Laba Besifazane Bathatha Isimo Sabo Emnyangweni "Wokudlula Ukuphakama Kwami"

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U-Amy Rosenthal no-Alli Black bangodade ababili abaqonda yonke imihume engatholakala ngokuba ngowesifazane "omude". U-Alli ungamafidi angu-5 namayintshi angu-10 futhi ubelokhu edonsa kanzima ukuthola izingubo ezisemfashinini, ezilingana kahle. Akazange futhi akwazi ukuthenga ezitolo ezikhethekile ezikude ngoba lezo zinketho zazivame ukuba njalo futhi yinde.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, u-Amy unezinkinga zakhe. "Nginamahloni ngamamitha ama-6 amayintshi ama-4, ngakho-ke ukuthenga bekulokhu kunzima kimi," etshela Umumo. “Eqinisweni, impilo yami yonke ngisakhula yayigcwele izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu ezangenza ngazizwa nginokuzisola kakhulu ngobude bami, njengesikhathi ngisesikoleni samabanga aphansi lapho ngathola khona ukuthi kufanele ngigqoke amakhaki amadoda ekhonsathini yeqembu lami ngoba akukho okunye okwakuzongifanela. . Ngibe nokuwohloka okuphelele ekamelweni lokubhalela futhi ngikhumbula ukuthi ngizizwa ngingakhululekile esikhumbeni sami."

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, kanye nokwazi ukuthi umhlaba wezemfashini ubungabondli abesifazane abade bezilinganiso ezehlukene, kuholele ekutheni odade basungule i-boutique yabo ebizwa nge-Amalli Talli ngo-2014. "Sikholwa kakhulu ukuthi 'ubude' abuchazwa kuphela ngobude futhi iza ngezinhlobonhlobo zomumo, ubukhulu, nezilinganiso,” kusho u-Alli. "Ngakho-ke besifuna ukusebenzisana ukuze sivale igebe phakathi kwamasayizi amade atholakala ezitolo ezidayisa nsuku zonke nokuthi yini elethwe etafuleni yizitolo ezikhethekile ezikude." (Okuhlobene: Kungani Ukukhangisa Okunomzimba Okulungile Akuwona Njalo Lokho Okubonakalayo)

Eminyakeni emine edlule, ibhizinisi lika-Alli no-Amy liye lachuma, kodwa ngenkathi bezama ukubandakanya abesifazane abade emkhakheni wezingubo zokugqoka, bazizwa benesifiso sokwenza okwengeziwe ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho okukhungathekisayo okuhlazisa umzimba. "Ngonyaka odlule, ngenkathi ngisebenza eNew York, indoda ethile yeza kimi no-Amy emhlanganweni wobungcweti yathi, 'Yini wena ofana namamitha ayisikhombisa ubude?' kakhulu ngokwanele ukuba wonke umuntu ezwe ngesikhathi esifanayo ehleka nathi, "kusho u-Alli. "Yinto ayenze amahlandla amaningi, okwenza sizizwe singakhululekile neze futhi sinamahloni."

Ngakho-ke, odade banqume ukubhala iposi lebhulogi mayelana nesipiliyoni kuwebhusayithi ka-Amalli Talli ukuze babelane ngokuthi yize bekhululekile futhi benokuzithemba nokuphakama kwabo, izimo ezinjengalezo zisengaba nomthelela omkhulu ekuzihlonipheni kwakho.

"Kunemibono eminingi engajwayelekile ehlotshaniswa nabesifazane abade," kusho u-Amy. "Okokuqala, kucatshangwa ukuthi kuyisici sobudoda kakhulu. Abafana bakhuliswa baba bakhulu futhi banamandla, kanti amantombazane kufanele abe muhle futhi abe mncane. Lesi ngesinye sezizathu esenza ukuthi abesifazane abade bazithole bethola ukubukeka, ukubukwa, kanye namazwana. Ukuba mude njengowesifazane kuvame ukucatshangwa njengokungajwayelekile. "

Ngokumangazayo, abesifazane abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba baqala ukufinyelela kodade, babelana ngokuthi bahlobana kanjani nesipiliyoni sabo futhi bathemba ukuthi bazokhuluma kabanzi ngalezi zinkinga abesifazane abade ababhekana nazo. Yasungulwa kanjalo-ke inhlangano engaphezulu kokuphakama kwami.

"Ngokunikezwa ngempendulo engakholakali esiyitholile, sizizwe sengathi le yinto ebidinga ukuba yinto yayo," kusho u-Alli. "Abesifazane abaningi abade bakuthola kunzima ukuzizwa njengabesifazane futhi saba nomuzwa wokuthi ukuqala ukunyakaza okubasize bazizwe besekelwe kungabasiza ukuba banqobe lowo muzwa."

Yize amakhala amakhulu, amafutha ekhwapheni, nesikhumba esivulekile konke kubonwe njengengxenye yothando lokuzithanda, i-push-body-positive, u-Alli no-Amy babona ukuthi ukuphakama akubanga nendawo efanelekile ekukhanyeni. "Kunamabhulogi amaningi laphaya ahloselwe imfashini ende," kusho u-Amy. "Kodwa empeleni kwakungekho lutho mayelana nokuthi ubude bungaba umthombo wokuzicabangela kanjani kwabesifazane nokuthi abanye abantu abacabangi kabili ngaphambi kokuphawula ngakho noma ukukukhomba, okungalimaza isithombe somzimba."

U-Alli wayifanisa le mizwa. "Izinto eziningi engifunde ngazo uma kukhulunywa ngokuqina komzimba zigxile kakhulu esisindweni-okuyinto ebaluleke impela futhi into abesifazane abaningi abayihlobanisa nayo - kepha ubude bakho yinto ongeke wakwazi ukuyishintsha," esho. "Noma ngabe wenzani, uzohlala umude. Ngakho-ke kwabesifazane kukhona ukungaphatheki kahle ngokuba mude, besifuna ukudala isikhala esizobazisa ukuthi ababodwa futhi kuningi kakhulu kubo kunokuphakama kwabo. "(Related: I'm Not Body Positive or Negative, I'm Just Mina)

Kanye nokwakha umphakathi osekelayo wabesifazane abade, u-Alli no-Amy nabo bafuna ukufundisa abantu ngokuthi, njengesisindo, ukuphakama kothile akuyona into okufanele uphawule ngayo. “Kubalulekile ukuthi sifunde ukunaka amazwi ethu,” kusho u-Amy. "Ngeke wazi ukuthi yini umuntu angazethembi ngayo. Ngokubabiza futhi ubanake, ungabenza bazizwe bezenyeza kakhulu kunakuqala."

Ekupheleni kosuku, i-More Than My Height imayelana nokusiza abesifazane babone ukuthi bangaphezulu kakhulu kwalokho abakubona esibukweni. “Nakuba sifuna ngempela ukusiza abesifazane bamukele ubude babo futhi bazizwe beqiniseka, sifuna nokubasiza ukuthi babone ukuthi kuningi abanganikela ngakho,” kusho u-Alli. "Ziningi izimfanelo zomzimba ezisenza sibe yilokho esiyikho, kodwa amakhono okufanele uwanikeze umhlaba akuchaza ngempela-futhi yilokho okufanele ukusebenzise ukukala inani lakho."

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