Ngabe Abangaphakathi Ababili Bemfashini Balwa Kanjani Nezinkinga Zokudla Embonini

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• Imizila Ebenza Bahlale Begxilile
• Ukwehluleka Okuphenduke Izibusiso Ezicashile
• Ukuhambisana Nokuzinakekela Ngenkathi Kusebenza Ama-Gigs Amabili
• Ngokubheka Kwabanye Abesifazane Ukuze Ukhuthaze
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Kudala, uChristina Grasso noRuthie Friedlander bobabili basebenza njengabahleli bamamagazini esikhaleni semfashini nobuhle. Kuyamangaza ukuthi akunjalo ukuthi abasunguli beThe Chain — iqembu eliholwa ngontanga elisekela labo abasembonini yezemfashini, abezindaba, nezokungcebeleka abalulama ezinkingeni zokudla — bahlangana kanjani.

Ngemuva kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngesifo sokudla, uGrasso ubelokhu ebandakanyeka emaqenjini okwazisa (njengeGlam4Good neProjekthi HEAL) iminyaka. Ngemuva kokusebenza njengomeluleki kwifilimu yeNetflix KuThambo (mayelana nowesifazane osemusha ohlushwa i-anorexia) wahlangana nendatshana uFriedlander ayibhalela I-InStyle mayelana nokululama kwakhe.

"Ngakwazisa kakhulu ukwethembeka kwakhe, ngoba yize ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla kuqhubeka nokuba yinkinga, inkinga ebucayi kakhulu embonini, akuvamile ukuthi kubhekwane nayo," kukhumbula uGrasso. "Ngithumele uRuthie i-DM, futhi sabophela ngokushesha ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu okufanayo." Laba banqume ukuthi bafuna ukwenza okuthile ukusiza ontanga yabo kulo mkhakha. Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kamuva, uThe Chain wazalwa. (Kuhlobene: I-Orthorexia Isifo Sokudlela Ongakaze Uzwe Ngaso)

Ihloselwe ukuba yindawo ephephile kunoma ubani osembonini yonke, i-The Chain ibamba imicimbi evaliwe, yamalungu kuphela lapho abantu abalulame bengaxoxa izindaba zabo, bafune isiqondiso, babe nezingxoxo ezivulekile, futhi bathole ukuqonda. Le Thanksgiving edlule, baphinde babambisana neCrisis Text Line ukuhlinzeka ngokusekelwa ubusuku nemini kunoma ngubani obhekene nezinkinga zokugula ezihlobene namaholide.

Yize bobabili abesifazane benamanye ama-gigs (uGrasso usebenzela umkhiqizo wobuhle kanti uFriedlander ungumxhumanisi), basebenzela ukulinganisa imisebenzi yabo yosuku nephrojekthi yabo yothando. Ngokuzayo, banethemba lokukhulisa ubulungu babo futhi basebenzisane nezinye izinhlobo ukuze benze imboni ibe yindawo enempilo, ephephile. (Okuhlobene: Izinto eziyi-10 Lo wesifazane Afisa Ukuthi Azazi Ekuphakameni Kwenkinga Yakhe Yokudla)

"Sifuna nje ukuba yindawo - noma ngabe iyinto ebonakalayo noma ebonakalayo - yokuthi abantu abasebenza kule mboni bazizwe bebonwa, bezwakala futhi beqondakala," kusho uFriedlander. Phambilini, laba bobabili sebekufundile kuze kube manje mayelana nokuqeqeshwa, ukuqala okungenzi nzuzo, nokuzinakekela.

Imizila Ebenza Bahlale Begxilile

CG: "Imvamisa ngizovuka, ngigeze ngiphuze nekhofi, ngondle ikati lami, uStevie, bese ngiguqula Namuhla Show ngenkathi ngenza umsebenzi wami wokunakekela isikhumba kanye nezimonyo. Ngemuva kwalokho ngivame ukulalela i-podcast lapho ngiya emsebenzini. Kusihlwa, ngizoshayela abazali bami ucingo, ngenze inqubo yami yokunakekelwa kwesikhumba ebusuku, bese ngiqedela noma yimiphi imisebenzi evelele ngenkathi ngibuka i-TV engenangqondo futhi ngiphuza ingilazi yewayini. Ngihlala ngizama ukulala okungenani amahora ayisishiyagalombili ubusuku ngabunye. (Kunzima ukukwenza, kepha ngiyazama!) "(Bheka: Impela Kungani Udinga Umkhuba Wasebusuku Wokunakekela Isikhumba)

I-RF: "Njengoba ngingumxhumanisi futhi ngizenzela uhlelo lwami, ngisazama ukuthola ukuthi iyini inqubo yami yasekuseni. Akudingeki ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngibe sendaweni ethile ngesikhathi esithile. Ngokuvamile, ngifunda ama-imeyili ngisembhedeni, bona ukuthi ngabe kukhona yini okuphuthumayo engikudinga ukuphendula kukho, ngiphuze ikhofi, ngidle ibhulakufesi (njalo udle ibhulakufesi), bese ngiqala uhlu lwami lwezinto okufanele ngizenze kumanothi kudeskithophu yami. Bese ngenza konke okusemandleni ami ngaphambi kokuba ngidle isidlo sasemini. "

