Indlela Yokwenza Ucansi Oluphephile Lapho Ulele Komunye Umuntu Wesifazane

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• Kungani Izindaba Zocansi Oluphephile ze * Wonke umuntu *
• Ukubamba ngomunwe nokuFenda
• Ucansi olwenziwa ngomlomo
• Isikwele
• Ubulili obuyibhande
• Unemibuzo Eminye?
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kuhle! Ulala nomunye umuntu onesitho sangasese, futhi lokho kusho ukuthi akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuvikelwa noma amakhondomu, akunjalo? *Umsindo we-Buzzer*

Akulungile.

Uma ubucabanga ukuthi ukuya ocansini ngongqingili noma ukuya ocansini nomunye umuntu ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane (noma ngabe uyakubona noma ukuchaza lokho!) akunabungozi noma uke waba no-doc ukuxosha ingxoxo yezocansi eziphephile ngemuva kokufunda ukuthi obekade belala naye bangabanye abantu abanezitho zangasese, awuwedwa. Kunokuntuleka okukhulu kwemininingwane etholakala kwabesifazane abathandana nabesilisa nabesilisa nabesifazane, kusho umhlengikazi u-Emily Rymland, FNP-C, DNP, ogxile ekunakekelweni kwe-HIV futhi osebenza njengokuthuthukiswa komtholampilo kuhola iNurx, indawo yezempilo yezocansi.

Kungani kunokuqwashisa okuncane kangaka mayelana nobulili obuphephile bobulili obufanayo? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, imininingwane ephathelene nobulili be-LGBTQ + ephephile ayitholakali ezinhlelweni eziningi zemfundo yezocansi: Olunye ucwaningo luthole ukuthi amaphesenti ama-4 kuphela abafundi be-LGBTQ + abafundiswa imininingwane emihle ngabantu be-LGBTQ + emakilasini abo ezempilo. "Kunokugcizelelwa ngokweqile ekukhulelweni nasekuvimbeleni inzalo ohlelweni lokufundisa ngocansi ukuthi, ngoba abesilisa abathandana nabesifazane abalala nabanye abanikazi bezitho zobulili abakwazi ukukhulelwa, bazizwa bephephile," usho kanje. (Bheka: Ubulili Ed budinga kakhulu i-Makeover)

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, "uhlelo lwezokwelapha lulonke alunethezekile ukukhuluma ngeqiniso lokuthi abesifazane balala nabanye besifazane nokuthi bangakwenza kanjani lokho ngokuphepha," kusho uRymland. Ucwaningo lusekela isimangalo sakhe: Ucwaningo olulodwa lwango-2019 luthole ukuthi ngaphansi kwamaphesenti angama-40 ochwepheshe bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo babona ukuthi bangakwazi ukubhekana ngokuzethemba nezidingo ezithile zamalungu omphakathi we-LGBTQ +. Ngaphansi kwengxenye kuyinto enhle kakhulu, bantu. (Akukona konke lokho. Funda: Kungani Umphakathi we-LGBTQ Uthola Ukunakekelwa Kwezempilo Okubi Kunabontanga Babo Abaqondile)

Kungani Izindaba Zocansi Oluphephile ze * Wonke umuntu *

Okokuqala, "abesifazane abalala nabanye besifazane abavikelekile kwizifo zocansi," kusho uRymland. Abantu banoma yibuphi ubulili, izitho zobulili noma ubulili bangathola i-STI. Uma ungasazi isimo sakho se-STI, umlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo akasazi isimo sabo se-STI, futhi / noma omunye wenu njengamanje une-STI, ukuthelelana nge-STI kungenzeka.

Ukukhuluma ngesimo sakho se-STI nomlingani wakho (wanoma yibuphi ubulili!) Kubalulekile ekunikezeni imvume enolwazi, kuchaza udokotela wezocansi nomfundisi we-STI u-Emily Depasse. Kodwa-ke, bangamaphesenti ama-5 kuphela abantu abahloliwe ngenyanga edlule, amaphesenti angama-34 ahlolwe ngaphezu konyaka odlule, kwathi amaphesenti angama-37 ahlolwaneze ihlolwe, ngokocwaningo lwakamuva olwenziwe ngu-Superdrug Online Doctor, umhlinzeki wesevisi yezempilo ozinze e-UK. Yikes. (Awunasizathu: Manje usungahlolelwa ama-STD khona lapha ekhaya.)

Yingakho uRymland ethiokuhle kakhulu Uhlelo lokusebenza lokwenza amaqembu womabili (noma wonke) ukuze ahlolwe ngaphambi kokulala ndawonye okokuqala ngqa, futhi aqiniseke ukuthi uthola iphaneli eligcwele lezivivinyo (i-gonorrhea, i-chlamydia, i-trichomoniasis, i-herpes, i-HPV, i-HIV, i-hepatitis B , kanye ne-molluscum contagiosum). Kepha noRymland uyavuma ukuthi lokho akuyona into engokoqobo - futhi lapho kungena khona imikhuba yezocansi ephephile.

