Benginesiqiniseko sokuthi Ingane Yami Izofa. Bekungukukhathazeka Kwami Nje Kukhuluma.

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• Kuyini ukukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha?
• Omama abane-PPA bakhuluma ngokwesaba kwabo okungapheli
• Yini engingayenza ngezimpawu zami zokukhathazeka?

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

Lapho ngibeletha indodana yami endala, ngangisanda kuthuthela edolobheni elisha, eliqhele ngamahora amathathu ukusuka emndenini wami.

Umyeni wami wayesebenza amahora ayi-12 ngosuku futhi ngangingedwa nengane yami esanda kuzalwa - usuku lonke, zonke izinsuku.

Njenganoma imuphi umama omusha, nganginovalo futhi ngingaqiniseki. Benginemibuzo eminingi futhi bengingazi ukuthi ngilindele impilo injani ngengane entsha sha.

Umlando wami we-Google kusukela ngaleso sikhathi wagcwala imibuzo efana nokuthi "Kufanele ingane yami iphindwe kangaki?" “Ingane yami kufanele ilale isikhathi esingakanani?” nokuthi “Kufanele ingane yami incelise kangaki?” Ukukhathazeka komama ojwayelekile.

Kepha ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa okuqala, ngaqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu.

Ngaqala ukucwaninga ngokuzumayo lokufa kwezinsana (SIDS). Umqondo wokuthi ingane enempilo ephelele ingafa nje ngaphandle kwesixwayiso ungithumele esivunguvungwini sokukhathazeka.

Ngangingena ekamelweni lakhe njalo ngemizuzu emi-5 ngenkathi elele ukuqiniseka ukuthi ulungile. Ngimbuke elele. Angikaze ngimvumele asuke ebusweni bami.

Ngemuva kwalokho, ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kwaqala ukushibilika eqhweni.

Ngazikholisa ukuthi kukhona umuntu ongabiza abezenhlalakahle ukuthi asuswe kimi nomyeni wami ngoba ubengalali kahle futhi ekhala kakhulu. Ngangikhathazekile ngokuthi uzofa. Ngangikhathazeka ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngaye engingazange ngikunake ngoba ngangiwumama omubi. Ngangikhathazekile ukuthi othile uzokhuphuka ngefasitela amntshontshe phakathi kwamabili. Ngangikhathazekile ngokuthi unomdlavuza.

Ngangingalali ebusuku ngoba ngesaba ukuthi uzonqotshwa yi-SIDS ngenkathi ngilele.

Ngangikhathazeka ngayo yonke into. Futhi sonke lesi sikhathi, unyaka wakhe wonke wokuqala, bengicabanga ukuthi lokhu kujwayelekile.

Bengicabanga ukuthi bonke omama abasha bakhathazekile njengami. Ngangicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu uzizwa ngendlela efanayo futhi wayenokukhathazeka okufanayo, ngakho-ke akukaze kufike engqondweni yami ukuthi kufanele ngikhulume nothile ngakho.

Bengingazi ukuthi bengingenangqondo. Ngangingazi ukuthi imiphi imicabango yokungenela.

Bengingazi ukuthi nginenkinga yangemva kokubeletha.

Kuyini ukukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha?

Wonke umuntu uzwile ngokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha (PPD), kodwa ababaningi abantu abake bezwa nokukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha (PPA). Ngokwezifundo ezithile, izimpawu zokukhathazeka zangemva kokubeletha zabikwa kubantu besifazane.

Umelaphi waseMinnesota uCrystal Clancy, uMFT uthi inani kungenzeka liphakeme kakhulu, ngoba izinto zokuxilonga nezemfundo zivame ukugxila kakhulu kwi-PPD kune-PPA. "Kungenzeka ukuthi ube ne-PPA ngaphandle kwe-PPD," kusho uClancy kuHealthline. Uyanezela ukuthi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kuvame ukungakhulunywa.

“Abesifazane bangahlolwa ngumhlinzeki wabo, kepha lokho kuhlolwa kuvame ukubuza imibuzo eminingi mayelana nemizwelo nokudangala, okugeja isikebhe uma kukhulunywa ngokukhathazeka. Abanye bane-PPD ekuqaleni, kepha lapho lokho kuba ngcono, kuveza ukukhathazeka okuyisisekelo okungenzeka kube nomthelela ekucindezelekeni kwasekuqaleni, ”kuchaza uClancy.

Ukukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha kungathinta abesifazane abangamaphesenti angama-18. Kodwa isibalo singase sibe ngaphezulu kakhulu, ngoba abesifazane abaningi abatholakali.

Omama abane-PPA bakhuluma ngokwesaba kwabo okungapheli

Izimpawu ezivamile ezihambisana ne-PPA yilezi:

• ukuqina nokucasuka
• ukukhathazeka njalo
• imicabango yokungena
• ukuqwasha
• imizwa yokwesaba

Okunye ukukhathazeka kumane nje kuyimibuzo emisha yomzali omusha. Kodwa uma iqala ukuphazamisa ikhono lomzali lokuzinakekela yena noma ingane yakhe, kungaba yisifo sokukhathazeka.

