Ukwenza Ukubhema Kwakho Kokugcina Kubalwe

“NgoMsombuluko ngizoyeka ukubhema!” Uma umndeni wakho nabangane beqa amehlo abo uma usho lokhu, mhlawumbe kuwuphawu lokuthi amandla akho engqondo abuthakathaka nje kancane kunokudonswa kokungamesabi uNkulunkulu kwesithende se-Achilles yomuntu wanamuhla: i-nicotine.

Ukuyeka ukubhema kuyisinqumo esithandwayo sonyaka omusha, isithembiso esenziwa abasanda kushada, kanye nendaba yokuphikisana kakhulu emshadweni. Ngocwaningo lwakamuva olukhombisa ukuthi umlutha we-nicotine uphikisana nokulutha kwe-heroin nezinye izinto ezingekho emthethweni, kungathatha okungaphezu kokuthanda kwengqondo ukuyeka. Akudingeki nje kuphela ukuthi ubhekane nabantu abafisela okuhle abangabhemi (isiraphu, eyehlisa isizotha “okuhle kuwe”), abangakholwa abangakholwa (“Hawu, manje-ke lesi sikhathi? Noma yini.”), Kanye nama-nags angapheli (“Ngokushesha njengoba uyeka ukubhema, uqala ukuba nempilo enhle! ”), empeleni kufanele udlule kulawo mahora okuqala, izinsuku, namasonto.

Uma intuthu yakho yokugcina isivele ihleliwe, yenze ibalwe. Ngaphandle kwazo zonke izingqinamba zokubhema - kufaka phakathi umdlavuza - kudumile ngesizathu. Uyagula, ukhathele, futhi ucindezelekile. Udinga okuthile ukukunikeza lokho onqenqemeni oluncane ngisho nekhofi elingakwazi ukukuhlinzeka. Lapho uyeka ukubhema, ufanelwe ukugubha kancane.

1. Kwenze umcimbi wokukhumbula.
Ukwenza umkhiqizo wentuthu yakho yokugcina kungakusiza ukuthi uhlale kude nogwayi. Ukusetha usuku kusengaphambili nokuhlela iphathi kuzokusiza wenze ukuguquka kwengqondo usuke ekubhemeni uye kokungabhemi. Ukumaka usuku lwakho olukhulu kukunikeza nethuba lokwazisa abangani nomndeni ukuthi ukhahlela umlutha wakho. Faka abantu abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, ngaphandle kwemikhuba yabo yokubhema. Ngaleyo ndlela, uzothola isikhuthazo osidingayo kubantu abangabhemi nababhemayo abangakulungele ukuyeka ngeke bazizwe behlukanisiwe.

Ngesikhathi somcimbi wakho, noma ngabe isidlo sakusihlwa esikhethekile, iphathi yephuli, noma ubusuku edolobheni, phimisa izinhlelo zakho zokuyeka. Khuthaza abangani nomndeni ukuthi bakusize ucabangisise ngezizathu zokuyeka ukubhema nazo zonke izinzuzo zokungabhemi.

Hlela kusengaphambili.
Ukuyeka kuzoba nzima, ngakho-ke ungavimbi amalungiselelo. Yenza uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe esikhundleni sokubhema, njengokuhlafuna ushungamu noma ukuncela oswidi abanzima. Gcina u-log we-indulgences ozozivumela, njenge-burger enamafutha noma i-sushi entsha, lapho udlula osukwini olunzima. Ngeke uyekele izinzuzo kuphela, kodwa zizosiza ukuqinisa lokho kuyeka njengesinyathelo esihle.

3. Dlula ngosizo oluncane oluvela kubangani bakho.
Ukuba nabangane abaseduze ukukuzwa uma ukhathazekile, ungacabangi, futhi ujwayele ukukhanyisa kungenza umehluko phakathi kokufuna nokuhlala uqinile. Ukugcina abangani bakho abangabhemi besondele ngenkathi uyeka kuzokwenza kube lula ukuhlala ungabhemi. Bacele ukuthi bakubheke futhi bakwazise uma bekubona ubuyela emuva emikhubeni yakudala engaholela ekubuyiseleni emuva.

4. Thanda intuthu yakho yokugcina.
Kwabanye abantu, ukuvumela inqubo yosizi kusiza ukuyeka lo mkhuba. Ukubhema kufana nomngane wakho, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ubukhona kuwe ngemikhosi nokudumazeka ngokufanayo. Vumela ukuvalelisa ngokujabulela ugwayi wakho wokugcina. Uma ubhekene nezifiso kamuva, shayela umngani ngaphambi kokuthi uphume uyothenga iphakethe, shaya uhlu lwakho “lwezizathu zokuyeka”, bese ukhumbula ukuthi usuyidedelile; awusadingi ukubhema.