Uma wena nophathina wakho niye nahlolwa futhi yonke into ibonakala icacile, yazini ukuthi izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi akuzona kuphela ezikhathazayo; abesifazane abalala nabanye besifazanenamanje engcupheni yezinye izinto ezingeyona imnandi njengokulimala kocansi, ama-microtears, i-bacterial vaginosis, nama-UTIs. (Okuhlobene: Kungani Ukuya ocansini nozakwethu omusha kungathumela ubulili bakho)

Idatha ilinganiselwe, kodwa izifundo ezimbalwa ziye zaphakamisa nokuthi abesifazane abalala nabesifazane babaluleke kakhuluOkuningi kungenzeka ukuthi ube ne-bacterial vaginosis uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane abathanda ubulili obuhlukile. Futhi kungahle kube nengozi enkulu yokuba abanikazi bezitho zobulili badlulisele ukutheleleka ngemvubelo komunye nomunye.

Kungakho sibuze uRymland no-Allison Moon, umbhali ngokubambisanaUbulili Bentombazane 101, elidunyiswa ngokuthiTHE Umhlahlandlela wezocansi ophephile wabesifazane abasebasha, ukuchaza izingcuphe ezingaba khona ezihambisana nezinye zezenzo zocansi ezivame kakhulu phakathi kwabanikazi ababili bezitho zobulili nokuthi ungaba kanjani ucansi oluphephile lwabathandana nabobulili obufanayo.

Ukubamba ngomunwe nokuFenda

Ukuthatha iminwe, ucansi olwenziwa ngesandla, ukushaya indlwabu kozakwethu, isisekelo sesithathu - noma ngabe ukubiza kanjani - kuhlanganisa ukunamathisela umunwe owodwa noma ngaphezulu esithweni sangasese somlingani wakho, futhi ngokungangabazeki kuyindlela elula yokwenza ucansi oluphephile lolesbian.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu lapha ukugeza izandla nokwenza umlingani wakho ageze izandla ngaphambi kokuba iminwe iye noma yikuphi. "Ngabe uyafuna ngempela wonke amagciwane avela kuwo wonke amadola, usikilidi, ibhodlela likabhiya, njll. Othinte kulobubusuku ukuthi ungene esithweni sangasese somphathina wakho, noma okuphambene nalokho?" Kubuza uNyanga. Umh, cha awukwenzi.

Futhi i-manicure yakho ibalulekile. Izipikili ezimfushane, ezibushelelezi zingcono kuleli cala. Noma iziphi izingcezu ezicijile zingacasula udonga lwangaphakathi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane futhi zidale izinyembezi ezincane, ezandisa ubungozi bokutheleleka, kusho uMoon. Futhi, ouch. (Okuhlobene: Kungani I-Vagina Itch Yami?)

Abanye ochwepheshe baze batusa ukuthi ugqoke igilavu ​​noma ikhondomu yomunwe ngesikhathi socansi lwesandla - ikakhulukazi uma une-hangnail noma okunye ukusikeka eminweni noma esandleni sakho. "Noma kunini lapho unekhefu esikhunjeni sakho, ufuna ukugqoka igilavu ​​noma ikhondomu yeminwe ngoba noma yimaphi amabhaktheriya asesithweni sangasese angaholela ekuthelelekeni," kusho uRymland. (Thola ipheya eyenziwe nge-latex engeyona impuphu noma i-nitrile, into esezingeni lezokwelapha ethathwa njengenye indlela enhle kubantu abanokungezwani ne-latex.)

Khumbula ukuthi isandla singasebenza njenge-vector, uyachaza. Lokho kusho ukuthi uma ubeka umlingani wakho umunwe ngaphandle kweglavu futhi umlingani wakho ene-chlamydia noma i-gonorrhea, bese uzithinta ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngesikhathi sokuhlangana ngokocansi, kungenzeka ukuthi ukutheleleka kuzokudlulela kuwe. "Ukugqoka igilavu ​​ngenkathi ufaka umlingani wakho umunwe, bese ukulahla iglavu ngemuva kokuthi iqiniso lisize ukuqeda leyo ngozi," usho njalo.

Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuklelisa isibhakela, kunemikhuba eminingi efanayo yocansi oluphephile. (Uma uzibuza ukuthi "kanjani?!" Themba, ukushunqisa isibhakela kungaba indlela ejabulisa ngendlela emangalisayo yokudala umuzwa wokugcwala, cindezela ubhekane ne-G-spot yakho ne-A-spot, futhi udlale ngamandla aguquguqukayo.)

