Le MMA Fighter Iphendukele Ezinkondlweni Zokubhekana Nokukhathazeka Komphakathi Kwayo

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Umpetha weKickboxing u-Tiffany Van Soest ungumuntu omubi ngokuphelele eringini nasekhejini. Ngompetha bomhlaba ababili be-GLORY kickboxing kanye noMpetha Womhlaba we-Muay Thai amahlanu ewina ngaphansi kwebhande lakhe, oneminyaka engu-28 ubudala ngokufanelekile uthole isiteketiso esithi "Ibhomu Lesikhathi" ngenxa yekhono lakhe elimangalisayo lokunqoba ngomngqimuzo womlalisa phansi ngomzuzu wokugcina. (Ungashiyi konke ukulwa kuTiffany. Nakhu ukuthi kungani kufanele uzame i-MMA ngokwakho.)

Noma kunjalo, u-Van Soest uchithe impilo yakhe yonke elwa nokukhathazeka komphakathi kanye nezinkinga zesithombe somzimba-into avula ngayo okokuqala ngqa.

"Ngangiyingane enamahloni ngempela," kusho uVan Soest Umumo. "Bengihlala ngicabanga ukuthi yinto engizoyikhipha kodwa angikaze ngiyenze. Izimo zenhlalo ziqhubeke nokuba ngumthombo wokukhathazeka kimi, kepha angizange ngiqaphele ukuthi ngangilwa 'nokukhathazeka kwezenhlalo' ikakhulukazi kuze kube yilapho abantu beqala ukukhuluma ngomqondo impilo ngokukhululeka. " (Nakhu ukuthi ungazi kanjani ukuthi ungazuza yini ekwelashweni.)

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi emashumini eminyaka (kahle, amakhulu eminyaka, empeleni), izingqinamba zezempilo yengqondo ziye zabukelwa phansi. "Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo zivame ukuhlotshaniswa nokusangana nokusangana," kusho uVan Soest. "Kodwa lezi zinkinga zihlobene nokungalingani kwamakhemikhali ebuchosheni bakho, njengokunye ukungalingani emzimbeni wakho okungakubangela ukuthi uzizwe ugula. Uma abantu bekhuluma ngalezi zinto ngokukhululekile, kungabasiza ukuthi bathole ukuthi yini okungalungile ngabo. Kwazi bani? Abakuzwayo kungenzeka babe negama. Mina, bekungukukhathazeka komphakathi. "

Kuze kube yiminyaka emine edlule, uVan Soest wayengazi ukuthi imizwa ekhubazekile neqeda amandla ayenayo lapho ezungezwe isixuku esikhulu noma eshiywe yedwa ekhuluma nabantu angabazi empeleni kwakuyizimpawu zakudala zokukhathazeka komphakathi. "Inhliziyo yami ibingaqala ukushaya isifuba sami, futhi ngikuthole kunzima ukuqhubeka nengxoxo-engingingiza kakhulu futhi ngigxile amagama ami futhi ngingazi ukuthi ngizokwenzenjani ngezandla zami. Ngaphezu kwalokho ngazizwa ngiphelelwa amandla, ngifuna kakhulu ukuphuma kuleso simo futhi ube wedwa futhi, "kusho uVan Soest.

Kwaze kwaba yilapho eqala ukuzwakalisa le mizwa lapho wakwazi khona ukuthola usizo ayeludinga. “Selokhu ngatholwa ngokusemthethweni, ngifunde ukubhekana nakho kangcono kakhulu,” usho kanje. (Okuhlobene: Ungabhekana Kanjani Nokukhathazeka Komphakathi Ngaphandle Kotshwala)

UVan Soest udale uchungechunge lwamaqhinga olumsiza ukuthi akwazi ukubhekana nezimo zenhlalo ezivusa inkanuko. "Ngibonile ukuthi ngeke ngikwazi ukugwema zonke izimo ezibhebhethekisa ukukhathazeka kwami, ngakho-ke ngiqhamuke nezindlela zami zokubhekana nazo: ngigxile ekuphefumuleni kwami ​​lapho ngixoxa nabantu engingabazi noma ngithatha ikhefu nginyathela ngaphandle ngiphinde ngizibeke phakathi nendawo,” usho kanje. "Ukuvuma ukuthi kunenkinga kungcono kakhulu kunokuzama ukuyifihla noma ukuyiphika."

