Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukuxhashazwa Ezikoleni

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• Ukukhomba ubuxhwanguxhwangu
• Kungani kuyinkinga
• Amasu okuvimbela ukuxhashazwa
• Bandakanya ingane yakho
• Yiba yisibonelo
• Funda
• Yakha umphakathi wokwesekwa
• Yiba ongaguquguquki
• Nika amandla ababukeli
• Sebenza nesiqhwaga
• Umbono

Ukubuka konke

Ukuhlukumeza kuyinkinga engaphazamisa ukufunda kwengane, impilo yomphakathi, kanye nenhlalakahle yomzwelo. Umbiko okhishwe yi-Bureau of Justice Statistics uthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka nsuku zonke noma masonto onke kumaphesenti angama-23 ezikole zomphakathi kulo lonke elaseMelika. Lolu daba seluthole ukunakwa kakhudlwana eminyakeni yamuva nje ngenxa yobuchwepheshe nezindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nokuhlukumezana, njenge-intanethi, omakhalekhukhwini, kanye nezinkundla zokuxhumana. Abantu abadala bangaba nokuthambekela kokungakunaki ukuxhashazwa futhi bakubhale njengengxenye yokuphila ejwayelekile izingane zonke ezidlula kuzo. Kepha ukuqinela kuyinkinga yangempela enemiphumela emibi.

Ukukhomba ubuxhwanguxhwangu

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukukholelwa ukuthi "izinduku namatshe kungaphula amathambo ami, kodwa amagama awasoze angilimaza," kepha kwezinye izingane nentsha (nabantu abadala), lokho akulona iqiniso. Amagama angalimaza ngendlela efanayo, noma abe ngaphezu kwalokho, kunokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba.

Ukuhlukumeza kungukuziphatha okubandakanya lonke uhla lwezenzo ezibanga ubuhlungu emzimbeni noma emoyeni, kusuka ekusakazeni amahemuhemu, ukukhishwa ngamabomu, ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzimba. Kungaba okucashile futhi izingane eziningi azitsheli abazali bazo noma othisha ngakho ngenxa yokwesaba ihlazo noma ukujeziswa. Izingane nazo zingasaba ukuthi ngeke zithathelwe phezulu uma zibika ukuthi ziyaxhashazwa. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali, othisha, kanye nabanye abantu abadala bahlale bebheka izindlela zokuhlukumeza.

Ezinye izimpawu zokuxwayisa ukuthi ingane yakho iyahlukunyezwa zifaka:

• ukusikeka noma imihuzuko engachazwanga
• izingubo ezilimele noma ezilahlekile, izincwadi, izimpahla zesikole, noma ezinye izinto
• ukulahlekelwa isifiso sokudla
• inkathazo yokulala
• ukungakhulumi ngokomzwelo
• ukuthatha imizila emide ngokungadingekile ukuya esikoleni
• ukusebenza okungekuhle okungazelelwe noma ukuphelelwa yintshisekelo emsebenzini wesikole
• ngingasafuni ukuhlanganyela nabangane
• ukucela ukuhlala ekhaya ngigula ngenxa yezikhalazo ezivamile zekhanda, isisu, noma ezinye izifo
• ukukhathazeka komphakathi noma ukuzethemba okuphansi
• ukuzizwa ushintshile noma ucindezelekile
• noma yiluphi ushintsho olungachazeki ekuziphatheni

Kungani kuyinkinga

Ubuxhwanguxhwangu bunomthelela omubi kuwo wonke umuntu, kufaka phakathi:

• isiqhwaga
• ilitshe
• abantu abakubonayo
• noma ngubani omunye oxhumeke kuyo

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• ukudana nokukhathazeka
• kushintsha ukulala nokudla
• ukuphelelwa yintshisekelo emisebenzini eyake yajatshulelwa
• izindaba zezempilo
• ukwehla ekuphumeleleni kwezemfundo kanye nokubamba iqhaza kwesikole

Amasu okuvimbela ukuxhashazwa

Bandakanya ingane yakho

Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze uma ubona ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle enganeni yakho ukukhuluma nayo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenzela ingane ehlukunyezwayo ukuqinisekisa isimo. Naka imizwa yengane yakho futhi ubazise ukuthi uyayikhathalela. Ungahle ungakwazi ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga zabo kepha kubalulekile ukuthi bazi ukuthi bangathembela kuwe ukuthi uzobasekela.

Yiba yisibonelo

Ukuqinela abanye kuyindlela yokufunda. Izingane zithatha isimilo sokungahloniphi njengokuhlukumeza kubantu abadala abayizibonelo, abazali, othisha, kanye nabezindaba. Yiba yisibonelo esihle futhi ufundise ingane yakho isimilo esihle kusukela esemncane. Ingane yakho mancane amathuba okuthi ingene ebudlelwaneni obulimazayo noma obulimazayo uma wena njengomzali wayo ugwema ukuzihlanganisa okungalungile.

