ngamehlo. "Isithombe sesibili singase sibukeke njengesithombe sempilo, nokho, lesi kwakuyisiteji lapho ngilahlekelwa umjikelezo wami wokuya esikhathini," ebhala. "Ngibe ngaphandle kwalo isikhashana. Ngokuhambisana nalokho impilo yami yengqondo yahlupheka ngenxa yokukhathazeka ngokweqile ngokulandela lonke ucezu lokudla engikudlile, nokuphikelela ekutheni angiphuthelwa yivivinyo elilodwa." (Okuhlobene: Izimbangela eziyi-10 zezikhathi ezingajwayelekile)

NgoJuni walo nyaka, uMcConnell wabelane ngokuthi unqobe i-amenorrhea (lapho ungasitholi isikhathi eside). "Bengiphusha ama-calories ayi-3000 ngosuku kungekho ukuzivocavoca okusemthethweni," kubhala yena. "Kungekudala ngemuva kwalesi sithombe, ngathola isikhathi sami sokuqala eminyakeni eminingana. Yize impilo yami yomzimba ibheke phezulu, ikhanda lami lalisendaweni engakhululeki ngokuphelele ekubukekeni kwami. Ngangizizwa sengathi ngihlala emzimbeni womunye umuntu." (Okuhlobene: Ukulimaza Umzimba Wami Kungiphoqe Kanjani Ukubhekana Nomzimba Wami IDysmorphia)

Namuhla, uMcConnell uthi wenza kangcono kakhulu futhi uzizwa engcono kakhulu anakho eminyakeni edlule. "Isithombe sokugcina yisona sakamuva kakhulu," ubhale kanje. "Ngiyajima futhi ngidla kahle. Bengilokhu ngithola izikhathi, yize zingakajwayelekile. Ikhanda lami lisendaweni engcono kakhulu, kodwa kuningi okusamele ngisebenze kukho ukuze ngithuthukise ubudlelwane bami nokudla. Ngingasho ngokuphepha Ngizizwa ngikhululekile futhi ngiyaziqhenya ngendlela umzimba wami obukeka ngayo. Ngithwebule izithombe kulo mzimba, futhi ngazizwa ngimangalisa ngokuphelele. "

Konke lokhu kukhula kwangaphakathi kuye kwavumela uMcConnell ukuthi akhumbule iqiniso lokuthi angase angabukeki futhi azizwe njengoba enza njengamanje, kuze kube phakade. “Imizimba kufanele ishintshe,” ebhala. "Impilo inezinkathi zayo zonyaka, izinto eziseqhulwini ziyashintsha nemizimba ayibukeki ifana kuyo yonke indawo. Lokho kujwayelekile. Impilo nje leyo." (Okuhlobene: Unganamathela Kanjani Ezinqumweni Zakho Lapho Ukwehluleka Kubonakala Kuseduze)

Kulabo okungenzeka baqala ohambweni lwabo lokuphila kahle, uMcConnell uthi: "Yiba mnene nawe." Khumbula ukuthi njengoba uthatha izinqumo onyakeni omusha, noma ubhekana nezinhlu ezinde zokwenziwa zansuku zonke.

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