Indlela Yokubekezela (nokuthi Kungani Kubalulekile)

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• Qamba kabusha ukukhungatheka kwakho
• Zindla
• Ukuzindla 101
• Lala ngokwanele
• Hambisa engqondweni
• Yehlisa kancane ijubane
• Prakthiza ukubonga
• Ingabe kubaluleke kangako?
• Okubalulekile

Khumbula ukuthi uthisha wakho wasenkulisa wayehlala ekukhumbuza kanjani ukuthi ulinde ithuba lakho ebaleni lokudlala? Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wakhipha amehlo akho emuva ngaleso sikhathi, kepha njengoba kuvela, ukuba nokubekezela okuncane kuhamba ibanga elide.

Ukukwazi ukulinda ngomoya ophansi lapho ubhekene nobunzima kumane kuyisiqalo seqhwa uma kukhulunywa ngezinzuzo zokubekezela. Futhi kungakhuphula imizwa yakho futhi kwehlise ukucindezeleka.

Ingxenye engcono kakhulu? Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, ukubekezela akuyona into enhle abanye abantu abazalwa benayo. Empeleni kuyikhono ongasebenzela kulo nsuku zonke. Nansi indlela.

Qamba kabusha ukukhungatheka kwakho

Ithi ubulinde umuntu osebenza naye ukuthi avele emhlanganweni obungafuni nokuya kuwo kwasekuqaleni.

Ukubhamazela mayelana nokufika kwesikhathi kwabo ngeke kubenze bavele ngomlingo. Ungathatha leso sikhathi ukubheka amanothi akho noma uphendule ama-imeyili ambalwa efonini yakho.

Ngokwenza kabusha ukubuyela emuva njengokuwina komuntu siqu, ungalawula imizwa yakho futhi usebenzise leyo misipha yokuzithiba.

Zindla

Ukuzindla kuhilela ukuqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuthi igxile futhi iqondise imicabango yakho kude nokucasula kwansuku zonke. Kungakusiza futhi ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka, ukulawula ukukhathazeka, nokukhuthaza inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo - konke lokhu kukusiza ukuthi wakhe ukubekezela.

Ucwaningo olulodwa lwango-2017 luye lwathola nokuthi ukuzindla ngokwengqondo kungasusa uhlobo oluthile lokukhathazeka olwenzeka lapho ubambeke ulinde okuthile.

Futhi, ungazindla cishe noma kuphi.

Ukuzindla 101

Ngemuva kosuku olukhungathekisayo, thatha imizuzu embalwa ukuhlala ngokunethezeka lapho ukhona bese ulandela lezi zinyathelo:

1. Vala amehlo akho bese ugxila ekutheni umzimba wakho uzizwa kanjani esihlalweni sakho.
2. Vumela ukuphefumula ngokwemvelo, unake ukuhogela ngakunye nokukhipha.
3. Zama ukugcina ukunaka kwakho kugxile ekuphefumuleni kwakho okungenani imizuzu emibili kuya kwemi-3.
4. Uphazanyiswe yimicabango yakho? Ungalwi nabo. Mane ubabheke futhi ubayeke badlule ngaphandle kokwahlulela.

Nakhu ukubuka ezinye izinhlobo zemithi ezingasiza.

Lala ngokwanele

Ukuncishwa ubuthongo kungenza imizwa yentukuthelo noma yehlule kakhulu. Uma ungalali ngokwanele, ungahle ube namathuba okuba uthinte umuntu osebenza naye noma unqamule lowo ohamba kancane emgwaqeni.

Beka phambili ukulala kwekhwalithi ngu:

• ukunciphisa umkhawulo wakho we-caffeine, ikakhulukazi ntambama nakusihlwa
• ukubeka izinto zobuchwepheshe kude okungenani imizuzu engama-30 ngaphambi kokulala
• ukuzama ukunamathela esimisweni esivamile sokulala, ngisho nangezimpelasonto
• ukugwema ukudla okunzima noma ukuphuza ithani leziphuzo okungenani amahora amabili ngaphambi kokulala

Hambisa engqondweni

Ukuhlala unganyakazi ngenkathi ulindile kunendlela yokuthi ngandlela thile ikwenze uzizwe usengozini futhi ungaphelelwa isineke.

