Incwadi Engizitholela yona Ngaphambi Komdlavuza Webele Wemibele

Sara othandekayo,

Impilo yakho isizophenduka ibheke phansi nangaphakathi ngaphandle.

Ukulwa nesigaba 4 somdlavuza webele we-metastatic kuma-20s akho akuyona into owake wayibona iza. Ngiyazi ukuthi kuyesabeka futhi akulungile, futhi kuzwakala sengathi ucelwa ukuthi uthuthe intaba, kepha awazi ukuthi uqine kangakanani futhi uqine kangakanani.

Uzonqoba ukwesaba okuningi futhi ufunde ukwamukela ukungaqiniseki kwekusasa. Isisindo salokhu okuhlangenwe nakho sizokucindezela ungene kudayimane eliqine kangangokuba likwazi ukumelana cishe nanoma yini. Ezintweni eziningi umdlavuza ozokuthathela zona, uzokunika nembuyiselo engaka.

Imbongi uRumi ithe kungcono kakhulu ngesikhathi ibhala ithi, “Inxeba yindawo lapho ukukhanya kungena khona kuwe.” Uzofunda ukuthola lokho kukhanya.

Ekuqaleni, uzozizwa sengathi uminza kuma-aphoyintimenti, izinhlelo zokwelashwa, imiyalelo, nezinsuku zokuhlinzwa. Kuzokhathaza ukuqonda indlela ebekwa phambi kwakho. Uzoba nemibuzo eminingi kakhulu mayelana nokuthi ikusasa lizobukeka kanjani.

Kepha awudingi ukuthi konke kutholakale njengamanje. Udinga nje ukukuqeda usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi. Ungazikhathazi ngokuza onyakeni, enyangeni, noma ngeviki. Gxila kulokho okudingeka ukwenze namuhla.

Kancane kancane kodwa ngokuqinisekile, uzodlulela kolunye uhlangothi. Thatha izinto usuku ngalunye ngesikhathi. Kunzima ukukucabanga manje, kepha uthando nobuhle obuningi buzokulinda ezinsukwini ezizayo.

Umugqa wesiliva womdlavuza ukuthi ukuphoqa ukuthi uthathe ikhefu empilweni yakho ejwayelekile futhi uzenzele ukunakekela umsebenzi wakho wesikhathi esigcwele - {textend} owesibili ekubeni yisiguli, okungukuthi. Lesi sikhathi yisipho, ngakho-ke sisebenzise ngokuhlakanipha.

Thola izinto ezinothisa ingqondo, umzimba, nomphefumulo wakho. Zama ukwelulekwa, ukuzindla, i-yoga, isikhathi nabangani nomndeni, ukukhishwa kwesikhumba, i-massage therapy, i-physiotherapy, i-Reiki, amadokhumentari, izincwadi, ama-podcast, nokunye okuningi.

Kulula ukushayelwa kuwo wonke ama “what if,” kodwa ukukhathazeka ngekusasa - {textend} kanye neGoogling diagnostic yakho ngo-2 ekuseni - {textend} ngeke kukusize. Kunzima njengoba kunzima, uzodinga ukufunda ukuhlala kumzuzu wamanje ngangokunokwenzeka.

Awufuni ukuchitha isikhathi samanje unamathele esikhathini esedlule noma ukhathazeke ngekusasa. Funda ukujabulela izikhathi ezinhle futhi ukhumbule ukuthi izikhathi ezimbi zizogcina zidlulile. KULUNGILE ukuba nezinsuku ezingezansi lapho konke ongakwenza kungukulala embhedeni ubukela i-Netflix. Ungabi lukhuni kakhulu kuwe.

Finyelela, noma kungazwakala sengathi akekho emhlabeni oqonda ukuthi ubhekene nani. Ngiyathembisa ukuthi lokho akulona iqiniso. Amaqembu okusekelwa ngaphakathi nangomuntu aku-inthanethi enza umehluko, ikakhulukazi ezinsukwini zokuqala.

Ungesabi ukuzibeka lapho. Abantu abazoqonda ukuthi ubhekene nakho okuhle kangakanani yilabo ababhekana nokuhlangenwe nakho okufana nokwakho. “Abangani bomdlavuza” ohlangana nabo emaqenjini ahlukene okusekelana ekugcineni bazokuba ngabangane abajwayelekile.

Ukuba sengozini ngamandla ethu amakhulu. Uma uzizwa usukulungele, yabelana ngendaba yakho. Ukuxhumana okuningi okumangazayo kuzovela kubhulogi nokwabelana ngohambo lwakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Uzothola izinkulungwane zabesifazane abanjengawe ezaziyo ukuthi kunjani ukuba sezicathulweni zakho. Bazokwabelana ngolwazi lwabo namathiphu futhi bakuthokozise kuwo wonke amahla-ndenyuka omdlavuza. Ungalokothi ubukele phansi amandla omphakathi aku-inthanethi.

Okokugcina, ungalokothi ulahle ithemba. Ngiyazi ukuthi awuthembi umzimba wakho njengamanje futhi uzizwa sengathi uzwa izindaba ezimbi kuphela ngemuva kwezindaba ezimbi. Kepha kubaluleke kakhulu ukukholelwa emandleni omzimba wakho okuphulukisa.

Funda izincwadi ezikhuluma ngamacala anethemba labantu abasindile ekuhlolweni kokugula kanye nezibalo ezishayiwe. Ngincoma i- "Anticancer: A New Way of Life" ebhalwe nguDavid Servan-Schreiber, MD, PhD, “Ukuxolelwa Okukhulu: Ukuphila Nomdlavuza Kuzo Zonke Izinkinga” zikaKelly A. Turner, PhD, kanye ne- “Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer , to Near Death, to True Healing ”ebhalwe ngu-Anita Moorjani.

Kufanele wethembe futhi ukholwe ukuthi uzophila impilo ende futhi egcwele njengabanye abaningi abasinda ngaphambi kwakho. Zinikeze inzuzo yokungabaza futhi ulwe nale nto ngakho konke onakho. Uyakweleta wena.

Yize le mpilo ingahlali ilula, kodwa yinhle futhi ingeyakho. Yiphile ngokugcwele.

Uthando,

USarah

USarah Blackmore ungudokotela wezifo zokukhuluma nolimi lwe-blogger okumanje uhlala eVancouver, eBritish Columbia. Kutholwe ukuthi unomdlavuza webele wesigaba 4 se-oligometastatic ngoJulayi 2018 futhi ubengenabo ubufakazi besifo kusukela ngoJanuwari 2019. Landela indaba yakhe kubhulogi yakhe naku-Instagram ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngokuthi kunjani ukuphila nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic kuma-20s akho.