Ungadlula Kanjani Ku-Crush - Noma Kufanele Uzibone Nsuku Zonke

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• Yamukela imizwa yakho
• Inike isikhathi
• Cabanga ngokuqhekeka kwakho ngombono ongokoqobo
• Phatha usizi ngokulahlekelwa yilokho owawunethemba lakho
• Gwema ukuvumela imizwa yakho ikudle
• Khuluma ngakho
• Uma usuvele usebudlelwaneni
• Gwema imithombo yezokuxhumana
• Qamba kabusha imizwa yakho
• Musa ukuphatha ubungani njengomklomelo wenduduzo
• Khuluma ne-crush yakho
• Ziphazamise
• Zama ukuphola futhi
• Yenza izinto ozijabulelayo
• Thola ukwesekwa kochwepheshe
• Okubalulekile

Ukuba ne-crush entsha kungazizwa kumnandi. Ubheke phambili ekuboneni kwabo futhi uzizwe unamandla, noma ujabule, lapho nichitha isikhathi ndawonye. Ngokuya ngesimo, kungahle kube nethuba lokuthi imizwa iyezwana.

Lapho ubudlelwano bakho ne-crush yakho abuyi ndawo, ungahle uzizwe,ochotshoziwe. Futhi lowo muzwa ukude kakhulu.

Mhlawumbe ukuthatheka kwakho kufaka umuntu ongekho emthethweni, njengomngani oshadile noma uprofesa. Lezi crushes zihle kakhulu, kepha kusenzima ukudlula, noma ngabe wazi zisuka ukuthi awukwazi ukuzibandakanya.

Ungase uzizwe ukhungathekiswe nakakhulu lapho ugaxekile kuyinto iyatholakala kodwa ayibuyisi imizwa yakho.

Ekugcineni, kungahle kungakhathaleki ukuthi kungani ukuchoboza kwakho kungagcwaliseki: Ukudabuka kwenhliziyo kusazizwa okufanayo. Uma unenkinga yokuqhubekela phambili, lezi zeluleko eziyi-14 zingasiza.

Yamukela imizwa yakho

Ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukuthatheka, kufanele ukuvume. Kuvamile ukuphika imizwa yothando ekuqaleni, ikakhulukazi uma uchoboza umngane omuhle, umphathi wakho, noma noma ubani omcabangela ukuthi angatholakali.

Ukwamukelwa nokwamukelwa yizinyathelo zokuqala ezibalulekile kunqubo yokwelashwa. Ukuchotshozwa kujwayelekile, ngisho nakubantu owazi ukuthi awusoze wabalandela.

Ukududula imizwa yakho kungakuvimbela ekusebenzeni ngayo ngezindlela ezikhiqizayo. Esikhundleni salokho, zingalibala, zibangele ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo.

"Ukwamukela indlela ozizwa ngayo nokuzivumela ukuba ukwazi ukucubungula imizwa futhi uyikhiphe leyo mizwa kungakusiza uqale ukuzizwa ngendlela ehlukile ngomuntu futhi ekugcineni uqhubeke," kuchaza uKim Egel, owelapha eSan Diego.

Inike isikhathi

Ubuhlungu obungahle benziwe yi-crush buhle kakhulu.

Uma ungalokothi utshele ukuphahlazeka kwakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, ungahle ungabhekani nokwaliwa uqobo. Kepha kusababuhlungu lapho amathemba akho engenzi lutho.

Ngenhlanhla, ama-crushes ngokuvamile awahlali isikhathi eside, yize ungazizwa sengathi uzoba lusizi unomphela. Kujwayelekile impela ukuthi amandla emizwa yakho anciphe phakathi kwamasonto noma izinyanga ezimbalwa.

Isikhathi esithathwayo ukwedlula ekuchotsheni kungahlukahluka, noma kunjalo. Ungazinakekela okwamanje ngokuthi:

• ukulala ngokwanele nokuvivinya umzimba
• uzisekela ngokuzikhulumela okuhle
• ukuzama izinzuzo zokuphulukisa ze-massage noma i-yoga
• ukuchitha isikhathi emvelweni

Cabanga ngokuqhekeka kwakho ngombono ongokoqobo

Ukuchotshozwa kuvame ukufaka imibono, ikakhulukazi uma ungamazi kahle umuntu. Ungahle ugxile ezimfanelweni zabo ezinhle, unganaki kangako ezintweni ezingezinkulu kangako.