Phambilini, uVan Soest ubesebenzisa ubuciko bempi njengendlela yakhe yokubhekana nesimo. Imnike izaba zokubalekela ezweni lakhe. "Kuyangisiza ukungacabangi ngokukhathazeka kwami ​​ngenkathi nginikeza indlela yokukuxazulula," usho kanje. "Uma ngiziqeqesha noma ngilwa, ngisendaweni. Kodwa izilungiselelo zomphakathi ngaphambi nangemuva zisenamandla okwenza ukuthi ngisebenzise njalo." (Uma futhi usebenzisa ukusebenzisa "njengokwelapha" kwakho, udinga ukufunda lokhu.)

Muva nje, ungene emazwini akhulunywayo, uhlobo lwezinkondlo oluhloselwe ukusebenza. "Bengihlale nginenkondlo, i-hip-hop, i-rap, kanye naso sonke lesi sigameko," kusho uVan Soest. "Ngangigcina amaphephabhuku ngisemncane lapho ngangibhala khona imilolotelo, kodwa ngenzela nje amehlo ami."

Kepha akazange azidubule aze aye engqungqutheleni yabathonya e-Austin ngoSepthemba odlule.

“Esinye sezikhulumi eziqavile kwaba wumculi oculayo nokwakuthukuthelisa okuthile kimina, ngase ngithatha isinqumo sokuthi ngithathele phezulu ukubhala kwami ​​ngibheke ukucula,” usho kanje. "Kwaba yindlela yami yokukhuluma, lapho ekugcineni ngathola indlela yokusho lokho engangikuzwa. Kuyaphilisa. Noma nini lapho ngizizwa nganoma iyiphi indlela, ngingathatha ipeni libe ephepheni ngibhale imigqa embalwa noma ngiphindaphinde isigqi. ngokuzwakalayo, ngihleli emotweni yami, ngezindlela engizizwa ngayo. "

Kuze kube manje, u-Van Soest wenze ubusuku obuncane bemakrofoni obuvulekile endaweni yangakini. "Ngaphambi kokuthi ngizodlala, inhliziyo yami iqala ukugijima futhi nginovalo nokukhathazeka njengakuqala kwempi," esho. "Kodwa okwesibili engiqala ukukusho, konke kuyaphela futhi ngiyakwazi ukudedela konke okufakwa ebhodleleni ngaphakathi kimi, njengalapho ngisehokweni noma eringini. Kuzwakala kungokwemvelo futhi kuhlanzekile."

Amazwi kaVan Soest agxile kakhulu ekukhathazekeni kwakhe nokuthi uzizwa esengozini kangakanani nakuba ebhekwa njengongenakunqotshwa.Kepha isithombe somzimba ngesinye isihloko ajwayele ukusithinta, sabelana ngokuthi umzimba wakhe wezemidlalo ubulokhu uyindaba exoxwayo kanjani.

"Angikaze ngilwe nesimo somzimba ngaze ngaba seminyakeni yobusha futhi abantu baqala ukuphawula ngamathanga ami," kusho uVan Soest. "Abantu baqala ukukhomba ukuthi 'babenamandla kakhulu,' okunginikeze zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga zokuzethemba." (Okuhlobene: I-UFC Yengeze Isigaba Esisha Sesisindo Sabesifazane. Nakhu Okubalulekile)

"Angisakufaki kangako lokhu okushiwo abanye abantu ngami nangomzimba wami," kusho uVan Soest. "Ngigxile ekubongeleni ukuhlala esizukulwaneni lapho okuqinile kubonwa njengamantombazane amahle futhi amancane ekhula azi ukuthi imizimba yawo yadalwa ilingana, noma ngabe imi kanjani, ubukhulu, noma umbala."

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