Kungani Impilo Yakho Yengqondo Ngaphambi Nangemva Kokuzalwa Komntwana Kubaluleke Kangaka

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• Izinkinga zemizwa yangemva kokubeletha azikhethi
• Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha akulingani ne-postpartum psychosis
• Phatha impilo yakho yengqondo ngokufana nempilo yakho yomzimba
• Cela usizo futhi ulwamukele lapho unikezwa
• Awuwedwa
• KULUNGILE ukungalungi
• Ukuthatha

Abesifazane abakhulelwe okokuqala ngqa cishe bazochitha iningi lokukhulelwa kwabo befunda ukunakekela ingane yabo. Kepha kuthiwani ngokufunda ukuzinakekela?

Kunamagama amathathu engifisa sengathi ngabe othile ukhulume nami ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe: impilo yengqondo yomama. Lawo magama amathathu ayengenza umehluko omkhulu empilweni yami ngenkathi ngiba ngumama.

Ngifisa sengathi ngabe othile ngabe wathi, “Impilo yakho yengqondo yomama ingahlupheka ngaphambi nangemva kokukhulelwa. Lokhu kuvamile, futhi kuyelapheka. ” Akekho ongitshele ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu okufanele ngizibheke, izinto ezinobungozi, noma lapho ungaya khona ngosizo lochwepheshe.

Ngangingakulungele kakhulu lapho ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kungishaya ebusweni ngosuku olulandelayo lapho ngibuyise ingane yami ekhaya ivela esibhedlela. Ukushoda kwemfundo engayithola ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe kwangiholela ekuzingeleni abakhwabanisi ukuze ngithole usizo engangiludinga ukuze ngilulame.

Ukube ngangazi ukuthi empeleni kwakuyini ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, ukuthi kuthinta abesifazane abangaki, nokuthi kufanele kulashwe kanjani, ngangiyozizwa nginamahloni amancane. Ngangiyoqala ukwelashwa ngokushesha. Futhi bengingaba khona kakhulu nendodana yami phakathi nonyaka wokuqala.

Nakhu okunye engifisa ukukwazi ngempilo yengqondo ngaphambi nangemva kokukhulelwa kwami.

Izinkinga zemizwa yangemva kokubeletha azikhethi

Lapho nginezinyanga eziyisishiyagalombili ngikhulelwe, umngane wami oseduze owayesanda kuba nengane yakhe wangibuza, “Jen, ukhathazekile nganoma yiziphi izinto zokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha?” Ngaphendula ngokushesha, “Cha. Lokho ngeke kwenzeke kimi. ”

Ngangijabule ukuba ngumama, ngishade nomlingani omuhle, ngiphumelela empilweni, futhi sengivele nginezinsizakusebenza eziningi eziklelisiwe, ngakho-ke ngacabanga ukuthi ngangicacile.

Ngifunde ngokukhulu ukushesha ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha akukhathalele noma yikuphi kwalokho. Benginakho konke ukusekelwa emhlabeni, kepha nokho ngisagula.

Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha akulingani ne-postpartum psychosis

Ingxenye yesizathu sokuthi ngangingakholelwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kungenzeka kimi kungenxa yokuthi ngangingaqondi ukuthi kwakuyini.

Bengihlala ngicabanga ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kubhekiswe komama obabona ezindabeni abalimaza izingane zabo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi, nabo uqobo. Iningi lalabo mama bane-psychosis yangemva kokubeletha, ehluke kakhulu. I-Psychosis yisifo esingajwayelekile esivamile semizwa, sithinta kuphela u-1 kuye kwababili kwabesifazane abangu-1 000 ababelethayo.

Phatha impilo yakho yengqondo ngokufana nempilo yakho yomzimba

Uma uthola umkhuhlane omkhulu nokukhwehlela, mhlawumbe ubungabona udokotela wakho ngaphandle kokucabanga. Ungalandela imiyalo kadokotela wakho ngaphandle kombuzo. Kodwa-ke lapho umama omusha elwa nempilo yakhe yengqondo, uvame ukuzizwa enamahloni futhi ahlupheke athule.

Ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa yangemva kokubeletha, njengokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha nokukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha, kuyizifo zangempela ezidinga ukwelashwa ngochwepheshe.