Yize wena nokuchoboza kwakho kungahle nizwane kahle ngezindlela ezithile, isikhathi sivame ukuveza ukungafani okucacile kumanani abalulekile. Mhlawumbe une-vegan futhi badla inyama, noma bangokomoya kakhulu kanti awunjalo.

"Ukungafihli lutho kuwe kuzokusiza lapha," kusho u-Egel. "Ukubheka iqiniso ngobuqiniso besimo kubalulekile ukuze uqhubekele phambili."

Beka eceleni izinto ozithandayo ngabo okwesikhashana bese uzibuze ngezinye izici zabo. Ngabe zihambisana nalokho okufunayo ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside?

Phatha usizi ngokulahlekelwa yilokho owawunethemba lakho

I-crush engayi ndawo yabelana ngokufana nokwaliwa nothando olungafuneki. Noma kungahle kube yinto yesikhashana kangakanani, kubandakanya imizwa yangempela nobuhlungu bangempela.

Thatha isikhathi sokuhlala nale mizwa. Ungahle udinge isikhathi esithe xaxa sokwamukela imizwa ejulile kusuka ekushayeni okude noma okujule kakhulu.

Vumela ukubheka emuva ezikhathini lapho uzizwe khona impela bakubuyisele uthando lwakho, izinhlansi ozizwile, noma izinsuku nokusondelana obenethemba lakho. Le yinqubo yosizi, ngakho-ke kulungile ukuzizwa udabukile futhi ukhungathekile noma uzibuze ukuthi kungani izinto zingakwazanga ukusebenza.

Gwema ukuvumela imizwa yakho ikudle

Kubalulekile ukuveza imizwa yakho ukuze ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa ngayo. Kodwa ukuhlala isikhathi eside kuzo kungakuvimba ekuthatheni izinyathelo zokwakha ubudlelwano nomuntu otholakalayo futhi onentshisekelo kwezothando.

Ukukhuluma ngokuchoboza kwakho njalo noma ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ubuyekeza ubuhlungu bokwaliwa kukwenza kube nzima ukuqhubeka.

Lapho uzizwa uvaleleke emjikelezweni wokucabanga ongafanele, zama:

• ngokwamukela ngemizwa imizwa evelayo, bese uyidedela
• ngokwengqondo "ukubeka eceleni" imizwa ecindezelayo uze ukwazi ukuyivandulula ngokuzuzisayo
• ukuziphazamisa ngomsebenzi wakho owuthandayo

Khuluma ngakho

Uma unenkinga yokusebenza ngemizwa, ukuwabelana nomuntu omethembayo kungasiza. Bangakusiza ukuthi ube nombono owengeziwe, ikakhulukazi uma uzama ukuhlola ngobuqotho ukuthi banamandla kangakanani noma ucabangele izizathu zokuthi i-crush yakho ayiwona umdlalo ofanele.

Zama:

• ukukhuluma nabathandekayo
• ukukhuluma nomuntu omethembayo futhi owazi isigqi sakho
• ukubhala imizwa yakho encwadini noma incwadi, okungafanele uyithumele

Uma usuvele usebudlelwaneni

Abantu ebuhlotsheni obuzibophezele basengaqhubeka nokuqhekeka. Lokhu kungaba yinto edidayo necindezelayo, kodwa akuyona into engavamile, futhi akusho ukuthi udinga ukuhlukana. Kungasiza ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuchotshozwa. Chaza ukuthi usebenza ngayo futhi awufuni ukwenza ngakho.

Ukuthembeka kungaqinisa ukwethembana futhi kuholele ebudlelwaneni obujulile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma i-crush ingumngani ohlanganyele, ungakhetha ukubabona kancane. Umlingani wakho kungenzeka angaqondi ukuthi kungani uma engazi ukuthi kwenzekani.

Gwema imithombo yezokuxhumana

KULUNGILE ukukuvuma: Kuyilingo ukubheka izithombe zamuva zomuntu othwebula naye noma ukubona ukuthi ngabe bathandana nobani. Kepha uma bekulahla noma unquma ukungazilandeli, kungcono ukunciphisa ukubandakanyeka kwakho kwidijithali.

I-FOMO - lokho kwesaba okuyingqayizivele kokuphuthelwa yimithombo yezokuxhumana okuvame ukudala - kwenzeka ngokushayeka, futhi. Ukusebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana ukubona impilo yabo kwenza kube lula ukucabanga ngokwabelana ngalolo mpilo.