Funda

Ukuqeqeshwa okuqhubekayo nemfundo kubalulekile ukumisa ubuxhwanguxhwangu emphakathini wakho. Lokhu kunikeza othisha isikhathi sokukhuluma ngokukhululekile nabafundi mayelana nokuhlukumeza kanye nokuzizwa ukuthi sinjani isimo sezulu esikoleni. Kuzosiza nezingane ukuthi ziqonde ukuthi iziphi izindlela zokuziphatha ezibhekwa njengokuhlukumeza. Imihlangano yesikole ebanzi mayelana nodaba ingaletha udaba obala.

Kubalulekile futhi ukufundisa abasebenzi besikole nabanye abantu abadala. Kufanele baqonde uhlobo lokuhlukumeza kanye nemiphumela yako, ukuthi bangaphendula kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni esikoleni, nokuthi bangasebenzisana kanjani nabanye emphakathini ukukuvimbela.

Yakha umphakathi wokwesekwa

Ukuqinela abanye kuyinkinga yomphakathi futhi kudinga isixazululo somphakathi. Wonke umuntu kufanele abe semkhunjini ukuze ayiqede ngempumelelo. Lokhu kufaka:

• abafundi
• abazali
• othisha
• abaphathi
• abeluleki
• abashayeli bamabhasi
• abasebenzi bendawo yokudlela
• abahlengikazi besikole
• abafundisa ngemuva kwesikole

Uma ingane yakho ihlukunyezwa, kubalulekile ukuthi ungabhekani nesiqhwaga noma umzali wesiqhwaga ngokwakho. Imvamisa ayikhiqizi futhi ingaba yingozi. Esikhundleni salokho, sebenza nomphakathi wakho. Othisha, abeluleki, nabaphathi banemininingwane nezinsiza zokusiza ukunquma inkambo efanele yokusebenza. Sungula isu lomphakathi lokubhekana nokuxhashazwa.

Yiba ongaguquguquki

Kubalulekile ukuba nohlelo lokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokuxhashazwa. Izinqubomgomo ezibhaliwe ziyindlela enhle yokuba nokuthile wonke umuntu emphakathini angabhekisa kukho. Yonke ingane kufanele iphathwe futhi iphathwe ngokulinganayo nangokungaguquguquki, ngokwemigomo. Ukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo kufanele kubhekwane nakho ngendlela efanayo nokuhlukumeza ngokomzimba.

Izinqubomgomo ezibhaliwe zesikole akumele zivimbele kuphela ukuxhashazwa kwabantu, kepha futhi zenze abafundi babhekane nokusiza abanye abasenkingeni. Izinqubomgomo kufanele zicace futhi zifushane ukuze wonke umuntu aziqonde shazi.

Kubalulekile ukuthi imithetho yokuxhashazwa iphoqelelwe ngokungaguquguquki kuso sonke isikole. Abasebenzi besikole kudingeka bakwazi ukungenelela ngokushesha ukuze bayeke ukuxhashazwa, futhi kufanele futhi kube nemihlangano yokulandelela yabo bobabili abahlukumezayo nalabo abahlosiwe. Abazali babafundi abathintekayo kufanele babandakanyeke lapho kunokwenzeka.

Nika amandla ababukeli

Imvamisa, ababukele bazizwa bengenamandla okusiza. Bangase bacabange ukuthi ukuhileleka kungaletha ukuhlaselwa yisiqhwaga kubo noma kubenze balahlwe emphakathini. Kepha kubalulekile ukunika amandla ababukele ukusiza. Izikole kufanele zisebenzele ukuvikela ababukele ekuziphindiseleni futhi zizisize ziqonde ukuthi ukuthula nokungazenzi okuthile kungenza iziqhwaga zibe namandla kakhulu.

Sebenza nesiqhwaga

Ungakhohlwa ukuthi isiqhwaga sinezinkinga okufanele sibhekane naso futhi futhi sidinga usizo kubantu abadala. Iziqhwaga zivame ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okuxhashazayo ngenxa yokuntula uzwela nokwethemba, noma ngenxa yezinkinga ekhaya.

Abantu abaqinela abanye kudingeka baqale babone ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuyisiqhwaga. Ngemuva kwalokho, badinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukuhlukumeza kuyingozi kwabanye futhi kuholela emiphumeleni emibi. Unganqamula ukuziphatha kokuxhashazwa kubhulogi ngokubakhombisa ukuthi iyini imiphumela yezenzo zabo.

Umbono

Ukuhlukumeza kuyinkinga evamile lapho usakhula, kodwa kuyinkinga okungafanele isuswe. Ukuyixazulula kuthatha izinyathelo kumalungu omphakathi wonke futhi ukubhekana ngqo nalolu daba kuzokuveza obala. Ukwesekwa kumele kunikezwe labo abaxhashazwayo, labo ababona ukuxhashazwa, kanye nabahlukumezi uqobo.