Futhi, geza izandla zakho - kuhle konke indlela ekhuphukela endololwaneni yakho. Okunye okungaxoxiswana ngakho? ILube. "Ufuna ukuhamba kancane futhi usebenzise i-lube eningi eduze kwembobo yangasese nasesandleni sakho," kusho uMoon. (Nakhu konke odinga ukukwazi mayelana ne-lube- nokunye kokuhle kakhulu ongakuthenga.)

"Umuntuukwenza isibhakela asikho engcupheni yanoma yimaphi ama-STI ngaphandle kwalapho kamuva besebenzisa leso sandla ukuzithinta noma ukusifaka emlonyeni wabo, "kusho uRymland. Noma kunjalo, uMoon uphakamisa ukuthi ugqoke igilavu ​​ngoba izobamba igrisi kangcono kunesandla sakho esinqunu. . "Futhi, ngamagilavu, ungakwazi ngempela ukubona ukuthi akhona yini amabala omile egilavuni, ukuze wazi uma ungasebenzisi ngokwanele," esho. Inothi elimayelana nokukhishwa kwesandla: "Lapho umlingani wakho eselungile , banikeze umoya omude oqinile, ozosiza ukukhulula imisipha futhi ikuvumele ushelele kalula isandla sakho, "kusho uMoon. (Uma ufuna ukukhulisa umdlalo wakho wezocansi, cabanga nokuzama isidlidlizi somunwe.)

Ucansi olwenziwa ngomlomo

Ingozi yokudluliswa kwe-STI, ngokwezibalo, iphansi kakhulu ngesikhathi socansi olwenziwa ngezandla. Okufanayo *ngeke* kushiwo ngocansi lomlomo - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili bobulili obufanayo bomlomo noma ucansi lomlomo nanoma yimuphi omunye umlingani. "Uma une-STI yomlomo noma yomphimbo futhi wenza i-cunnilingus kothile, ungadlulisela i-STI esithweni sangasese sayo," kusho uRymland. Ngokunjalo, uthi, "uma wenza ngomlomo kumuntu one-STI yangasese, kungenzeka ukuthi idlulele emlonyeni noma emphinjeni."

I-Unforch, iningi lezifo ezithathelana ngokobulili azinazo nhlobo izimpawu, ngokusho kweWorld Health Organisation, futhi "uphawu oluvame kakhulu lwe-STI yomlomo umphimbo obuhlungu ongahambisani nomkhuhlane, ngokusho kukaRymlan, okulula ukubhalwa (Bona okuningi: Konke Okufanele Ukwazi Ngama-STD Omlomo)

Kungakho uMoon noRymland bancoma ukusebenzisa idamu lamazinyo (cabanga: lifana nekhondomu elikhulu, eliyisicaba) lapho kwenziwa i-cunnilingus, ucwaningo olukhombisa ukuthi luyindlela yokuvimbela esebenzayo evela kuma-STI athwalwa uketshezi. Ungasiphuca ichopho lekhondomu bese usika phakathi (bheka lokhu okubukwayo okuvela kuzikhungo Zokulawulwa Nokuvimbelwa Kwezifo) noma usebenzise ukugoqwa kweSaran uma ungenawo amadamu wamazinyo.

Ngenxa yokuthi amadamu amazinyo angazizwa enamathela noma engqubuzana ngokumelene ne-clit kanye ne-labia, i-Moon incoma ukubeka i-lube ohlangothini lwe-vulva yedamu lamazinyo. "Ungasusa futhi idamu lamazinyo ngokulisebenzisa ukwenza umdlalo wezocansi womlomo," esho. "Ungakha ukucoceka okuhle noma ukumunca nedamu esithweni sangasese somlingani wakho."

I-BTW: Kufanele futhi ubambe idamu lamazinyo ukuze wenze ucansi lomlomo noma indunu. "Uma wenza i-anilingus kumlingani wakho, i-gonorrhea chlamydia, i-syphilis, i-herpes, i-HPV, i-hepatitis, i-E. coli nezinye izimuncagazi zamathumbu konke kuyingozi," kusho uRymland. "Uma umuntu enezinambuzane futhi uhlanganyela nazo ocansini ngomlomo ungasengozini yalezo zinambuzane." (Uneminye imibuzo ye-rimming? Bheka lo mhlahlandlela wocansi lwangemuva.)

Isikwele

Lalela, i-skissoring ithola i-rap embi — futhi hhayi ukuthi *wonke umuntu* ophethe i-vulva ongene kulesi simo. Kodwa uma Uyithimba Le-Clitoral Stimulation, ukuklolodela (noma ukuhlehlisa, njengoba kubizwa kanjalo ngezinye izikhathi) kungaba indlela ESHISAYO ejulile yokwenza ubulili besifazane.