Ukuhlala uxhunywe ngamadijithi ekuchotsheni ngokusebenzisa i-Facebook noma i-Instagram, ngokufanele, kungenza imizwa yokudabuka ibe yimbi ngokungaphumeleli impilo nabo.

Awudingi ukuthatha isenzo saphakade, njengokungabanqandi noma ukuwavimba, kepha kungasiza ukuwayeka futhi ugweme izinto ezifana nokuthi:

• ngibheka okuthunyelwe okusha noma imibono
• ukufuna izibuyekezo zesimo sobudlelwano
• ukuthumela izinto ezenzelwe ukuheha ukunakwa kwazo

Ngenkathi ukuwo, zikhumbuze ukuthi okuthunyelwe kwabezindaba zenhlalo kuvame ukuhlelwa, izifinyezo ezinemibono - hhayi ukuboniswa okunembile kwempilo yansuku zonke.

Qamba kabusha imizwa yakho

Uma uchitha isikhathi nothile futhi nabelana ngobuthakathaka, kulula ukuthuthukisa imizwa yokusondelana nokuheha. Le mizwa evumayo ingaqala ibe yisifiso, noma ngabe omunye umuntu akatholakali kwezothando.

Izici ezinjengomusa, ukuhlakanipha, nokuba namahlaya kakhulu kungakhuthaza ukuthotshiswa. Kodwa akudingeki uphole nothile ukuze uqhubeke nokujabulela lezi zici zobuntu babo.

Ungaphiki imizwa emihle abayivezayo. Esikhundleni salokho, kubabheke njengenzuzo yesibopho sakho esivele sikhona uma kuzwakala kuyinto ongayenza ngokoqobo. Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi uthando lwezothando lumele phezulu ekuphumeleleni kobudlelwano, kepha ungaba nobudlelwano obuqinile, obuseduze ngaphandle kothando.

Musa ukuphatha ubungani njengomklomelo wenduduzo

Ukwakha ubungani lapho ukuthandana kungenzeki kungaba yindlela enhle yokuhlala useduze nomuntu omkhathalelayo - uma uya kukho ngesimo esifanele.

Ubungane obakhelwe emqondweni wokuthi, "Awu, uma singakwazi ukujola, ngicabanga ukuthi ubungane yinto elandelayo engcono kakhulu," bungase bungasebenzi. Uma ungena ebunganeni ngasese unethemba lokuthi bazogcina bekuthande futhi, kungenzeka nigcine nobabili ekugcineni.

Esikhundleni salokho, yazisa ubungani ngokufaneleka kwakho, hhayi njengenye indlela engakhangi kangako ebudlelwaneni. Bonke ubudlelwano bungaba nezinzuzo ezinkulu, futhi ubungane bubaluleke kakhulu empilweni njengokuthandana. Abanye bakubheka ngisho Okuningi kubalulekile.

Khuluma ne-crush yakho

Ukutshela ukuchoboza kwakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuvamile kuyikholi yokwahlulela engxenyeni yakho. Uma ningabangane abaseduze, ungahle ukhathazeke ngokulahlekelwa ubungane babo bese unquma ukulinda ukudlulela kudlule.

Uma lokho kuthatheka kuhlangene, noma kunjalo, ukubatshela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani kungaqeda ubuhlobo. Noma kungenzeki ngokuhlanganyela, iningi labantu abadala lingaphatha ukudalulwa kwemizwa yothando ngomusa nozwela. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kungenzeka ukuthi bake bazibonela okufanayo.

Uma bengakwamukeli, kungcono ukuthi uqhubeke ubaphathe ngendlela ovame ukwenza ngayo. Ukuzigwema kungahle kusikisele okuthile okungalungile phakathi kwakho, okungaholela ezinkingeni zasemsebenzini noma emibuzweni evela kubangani.

Ukuzinika ibanga elincane kungasiza ekudambiseni ubuhlungu bokwaliwa. Uma nivame ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, ​​chaza ukuthi ufuna ukuhlala ungabangane kodwa udinga isikhala okwamanje. Le yimpendulo enempilo, okungenzeka ukuthi bayiqonda.

Ungazizwa ukhungathekile, ucasukile, futhi udidekile ngokuthi kungani bengenakukuthwebula nawe, ikakhulukazi uma ningabangane abakhulu. Khumbula: Awukwazi ukuphoqa ukuheha noma uthando, futhi abakwazi ukusiza imizwa yabo ngaphezu kwakho.

