Ziyini Izinzuzo Zokugona?

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• 1. Ukugona kunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngokubonisa ukweseka kwakho
• 2. Ukugona kungakuvikela ekuguleni
• 3. Ukugona kungakhulisa impilo yenhliziyo yakho
• 4. Ukugona kungakwenza uthokoze
• 5. Ukugona kusiza ukunciphisa ukwesaba kwakho
• 6. Ukugona kungasiza ekunciphiseni ubuhlungu bakho
• 7. Ukugona kukusiza ukuxhumana nabanye
• Sidinga ukwangana okungaki?

Sanga abanye lapho sijabule, sijabule, sidabukile, noma sizama ukududuza. Ukugona, kubonakala sengathi kududuza umhlaba wonke. Kusenza sizizwe sihle. Futhi kuvela ukuthi ukwangana kufakazelwa ukusenza sibe nempilo futhi sijabule.

Ngokusho kososayensi, izinzuzo zokugona zidlula lowo muzwa ofudumele owutholayo lapho ubambe othile ezandleni zakho. Qhubeka ufunde ukuthola ukuthi kanjani.

1. Ukugona kunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngokubonisa ukweseka kwakho

Lapho umngane noma ilungu lomndeni libhekene nokuthile okubuhlungu noma okungathandeki ezimpilweni zabo, bange.

Ososayensi bathi ukusekela omunye umuntu ngokuthinta kunganciphisa ukucindezeleka komuntu oduduzwayo. Kunganciphisa ngisho nokucindezeleka komuntu owenza okududuzayo

Komunye wemibhangqwana engamashumi amabili yobungqingili, amadoda anikezwa ugesi ongathandeki. Ngesikhathi sokushaqeka, owesifazane ngamunye wayebambe ingalo yomlingani wakhe.

Abaphenyi bathole ukuthi izingxenye zobuchopho besifazane ngamunye ezihambisana nengcindezi zikhombisa umsebenzi owehlisiwe ngenkathi lezo zingxenye ezihambisana nemivuzo yokuziphatha komama zikhombisa umsebenzi omningi. Lapho sigona umuntu ukuze simduduze, lezi zingxenye zobuchopho bethu zingabonisa impendulo efanayo.

2. Ukugona kungakuvikela ekuguleni

Imiphumela yokwehlisa ingcindezi yokwangana nayo ingasebenza ukukugcina unempilo.

Ocwaningweni lwabantu abadala abangaphezu kuka-400, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi ukwangana kungehlisa amathuba okuthi umuntu agule. Abahlanganyeli abanesistimu enkulu yokusekela babencane amathuba okugula. Futhi labo abanesistimu enkulu yokusekela abagulayo babenezimpawu ezinzima kakhulu kunalezo ezinesistimu yokusekela encane noma engenayo nhlobo.

3. Ukugona kungakhulisa impilo yenhliziyo yakho

Ukugona kungaba yinhle empilweni yenhliziyo yakho. Kwesinye, ososayensi bahlukanisa iqembu labantu abadala abangaba ngu-200 laba ngamaqembu amabili:

• Iqembu elilodwa lalinabalingani bezothando ababambana ngezandla imizuzu eyi-10 ilandelwa ukwangana kwemizuzwana engama-20.
• Elinye iqembu lalinabalingani abathandanayo ababehlala bathule imizuzu eyi-10 nemizuzwana engama-20.

Abantu abaseqenjini lokuqala bakhombise ukwehla okukhulu emazingeni omfutho wegazi nokushaya kwenhliziyo kuneqembu lesibili.

Ngokwalokhu okutholakele, ubudlelwano obunothando bungaba kuhle empilweni yakho yenhliziyo.

4. Ukugona kungakwenza uthokoze

I-Oxytocin iyikhemikhali emizimbeni yethu kwesinye isikhathi ososayensi abayibiza ngokuthi "i-cuddle hormone." Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amazinga ayo akhuphuka lapho sigona, sithinta noma sihlala eduze komunye umuntu. I-Oxytocin ihlotshaniswa nenjabulo nokucindezeleka okuncane.

Ososayensi bathole ukuthi le hormone inethonya elinamandla kwabesifazane. I-Oxytocin ibangela ukwehla komfutho wegazi kanye ne-hormone yokucindezela i-norepinephrine.