I-ICYDK, ukusika kufaka ukubhucunga imomozi yakho komunye umuntu, kunoma yisiphi isikhundla noma ngasiphi isikhathi esizwa okuhle kini nobabili. (Ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngokukhishwa, hlola: Umhlahlandlela Wezikhundla Zobulili Ezingcono Kakhulu Nezinto Eziyi-12 Okufanele Uzazi Ngokuklama)

Kepha, ukusika ngaphandle kwezingozi zako. Eqinisweni, isikere yi-okungenani isenzo socansi oluphephile lwabesilisa abathandana nabobulili obufanayo ngoba sibandakanya ukuthintana ngqo kwe-vulva-on-vulva nokudluliswa koketshezi, kusho uMoon. Kalula nje, ama-STI asakazeka ngokuxhumana kwesikhumba nesikhumba (njenge-herpes ne-HPV) nangamanzi oketshezi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane (njenge-chlamydia, i-gonorrhea ne-HPV) angadluliswa phakathi nalokhu kuhamba. Kungaba nobungozi obandayo be-bacterial vaginosis noma ukutheleleka kwemvubelo ngemuva kokukala.

Kungakho iNyanga incoma ukugcotshwa kwe-lube ezinhlangothini zombili zedamu lamazinyo futhi kube nozakwethu oyedwa ayidonse phakathi kwemizimba yakho njengoba ugaya, iqhubu futhi uwuhlikihle ndawonye. Ungase uzame neLoral's, okuyizingubo zangaphansi ezinedamu lamazinyo elakhelwe ngaphakathi. Kuyashisa futhi: Ukugoqa ngezingubo; zama i-leggings. (Bheka: Ukuthatha Okushisayo: Ukugaya Ngumthetho Wocansi Oshisa Kunazo Zonke Wake)

Ubulili obuyibhande

Uma ukujabulela ukungena ngaphakathi, ukulala ngocansi kuyindlela enhle ngoba umlingani wakho angangena kuwe nge-dildo ngenkathi izandla zabo zombili zingenzelwa ezinye izinto ~. (Sawubona, i-nipplegasm.)

Okokuqala, uzofuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi i-dildo yakho yenziwa ngento engeyona impophoma nokuthi i-harness kulula ukuyigeza. (Ngeminye imininingwane yokuthi ungalithenga kanjani ithoyizi locansi eliphephile nelisezingeni eliphakeme, bheka lo mhlahlandlela wokuthenga).

Okulandelayo, wena nomlingani wakho nizofuna ukuqala kancane, nisebenzise i-lube, futhi nixhumanekakhulu. Uma ungumlingani oboshwe ngaphakathi, yazi ukuthi ukuntuleka kwe-biofeedback kungaba yinto ekhohlisayo. Isibonelo, ungahle ungazizwa lapho i-dildo yakho ishaye umlomo wesibeletho sabalingani bakho, kepha umlingani wakho uzokwenza!

Ubungozi obukhulu bokutheleleka nge-STI noma ukutheleleka ngocansi oluyibhande senzeka uma wena nomlingani wakho nihlanganyela ihhanisi ne-dildo efanayo, kusho uMoon. "Uma kunjalo, imvubu yakho yomibili izobe ihlikihla ezindaweni ezifanayo," usho kanje. “Ngakho-ke uma uzoshintsha, kuwumqondo omuhle ukusebenzisa amakhondomu ku-dildo ukuze ungawagezi phakathi kokusebenzisa, nokuthi bobabili abalingani babe ne-harness yabo,” usho kanje. (Okuhlobene: Indlela Engcono Kakhulu Yokuhlanza Amathoyizi Akho Asecansini)

Yebo, ungasebenzisa ibhande ukwenza ucansi lwangemuva futhi. Ngalokhu, "qiniseka ukuthi awusuki ekungeneni kwendunu uye ekungeneni kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane ngaphandle kokushintshanisa ikhondomu noma ukugeza ithoyizi," kusho uMoon. Ukusuka endunu kuya esithweni sangasese kungangenisa amabhaktheriya angafuneki akhulisa ubungozi be-bacterial vaginosis.

Unemibuzo Eminye?

Kunengqondo ukuthi ubungakwenza. Lokhu kuqala ukumboza izisekelo. Thatha kowesifazane olala nabanye besifazane; kunezinye izenzo zocansi ongazijabulela (*cwayiza*). Ngakho-ke, uma unemibuzo eminingi ngocansi oluphephile lwabathandana nabobulili obufanayo, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma ukuze ubuze umhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo noma ngisho nochwepheshe esitolo sakho socansi sangakini. Okwamanje, nansi indlela yokwenza ucansi lwangasese oluphephile noluthokozisayo, ngokusho kochwepheshe; indlela yokwenza ucansi oluphephile ngokujwayelekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umlingani; kanye nomhlahlandlela wangaphakathi wokulala nomunye wesifazane okokuqala ngqa.

Buyekeza kwe-