Ziphazamise

Lapho uzama ukusebenzela kunoma yiluphi usizi lobudlelwano, kusuka ekuqobekeni okuhlulekile kuya ekuhlukaneni okubi, ukuphazamiseka kuyisihluthulelo.

Kungabonakala sengathi yonke into ikukhumbuza ngokuchoboza kwakho, ikakhulukazi uma ningabangani noma ninezintshisekelo eziningi ezivamile. Lokhu kuvame ukulimaza kakhulu, ngoba awukwazi ukuphendukela kumculo wakho owuthandayo noma umsebenzi owabiwe.

Uma kunjalo kuwe, manje yisikhathi sokuzama okuthile okusha. Thatha umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha obufuna ukuwuzama. Qala umbukiso omusha esikhundleni sokubuka (noma ngokudabukisayo) ubuke umbukiso owujabulele ngokuchoboza kwakho.

Abangane nomndeni abaziyo ukuthi ubhekene nani bangasiza futhi ukususa ingqondo yakho ngokunikela ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo nokuphakamisa iziphazamiso ezintsha.

Zama ukuphola futhi

Ukuhlakulela imizwa yomuntu omusha kungasebenza njengohlobo olulodwa lokuthikamezeka. Ngenkathi kungekho lutho olungalungile ngokuziphonsa emuva echibini lokuphola, zama ukwenza kanjalo ngenhloso nangokucaca.

Isibonelo, thola okufunayo kumlingani wakho ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Ukuzibuza ukuthi yini oyithole ikhanga ekuchobozeni kwakho kunganikeza ukuqonda lapha.

Uma unephethini yokuhamba ukusuka kokuchoboza kuya kokuchobozayo, zama ukubheka ukuthi yini engemuva kwalokhu. Ukuqondisa kabusha imizwa engafuneki ngokushesha komunye umuntu okungenzeka ukuthi ayibuyisi akuyona indlela ewusizo kakhulu yokuqhubekela phambili.

Uma uqhubeka nokuthuthukisa ama-crushes angasebenzi, kungasiza ukuhlola izizathu ezingaba khona zalokhu, uwedwa noma nomelaphi.

Yenza izinto ozijabulelayo

Ukuchitha isikhathi emisebenzini oyithokozelayo ngeke kuqede imizwa yakho yothando, kepha imvamisa kusiza ukukhulisa ukuzithanda nokuzethemba. Kungasiza futhi ukuthuthukisa imizwa yakho nenhlalakahle jikelele.

Kulula ukuwela emaphethini wokucabanga akhombisa ukuthi awuphelele ngaphandle kothando noma ubuhlobo. Kepha kungenzeka ukwaneliseka, noma ujabule, ngaphandle kozakwethu.

Akudingeki neze uyeke ukuthola uthando. Ukusebenza ekubeni ngumuntu ongcono kakhulu futhi wenza izinto ozijabulelayo njalo kungakusiza ukuthi uphile impilo ezuzisayo kuze kube nguwe yenzathola umuntu okufanele.

Thola ukwesekwa kochwepheshe

Ukwelashwa kungasiza lapho umsebenzi wakho ojwayelekile usengozini, kusho u-Egel. Uchaza ukuthi ukwelashwa imvamisa kuyindlela enhle uma ulwela ukwenza izinto obejwayele ukuzenza noma onenkinga yokuthola injabulo empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.

Ukukhuluma nodokotela kungasiza futhi uma:

• uzizwe uvaleleke emicabangweni engemihle
• ulwela ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zokuzinakekela
• uzizwe ulusizi ngokuqhubekayo, unesizungu, noma ungenathemba
• uzizwe ukhathazeke ngokweqile lapho ungaboni noma uzwe ngokuchoboza kwakho

Okubalulekile

Uma uzama ukunqotshwa, khuthazeka ekutheni abantu abaningi bebekhona lapho ukhona. Ama-Crushes ajwayelekile, futhi mhlawumbe uzoqhubeka nokuthola amanye amaningi.

Khumbula nje: Ukuqothuka okuhlulekile akuhlangene nokufaneleka kwakho noma ukuthi ungumuntu onjani. Kwesinye isikhathi, kulula njengokungahambelani nomuntu owela kuye.

Ukubona ukuthi alikho ithuba lobudlelwano akuvimbi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthinteka, noma kukusize ukuthi udlule koyedwacanusizo isikhathi. Kungase kungabonakali kunje njengamanje, kodwa kungakabiphi, imizwa yakho cishe ngeke izwele kakhulu. Zingaze ziphele ngokuphelele.

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