I-SIDS iyimbangela enkulu yomama abaningi abanokukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha.

Umqondo wethusa ngokwanele komama abajwayelekile, kepha kumzali we-PPA, ukugxila ku-SIDS kubadonsela endaweni yokukhathazeka.

Ukulala okudlule ukuze uchithe ubusuku bonke ubheke ingane elele ngokuthula, ubala isikhathi esidlula phakathi kokuphefumula - ngokushaywa uvalo uma kukhona ukubambezeleka okuncane kakhulu - luphawu lokukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha.

U-Erin, umama oneminyaka engama-30 wezingane ezintathu waseNingizimu Carolina, ubenePPA kabili. Okokuqala, wachaza imizwa yokwesaba nokukhathazeka ngokweqile ngokubaluleka kwakhe njengomama kanye nokukwazi kwakhe ukukhulisa indodakazi yakhe.

Wayekhathazekile nangokulimaza indodakazi yakhe engahlosile ngesikhathi eyiphethe. "Ngangimthwala ngeminyango ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba nganginokwesaba ukuthi ngangingalishaya ikhanda lakhe kuhlaka lomnyango ngimbulale," uyavuma.

U-Erin, njengabanye omama, ukhathazekile nge-SIDS. "Ngivuke ngithukile njalo ebusuku, ngiqinisekile ukuthi uzofa elele."

Abanye - njengomama wasePennsylvania uLauren - batatazela lapho ingane yabo ikunye nomunye umuntu ngaphandle kwabo. "Nganginomuzwa wokuthi ingane yami yayingaphephile komunye umuntu ngaphandle kwami," kusho uLauren. “Ngangikwazi ukukhululeka lapho omunye umuntu wayembambile. Lapho ekhala, umfutho wegazi lami wawuzoba yi-rocket yesibhakabhaka. Ngangiqala ukujuluka futhi ngizwe kunesidingo esikhulu sokumthulisa. ”

Uchaza umuzwa onamandla odalwa ukukhala kwengane yakhe: "Kwakucishe kube sengathi angikwazi ukumthulisa, sizokufa sonke."

Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kungakwenza ulahlekelwe umuzwa weqiniso. ULauren uchaza esinye sezimo ezinjalo. “Ngesinye isikhathi lapho sasisekhaya nje [sisuka esibhedlela] ngathatha ubuthongo kusofa ngenkathi umama wami (ophephe kakhulu futhi onekhono) ebuka ingane. Ngavuka ngabheka ngakubo futhi [indodakazi yami] yayigcwele igazi. ”

Uqhubeka athi, “Yayiphuma ngomlomo wakhe, yonke ingubo ayeyisonge, futhi wayengaphefumuli. Vele, akusikho okwenzekile ngempela. Ubesongwe ngengubo empunga nebomvu kanti ubuchopho bami buvele bathuthuka lapho ngiqala ukuvuka. ”

Ukukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha kuyelapheka.

Yini engingayenza ngezimpawu zami zokukhathazeka?

Njengokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, uma kuyekwa kungalashwa, ukukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha kungasondelana nengane yakhe. Uma esaba kakhulu ukunakekela ingane noma ezizwa sengathi mubi enganeni, kungaba nemithelela emibi ekukhuleni.

Ngokufanayo, kungahle kube nokuxhumana phakathi kwezingane ezinomama babo ababenexhala eliqhubekayo ngesikhathi sokubeletha.

Omama abathola noma yiziphi zalezi zimpawu, noma izimpawu ezihambisana ne-PPD, kufanele bafune usizo kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo.

Lezi zimo ziyelapheka. Kepha uma zingelashwa, zingadlulela phambili noma zilinde zidlule isikhathi sokubeletha, ziguquke zibe ukucindezeleka komtholampilo noma ukukhathazeka okujwayelekile kokukhathazeka.

UClancy uthi ukwelashwa kunamandla okusizakala futhi imvamisa kuyisikhathi esifushane. I-PPA iphendula izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokwelapha, ikakhulukazi ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT) nokwelashwa kokwamukela nokuzinikela (ACT).

Futhi ngokusho kukaClancy, “Imithi ingaba yindlela, ikakhulukazi uma izimpawu ziba nzima ngokwanele ukuba zingalimazi ukusebenza. Kunemithi eminingi ephephile ukuphuzwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nalapho uncelisa. ”

Uyanezela ukuthi ezinye izindlela zifaka:

• ukuzindla
• amakhono okucabanga
• i-yoga
• ukutshopa
• izithasiselo

Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukhombisa izimpawu zokukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha, finyelela kudokotela wakho noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo.

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