Ucwaningo oluthile lwathola ukuthi izinzuzo ezinhle ze-oxytocin zazinamandla kakhulu kwabesifazane ababenobudlelwano obungcono nokugonwa kaningi nomlingani wabo othandana naye. Abesifazane babone nemiphumela emihle ye-oxytocin lapho bebambe izingane zabo eduze.

5. Ukugona kusiza ukunciphisa ukwesaba kwakho

Ososayensi bathole ukuthi ukuthinta kunganciphisa ukukhathazeka kubantu abazenyeza. Ukuthinta kungenza futhi ukuthi abantu bangazihlukanisi uma bekhunjuzwa ngokufa kwabo.

Bathola ukuthi ngisho nokuthinta into engaphili - kulokhu i-teddy bear - kusize ekwehliseni ukwesaba kwabantu ngokuba khona kwabo.

6. Ukugona kungasiza ekunciphiseni ubuhlungu bakho

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ezinye izindlela zokuthinta zingakwazi ukunciphisa ubuhlungu.

Kwesinye isifundo, abantu abane-fibromyalgia babe nezindlela zokwelashwa eziyisithupha zokwelashwa. Ukwelashwa ngakunye kwakuhilela ukuthinta okulula esikhunjeni. Abahlanganyeli babike ukwanda kwekhwalithi yempilo nokunciphisa ubuhlungu.

Ukugona enye indlela yokuthinta engasiza ukunciphisa izinhlungu.

7. Ukugona kukusiza ukuxhumana nabanye

Ukuxhumana okuningi kwabantu kwenzeka ngamazwi noma ebusweni. Kepha ukuthinta kungenye indlela ebalulekile abantu abangathumela ngayo imiyalezo komunye nomunye.

Ososayensi bathole ukuthi umuntu ongamazi ubekwazi ukuveza imizwa ehlukahlukene komunye umuntu ngokuthinta izitho ezahlukene zomzimba wakhe. Eminye imizwa evezwe ifaka phakathi intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukunengeka, uthando, ukubonga, injabulo, ukudabuka, nozwela.

Ukugona uhlobo olududuzayo noluthintanayo lokuthinta.

Sidinga ukwangana okungaki?

Uchwepheshe wemindeni uVirginia Satir wake wathi, “Sidinga ukwangana kane ngosuku ukuze sisinde. Sidinga ukwangiwa okungu-8 ngosuku ukuze sinakekelwe. Sidinga ukwangiwa okungu-12 ngosuku ukuze sikhule. ” Yize lokho kungazwakala njengokwangana okuningi, kubonakala sengathi ukwangana okuningi kungcono kunokungenele.

Ngakho-ke, kufanele ube nezingaki ezingaki zosuku lwempilo efanelekile? Ngokwesayensi ehamba phambili, kufanele sibe nabaningi ngangokunokwenzeka uma sifuna ukuvuna imiphumela emihle kakhulu.

Ngeshwa, iningi labantu baseNtshonalanga namuhla - ikakhulukazi abantu base-United States - abantulayo. Abantu abaningi baphila bodwa noma bematasa ngokunciphisa ukuxhumana kwabantu nokuthintana.

Imihlangano yethu yezenhlalo yanamuhla ivame ukusunduza abantu ukuthi bangathinti abanye abangahlobene nabo ngqo. Kodwa-ke, kubonakala sengathi abantu bangazuza lukhulu ngokuthinta abanye kancane.

Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukuzizwa ungcono ngawe, unciphise ukucindezeleka kwakho, uthuthukise ukuxhumana, futhi ujabule futhi ube nempilo enhle, kubonakala sengathi ukupha nokucela ukwangana okuningi kuyindawo enhle yokuqala.

Uma uzizwa unovalo ngokufuna ukwanga okwengeziwe, qala ngokubacela kubangani nakumalungu omndeni osondele kakhulu kuwe kuqala.

Isayensi ifakazela ukuthi ukwangana njalo nalabo osondelene nabo kakhulu, noma ngabe kufushane, kungaba nemiphumela emihle kakhulu ebuchosheni nasemzimbeni wakho.