Izindlela Ezinempilo Zokuthola Amandla Amaningi

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Bheka iphaneli yokondleka kwebhokisi lokusanhlamvu, isiphuzo samandla noma uswidi, futhi uthola umbono wokuthi thina bantu siyizimoto ezimbozwe inyama: Sigcwalise ngamandla (okwakwaziwa ngokuthi amakhalori) futhi sizohamba ngomkhumbi. size sifike esiteshini esilandelayo sokugcwalisa.

Kepha uma ukuzizwa unamandla kulula kangako, kungani iningi lethu lizizwa likhathele, licindezelekile futhi lilungele ukulala kancane? Ngoba, kuchaza uRobert E. Thayer, Ph.D., isazi sesimo sezulu kanye noprofesa wezengqondo eCalifornia State University, eLong Beach, sesizokwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ngokungalungile. Ngokusebenzisa ukudla ukuze silungise isimo sethu sengqondo namandla aphansi, sivumela imizwa yethu ibuse imizimba yethu, futhi siya ngokuya sikhuluphala. Uma esikhundleni salokho sithola izindlela zokuzikhipha amandla esimeni esiphansi esingabandakanyi ukudla, sizogqashula ebugqilini bokudla ngokweqile.

Incwadi kaThayer, Amandla Azolile: Indlela Abantu Abayilawula Ngayo Imizwa Ngokudla Nokuzivocavoca, esanda kukhishwa ephepheni (i-Oxford University Press, 2003), yethula le mpikiswano ethusayo kepha ekugcineni ekholisayo: Konke kugeleza kusuka emandleni akho - hhayi imizwa engcono kuphela kanye nekhono lokulawula ukudla ngokweqile, kepha nemizwa yakho ejulile ngawe nangempilo yakho. “Abantu bacabanga ukuzethemba njengesici esingaguquki, kodwa empeleni kuyahlukahluka ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ukuhlolwa okuyinkimbinkimbi kubonise ukuthi lapho uzizwa unomdlandla, imizwa yakho emihle ngawe inamandla kakhulu,” kusho uThayer.

U-Thayer uchaza amazinga wamandla asuka "ekukhathaleni okukhulu," izinga eliphansi noma elibi kakhulu, lapho nobabili nikhathele futhi nikhathazekile, "ukuze unciphise ukukhathala," okuchazwa njengokukhathala ngaphandle kokucindezeleka, okungahle kube mnandi uma kwenzeka ngesikhathi esifanele. (ngokwesibonelo, ngaphambi nje kokulala), ukuze "amandla ashubile," lapho nonke nivuselelekile futhi nenza umsebenzi omningi, yize kungenjalo ngokusemandleni enu. Ku-Thayer, "amandla azolile" angcono kakhulu Â- lokho abanye abantu abakubiza ngokuthi "ukugeleza" noma ukuba "sendaweni." Amandla azolile amandla ngaphandle kokungezwani; phakathi nalesi simo esimnandi, esikhiqizayo, ukunaka kwethu kugxile ngokuphelele.

Ukukhathala okushubile okufanele ukuqaphele: Imizwa yakho iphansi, unengcindezi futhi ufuna ukuqhuma kwamandla kanye nokuthile okuzokududuza noma kukududuze. Kwabaningi bethu, lokho kuhumushela kuma-chips amazambane, amakhukhi noma ushokoledi. UThayer uthi: "Sizama ukuzilawula ngokudla, lapho okungasisiza kuyiyona nto esizizwa sikhathele kakhulu: ukuzivocavoca umzimba."

Nazi izinyathelo eziyisithupha ezingakhuphula amandla futhi zisize ukunciphisa ukungezwani:

1. Hambisa umzimba wakho. "Ukuzivocavoca umzimba ngokulingene, noma uhamba ibanga nje imizuzu engu-10, ngokushesha kukhulisa amandla akho futhi kuthuthukise imizwa yakho," kusho uThayer. "Ifezekisa umuzwa ongcono wesimo kuneswidi: umuzwa omuhle osheshayo nokuncipha okuncane komoya." Futhi ocwaningweni lukaThayer, izifundo ezadla amaswidi zabika ukuthi zazizwa zishuba kakhulu emizuzwini engama-60 kamuva, ngenkathi imizuzu eyi-10 yokuhamba ngamandla yenyusa amandla azo ihora elilodwa kuya kwamabili ngemuva kwalokho. Ukuzivocavoca ngamandla kakhulu kunomthelela oyinhloko wokunciphisa ukungezwani. Nakuba ungase uthole ukucwiliswa kwamandla ngokushesha ngemva kwalokho (ukhathele ukuzivocavoca), ihora elilodwa kuya kwamabili kamuva uzoba nokuvuselela kwamandla okuwumphumela oqondile walokho kuzivocavoca. "Ukuzivocavoca umzimba," kusho uThayer, "kuyindlela eyodwa engcono kunazo zonke yokuguqula isimo esibi nokukhulisa amandla akho, noma kungathatha isikhathi ukuthi umuntu alifunde lelo qiniso, ngokulibona kaninginingi."