Imvamisa badinga imishanguzo njengezifo zomzimba. Kodwa omama abaningi babona ukuthi kufanele bathathe imishanguzo njengobuthakathaka kanye nesimemezelo sokuthi bahlulekile ekubeni ngumama.

Ngivuka njalo ekuseni ngithathe inhlanganisela yezidakamizwa ezilwa nokucindezelwa ngaphandle kwamahloni. Ukulwela impilo yami yengqondo kungenza ngiqine. Yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthi nginakekele indodana yami.

Cela usizo futhi ulwamukele lapho unikezwa

Ubumama abenzelwe ukuthi benziwe bodwa. Akudingeki ubhekane nakho wedwa futhi akudingeki uzizwe unecala ngokucela lokho okudingayo.

Uma unenkinga yemizwa yangemva kokubeletha, wena ngeke uzozenza ngcono. Ngaqala ukuzizwa ngingcono ngomzuzu engathola ngawo owelapha owayekhethekile ngezifo zemizwa yangemva kokubeletha, kodwa kwakudingeka ngikhulume ngicele usizo.

Futhi, funda ukuthi ungathi yebo. Uma umlingani wakho ethembisa ukugeza nokuzamazamisa ingane ukuze ukwazi ukulala, yithi yebo. Uma udadewenu ethi uzosiza ukuwashwa nezitsha, mvumele. Uma umngane ethembisa ukusetha isitimela sokudla, yithi yebo. Futhi uma abazali bakho befuna ukukhokhela umntwana ongumhlengikazi, i-postpartum doula, noma amahora ambalwa wokugcina izingane, yamukela lokho abakunikezayo.

Awuwedwa

Eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule, ngenkathi ngibhekene nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, ngacabanga ngobuqotho ukuthi kwakuyimina kuphela. Ngangingazi noma ngubani uqobo owayenokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha. Angikaze ngikubone kukhulunywa ngakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Udokotela wami wezokubelethisa (OB) akakaze akulethe. Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngiyahluleka ukuba ngumama, into engangikholelwa ukuthi iza ngokwemvelo kubo bonke abanye abesifazane emhlabeni.

Ekhanda lami, bekukhona okungahambi kahle ngami. Bengingafuni lutho olungihlanganisa nendodana yami, bengingafuni ukuba ngumama, futhi bengikwazi ukuphuma embhedeni noma ukuphuma endlini ngaphandle kokuqokwa kokwelashwa kwamasonto onke.

Iqiniso ngukuthi omama abasha abayi-1 kwabangu-7 bayathinteka ngezinkinga zempilo yengqondo yomama minyaka yonke. Ngabona ukuthi ngiyingxenye yesizwe sezinkulungwane zomama ababebhekene nento efanayo nami. Lokho kwenza umehluko omkhulu ekuyekeni amahloni enganginawo.

KULUNGILE ukungalungi

Ukuba ngumama kuzokuvivinya ngezindlela ezingekho okunye.

Uvunyelwe ukulwa. Uvunyelwe ukuwa. Uvunyelwe ukuzizwa uthanda ukuyeka. Uvunyelwe ukungazizwa okusemandleni akho, futhi ukwamukele lokho.

Ungazigcini izingxenye ezimbi nezingcolile zemizwa yokuba ngumama kuwe ngoba ngamunye wethu unazo. Abasenzi omama ababi.

Yiba mnene kuwe. Thola abantu bakho - labo abahlale bekugcina kungokoqobo, kepha ungaze wahlulele. Yibo abazokuxhasa futhi bakwamukele noma kanjani.

Ukuthatha

Ama-clichés ayiqiniso. Kufanele uvikele imaskhi yakho ye-oxygen ngaphambi kokuvikela eyengane yakho. Awukwazi ukuthela enkomishini engenalutho. Uma umama ehla, wonke umkhumbi uya phansi.

Konke lokhu kuyikhodi nje yokuthi: Izinkinga zempilo yakho yengqondo yomama. Ngifunde ukunakekela impilo yami yengqondo ngendlela enzima, isifundo engiphoqelelwe yisifo ebengingazi nhlobo ngaso. Akufanele kube ngale ndlela.

Ake sabelane ngezindaba zethu futhi siqhubeke nokuqwashisa. Ukubeka phambili impilo yethu yengqondo yomama ngaphambi nangemva kwengane kudinga ukuba yinto ejwayelekile - hhayi okuhlukile.

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