Ngokuzayo lapho uzithola ulinde i-aphoyintimenti noma umngane ongapheli isikhathi eside, zama ukuthola ukunyakaza okuthile. Ngokuya ngendawo okuzungezile, lokhu kungabandakanya ukunweba okugcwele noma ukumane ume futhi wehle uye phansi ezinzwaneni zakho.

Noma ngabe yikuphi ukunyakaza okukhethayo, inhloso ukubeka phansi imicabango yakho okwamanje.

Yehlisa kancane ijubane

Ezweni eligcwele ukwaneliseka okusheshayo, kulula ukuwela kumkhuba wokulindela ukuthi yonke into yenzeke ngokushesha. Uma uhlala uvuselela ibhokisi lakho lokungenayo, isibonelo, ulahlekelwa okungaphambi kwakho.

Uma ukushesha sekuyilungiselelo lakho lokuzenzakalelayo, zama lawa mathiphu okwehlisa izinto phansi:

• Ungagxili embhedeni ekuseni. Vumela imizuzu engu-5 kuya kwengu-10 ukulala nemicabango yakho (akukho ukupheqa kwefoni!).
• Nqamula ngokunqamula isikhathi esithile kude nefoni yakho usuku ngalunye, noma ngabe kuphakathi kokuhamba kwakho noma uma ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini.
• Ngivalele isikhathi. Thatha uhambo lokudlala, udlale nesilwane sakho sasekhaya, noma umane uhlale ubheke ngaphandle kwefasitela.

Prakthiza ukubonga

Kulula ukubambeka ekwahluleleni izenzo zabanye abantu: lowo mama ohlale ethatha isikhathi eside emgqeni wokulanda isikole, noma umphathi wemali ophatha okungajwayelekile kwakho sengathi abanalutho ngaphandle kwesikhathi.

Esikhundleni sokuthatha lezi zenzo ngokwakho, zama ukugxila ezintweni ozibongayo. Mhlawumbe kuthatha isikhashana kulayini wokuphuma ukwamukela ukuthi uyakwazi ukuzondla wena noma umndeni wakho noma ukumisa isikhashana ukwazisa uhambo lwakho oluzayo lapho uthola leso saziso sokubambezeleka ngendiza.

Impela, ukubonga ngeke kusiguqule isimo sakho, kodwa kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlale uzolile futhi ugxile esithombeni esikhulu.

Ingabe kubaluleke kangako?

Yebo. Ukulawula ukubekezela akugcini nje ngokukuvimbela ukuthi ulahlekelwe ukuphola kwakho ngenkathi ulinde ithuba lakho. Ibuye inezinzuzo eziningi zezempilo.

Ucwaningo lwango-2007 lwathola ukuthi abantu ababekezelayo bakwazi ukubhekana kangcono nezimo ezicindezelayo futhi babhekana nokudangala okuncane.

Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuhlakulela ukubekezela nokukwazi ukuphatha kangcono ukucasulwa okungenakugwenywa kanye nokuphazamiseka kumane kwenza impilo ibe lula kakhulu.

Okubalulekile

Ukubekezela kukusiza ukuthi udlule ezimeni ezinzima futhi wenze izinqumo ezingcono ngaphandle kokucasuka noma ukukhathazeka. Uma ukhononda kuwe ngesikhathi sezimoto noma olayini abahamba kancane, ukwakha amakhono akho okulinda kungasiza kakhulu ekwenzeni impilo ibe mnandi kakhulu.

Khumbula ukuthi kuyinqubo ehamba kancane engeke yenzeke ngobusuku obubodwa. Yiba nomusa kuwe okwamanje, bese uchitha isikhathi esithile ugxile kwamanje.

UCindy Lamothe yintatheli ezimele ezinze eGuatemala. Uhlala ebhala ngemiphambanandlela phakathi kwezempilo, inhlalakahle, nesayensi yokuziphatha komuntu. Ubhalelwe i-The Atlantic, New York Magazine, Teen Vogue, Quartz, The Washington Post, nezinye eziningi. Mthole ku-cindylamothe.com.