2. Yazi amandla akho aphezulu futhi aphansi. Wonke umuntu unewashi lomzimba wamandla, kusho uThayer. Amandla ethu aphansi ngokushesha ngemuva kokuvuka (ngisho nangemva kokulala kahle), iphakama ekuseni kakhulu kuze kube ntambama (imvamisa i-11 ekuseni kuya ku-1 ntambama), yehla ntambama (3 - 5 pm), ivuke futhi kusihlwa ( 6 noma 7pm) futhi yehlela endaweni ephansi kakhulu ngaphambi nje kokulala (cishe ngo-11pm). "Lapho amandla ehla ngalezi zikhathi ezijwayelekile, kushiya abantu besengozini yokwanda kwengcindezi nokukhathazeka," kusho uThayer. "Izinkinga zibukeka zinkulu kakhulu, abantu bacabanga ngendlela engemihle. Lokhu sikubonile ezifundweni lapho imizwa yabantu ngenkinga efanayo iyehluka kakhulu kuye ngesikhathi sosuku."

Esikhundleni sokondla ukukhathazeka kwakho, uThayer uphakamisa ukuthi unake iwashi lomzimba wakho (ingabe uphakama ngaphambi kwesikhathi noma kamuva osukwini?) Futhi uhlele impilo yakho ngokufanele noma nini lapho ukwazi khona. Hlela ukuthatha amaphrojekthi alula lapho amandla akho ephansi. Kubantu abaningi, isikhathi sokwenza imisebenzi enzima sisekuseni. "Yilapho-ke ukwazi khona ukuthatha inkinga," kusho uThayer. "Akuyona ingozi ukuthi izifiso eziningi zokudla nokudla ngokweqile kwenzeka ntambama noma kusihlwa, lapho amandla nomoya uphansi futhi sifuna ukuthuthukiswa kwamandla." Yileso impela isikhathi sokuhamba ngokushesha kwemizuzu eyi-10.

3. Funda ubuciko bokuzibheka. Leli yikhono elibaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uThayer afundise yonke inkambo yokuzibheka nokushintsha kokuziphatha eCal State Long Beach. Kuyimvelo yomuntu ukuthi okwenzeka ngokushesha ngemva kwesenzo kuvame ukuqinisa leso senzo, usho kanje. Ukudla kuhlala kuthokozela ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho, noma kungenjalo isikhathi eside (isibonelo, ukuba necala nokukhathazeka kuvame ukusebenza), kanti amandla avela ekuzivocavoca umzimba angathatha isikhashana ukubonakala. “Okubaluleke kakhulu ukungabheki nje kuphela ukuthi into ethile ikwenza uzizwe kanjani ngokushesha, kodwa nokuthi ikwenza uzizwe kanjani ngemva kwehora,” kusho uThayer. Ngakho-ke zama ukuzifundela ngokwakho: I-caffeine inamuphi umphumela kuwe ekuseni, ntambama nakusihlwa? Kuthiwani ngokuzivocavoca umzimba, kufaka phakathi amandla, isikhathi sosuku nohlobo lomsebenzi? Lapho usuziqonda izimpendulo zakho uqobo, ungasebenzisa ulwazi lwakho ukunqoba izifiso zakho - ikakhulukazi izifiso zakho "ezikhathele", lezo ezicela ukunethezeka maswidi nombhede kunokuthola izinzuzo ezihlala njalo zokuhle ukujima noma ingxoxo nomngane oseduze.

4. Lalela umculo. Umculo ungowesibili ukuzivocavoca ekukhuliseni amandla nasekunciphiseni ukungezwani, ngokusho kukaThayer, yize abantu abasha bevame ukusebenzisa le ndlela kakhulu kunabantu asebekhulile. UThayer unomuzwa wokuthi umculo usetshenziswa kabi njengendlela esebenza kahle kakhulu yokuphakamisa imizwa. Zama i-aria enhle, i-jazz riff, noma idwala eliqinile - noma imuphi umculo owuthandayo uyasebenza.

5. Thatha isithongwana Â- kodwa hhayi isikhathi eside! "Abantu abaningi abazi ukuthi balale kanjani kahle, ngakho-ke bathi ukulala kungabenza bazizwe kabi kakhulu," kusho uThayer. Iqhinga liwukukhawulela isihlwathi sibe yimizuzu eyi-10–30. Isikhathi esithe xaxa sizokushiya uzizwe ukhathazekile futhi sizokugcina ungalali kahle ebusuku. Uzozizwa unamandla amancane lapho uqala ukuvela ukulala kancane, uThayer uyaxwayisa, kepha lokho kuzophela kungekudala kukushiye uzizwa uvuselelekile.

Eqinisweni, ukungalali ngokwanele kuyisizathu esiyinhloko sokwehla kwamandla ethu ezweni lonke; manje sesilinganise ngaphansi kwamahora ayisikhombisa ebusuku, futhi yonke isayensi yokulala esinayo incoma ubuncane bamahora ayisishiyagalombili. "Umphakathi wethu wonke ubusheshisa - sisebenza kakhulu, silala kancane," kusho uThayer, "futhi lokho kugcina kusenza sidle kakhulu futhi sizivocavoce kancane."

6. Hlanganyela. Ngenkathi abantu esifundweni sikaThayer bebuzwa ukuthi benzani ukukhuphula umoya wabo (futhi ngenxa yalokho amandla abo), abesifazane basho ngokumangalisayo ukuthi bafuna ukuxhumana nabantu - bashayela noma babone umngane, noma baqala ukuxhumana nabantu. Lokhu kungasebenza kakhulu, ngokusho kukaThayer. Ngakho-ke ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho uzwa amandla akho ephela, esikhundleni sokufinyelela ushokoledi, yenza usuku nabangane. Isimo sakho (nokhalo lwakho) sizokubonga.

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