Ukwehluleka Okuphenduke Izibusiso Ezicashile

CG: "Lapho ngithuthela eNew York, ngaxoxisana ngomsebenzi wami wephupho futhi angigcinanga ngokuwuthola. Ngaleso sikhathi, ngangikhungathekile ngokuphelele, kodwa kwangiholela ku-internship e-Oscar de la Renta. Ngasebenza ngokuqondile. no-Erika Bearman [owayekade elandela i-akhawunti ye-Twitter ye-@oscarPRgirl] owangifaka ngaphansi kwephiko lakhe, futhi ngeke neze ngibe lapho ngikhona namuhla ngaphandle kwakhe noma leso sipiliyoni. Kwashintsha inkambo yomsebenzi wami, nempilo yami, kangcono. Ngithanda ukubheka 'ukwehluleka' njengokuqondisa kabusha."

I-RF: "NgoSepthemba 2018, ngadilizwa futhi ngalahlekelwa umsebenzi engangiwufisa. Ngangingaboni ngaso linye futhi ngidabukile. Ngabe ngiqamba amanga uma ngingathi sengiwufinyelele ngokugcwele uhlangothi lwemizwa yakho, kodwa kwangiphoqa ukuthi ngicabange kabusha. ukuphila kwami: indlela engangikhetha ngayo ukusebenzisa isikhathi sami, izinto engangizizwa zibalulekile kimi, izinto ezazingenza ngizizwe ngijabule ngami. Angiphoqiwe. "

Ukuhambisana Nokuzinakekela Ngenkathi Kusebenza Ama-Gigs Amabili

CG: "Ngokusobala ngokugcwele, ngisakucabangisisa. Kube inqubo, futhi kunzima ngoba kuhlale kunomsebenzi okufanele wenziwe, futhi imvamisa ukuzinakekela kuzwakala kungenye into ohlwini lwezinto okufanele zenziwe. Lokho kusho ukuthi, ' ngibonile ukuthi uma ngingabeki phambili ukuzinakekela, ngeke ngikwazi ukwenza noma yini ngempumelelo kakhulu." (BTW, nansi inkinga ngesitayela sokugeza iwayini nebhamuza sokuzinakekela.)

I-RF: "Sobabili miningi imisebenzi eqhubekayo. Ngiyakuthanda ukuthi uChristina noThe Chain bangibophezele. Ngokufana nendlela engangizizwa ngayo lapho ngelashwa, ngizizwa sengathi njalo lapho ngenza isinqumo sokunamathela ohlelweni lwami lokudla noma cha sebenzisa ukuziphatha okuyingozi, angizenzeli mina kuphela, kodwa ngenzela iqembu lethu lonke. Njengoba sekushiwo, akekho ophelele—anginaso neze—futhi ngicabanga ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuzinakekela wukungena kukho. onaleso simo sengqondo.

Ngokubheka Kwabanye Abesifazane Ukuze Ukhuthaze

CG: "Baningi abantu besifazane engibathandayo ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukene. URuthie ube yidwala lami ngempela eminyakeni embalwa edlule, futhi kusiza kakhulu ukusekelwa umuntu ongaqondi nje ngokuphelele umshikashika wansuku zonke wokululama kokuphazamiseka kokudla, kodwa ozophinde angibize nge-bullsh*t yami uma kudingeka (ngokuvamile!) U-Karen Elson no-Florence Welch nabo babe ugqozi olukhulu kithi sobabili.

U-Katie Couric kanye nomphathi wami, uLinda Wells, bangibonise ukuthi nobabili ningaba ngowesifazane ozimisele kakhulu (futhi esimweni sabo, ophumelele kakhulu) futhi futhi nibe nenhliziyo elula futhi ehlekisayo. Futhi uStevie Nicks ugqozi lokuningi kwalokhu. Bengilokhu ngingumlandeli wakhe, futhi phakathi nokuhlala isikhathi eside esibhedlela eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ngafunda kabanzi ngomzabalazo wakhe wokuba umlutha futhi ngilwela ukululama kuyilapho elondoloza umsebenzi wakhe womculo. Kwakungokokuqala ngqa ngikholelwa ukuthi, mhlawumbe, ngingakwazi ukuhlala ngilulame futhi ngiqhubeke nokusebenza embonini engiyithandayo. Ngoba kuze kube yilelo phuzu, umyalezo engiwutholile ngukuthi ngidinga ukuthola uthando olusha. Ngibonga kakhulu ngokululama kwami ​​kuye, futhi ngibonga kakhulu." (Okuhlobene: Abesifazane Aba-4 Babelana Ngokuthi I-CrossFit Yabasiza Ngayo Ukunqoba Izinkinga Zokudla)

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